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boston bean Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Apr-19-10 05:42 AM
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Sonoma County CA separates elderly gay couple and sells all of their worldly possessions
Edited on Mon Apr-19-10 05:45 AM by boston bean
Clay and his partner of 20 years, Harold, lived in California. Clay and Harold made diligent efforts to protect their legal rights, and had their legal paperwork in place--wills, powers of attorney, and medical directives, all naming each other. Harold was 88 years old and in frail medical condition, but still living at home with Clay, 77, who was in good health.

One evening, Harold fell down the front steps of their home and was taken to the hospital. Based on their medical directives alone, Clay should have been consulted in Harold's care from the first moment. Tragically, county and health care workers instead refused to allow Clay to see

Harold in the hospital. The county then ultimately went one step further by isolating the couple from each other, placing the men in separate nursing homes.

Ignoring Clay's significant role in Harold's life, the county continued to treat Harold like he had no family and went to court seeking the power to make financial decisions on his behalf. Outrageously, the county represented to the judge that Clay was merely Harold's "roommate." The court denied their efforts, but did grant the county limited access to one of Harold's bank accounts to pay for his care.

What happened next is even more chilling.

Without authority, without determining the value of Clay and Harold's possessions accumulated over the course of their 20 years together or making any effort to determine which items belonged to whom, the county took everything Harold and Clay owned and auctioned off all of their belongings. Adding further insult to grave injury, the county removed Clay from his home and confined him to a nursing home against his will. The county workers then terminated Clay and Harold's lease and surrendered the home they had shared for many years to the landlord.

Three months after he was hospitalized, Harold died in the nursing home. Because of the county's actions, Clay missed the final months he should have had with his partner of 20 years. Compounding this tragedy, Clay has literally nothing left of the home he had shared with Harold or the life he was living up until the day that Harold fell, because he has been unable to recover any of his property. The only memento Clay has is a photo album that Harold painstakingly put together for Clay during the last three months of his life.

With the help of a dedicated and persistent court-appointed attorney, Anne Dennis of Santa Rosa, Clay was finally released from the nursing home. Ms. Dennis, along with Stephen O'Neill and Margaret Flynn of Tarkington, O'Neill, Barrack & Chong, now represent Clay in a lawsuit against the county, the auction company, and the nursing home, with technical assistance from NCLR. A trial date has been set for July 16, 2010 in the Superior Court for the County of Sonoma.



Mods, at the end of the article it asks that we post the story. I don't believe it breaks the four paragraph rule. If I am wrong, please advise.

Here is the link: http://www.bilerico.com/2010/04/sonoma_county_ca_separates_elderly_gay_couple_and.php

On edit: Just realized kpete posted in LBN. Thanks kpete!
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Apr-19-10 05:47 AM
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1. That is the world we live in.
May bad things happen to the county as a result.
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Me. Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Apr-19-10 08:33 AM
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2. No Criminal Charges?
Kidnapping and theft?
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romantico Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Apr-19-10 08:44 AM
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3. Where
Where is the ACLU? Where is GLAAD? Aren't they suppose to protect people like this? Why are we are only now hearing the story? Where was the media when all this was going on? Guess we are more interested in Larry King's divorce, Tiger Woods, and Charlie Sheen to even care. Not sad, DISGUSTING!
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chemenger Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Apr-19-10 09:33 AM
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4. Do you know if anyone has put Keith Olbermann or Rachel Maddow
onto this story???
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muffin1 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Apr-19-10 09:49 AM
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5. Despicable.
And terribly sad. It blows me away that this hate and discrimination is still going on. In America. In 2010, for crying out loud. It is WAY past time for our President to take steps to end ALL discrimination NOW.
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romantico Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Apr-19-10 11:10 AM
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6. (???)
How come all this detailed information has surfaced now? Where is the story coming from? Family? Hospital workers? Who? All of this did not happen in one day. It occurred over a period of time and someone had to get wind of this.Did the couple have a lawyer? Who was looking out for them? Friends? Neighbors? Come on, I can not believe someone is only just now figuring all of this out. There has to be a lot more to this story and we are only hearing the parts that make for a sad story. I want more details. I want names. I want to know who has provided all the information to this story so far.
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