How to deal with bullies

When I was 12, we moved from a very liberal college town to a large city and into a school where I was bullied like mad for the first several months. Not just one bully...but four bullies. After the first one started in and they saw I wouldn't do anything, the others got in line to harass me. It got to the point where I even had a bully showing up at my house after school screaming up at my window everyday to drag my ass outside so he could continue harassing me. Unfortunately, I was a latch key kid...and Mom wasn't home until about 6 at night. That left hours after school for this kid to harangue me without anybody other than me being witness.

After about three months I was literally on the verge of a breakdown from the constant stress of looking over my shoulder, positive someone was there to punch me, push me, steal from me, destroy my stuff etc.

Well, one day, I asked to use the restroom while at school and on the way to the bathroom I was confronted in the empty hallways by my main bully and two of his little lackeys. He shoved me against the wall and said, "I'm going to beat the shit out of you after school today so don't even try to run".

I snapped. I punched him square in the teeth. Bloody his mouth. Dropped him to his knees. My second shot hit him square in the eye. He covered his face with his hands and started crying. And his two lackeys just stared on in disbelief. As he was there on his knees crying, I leaned over and told him, "I'm done running. If you want to do this everyday for the rest of the year, I'm game.", and I returned to class.

The word got out, and the harassment ended that day. Not one of my bullies bothered me again.


THIS is what Dems, Liberals, Progressives have to do. I'm sorry, but when dealing with a bullies mind, if you capitulate, if you don't do something to stop the harassment, it will not end. That I 100% guarantee.

It's time to punch the mother fucking bullies in the teeth. Trying to "be the bigger man"...trying to "get along"...trying to be "above it"...works only in the rational persons brain. Bullies aren't rational. Trying to reason with a bully just encourages them that you're too chicken shit to make them stop. So many times it just gets worse.


Stop trying to get along with these people. When the try to verbally abuse you, tell them to put a fucking sock in it and pound sand, or else.

You can be polite to these people...and I assure you the harassment will continue to escalate. If Boehner, Rush, Beck, Breitbart, and the rest of their dirty henchmen want to bully, then punch them in the fucking teeth. Bullies are wimps. They are all hat and no cattle. Give them a dose of their own medicine and the wither like a dead snake.

I try to think otherwise, but the lines keep getting more and more blurred.

As long as Democrats cower or agree with Republicans, instead of fighting them, our country will be in harm's way, at the bidding of Republican thought and action.

but I agree with the previous posters, they're in it together. We're often being treated to a nice piece of theater.

They must be destroyed. And because they're all cowards underneath all the bluster, they'll fold like a house of cards.

They've already calculated that if we do what they do, they will mostly win. Otherwise, they would have picked another method that would have given them an advantage over them.

You had better never allow your opponent to fight according to the plan they have set.

my friend...the beatings will continue.

After the fight, did you win the vote of the rest of the onlookers, and go on to become their leader by their own consent? Because if you didn't, then you should realize that you were playing a completely different game than the one you are now.

there was me...punching a Troglodyte in the teeth. No, I did not become leader of the Troglodytes. But they sure as hell stopped bullying me. So I can say 100% that it had the desired outcome.

-If Americans cannot rise above the abuse of power going on now on all levels, it will just get worse and worse.

I do agree when it comes to self defense, caving and acting like 'prey' will just up the ante in bullying behavior, but we are not high school kids. I think a show of our sheer numbers and solidarity is in order, IMHO. That is how it was done in WI.

One big challenge is that intercommunication amongst ourselves is truly being interfered with on all levels, from national broadcasts to individual forums. If we do not overcome this interference by identifying it and ignoring or bypassing it, we will continually be driven off our own message, and manipulated to act against our own welfare.

Great article LoZoccolo :)

Fighting doesn't solve anything unless it's done to defend yourself and it's time for us to defend ourselves against this. Your article is playing strategy and obviously the people on our side are not good at it. The US government is not doing a good job, that can only lead to two choices, get better or get out of governing. And btw Obama did fight back, he shoved his birth certificate so far down their throats they're still choking so sometimes fighting back is the only way to save yourself and its time they did more of it.

Thank you. The Democrats need to start fighting back! I've been saying this for years now.

The Dems need to have their ducks in a row and then start kicking some butt to the curb. It's time the Democratic party return to its purpose - that being FOR the people.

P.S. My own brother, who was small for his age in school, had almost the same situation as you. This one guy, who was much bigger, bullied him continuously. Then one morning before school, the bully said something and my brother just went for him. Beat the crap out of the bigger dude with people actually applauding - because, of course, the bully had gone after MANY people, not just my brother.

The bullying stopped that day for him (and others)! I was so proud of my brother!

I did. It was the worst fucking birthday party I ever had, before or after. He ruined it. The first thing he did when he arrived was ask where my dad kept his Playboy magazines. It got worse from there.

Monday morning, I was walking across the school field and he called me over. He was with a really cute girl who had her collie out on the field. He was inviting me over to pet the dog. That was the end of the bullying. I don't think anyone had ever shown him any kindness before.

I transferred to a new school in the middle of the school year. The moment I got there, the school bully - a short girl named Carmen in the 4th grade who was older than I - I was in the 6th grade (I'm female also) - singled me out. Every single day, she pushed me, shoved me, got into my face, constantly threatened to kick my ass, called me every name in the book. One day, during recess - this was in the spring, which means I had endured about 4 months of this - she shoved me one time too many. I snapped. This was 1971 (or thereabouts), so I was wearing "stacks" - remember those? Shoes with 2-3 inch heels. I whipped off one of my stacks, got her in a head-lock, and beat the crap out of her. It took two teachers to peel me off of her. She wasn't hurt - thank God, I would never have forgiven myself - but I was so embarrassed that I cried in the principal's office for I don't know how long. I didn't get into trouble at all - thinking back, I wonder how many other kids she'd terrorized for literally years. The principal had to have taken that into consideration, because other than that incident, I had been invisible there to everyone but Carmen.

After that, I had no trouble from Carmen at all. In fact, at the end of the school year, she signed my autograph book "your friend Carmen." Whenever I come across that little book - I kept it - I smile, and then I'm saddened, because I wonder what horrors turned that little girl into such a mean little person. It makes me want to hug that poor little girl who must've been in some serious pain at home.

Oh, yeah... but forgot to say: I'd love to see Dems whip off their stacks and use them (metiphorically) on Republicans. I'd pay to see that.

I was two grades ahead through most of grammar school and small for my age anyway, I got bullied all day every day until I snapped one day and took a bite out of the biggest bully's ear.

The bullying stopped immediately, there is no way I could have fought even the smallest of them (two years is a big gap physically in grammar school) but a reputation for just going psycho made it not worth the effort, they found someone else to fuck with.