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worstexever

(265 posts)
Mon Jan 22, 2018, 04:08 PM Jan 2018

Conservative backlash to the women's march - it gets personal

After I posted photos of my friends and I wearing our pussy hats at the women's march, along with some of the more clever signs, my conservative ("libertarian" since Trump won the GOP nomination) mother posted on FB that she must be among the privileged few as she never felt put down because of being a woman and learned early in life to turn off any possible sexual harassment. She says she has a right to believe what the Bible teaches about anything -- including the murder of unborn children -- in reference to the march. Her post included a truly bizarre video from someone who calls herself the Activist Mommy. She knows I have a serious #metoo experience that I didn't feel like sharing publicly while everyone else was relating their stories. I'm offended and, yes, wounded by this.

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Conservative backlash to the women's march - it gets personal (Original Post) worstexever Jan 2018 OP
Interesting atreides1 Jan 2018 #1
I'd like to know this too... wcmagumba Jan 2018 #8
that was my first thought too: "chapter and verse, please" nt shanny Jan 2018 #9
It's not worth asking worstexever Jan 2018 #10
It is not there. Demsrule86 Jan 2018 #15
I am so sorry. It hurts the most when this kind of thing is inflicted on us by our own family. FM123 Jan 2018 #2
Sending you healing, supportive thoughts. Stay strong!💕❤️ MLAA Jan 2018 #3
Sorry for that. We all know how it feels, even if Hortensis Jan 2018 #4
Unfriend her because she may be your mom but she is not your friend. SharonClark Jan 2018 #5
Thread winner!!! hamsterjill Jan 2018 #11
Have thought about doing this many times, but haven't done it worstexever Jan 2018 #12
They said the same things in the 1960/70s. "Women aren't supposed to go to work, Irish_Dem Jan 2018 #6
I saw an Activist Mommy video on FB yesterday underpants Jan 2018 #7
I take it your mother didn't work outside the home. If she did, why was she happy sinkingfeeling Jan 2018 #13
She finished college in three years, before she turned 21, and worked as a teacher her whole career worstexever Jan 2018 #14
I am so sorry...I know that hurts. Demsrule86 Jan 2018 #16
Unless your mom is a terrible person I would think she didn't do that on purpose to hurt you. Kirk Lover Jan 2018 #17
Narcissist much starphlo Jan 2018 #18
Thanks. I really appreciate the support. worstexever Jan 2018 #19
women who've never felt discrimination have never done anything they weren't "supposed" to do. nt TheFrenchRazor Jan 2018 #20
This is true in more than one way. worstexever Jan 2018 #21

atreides1

(16,079 posts)
1. Interesting
Mon Jan 22, 2018, 04:11 PM
Jan 2018

Can she tell you where exactly the bible teaches about the murder of unborn children...because I've spent hours trying to find that specific passage, with no luck!

wcmagumba

(2,886 posts)
8. I'd like to know this too...
Mon Jan 22, 2018, 04:23 PM
Jan 2018

I don't know the bible well but it seems that I remember reading about several places where
a fetus is not considered the same as a child that has been delivered. You may find other relevant
links but here are a couple I found...
https://www.huffingtonpost.com/eliyahu-federman/the-bible-is-not-prolife-_b_1207222.html
http://southernskeptic.com/bible-supports-abortion/

worstexever

(265 posts)
10. It's not worth asking
Mon Jan 22, 2018, 04:32 PM
Jan 2018

She can dish it out, but she can't be questioned about it. Very passive aggressive.

Hortensis

(58,785 posts)
4. Sorry for that. We all know how it feels, even if
Mon Jan 22, 2018, 04:18 PM
Jan 2018

coming from one's mom is an especially heavy dose. But betrayal is wounding, even when, as so often, it's not meant.

Irish_Dem

(47,131 posts)
6. They said the same things in the 1960/70s. "Women aren't supposed to go to work,
Mon Jan 22, 2018, 04:21 PM
Jan 2018

they need to stay home with the children."

"Women are not smart or emotionally stable enough to enter the professional graduate schools."

"Women are not strong enough to be soldiers or police officers."

"Women should not make equal pay because they have to take more time off to
care for their children."

"Women who get raped were just asking for it."

I could go on and on, but you get the drift.
The Women's Right Movement persisted in spite of all of this crap, and made a lot of gains.
Keep going, you are doing the right thing, and I am so proud of you.

underpants

(182,829 posts)
7. I saw an Activist Mommy video on FB yesterday
Mon Jan 22, 2018, 04:23 PM
Jan 2018

Another person dispensing their "wisdom" from the inside of their car (like the cowboy guy).

The responses were hilarious - tore her apart for being a white privilege suburban soccer mom etc. She actually responding to them. She's a moron.

sinkingfeeling

(51,460 posts)
13. I take it your mother didn't work outside the home. If she did, why was she happy
Mon Jan 22, 2018, 05:21 PM
Jan 2018

working for 56 cents on the dollar? If she's older than 70, was she happy not to be able to have credit in her own name or to own her own home?

She can believe anything she thinks is in the Bible, but I sure don't have to nor does she have a right to make her beliefs universal via law.

worstexever

(265 posts)
14. She finished college in three years, before she turned 21, and worked as a teacher her whole career
Mon Jan 22, 2018, 07:59 PM
Jan 2018

This is just more of the judgemental B.S. I'm used to from her, but it still hurts. She will be 80 years old this year.

 

Kirk Lover

(3,608 posts)
17. Unless your mom is a terrible person I would think she didn't do that on purpose to hurt you.
Mon Jan 22, 2018, 09:31 PM
Jan 2018

(I hope). Do you think seeing your post with the hats and signs just set her off? Of course she has a right to believe what she wants (that's why America is already great Mom)!!! And I would say yes that she is among a privileged few who has not experienced any kind of sexual harassment ever. I would say that's the exception and not necessarily the norm. Do you think you'd be able to talk to her about how this hurt you - how she poo pooed sexual harassment/assault when she knows you've been directly effected by it? I understand if you can't talk to her, so I'm glad you have a message board and some good friends if you can't.

starphlo

(25 posts)
18. Narcissist much
Mon Jan 22, 2018, 11:02 PM
Jan 2018

This sounds like my 82 year old mom who says that women dress showing everything and should expect it. My theory is that this age group has developed great powers of denial since I think my mother was once sexually attacked (per my aunt). Also, as a narcissist, she cannot accept any blame for anything, like the stepfather I had who was inappropriate with me as a child. She is also an extreme "christian." Try not to let it bother you. So many shocking yet true colors are coming out from people.

worstexever

(265 posts)
19. Thanks. I really appreciate the support.
Tue Jan 23, 2018, 04:02 PM
Jan 2018

One thing I've always enjoyed about protest marches, including the women's marches, is the opportunity to bond with like-minded people. Wonderful to realize that we're not alone.

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