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backscatter712 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-15-11 10:26 PM Original message |
The bullied kid that fought back - the "conventional wisdom" is bullshit. |
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HEyHEY (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-15-11 10:32 PM Response to Original message |
1. All bullies understand is violence. Even if you don't WIN the physical fight |
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Lugnut (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 12:15 AM Response to Reply #1 |
27. Bullies are cowards. |
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FourScore (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 11:01 AM Response to Reply #1 |
38. When my niece was in kindergarten, |
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demwing (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 01:36 PM Response to Reply #1 |
71. That's it exactly! It's not about winning the fight |
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wtmusic (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-15-11 10:32 PM Response to Original message |
2. The legal dynamics for adults have changed. |
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AlabamaLibrul (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-15-11 10:33 PM Response to Original message |
3. That kind of shit, and the resulting suspensions led to me dropping out. Fuck 'em n/t |
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Cleita (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-15-11 10:33 PM Response to Original message |
4. I always fought back, even when I got the worst of it. |
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wtmusic (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-15-11 10:37 PM Response to Reply #4 |
6. Me too. |
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Angry Dragon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-15-11 10:33 PM Response to Original message |
5. self-defense |
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socialist_n_TN (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-15-11 10:45 PM Response to Reply #5 |
12. And I'm a big believer in this......... |
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Aerows (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 11:57 AM Response to Reply #12 |
49. Exactly! n/t |
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Drale (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-15-11 10:37 PM Response to Original message |
7. I can tell you that this is the only way to deal with bullies. |
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midnight (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-15-11 10:37 PM Response to Original message |
8. If those who advocate that there is another way than violence, but |
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BanzaiBonnie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-15-11 10:42 PM Response to Original message |
9. Our lives were hell on the school bus |
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wtmusic (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-15-11 10:43 PM Response to Reply #9 |
10. And ever since then you've been known as Banzai Bonnie |
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Matariki (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-15-11 10:47 PM Response to Reply #10 |
14. Gotta love that "just ignore them" advice. As if. |
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Arkana (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-15-11 11:04 PM Response to Reply #14 |
21. Oh yeah. I must have heard this a million times from my mother growing up. |
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BanzaiBonnie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-15-11 10:49 PM Response to Reply #10 |
16. Nah, that had more to do with my attitude while |
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whathehell (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-15-11 11:00 PM Response to Reply #9 |
18. " And the fact that I was a girl... helped" |
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Gemini Cat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-15-11 11:02 PM Response to Reply #9 |
20. That's right. They don't stop. |
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BanzaiBonnie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-15-11 10:44 PM Response to Original message |
11. Dupe - sorry |
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Matariki (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-15-11 10:47 PM Response to Reply #11 |
13. HEY! |
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HEyHEY (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-15-11 10:49 PM Response to Original message |
15. Saw the video, good, that little shit will have a couple months of recovery |
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Frank Cannon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-15-11 10:56 PM Response to Original message |
17. Dealt with a lot of bullies when I was a kid. |
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davsand (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-15-11 11:02 PM Response to Original message |
19. They will mess with you until you make it a problem for them. |
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liberalhistorian (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 12:09 AM Response to Reply #19 |
26. I'm sorry but, as the proud daughter of teachers, I cannot |
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JoeyT (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 09:46 AM Response to Reply #26 |
36. I don't understand the need to get upset when someone says there are bad people in X profession. |
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txlibdem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 11:25 AM Response to Reply #36 |
39. Teachers always jump on any detractors, like the blue line or code of silence for cops. |
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liberalhistorian (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 11:39 AM Response to Reply #36 |
43. Um, yes, she DID make a blanket statement and that is what |
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backscatter712 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-15-11 11:05 PM Response to Original message |
22. When I was little, I snapped on a bully and kicked him in the nuts. |
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Quixote1818 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 11:31 AM Response to Reply #22 |
40. I did something similar |
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valerief (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-15-11 11:19 PM Response to Original message |
23. Fox tells us to love our bullies. nt |
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guitar man (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-15-11 11:26 PM Response to Original message |
24. That's what I told my daughter |
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provis99 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-15-11 11:33 PM Response to Original message |
25. idiots like this Dagleish are responsible for bullying. |
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krabigirl (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 01:31 AM Response to Original message |
28. I agree, I will do the same with my kids. Big deal if they get a suspension..it's worth it imo. |
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The Doctor. (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 01:32 AM Response to Original message |
29. I know, from experience... |
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backscatter712 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 11:47 AM Response to Reply #29 |
46. I think most bullies are just fucking inhuman psychopaths. |
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The Doctor. (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 01:17 PM Response to Reply #46 |
69. They can certainly feel fear. That, I believe, is the root of the problem. nt |
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Raine (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 01:52 AM Response to Original message |
30. Adult bullies too have to feel pain, not physical |
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27inCali (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 02:21 AM Response to Original message |
31. the teachers who let this shit go on should be punished |
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Lydia Leftcoast (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 11:40 AM Response to Reply #31 |
44. When I was in second grade, some fifth grade boys |
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AndyTiedye (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 04:00 AM Response to Original message |
32. Odd that the Bully in this Case Was Picking on Somebody Bigger and Stronger |
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ehrnst (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 10:46 AM Response to Reply #32 |
37. The bigger kid looks as though he was not one to fight back - until this time. |
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fishwax (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 12:13 PM Response to Reply #32 |
54. yeah, that was definitely weird |
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truebrit71 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 01:16 PM Response to Reply #54 |
67. Growing up I had a couple of kids pick on me that were smaller... |
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Modern_Matthew (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 04:04 AM Response to Original message |
33. A good parent will always teach their kid to fight back. nt |
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JoeyT (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 09:30 AM Response to Original message |
34. When the bullied fight back it creates a problem for the school. |
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txlibdem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 11:39 AM Response to Reply #34 |
42. Turn a blind eye, look the other way, school policy |
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Lyric (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 09:38 AM Response to Original message |
35. When the adults fail to protect you, you should NOT be punished for protecting yourself. |
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LiberalAndProud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 11:58 AM Response to Reply #35 |
50. permissive indulgent parents or |
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cleanhippie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 11:38 AM Response to Original message |
41. Agreed. Its the only way to deal with bullies. |
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Quixote1818 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 11:42 AM Response to Original message |
45. It's understandable that schools would emphasize self restraint over violence |
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LiberalAndProud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 11:49 AM Response to Original message |
47. Other ways ... |
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JonLP24 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 11:53 AM Response to Original message |
48. OK |
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Quixote1818 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 12:07 PM Response to Reply #48 |
52. I am sure it's a legal thing |
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JonLP24 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 12:14 PM Response to Reply #52 |
55. I saw your post above after I made my post |
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Quixote1818 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 12:25 PM Response to Reply #55 |
57. It was great seeing the bully get nailed |
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Marrah_G (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 11:59 AM Response to Original message |
51. This happened to my son often |
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Quixote1818 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 12:10 PM Response to Original message |
53. Schools have to legially have a zero tollerance policy or they will get sued. |
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fishwax (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 12:23 PM Response to Original message |
56. of course, fighting back doesn't always work, and most of the bullied don't have the size advantage |
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JonLP24 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 12:25 PM Response to Reply #56 |
58. I agree |
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fishwax (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 12:57 PM Response to Reply #58 |
64. I thought your post had a good point too |
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backscatter712 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 12:43 PM Response to Reply #56 |
59. If there's a size disparity, I'll give my kid the "stand up for yourself with a baseball bat" advice |
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ieoeja (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 01:16 PM Response to Reply #59 |
68. Come to a gunfight with a baseball bat instead? |
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fishwax (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 02:22 PM Response to Reply #59 |
74. what worked for me was to actually communicate with the "bullies" |
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fishwax (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 12:46 PM Response to Original message |
60. also, is this really a case of "bullying"? |
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demwing (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 01:30 PM Response to Reply #60 |
70. Yes, this was bullying |
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fishwax (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 02:36 PM Response to Reply #70 |
75. well, the article sort of says that, but relying on an unquoted post from an unnamed facebooker |
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demwing (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 03:52 PM Response to Reply #75 |
77. I guess my point is that If two kids go to blows over a defined issue, |
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Taverner (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 12:47 PM Response to Original message |
61. I agree 100% |
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Quixote1818 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 01:06 PM Response to Reply #61 |
66. Revenge of the Nerds! nt |
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closeupready (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 12:52 PM Response to Original message |
62. So you can fight back, or end up like that one in Queens who died after having his head stomped. |
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cally (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 12:56 PM Response to Original message |
63. A heroine! |
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Quixote1818 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 01:04 PM Response to Reply #63 |
65. I agree. nt |
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LanternWaste (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 01:37 PM Response to Original message |
72. Without condemning or condoning what the young man did... |
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backscatter712 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 02:22 PM Response to Reply #72 |
73. I did that to one would-be-bully on Facebook. |
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firehorse (547 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Mar-16-11 03:05 PM Response to Original message |
76. watching the video, you see the bully (napolean complex) with his pack picking on a big guy |
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