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hedgehog Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-02-10 08:53 PM
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How empathic are you?
The thread was getting long,

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=389&topic_id=8463708&mesg_id=8463708

and I don't mean to hijack it, but take the test yourself and then judge the results of the study:

http://umichisr.qualtrics.com/SE/?SID=SV_bCvraMmZBCcov52&SVI
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PDJane Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-02-10 09:02 PM
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1. High.
Very high. 68/70.
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jp11 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-02-10 09:04 PM
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2. 50/70 I'm a bad person that doesn't care about people.
Edited on Wed Jun-02-10 09:05 PM by jp11
Edited to clarify I meant to reply to OP.
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Madam Mossfern Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-02-10 09:54 PM
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23. 87.5%
I guess I'm pretty empathetic.
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DJ13 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-02-10 09:05 PM
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3. 60/70 ... 85.7%
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mrs_p Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-02-10 09:09 PM
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5. same here. nt
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enlightenment Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-02-10 10:15 PM
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25. Same here.
I don't feel particularly kind hearted - there are so many people that really are. I'm a toad by comparison.
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cliffordu Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-02-10 09:05 PM
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4. I scored someplace between hedgehog and porkypine.
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PDJane Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-02-10 09:12 PM
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6. I have this theory that people who
aren't overly empathetic are actually better off. I've become (mostly) a hermit...because it's much too easy to get caught up in other folks' problems.
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jp11 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-02-10 09:15 PM
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9. That's my philosophy if I had a philosphy that I articulated, being a hermit as well, I put up walls
to protect myself and there seems no point in my mind to getting really emotionally involved in things I can't change, aren't likely to change and that would just leave me drained 'feeling' everything.
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Lisa0825 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-02-10 09:15 PM
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11. I have gotten compassion fatigue....
I still care just as much, but I find that I have to force myself to turn off the news, or click past certain stories, because they will haunt me.

While I miss my mom so much, I am glad she passed before 9/11 because I inherited my soft heart from her, and she would have fallen apart at the coverage. She cried at coffee commercials. The nightly news often made her sob for people who were hurting.
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phasma ex machina Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-02-10 09:13 PM
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7. Hi
:hi:

61/70 higher empathy than 87.1% of participants

For the record, most political cartoons/skits/put downs seem more mean than funny to me. That includes using words like "tea bagger."

Live and let live.
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tango-tee Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-02-10 09:47 PM
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22. I got the same score.
As I've gotten older, I've withdrawn more into my little shell. It's not that I don't care any more, but with all the mayhem, cruelty, catastrophes and tragedies "out there", at times I simply feel overwhelmed.

:hi:
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Mari333 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-02-10 09:14 PM
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8. 49/70
I usually have most empathy for non humans and babies,.
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flvegan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-02-10 09:15 PM
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10. 70/70 100%
I'm a sucker. I admit it.
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Lisa0825 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-02-10 09:17 PM
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12. Yeah, me too.
Is there a 12-step program?
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flvegan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-02-10 09:24 PM
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14. Sadly, I don't think so.
Actually, I like my level of empathy.
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Lisa0825 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-02-10 10:17 PM
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26. I feel like it is overall a good thing, but sometimes it gets overwhelming. nt
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JanMichael Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-02-10 09:20 PM
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13. Pretty empathetic however as a crazy Leftist it lowered my "score".
57/70

i REALLY DON'T GIVE A SHIT ABOUT THE RICH LAZY ASSHOLE pov, PERIOD. I COULD GIVE A SHIT LESS.

wHICH PROBABLY LOWERED MY SCORE TO 57.

ps~ please ignore the all caps! i hit that typing by accident and don't want to have to re-type everything. I'm a slow typist to begin with...
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anAustralianobserver Donating Member (440 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-03-10 03:14 AM
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31. hehe the caps are kind of appropriate
I got 57 as well :toast: :fistbump:
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Shadow Creature Donating Member (105 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-02-10 09:33 PM
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15. I used to be. does that count?
I can't bring myself to just use the subject line, sorry.
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highplainsdem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-02-10 09:34 PM
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16. 59/70. 84.3%.
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Toucano Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-02-10 09:40 PM
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17. 59/70 n/t
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hedgehog Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-02-10 09:40 PM
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18. I scored the same as the college students 50/70, but that
may mean that I'm a harsher judge of myself than the writers of the test expected since I'm pretty much a push-over. I'm not certain the test is any more valid than the typical Facebook quiz.
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Z_I_Peevey Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-03-10 06:11 AM
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34. Agreed.
The statements are so broad as to be meaningless. I question the whole shebang.
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Dappleganger Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-03-10 06:37 AM
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36. That was my impression of the test as well.
More similar to a FB survey than anything else.
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one_voice Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-02-10 09:43 PM
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19. 62/70...88.6% .....
That explains why I have trouble sleeping.
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OmmmSweetOmmm Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-03-10 03:57 PM
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37. Same here.
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NC_Nurse Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-02-10 09:44 PM
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20. 63/70 90% I've had to work at being less of a sucker, some people really ARE
black holes.
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Jennicut Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-02-10 11:08 PM
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29. I scored 63/90 as well. I have been told I am way too nice but
I can't help it. And I have a hard time watching tragic stories on the news. I feel TOO much sometimes. It gets to me.
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NC_Nurse Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-04-10 08:16 PM
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39. I have that problem too. Being sensitive to others can be overwheming at times.
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Q3JR4 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-02-10 09:47 PM
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21. I scored 84.3%,
but I would say that a lot of those questions depend on the situation.

Q3JR4.
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Odin2005 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-02-10 09:59 PM
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24. 52/70
Edited on Wed Jun-02-10 10:01 PM by Odin2005
So much for "autistics don't have empathy". :eyes:

But what does this question have to do with empathy?

I believe that there are two sides to every question and try to look at them both.

That is a wishy-washy relativist attitude, not empathy. A lot of things "DON'T have "more than one side", that notion is how creationists and denialists get a foot-hold into the public discourse.
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jp11 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-02-10 10:58 PM
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27. Nearly every question has at least two answers, being able to see beyond the answer you would give
or agree with is 'empathetic' towards another person's/people's view, without actually taking on their persona as the similar question asks.

A question with only 'one' answer "Am I alive?" if you are asking the question you are 'alive' unless there is an afterlife and you are asking it there, or you are dreaming(lucid or not) etc.

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TwilightGardener Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-02-10 11:06 PM
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28. 62.9%--I'm nicer than I thought.
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hfojvt Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-02-10 11:16 PM
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30. I got 55 out of 70
but the test, of course, does not measure how empathetic I am, only how empathetic I THINK I am.

I also did not like #12 "I believe that there are two sides to every question and try to look at them both."

I think there are usually more than two sides.
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TheKentuckian Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-03-10 03:23 AM
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32. 59/70
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readmoreoften Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-03-10 03:35 AM
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33. 58/70. I don't listen to "all sides" of an argument and that lowered my score.
Deeply caring for people is one thing; validating the violent, selfish fools who hurt them by listening to "their side" is another.
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Dappleganger Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-03-10 06:35 AM
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35. 68/70
Not sure how helpful/accurate this test is, however. I tend to judge people more on their actions than their attitudes.
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woo me with science Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-03-10 04:41 PM
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38. Self report is sketchy, though.
Some of the most narcissistic people I ever met thought they were the most empathetic.
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