Abortion. It is personal. I have chosen to share. You can too if you like HERE

I had to have one...really didn't want one...

about 24 years ago

I was in what I thought was a committed relationship that would lead to marriage to a local policeman

when we discovered I was pregnant,that man whom I had devoted my life to and thought I loved turned into someone I did not know and became emotionally and physically abusive.

then he left... me with no insurance, minimum wage job, no support, nothing...

plus, I was bleeding massively had two sonograms

finally deciced I couldn't do it and didn't want to be tied to a monster

so I visited Dr. Tiller. He knew I was conflicted and torn and made me wait to be absolutely sure it was what I really wanted.

No judgement, no blame, just compassion

one year later
I met the most wonderful man, started dating and took it REALLY SLOW majorly slow and told him everything...he didn't run like I thought I would...he loved me back to myself. Made me believe that I was worthy and lovable and not a monster.

This year we celebrate our 20 year anniversary and our 17 year old daughter graduated HS one year early with honors.


My only regret...that we were not able to have more children

possible it is because of what I did 24 years ago? I will never know, but it is the guilt I carry. HOW DARE those fundy nuts trivialize that agonizing decision I had to make and live with

they have NO FUCKING CLUE

:hug:

Sid

And I'm so glad that things turned out so well for the most part. The people who trivialize a heart wrenching decision like that either do so because they're evil, or they have no way of seeing things through any perspective other than their own. Those people are living in their own private hells.

That you needed to share your personal life with the world. Once again take care and don't let the past get to you, it is the past.

Chris

I have just been at wits end and thought this might be catharic

You did what was right for you and that's all that matters.

when I was 42. A contraception failure resulted in the pregnancy. After the confirmation and exam, the doctor told me that since I was pre-menopausal, my uterus no longer had the capacity to stretch to carry the fetus to term. At some point during the pregnancy, I would miscarry. So I chose a termination then, early in the pregnancy, to avoid any complications.

Because of my experience, I find the hysteria surrounding termination completely unacceptable. I made the decision w/ a doctor's explanation of my particular medical situation. I needed no waiting period; no legislators sitting in the exam room w/ me; no other confirmation; and no permission from anyone. It was between my doctor and me, as all medical decisions should be.

Additionally, I was relieved I was living in California, where a termination decision is not a long distance, time consuming, obstacle course. Unfortunately, I know this is not the case in all states.

No one's business but the woman and her doctor

:grouphug:

That's the worst thing about it... they act as if they care so much, but if they did, they'd learn.

Instead, they go on believing they know everything already.


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They actually have a pro-life manual to show activists how to feign concern.

http://www.rhrealitycheck.org/blog/2009/06/02/the-prolife-movements-hot-rhetoric-and-allout-lies

Thanks so much for that link. I hope that was posted as an OP at some point. It is eye-opening for sure.

She was pregnant with her first child. Tests showed that the fetus had a serious chromosomal problem: one incompatible with life. The only question was how soon the fetus would die. Over 90% don't make it through childbirth (hers didn't), of those that make it, most die within a week, and none live more than a year. She did not want to have an abortion, and I respect her commitment to her beliefs. She carried it to term, enduring the well wishes of friends and strangers. She would reply that it was very sick, and pray for it.
I love my sister, and, I admire her. But it's not a choice I could have made, and it's not a choice that many people could have made. To go through with such a pregnancy would be excruciatingly painful for many people. And to what end? She and her husband had a dead baby to hold for a few hours. I couldn't, wouldn't have done the same, and I don't think any woman should be forced to carry to term a child that will die. We have to trust women to know what to do, not dictate to them.

having the choice out there was important to my choices and my sanity. i have 5 kids. they were not all planned. i seriously considered terminating 2 of the pregnancies. although i chose not to, if i hadn't had the choice available, i would have been a slave. any woman who does not have that choice available to her is a slave.

thank you all for sharing your stories.

where did you find it?

a hard decision for any woman to make but nevertheless, it is a woman's choice to make.

One was 15, the other 20. Both had abusive boyfriends and no jobs and were still in school. Its such an incredibly personal decision that no one should judge, ever.

What they did was right for them at the time. Plus, they were incredibly young. No one should be made to have a baby at 15 health wise.

you see in Mexico it is just now moving to the legal side of the house

The four of them were crushingly poor and could not afford to have a kid, or more kids, depending on the case

One died in the back of my rig from massive internal bleeding... yep, botched one. We started IVs, we transported to the hospital, we started CPR. Here is how fucked up things were... after the autopsy the DA decided that she was guilty of suicide, not to charge the butcher who did that to her.

THen we had this 18 year old with the most angelic of faces. She decided she could not afford to have a kid... a gut wrenching decision. She ended up in the hospital with generalized sepsis, and died.

The other two lived, but one will never, ever be able to have kids... and the second one was also scarred, and sent to jail...

So to all those fundies who want to return the US to that condition, I only have a few words for them... you will engage in the murder of fully grown, and developed human beings... not unborn children who would have the potential to be the most wonderful people on the world. The adults are not going to have the potential, they are here. Oh and that is part of the lets control a gender completely ideology. Yes, now that it is slowly becoming legal, the arguments made by the PAN and other RIGHT WING groups are very similar to what Op Rescue says here... you figure it out.

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and I suspect it is already happening, We have plenty of terrorists, so even though it is very legal... you cannot get it in many places already.