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ConcernedCanuk Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 02:58 PM
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Did you call your mother today?
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I do not get along with my mother very well, haven't for decades.

My father passed away two years ago at 95 years of age.

Mother ended up in a nursing home within a year.

I called her - and I feel good about it.

We just chatted, no "heavies" - just a chat.

If you even THOUGHT about calling

do it -

They will not be here forever.

And for those that have already lost their mothers,

and have a surviving father . .

maybe call HIM???

justa thot ..
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proud patriot Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 03:00 PM
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1. called my mom and both grandma's too
shoot I need to call my MIL ...

calling her now :)
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robinlynne Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 03:02 PM
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2. Yes, it was good.
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Contrary1 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 03:03 PM
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3. If I only could...
but I am thinking about her today.
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babylonsister Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 03:31 PM
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20. Ditto.
:(
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ChazII Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 03:43 PM
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24. another ditto.
Mom passed 7/1/09 but I am finally able to leave the house on this holiday. For the first few years I refused to celebrate this day.
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Sparkly Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 03:52 PM
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26. That's what I was going to say.
:loveya: :cry: :loveya:
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CurtEastPoint Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 04:07 PM
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28. Ditto...she's been gone 2 years now. I got teary-eyed at church
when they recognized all the moms and grandmoms.
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SharonRB Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 04:22 PM
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30. Ditto
This is just my second Mother's Day without her -- she died last April. I thought about her a lot today, though.
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The Velveteen Ocelot Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 04:38 PM
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32. I wish,,,
She's been gone more than four years now and I still get all blubbery on Mother's Day because I can't call her.
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annabanana Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 03:06 PM
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4. I Skyped my Mom this afternoon....
It was a pretty nice visit, despite a coupla thousand miles! I LOVE that Mom's been able to get her 83 yr old head around the technology!
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liberal N proud Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 03:07 PM
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5. My mother fell and broke her hip yesterday
She is in the hospital following surgery. She will be 90 in the fall.
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sellitman Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 03:11 PM
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6. A play on words?
She will be 90 in the Fall?

Sorry...I couldn't resist.

I wish her a fast recovery and a happy Mothers day anyhow.
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liberal N proud Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 03:19 PM
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11. LOL
:rofl:

I didn't see that until now.
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ConcernedCanuk Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 03:15 PM
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8. Many falls of the elderly are due to bones breaking BEFORE they fall, especially hip bones
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Best wishes for your mother's recovery

My mother described a recent fall where she just tripped over a wee rug metal thing,

now has a hematoma from one cheek on her bum right down to her knee

won't get a "chair" - uses her walker - but trips on stuff just the same.

Sorta hard tryna convince your own mother to stop walking . . .

(sigh) - stay safe mom . . .

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liberal N proud Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 07:49 PM
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38. I and my brothers and sister need to convince mom and dad
that dad can no longer care for her.

This is the second fall in 2 weeks. A week ago she fell into their golf cart they use to get around town in.
She fell on the floor and landed on the gas peddle. The golf cart took off across the lawn with her legs hanging out. Kind of funny when you think about the image but scary as hell. That may have actually done the real damage and the second fall may have been a result of the earlier one.
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Maru Kitteh Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 03:16 PM
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9. Sorry to hear about your mom's hip. I hope you, or someone that loves her, will be able to
assist her and be with her for recovery. A good support system makes ALL the difference.
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PDJane Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 03:13 PM
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7. Mine lives with me.
My son called us both! I hugged her, made her tea and breakfast, and bought her flowers. She can be very difficult to live with, but she's here, she's 83, and she won't be here forever. A shared sense of the ridiculous helps...........
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JitterbugPerfume Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 03:19 PM
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10. I would give all I have
for the chance to talk to my mom just one more time


Call your mom!
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Blue_In_AK Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 03:19 PM
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12. Mine is gone,
but we wished my mother-in-law a happy one. So far, one of my three kids has called, but I'm sure I'll hear from the other two before the day is over.
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tularetom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 03:22 PM
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13. My mom died six years ago and my dad within a few months after her
and even though she always ridiculed the sentimentality of things like Mothers Day she always appreciated it when we took the time to think of her.

And on the bright side my wife has received calls today from one daughter, two granddaughters, one great granddaughter (at 11 months she just grunted into the phone) and one grandson (at 13 years he pretty much just grunted too). She also got calls from the two children of my late sister of whom we have more or less become surrogate parents. She did not get a call from one son.

Wanna guess what she'll remember?
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Ocracoker16 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 03:25 PM
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14. I live with my mom
I feel very grateful that she is with me. She has Stage IV breast cancer so she won't be with me forever. However, she is responding well to treatment currently. Mother's Day has reminded me to try and spend more time with her.
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emilyg Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 03:25 PM
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15. How I wish I could - but
did put fresh flowers by her urn.
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Berry Cool Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 06:36 PM
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37. Fresh tulips by the grave.
Also told her the Indians don't look so hot so far this season, but the Cavs are doing really well.
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Left Is Write Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 03:26 PM
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16. Not yet, but I will. Then again, we talk by phone 3-4 times a week...
so it's not imperative that I call her today.
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elocs Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 03:28 PM
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17. No, I did not call my Mom. She's in a nursing home with dementia and has no idea who I am.
She hasn't taken phone calls in years because she speaks so very seldom.
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ConcernedCanuk Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 03:41 PM
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23. Try again maybe? - people with dementia do have lucid moments, and intermittent memory
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If nothing else, she could at least tell her friends at the home that some stranger wished her a Happy Mother's Day?

Even best wishes from a stranger can make a difference . .
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elocs Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 03:47 PM
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25. She doesn't talk to people and exists in the big now.
Not really any lucid moments or intermittent memory. I'd be doing it for me and I don't have to do it for me anymore.
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Xipe Totec Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 03:29 PM
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18. Briefly...
She was on her way to the casinos, and didn't have much time to chat....

:rofl:

She's still in good health, and traveling with my youngest brother.
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Lex Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 03:29 PM
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19. Spent all of last weekend with my Mom and
we did Mother's Day then. But I will talk to her on the phone today too.

Happy Mother's Day anyone who is a Mom or ever had a Mom. :hi:
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whistler162 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 03:34 PM
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21. Nope....
brought the wheelchair in that she borrowed for next weeks Race for the Cure, twelve years and a new hip, so she could clean it.

Bought her a poppy seed roll and some stainless steel cleaning wipes.
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Odin2005 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 03:40 PM
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22. Yep!
:)
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tech3149 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 04:03 PM
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27. Didn't have to I just fixed a nice Sunday dinner
It's good to be close to home.
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stlsaxman Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 04:14 PM
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29. I talked to her in the afterlife or where ever she is.
hell, I talk to her often there. especially today.

she's doing alright. thanks!
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SmileyRose Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 04:27 PM
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31. No - and I WON'T either.
I am a far better person for finally cutting her out of my life.
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peacebird Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 05:06 PM
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33. I called mom this morning, actually I call her at least 4 times a week usually...
:-)
I treasure her wisdom, and our friendship. And since she is 82 - well, let's just say that I don't take her for granted. I know how precious our time is.
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The_Commonist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 05:17 PM
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34. No.
We had lunch!

My wife hasn't talked to her mother in 20 years, so I share mine with her...
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PopSixSquish Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 05:19 PM
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35. I Talk to Her 2 -3 Times a Week (Sometimes More) But I Called Today Also
I sent her a bunch of tulips (one of her favorites) on Friday and my stepmother a pink heather plant. My soon to be sister-in-law has 2 little girls with the chicken pox so I will call her after they have gone to sleep. She's just put her house on the market as well and I think the stress is getting to her. My brother is going to there later this week to help...
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panader0 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 05:29 PM
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36. I wish I could
My mom was born in 1908 and had me in 1950. Her sense of life was amazing.
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Ikonoklast Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 07:57 PM
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39. My Mom, Dad, brother and I went out to a ball game Friday night.
All the women in our family are big-time baseball fans.

She said that the first baseball game she ever saw was at League Park in 1937, Indians vs Yankees.

And she still hates the Yankees.

Got to love that woman.
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ConcernedCanuk Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 02:33 PM
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40. Thank you all!
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If this thread made one person happy

and ONE mother that may not have get called, but DID

Thank You . . .

:thumbsup:
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