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Why can't others (ala bush and the thugs) do the same and realize when they have failed (like with Iraq...)?
And why can't they work to fix it?
A little over 2 years ago when my mom died I hit a depression, one so large I could call it a tropical depression. 4 months after I bought the house next door to her to enjoy her golden years with her, she was gone. 2 months of that time she spent in the hospital.
Then her best friend, mom #2 as we called her, died of pancreatic cancer - 4 months later. Another setback for me which made it all worse. But I kept trying, planted a garden, painted the house, tried to enjoy all the good things in life the Lord has blessed me with like a wonderful wife and daughter. But still I was battered.
More deaths, then my X wife died, I found my kids, 3 little boys when I left now becoming men - who all seemed to hate me now. Though my eldest son came to live with me, understand it was not my fault, and gave me my first grandchild. The other two boys...well, who knows.
Then the wife finds out she has parkinson's disease. My company fucks me over on pay, and there were a lot of other things during that time as well.
Folks in my family just told me to shrug it off and keep going. Easy for them to say, they had never lost their kids only to find them later and realized they had been abused mentally and physically. They didn't lose another child in california, or as many friends as I have in this short time (And yet another one passed on in March of this year). To them it was all about mom - why can't I get over losing her? Well I did. But there was always more.
And I lost my sanity during that time.
I pick up my truck to move this Saturday, and my dad and others can't understand why I am leaving to go to California.
It is because here I realize I have lost, and the memories here will continue to hurt me daily. The longer I stay, the worse it will get. My wife is there already working on the house. My sister, brother, dad all seem to just shrug off the obvious depression I am in, have been in, since mom died and everything else occurred. Kind of like bush and his fucking war.
I decided to pull out, and start over. For the betterment of my wife, daughter, and myself. Whatever I cannot take I am donating to charity, I could care less about what I have vested in this place I called home - because it has been a place of poison (or as we in the hood call it - the curse of Indian Oaks, so many bad things have happened here in this one small place).
At some point you step back and realize this is the wrong place, the wrong time, for everyone you love and care about and you get up and leave.
But don't expect that from the bush admin and his assholes in charge. They have too much 'pride' and too much vested.
I have a lot of pride in this place I grew up. I know so many people, I am comfortable here - but being here is not what is best for those I love and try hard to take care of. It does not serve them well - just like us being Iraq does not serve our soldiers and their families well.
At some point you look around at the hell that lays before you and decide it is best to leave while you can for the good of others, and yourself.
bush cannot do either - which to me tells me that maybe he is mentally ill.
I have a new life waiting for me, a new start, and I can choose to take it or to stay here and keep fighting a losing battle with depression and death. I choose to take a chance and start fresh, because I care deeply about my wife and daughter. bush, otoh, does not seem to care that his issues are killing people everyday and driving the families of those killed into depression. And that to me is wrong.
At some point you admit it - you lost and need to start over, that some things are just not working out as you had planned.
And if a guy like me, with a GED and no college (except a few semesters at a drafting school that screwed me over....) can admit he needs to start over and do so - why can't a college grad like bush do the same???
You can't change until you admit that the current course you are on is wrong. I could write a novel about how much I have been sucker punched over the last two and a half years, instead I am looking at what I want for those I love and doing the right thing for them.
Thats what real leadership is - I hope someday we get the same sort of leadership for our country.
You can't win Iraq, you can only send our young people there to survive it.
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