Christian Couples Staying Faithful Online - couples share 1 e-mail account to prevent infidelity

Christian Couples Staying Faithful Online
What's his is hers: Christian couples share 1 e-mail account to prevent infidelity
By RACHEL ZOLL AP Religion Writer
September 5, 2009 (AP)

Lance Maggiacomo was out of work, bored and lonely when he started hiding his online relationships from his wife.

There was no affair, only chatting through e-mail, yet it felt like cheating just the same.

A few years later, a reformed Maggiacomo has an in-house check on his impulses. He and his wife Lori, like other Christian couples around the country, share one e-mail account as a safeguard against the ever-expanding temptations of the Internet.

"There's not a Gestapo, KGB quality to it, like I have to check in with mother before I do anything," said Lance Maggiacomo, a 40-year-old surgical nurse from Beverly, Mass. "It's what we believe as Christians: We are our brothers' keepers. It's about biblical accountability."

The e-mail addresses — "tim—shawna" and "christyandbrian" — broadcast the couples' commitment to all correspondents. If one spouse has a Twitter or Facebook account, the other is usually given the password. Often, spouses have separate work accounts where bad behavior could go undetected. However, the goal isn't policing each other every minute, they say. Instead, they are doing whatever is possible to avoid keeping secrets.


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it must suck to be them

we both said that if you were going to cheat on your spouse, are you really going to be honest about how many email accounts you might have?

Gee, what did adulterers ever do before e-mail????

If someone wants to screw around, they will find a way, scrutiny be damned.

What a sorry situation to begin with.

Such weird, authoritarian, policing of a relationship, isn't it?

Ick.

I don't care whether that other person is my spouse or not - MYOB.

O8)O8)O8)O8)O8)

a hurricane! LOL!

Apart from ye olde cynicism, I like the idea.

cant remember any of them and dont care to try....

whats the difference.

it's a beautiful, beautiful thing.

How long before Lance (Lance? Really?) notices he can't breathe and that his wife sends sucky emails, that he married a cretin, and her friends are assholes?

Why not just have one surgically attached to the other, and end the potential for any kind of infidelity there?

One of them tried to get my hubby to go to a Promisekeepers convention. Hubby asked what i thought about it, and I told him that his promise to me on our wedding day was good enough for me.

What is it with these people fucking around? And what if a flirty email relationship was a good release and prevented someone from straying? Maybe they need to start wearing chastity belts.

and thought..... ah, that's nice. then i saw the second and was huh. then the third and fourth adn realized a church had handed it out to the guys to put on car and was a vomit

The Promisekeepers believe the man is in charge in a relationship and the women must be subservient. It makes me sick.

they believe that they are so irrestible that other women are going to hunt them down for a cock call?

they are so weak to temptation that they need some organization with a divine mandate to keep their shit wrapped together.

There's big money in telling people what they already know.

It's really easy to get a free email account at Gmail, Yahoo, Hotmail, or easily a dozen other places. Just erase the history and cookies after you read your mail and the trusting spouse will never know.

Cheating right wing frauds will love to parade the "JohnandJane@" emails around to family and employers, but spouses still need to watch their food stamps.

Anybody who feels compelled to tell me how rich he is, how Christian he is, or how committed he is to his marriage sets my teeth on edge.

I've never had any less than half a dozen e mail accounts, and adultery has never had anything to do with the reasons why.

It's like keeping odometer logs on the vehicle(s), to make sure that the other isn't lying about their travels... it's a sick, false, form of control.

Once a relationship hits this point, it's over. The trust is gone.

was infidelity long before the internets and cell phone texting....

does she let him rummage around in her purse, that's the question!

They put a Christian label on something mundane and promote it as something special. How about just being faithful? End of problem

That's the problem, tagging every mundane thing as Christian and promoting the hell out of it. Like all this virginity stuff with young people who they have systematically convinced will surely die from aids if they ever have sex before marriage. But then that still doesn't work, LOL!

I've been married for 47 years and whatever either of us has done is of no consequence to the strength of the relationship. (I ain't sayin either of us has done anything unseemly mind you). But what would kill it completely is the cloying type of togetherness advocated by cretins like this.

He had on a promise keeper polo shirt.

In his office he had a TV on a TV stand.
Under it I saw a videotape box that said:

BLACK - WHITE - ANAL

So much for virtue. PUUUUKE!

There are some people I know with joint e-mail or Facebook accounts, and I really didn't understand why they'd want that. Now I get it. They do fit the rest of the profile. I really don't want to sift through my husband's mail or Facebook posts, and I'm sure he doesn't want to sift through mine.

Of course not ;)

"See, honey, there's no way I could be having an affair. Just check our shared e-mail account!"


Maybe I'm misunderstanding something here, but these people seem pretty naive.

Their e-mail is the least of their problems.

had affairs before email.

Hell they had them even before regular mail.

shame, really...

I sure hate comments.

Goody on us!

They (the fundies and Christopublicans) love to be persecuted. Or love to whine that they're being persecuted, at least. And somehow this is damaging to you?

it;s a matter of personal choice. if two married people (or nonmarried for that matter) decide to share their email, that's a perfectly acceptable personal decision. *i* wouldn't do it with my wife, but that's my choice.

it's a step towards openness and communication. that aint a bad thang.