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The Quiet Radicalism of Melania Trump
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Melania Trump on the South Lawn of the White House in November.CreditAndrew Harrer/Bloomberg
https://www.nytimes.com/2018/01/25/opinion/melania-trump-radical.html
By Kate Andersen Brower
Jan. 25, 2018
On the first anniversary of his inauguration, President Trump spent the day blasting Democrats for the government shutdown, suggesting that women marching in protest of his presidency were somehow celebrating it, and embroiled in allegations that he paid off a porn star to keep her quiet about their relationship. Melania Trump, meanwhile, commemorated the anniversary by tweeting a single photo of herself on Inauguration Day on the arm of a Marine. Her husband was nowhere in sight, and she did not mention his name. A few days later on what happened to be the Trumps 13th wedding anniversary she canceled her plans to accompany Mr. Trump to the World Economic Forum in Davos, Switzerland.
She may not be progressive. She may not be political. And yet Mrs. Trump may end up doing more than any of her predecessors to upend our expectations of the slavish devotion a first lady must display toward her husband.
Her reasons for doing so, of course, are almost certainly personal. With the exception of the Clintons, there has not been a more complicated first couple in modern history: Mrs. Trump is the third wife of a man who once told the radio host Howard Stern he would give her a week to lose the baby weight after their son, Barron, was born. During the 2016 campaign she was put in the position of defending him after a 2005 Access Hollywood video showed him bragging about groping women.
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Maybe Mrs. Trump is more like Michelle Obama than people think. Though the mutual affection of the Obamas was obvious, Mrs. Obama was also the first first lady to challenge people to accept a woman who refused to play the role of the saccharine, adoring spouse. I cant do that, she said in 2007 Vanity Fair interview. Thats not me. I love my husband. I think hes one of the most brilliant men Ive ever met, and he knows that. But hes not perfect, and I dont want the world to want him to be perfect.
Mrs. Trump is the most reluctant first lady since Bess Truman (who left Washington to return to her home in Independence, Mo., at every opportunity). Her apparent antipathy toward the job has made her more willing to ignore the rules and traditions that govern it. This quiet rebellion started with her decision not to move into the White House until five months after her husband took office. It gathered force when she swatted her husbands hand away on an airport tarmac in Israel last year. By the time the Trumps leave the White House, Mrs. Trump may have done more to change our notions about this archaic position, which has no job description and no pay, and comes with impossible expectations, than most of her predecessors.
Would it have been beneficial to Donald Trump for his wife to stand beside him in Davos and show a united front, as we have come to expect from first ladies? Absolutely. Does she care? Probably not.
Kate Andersen Brower is a CNN contributor and the author, most recently, of First Women: The Grace and Power of Americas Modern First Ladies.
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50 Shades Of Blue
(10,010 posts)handmade34
(22,756 posts)JDC
(10,129 posts)No f'in way Melania can be compared to Michelle and she is in no way blazing a trail for the future role of First Ladies.
CatMor
(6,212 posts)Is to serve him divorce papers right now and move out of the White House.
marble falls
(57,102 posts)jrthin
(4,836 posts)"Trump Reinvent the Presidency." We get it NYT's, you are complicit in trying to rebuild these pigs images.
ProudLib72
(17,984 posts)Ohiogal
(32,006 posts)Is totally ludicrous! And it's from the New York Times???!! Appalling!
lunasun
(21,646 posts)uppityperson
(115,677 posts)"upend our expectations of the slavish devotion a first lady must display toward her husband"?
Yeah. Michelle certainly displayed slavish devotion to her husband.
"Mrs. Trump may have done more to change our notions about this archaic position, which has no job description and no pay, and comes with impossible expectations, than most of her predecessors. "
Again, see Michelle Obama.
"Her apparent antipathy toward the job"???? Wrong. Her apparent antipathy towards the Asshole she's married to.
flotsam
(3,268 posts)I think Jackie Kennedy had them covered pretty well...
irisblue
(32,980 posts)oxbow
(2,034 posts)Its not revolutionary - its a survival strategy,
a radical attempt to distance herself/Barron from both him and the reality show he lives in.
ismnotwasm
(41,989 posts)This article doesnt even make sense. Ms. Trump has done nothing radical, nothing.
BigmanPigman
(51,609 posts)a very large audience before he even married her. She was in the audience and he was telling the host that he wanted to be president someday and he had "his future wife and supermodel's support". They turned the cameras to her and she stood up and told everyone that she "would support him and couldn't wait to be the first lady". The NYT is full of BS! She knew who he was and was 100% behind him.
Ohiogal
(32,006 posts)She knew full well what she was getting into when she married the Dotard.
I get so tired of the media saying that either of them have "reshaped" or "revolutionized" anything.
They are both unfit for the roles they have ... no warmth, no compassion, no sense of duty
I sometimes wonder if she's loaded with tranquilizers to get through the day, she has that dead eyed look quite often. Being married to that orange creep would push anyone on to drugs!
BigmanPigman
(51,609 posts)If you look at old photos but she has had so much filler injected underneath they look skinnier. Also, Botox will keep her expressionless better than Xanax ever could. I have to get injections every three months for daily migraines and it really does keep my forehead from moving even the slightest amount.
struggle4progress
(118,295 posts)RandomAccess
(5,210 posts)is emotionally estranged from her husband and wouldn't be IN the marriage if she didn't have to, for whatever reasons (probably financial).