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ezgoingrl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Oct-09-09 06:30 PM
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I just told my best friend of 10 years and my son's dad's family off.
I'm sick of it. I'm sick of the snide remarks, I sick of their religion and their politics being flaunted in my face constantly. Can they be proud that the POTUS won a Nobel Peace Prize...NO, of course not. They have to wish failure upon him and say how undeserving he is. Well, screw 'em.

Ok, the friend thing hurts, dammit. But everything was fine as long as Bush was President. I treated the subject with respect and tried not to offend, but apparently it's ok to send me snarky text messages and write nasty stuff about Obama on my Facebook page. Ugh. What a night. Crap.
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eleny Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Oct-09-09 06:31 PM
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1. Aw jeez, c'mere
:hug:
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ezgoingrl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Oct-09-09 06:35 PM
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6. I knew it was gonna happen sooner or later.
I just wasn't looking for a fight tonight. I was gonna go to The Rocky Horror Picture Show, yea...with that friend.

Hey! Let's all do the Time Warp!
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Cha Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Oct-09-09 06:49 PM
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15. Bless your heart..thanks for being who you
are:grouphug:
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dhpgetsit Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Oct-09-09 07:20 PM
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20. OK!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qcb41SZO_Ys
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Christa Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Oct-09-09 06:31 PM
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2. You know they want to rule everything
your thoughts included ...

:pals: :hug:


♫
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NNN0LHI Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Oct-09-09 06:33 PM
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3. You did the right thing
Fuck them.

Don
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ezgoingrl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Oct-09-09 06:33 PM
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4. Thanks.
I don't know why they have to be so damn nasty.
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paranoid floyd Donating Member (146 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Oct-09-09 06:40 PM
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10. Everything was fine when their world was fine.
As soon as it wasn't, they were willing to alienate you. And for what, a cheap shot. Not a solid relationship, unless they are willing to come around.

You did the right thing. Hold your ground.
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Obamanaut Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Oct-09-09 06:48 PM
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13. I think that for most people who are nasty, it isn't that they "have"
to be, but that they "choose" to be.
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rockymountaindem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-10-09 12:17 AM
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26. Because they have no respect for liberals n/t
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lapfog_1 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Oct-09-09 06:34 PM
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5. Good for you. They need to remember that they have to take YOUR feelings into consideration too.
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peace13 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Oct-09-09 06:37 PM
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7. Hugs to you.
I feel your pain. Don't waste energy trying to understand these people. Evolution has not caught up with them. I have the same thing in my family and it does not get easier. They are not educable. But we can will celebrate our very cool President who seems to know how to bring people together. Obama is helping America come back into the fold. Peace and love, Kim
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Ian David Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Oct-09-09 06:37 PM
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8. When you don't have a parade, all you can do is rain on someone else's. n/t
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JuniperLea Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Oct-09-09 06:38 PM
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9. It's very unChristian to lord anything, real or imagined, over another...
Who would Jesus snark off? NO ONE!

I like to ask them if they pray to Jesus with that mouth.

:hug:

I know... I have Fundy Family too... so sorry.

:hug:
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ezgoingrl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Oct-09-09 06:42 PM
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11. Thank you everyone.
The damn just broke and I couldn't do it anymore. I feel better and later when my family isn't around, I'm gonna give it a good cry. Then I'll be able to square my shoulders and get after it again.

We did the right thing, Obama is a good President. He might not be perfect, but the last time I checked, no one else is either. I'm proud of being a part of getting him into the Whitehouse and I'm not going to be quiet about it anymore.
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Chemisse Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Oct-09-09 08:06 PM
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23. If you were respectful of their feelings while Bush was president
Then they should be respectful of yours now.

If they can't set that subject aside, then fuck 'em. Life is too short to suffer that kind of stress on a constant basis.

Maybe you will get an apology and an honest effort to be tolerant. I hope so!
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ChimpersMcSmirkers Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Oct-09-09 06:44 PM
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12. Sucks, but you'll probably be better off. If she's a real friend then she'll at least acknowledge
that she's been out of line...If you get crickets then she deserves the boot.
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ezgoingrl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Oct-09-09 06:48 PM
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14. I have no doubt that there won't be an apology.
This has been building up for a week or so. You're right, I'm better off without HIM (I know it's not normal to have a guy for a best friend.) in my life. It'll be ok.
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eleny Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Oct-09-09 07:32 PM
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21. Surely he'll try to patch it up
I'm hoping for the best. No doubt, he missed going to the show with you. :D
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ezgoingrl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-10-09 01:07 AM
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32. We'll see, but I'm not counting on it.
I don't think he even realizes what happened yet. When he gets home and looks at his facebook page, I think he'll start to understand because I plastered my page with every positive article about Obama's prize posted her on DU that I saw, and I posted Rachel's little tribute story about past winners, and did some other stuff too. I may have gone too far, but I'm darn tired of being quiet and nice and just trying not to rock the boat. I live in Oklahoma, in one of the most conservative towns if you can believe that and I don't have ONE liberal person on my side on FB. I felt really ganged up on.
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drm604 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Oct-09-09 06:58 PM
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16. Although we may have encountered each other on DU, you don't really know me.
So there's probably not much I can say, but I can send you some hugs. :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
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whathehell Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Oct-09-09 07:04 PM
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17. It's like a civil "cold war" dammit...I know!...
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whathehell Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Oct-09-09 07:05 PM
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18. These fights are never "fun"...But good on you for speaking your mind!
You know you always have friends here.
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Bobbieo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Oct-09-09 07:06 PM
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19. ezgoingrl - I am having a similar problem with several friends of mine.
Things were great during the Bush years and we never discussed politics. Now, I am getting all sorts of snide e-mails that are not flattering to the President. I never looked upon them as racist - BUT!!! The time has come to make myself clear - I am an Obama fan!
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elocs Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Oct-09-09 07:34 PM
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22. My best friend who is like a dad to me is a die-hard Republican.
There is nothing he would not do for me and nothing I would not do for him. He is 73 and I don't know how much longer he will live. Our bond is love and it transcends politics. We avoid bad feelings by avoiding political talk and discussion which is not hard because politics does not encompass and define my entire life. In this case my relationship is much more important to me than our political differences.
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Ilsa Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Oct-09-09 08:11 PM
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24. I understand, and feel badly for you both. I guess you'll have to avoid anything
political. My BFF used to be antichoice, so we've never discussed it , but I sense she has come to a slightly different position as her daughters have grown up.

I hope it gets better for you both.
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Triana Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-10-09 12:13 AM
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25. ...
:hug:
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Juche Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-10-09 12:19 AM
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27. I remember when the SEALs killed the Somali pirates
And it came out that Obama had to give the order to do so. My dad said something stupid like 'he must've had a teleprompter telling him to do that'.

Its insane what radical partisanship can do to morality. Bush was a miserable president, but he did some things right. He signed a law support rehabilitation for prisoners, he called for HIV/TB/malaria funding, etc.

If Bush jr is honored for his support in combating HIV and malaria, I will be happy for him. I don't put my hatred of Bush above my hatred of disease. I don't get how people become so partisan it totally warps them.
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Hekate Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-10-09 12:20 AM
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28. I'm so sorry. That hurts.
I hope you dropped in to the Party Thread in GD -- that should make you feel a little better. :hug:

Hekate
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Fading Captain Donating Member (895 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-10-09 12:23 AM
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29. Why should they be proud?
That Obama won the Nobel prize. I am still scratching my head over that one.
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Iwillnevergiveup Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-10-09 12:39 AM
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30. The trouble these days is that
politics has a way of slipping into and affecting our personal lives. The economy, job losses, job insecurity, health issues, health care issues....and unfortunately, a lot of it is negative. Thanks in large part to the 8 years of W. I got off Facebook - that helped a lot.
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HipChick Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-10-09 12:54 AM
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31. I know how you feel, I lost a friend of 15yrs..
today she spouted some non-sense about Obama getting the Nobel Peace Prize because he was black. I asked her if Colin Powell had run, would he have gotten the Nobel Peace Prize, she then accused me of calling her racist without answering my question..:wtf: ..I put up with all her crap during the primaries,during the election...but after today, no more...I'm done...
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