In reference to Baldwin, one thing we tend to forget about anger is that it usually comes from feeling hurt. It's clear to me that Baldwin deeply loves his daughter and cares about what she thinks about him. He wants to know she loves him and respects him.
I don't think he handled his anger correctly but I do understand what brought it on. When you are anticipating a phone call with someone you love and care about and they blow you off not just once but twice, you are going to feel very hurt and let down.
This is something I think needs to be taught more in public schools. This falls under understanding interpersonal communication and human emotions. When someone is angry as Alec Baldwin was it shows they really deeply love their child or who ever they are angry at. The person who is being yelled out should be taught that anger often comes from feelings of fear and hurt and this person is really calling out for love. The book "Love is Letting Go of Fear" does a wonderful job describing how to deal with situations like this. Unfortunately, when one person is hurt and gets angry they say things that hurt the other person and then that person feels hurt and gets angry and real constructive interpersonal communication to get to the root of the problem never takes place.
This is also about being respectful! It's NOT respectful to say you will talk to someone on the phone or show up for a date or whatever and then disappear off the face of the earth. Not only did this happen once but TWICE!!! You are playing with someones heart string when you continually disrespect them by not following through with something you promised you would follow through with and that they were looking forward to. We love our children and when we can't be with them we often lose it!
On the other hand I think Baldwin was VERY wrong to attack the mother in conversation with the child. This is just childish game playing and it hurts the child. Still, brain power usually drops out of sight when anger overtakes the brain. This situation requires real counseling and getting all three of the people involved to talk things out. It's sad that the media would play this private personal matter to the general public. It was not fair to Baldwin and it may have really hurt the daughter to have a personal family fight broadcast world wide.
Here is an article that goes into what I am talking about. It's about anger in children but the same principals apply to adults:
First Comes Hurt, Then Comes Anger and Aggression
Washington Parent Magazine, January 2003
Kay Kosak Abrams, Ph.D.
Anger is a signal, and without anger, we cannot survive. Like a vital sign, anger informs us that our well-being is threatened or that harm has occurred. When we feel angry, our primitive "old brain" releases adrenaline to enable us to "fight or take flight" in defense against whatever has threatened us.
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First Comes Hurt
To understand and manage angry feelings and aggressive behavior, we must first recognize and remember that anger comes from hurt. Aggression is the behavioral response--the acting on the hurt and anger. Empathy is the curative response that eases the hurt so we can shore up our coping defenses.
Link:
http://www.kayabrams.com/articles/first_comes_hurt.htmLink to Amazon.com book "Love is Letting Go of Fear":
http://www.amazon.com/Love-Letting-Fear-Gerald-Jampolsky/dp/0890872465This is a great book!