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LiberalHeart (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-27-07 09:27 PM Original message |
Man agreed to pay alimony to his ex -- but not to the man she became. Now what? |
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LeftyMom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-27-07 09:30 PM Response to Original message |
1. Gender of the ex-spouse is irrelavent. |
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BuyingThyme (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-27-07 09:34 PM Response to Reply #1 |
4. But, if you can't legally be married to somebody of the same sex, |
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FourScore (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-27-07 09:39 PM Response to Reply #4 |
6. The divorce happened prior to the sex change. n/t |
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LeftyMom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-27-07 09:40 PM Response to Reply #4 |
7. Sure. They were married legally and then they legally divorced. |
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BuyingThyme (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-27-07 09:53 PM Response to Reply #7 |
14. Well, the question is to what the contractual obligations are. |
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LeftyMom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-27-07 10:00 PM Response to Reply #14 |
17. If, as the article states, he's on the hook until his ex remarries or dies, |
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BuyingThyme (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-27-07 10:07 PM Response to Reply #17 |
19. What if the stipulation had to do with marrying or cohabiting |
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LeftyMom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-27-07 10:15 PM Response to Reply #19 |
21. Well, here's my suspicion. |
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BuyingThyme (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-27-07 10:33 PM Response to Reply #21 |
27. I was assuming that sex changes were widely recognized, |
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johnnie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 11:42 AM Response to Reply #21 |
65. It's in Florida |
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Solo_in_MD (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-27-07 11:03 PM Response to Reply #19 |
31. Some states have rules/laws that recognize cohabitation in lieu of marriage as grounds for the |
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treestar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-27-07 11:02 PM Response to Reply #7 |
29. He is still the same person she was |
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Solo_in_MD (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-27-07 11:00 PM Response to Reply #4 |
28. Palimony recognizes alimony like obligations outside of a formal marriage |
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BuyingThyme (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-27-07 11:04 PM Response to Reply #28 |
32. Yes, sometimes. |
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slackmaster (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 03:05 PM Response to Reply #1 |
71. Not completely irrelvant |
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Zhade (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 10:57 PM Response to Reply #71 |
79. Right. As a transgendered man. Sure. |
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slackmaster (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Mar-29-07 09:01 AM Response to Reply #79 |
90. My point is that the gender change does change factors used to compute alimony |
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FourScore (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-27-07 09:32 PM Response to Original message |
2. He's gotta' pay. He outta' pay. |
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LiberalHeart (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-27-07 09:34 PM Response to Reply #2 |
3. I'm with you on this. |
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Zhade (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 10:58 PM Response to Reply #2 |
80. It's arguable that it's hardly elective. |
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Hepburn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-27-07 09:35 PM Response to Original message |
5. He continues to pay. |
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BattyDem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-27-07 09:41 PM Response to Original message |
8. The alimony agreement was made with a person, not a gender |
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1monster (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-27-07 09:41 PM Response to Original message |
9. Alimony, smalimony... |
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Matariki (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-27-07 09:55 PM Response to Reply #9 |
15. You know, if two people enter an agreement |
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1monster (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-27-07 10:18 PM Response to Reply #15 |
24. Okay, there is merit to that argument, however, that should be part of the |
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Matariki (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-27-07 11:26 PM Response to Reply #24 |
35. agree with you about the terminology |
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hlthe2b (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-27-07 09:50 PM Response to Original message |
10. I can solve this.... |
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Warren Stupidity (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-27-07 09:50 PM Response to Original message |
11. I tend to dislike alimony in all cases. |
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msongs (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-27-07 09:50 PM Response to Original message |
12. the alimony should stop - he/she has changed her side of the deal so the guy gets to change his |
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Warren Stupidity (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-27-07 09:53 PM Response to Reply #12 |
13. what deal was that? nt. |
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Matariki (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-27-07 09:56 PM Response to Reply #12 |
16. your implying that they had a divorce DEAL that mentioned her/his gender? |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-27-07 10:07 PM Response to Reply #12 |
18. What deal? Still the same person. |
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Colobo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 12:59 AM Response to Reply #18 |
42. If a person goes through a sex change |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 10:50 AM Response to Reply #42 |
50. dicksteele says it well in post #41 |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 11:17 AM Response to Reply #42 |
57. When a person goes through a sex change do they still carry their debt |
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LeftyMom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-27-07 10:08 PM Response to Reply #12 |
20. He's still the ex-wife. |
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Richard Steele (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-27-07 10:24 PM Response to Reply #12 |
25. And if my landlord gets a sex change I can stop paying my rent, too! |
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Matariki (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-27-07 11:27 PM Response to Reply #25 |
36. LOL |
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Laurier (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 12:19 AM Response to Reply #25 |
40. Your landlord/tenant relationship was not dependent upon your |
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Richard Steele (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 12:51 AM Response to Reply #40 |
41. Kinda my point. That alimony agreement is not dependent on gender, either. |
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Laurier (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 01:17 AM Response to Reply #41 |
45. I have to disagree with your assertion that the terms of the marriage are irrelevant . |
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Matariki (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 11:07 AM Response to Reply #45 |
51. once the marriage is ended why the hell should gender matter? |
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Laurier (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 10:52 PM Response to Reply #51 |
78. I disagree. |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 11:26 AM Response to Reply #45 |
61. no, the decision about alimony is based on the deal the couple makes - |
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Laurier (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 01:19 AM Response to Reply #41 |
46. Duplicate - deleted |
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Richard Steele (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 01:41 AM Response to Reply #46 |
47. And we all know that nothing rhymes with "orage". |
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Laurier (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 10:32 PM Response to Reply #47 |
77. Because the obligation to one's spouse is not the same as one's |
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Richard Steele (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 11:54 PM Response to Reply #77 |
88. Again you show some peculiar difficulties with reading comprehension. |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 11:10 AM Response to Reply #40 |
52. Neither is the divorce relationship. |
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Zhade (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 11:05 PM Response to Reply #40 |
82. Neither was the alimony order. |
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shatter (16 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-27-07 11:02 PM Response to Reply #12 |
30. it's the same person |
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jesus_of_suburbia (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-27-07 11:30 PM Response to Reply #12 |
37. Are you sure you are liberal? |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 11:16 AM Response to Reply #12 |
56. Were there terms in the deal referring to genitalia? |
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Zhade (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 11:00 PM Response to Reply #12 |
81. You're wrong. |
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mitchum (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-27-07 10:16 PM Response to Original message |
22. Does he now call him a "bloodsucking prick" rather than a... |
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BlooInBloo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-27-07 10:17 PM Response to Original message |
23. Interesting semantic awkwardness: SHE no longer exists to pay alimony to. LOL! |
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Forkboy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-27-07 10:29 PM Response to Original message |
26. Pay it and like it. |
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WinkyDink (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-27-07 11:09 PM Response to Original message |
33. Would a self-respecting man take that alimony? Heh. |
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BuyingThyme (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-27-07 11:16 PM Response to Reply #33 |
34. Ouch! |
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jesus_of_suburbia (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-27-07 11:33 PM Response to Reply #33 |
38. What bullshit. *I know you were kidding though* |
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WinkyDink (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 01:11 AM Response to Reply #38 |
44. OMG. Like this Democratic flaming Liberal WOMAN doesn't know or think that. |
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Laurier (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 12:15 AM Response to Original message |
39. Interesting. |
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RagingInMiami (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 01:09 AM Response to Original message |
43. Another reminder why I will probably never get married |
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spoony (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 03:36 AM Response to Original message |
48. Is alimony at all based on |
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Zhade (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 11:09 PM Response to Reply #48 |
83. If you think transgendered persons are treated better than women... |
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spoony (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Mar-29-07 03:41 AM Response to Reply #83 |
89. Lol, LoZoccolo was so dead on about you. |
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alphafemale (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 03:48 AM Response to Original message |
49. Why is ANYONE still being awarded "Alimony?" until death or remarriage |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 11:14 AM Response to Reply #49 |
54. I think it depends on what you think marriage is. |
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ComerPerro (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 11:13 AM Response to Original message |
53. here's my question: Why does someone who can afford such an elective surgery |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 11:15 AM Response to Reply #53 |
55. Alimony isn't welfare. NT |
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ComerPerro (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 11:21 AM Response to Reply #55 |
59. true, but what reason could there be for the husband to have to keep paying |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 11:23 AM Response to Reply #59 |
60. Because it doesn't have to do with "hurting for finances". |
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ComerPerro (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 11:33 AM Response to Reply #60 |
63. well, whatever. IMO, alimony and child support is all bullshit anyway |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 03:03 PM Response to Reply #63 |
70. Child support is bullshit? What do you mean? |
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Zhade (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 11:13 PM Response to Reply #63 |
84. Child support is bullshit? |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 11:19 AM Response to Original message |
58. By this reasoning, if you get a sex change you can abandon all your debt. |
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BlueIris (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 11:29 AM Response to Original message |
62. What a fat (and ignorant) pig. |
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Zhade (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 11:14 PM Response to Reply #62 |
85. Do we know he's fat? Should fat be an insult? |
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CRH (671 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 11:37 AM Response to Original message |
64. I think if she can afford to become a he, ... |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 01:25 PM Response to Reply #64 |
66. Alimony is not generally a needs based arrangement. |
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Rosemary2205 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 01:34 PM Response to Reply #64 |
67. Alimony is an acknowledgment of a spouses contribution to the marriage |
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gollygee (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 01:41 PM Response to Reply #64 |
68. I don't think people here understand what alimony is |
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Zhade (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 11:15 PM Response to Reply #64 |
86. He is a he. Deal with it. |
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gollygee (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 01:50 PM Response to Original message |
69. I don't understand why anyone would think it would make any difference at all |
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slackmaster (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 03:08 PM Response to Reply #69 |
72. Men still earn more money than women |
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gollygee (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 03:11 PM Response to Reply #72 |
73. Yeah because transgendered people have a really easy time |
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slackmaster (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 03:23 PM Response to Reply #73 |
74. Only if they disclose that they are transgendered |
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gollygee (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 03:29 PM Response to Reply #74 |
75. Do you think it's that easy to keep a secret? |
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slackmaster (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 03:41 PM Response to Reply #75 |
76. I'm not assuming anything about this individual |
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Zhade (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-28-07 11:16 PM Response to Reply #73 |
87. THANK you. It's like some people are blind to the discrimination Ts get EVERY DAY. |
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