Our kids go to school together. We spent 2 months building a pre-school together (parent co-op). She is an amazingly strong woman. She has terminal cancer.
her latest e-mail...
I can't believe that I got up the courage to go to Sacramento and be in
a press conference, but I did it! I was asked to speak in support of
AB374 for aid in dying. I was motivated because when my mom died two
years ago of natural causes at the age of 91, my dad was not prepared
to
deal with her final day of agony. He had expected that if she had no
diseases she would just die peacefully in her sleep. But it wasn't at
all like that. He said it was horrible. I know that if my mom had had
the choice, she wouldn't have wanted to put him or herself through
that. Also, I volunteered to speak because I have credibility that my
main interest is in living. Some of the opponents of the bill claim
that it will be abused by people to commit suicide. So I pointed out
that if there's any creature on earth who will fight like hell for
life,
it's a mom with young kids. And you all know that I can't resist a
moral soapbox, so we went. After the press conference, while we
speakers were going around to the offices, gently arguing for AB374,
Steve and the kids got a VIP tour of the Capitol. They got to go into
Schwarzenegger's office, where Jeremy handed a copy of his latest
screenplay to the Governator's receptionist. He pointed out that he
had
written in a small role for the Governor, so if he wants to be in it,
it
won't take much time.
If you agree with me that civilization and medical science have
advanced
to the point that we need this bill, then please click on the following
to send an email to our assemblyman, Ira Ruskin.
http://democrats.assembly.ca.gov/members/a21/If you don't agree, then by all means, feel free to yell at me (in
email). Some doctors oppose AB374 because they believe it violates "Do
no harm." But I've never seen proof that circumcision does no harm, so
I'd say that line has been crossed. But maybe the benefits outweigh
the
costs. I'd say that the benefits of AB374 definitely outweigh the
costs. Some have said to me that death is part of life, so whatever
happens in death is beautiful. My dad would not agree that my mom's
death was beautiful. So see what you think. The sponsors asked me to
come back in a month for the vote, so at least they liked what I wrote.
Nancy
My name is Nancy Kelem. I am 53 years old and live in Silicon Valley .
I
have a B.S. in Math and Computer Science and an M.S. in Engineering
from
UCLA. After working for almost 20 years as a computer scientist, I
quit
work to raise my kids: a 6-yr-old daughter, whom we adopted from
China,
and 2 sons, ages 8 and 11. Twenty-two months ago I was just a mom
volunteering at school and chauffeuring my 3 kids.
A few weeks before my daughter started Kindergarten, I was diagnosed
with colon cancer that had spread to my liver and lymph nodes. It's
incurable, so I'm kept alive by miraculous drugs. I am totally focused
on living, fighting like heck for the sake of my kids. Every 3 months
I
have a CT scan that tells me what my chances are for another 6 months.
My doctor says that eventually cancers always adapt and become
resistant
to the drugs.
I hope that none of you ever has to plead for aid in dying. I hope
that
when your time comes, you are fortunate enough to have a peaceful
death. But quite often, that's not what happens. Many people
experience what's called "Death Throes," which my dictionary defines as
a hard, painful struggle. Having a life-threatening illness has helped
me clarify my concerns regarding dying. Merely wishing for a peaceful
death is nowhere near acceptable. I have two concerns regarding dying.
The first is my firm intent to prevent my kids from witnessing horrors.
I don't want them to hear me scream or know that I am in agony.
Second,
I've had 2 babies without epidurals, so I'm no pain wimp. But after an
honest debate with myself, I admit that I also have a concern for
myself. I would like to legally have the right to choose to show
myself
some mercy by sparing myself some suffering at the end of my life.
Medical science has made miraculous advances, so that doctors can
extend
people's live for months or years longer than their diseases would
otherwise let them live. But this also often extends suffering. Ask
yourself what you would want for yourself if you were being kept alive
by drugs or machines, and only under conditions of unbearable agony or
such huge doses of opiates that you are a zombie, mentally, and your
body's normal systems can't function or can function only with even
more
drugs. I hope you don't have to seriously consider this for yourself
ever, or at least not for many years.
I am here today to ask for *your* mercy, your vote for this
compassionate legislation. No law can punish a corpse! But I want to
protect my family from the stigma of having my death labeled a suicide.
Without this law, my kids will experience the trauma of my ultimate,
hideous deterioration. Eventually, I might be unconscious, so I won't
have to know. But I know *now*, and that knowledge forces me to beg
you to pass a law that de-criminalizes and de-stigmatizes a basic human
right: the right for a sane, but terminally ill, person to choose a
peaceful death.
Thank you to the authors of AB374 for acting quickly to reduce the
anxieties of people like myself and to spare surviving family members
from witnessing needless agony.
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Read the articles to further understand her plight.
http://www.californiaprogressreport.com/2007/05/a_mother_pleads.htmlhttp://www.caforaidindying.org/index.phphttp://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/18541219/The bill she is trying to get passed is
http://www.legisweb.net/v2/public/calm/Retrieve.asp?ref=urn%3Acalm%3A2007%3Aab0374%3AdocThere are no spearheading groups yet - any ideas?