So very sorry.

Are my oldest DU friends. Thanks Me.

I went thru this BEFORE rump.

Somehow two rabidly LIBERAL people became billo fans who were so racist it was real real ugly.

I was in shock when I found out...havent spoken since.

I understand, believe me.

I had a similar friend (since age 14). We did everything together and I mean everything!

For some reason in the year 2008, she quit speaking to me.

Today she is waiting on her puke mother to kick the bucket so she can get the $ to pay off her condo in a rich man's paradise.

We have nothing in common.

In hindsight, maybe we never did.

Hang-in there and know that you are never alone!

And love and support.

I lost my Father five years ago today.

We lost six close family members in seven years, all before their time, none to natural causes or old age.

Life's goes on, I've found that it's mostly the good memories that continue to come to mind.

Healing takes time love and support, spend time looking for that if possible.

Anniversaries are so hard. I hope you find some peace today.

I'm firing up my Fathers ( now mine ) 1928 Model A one ton flatbed in a bit and taking my Mother for a drive.

The last time it was driven was two weeks before my Father had a stroke that started his illness.

I drove and let him direct the trip, my Grandfather was its original owner, it had run liquor during prohibition before being sold in the late 30's, he found the truck and purchased it in 1974 and we started its restoration.

It was and is my first love even before girls.

My Mother used to drive it on back roads to go grocery shopping on Saturdays until the early 90's.

Every time I go into my shop my thoughts turn instantly to my Father because there it is still waiting.

It's taken me a week to get it up and running and ready.

And today it's going for drive again.

And Mom will smile and enjoy the afternoon, the old truck only does 35 mph downhill with a tailwind.

But it's priceless to us.

Healing comes in many forms.

My friend had the same style of singing as Joan Baez. She would've loved this.

and everyone who might comment in the future.

These comments are the only thing that have made me feel better in the last 24 hours!

Very healing to know so many of you have the same rifts with loved ones.

It was a rapid succession. They are all gone now. To have your *best* friend dump you after it is seemingly all over is really a bit much IMO. No big loss in hindsight luckily!

I have one sibling left that I never hear from and yes, a gun humping puke.

*sigh*

We go on anyway as we must!

Take good care!

She took on the politics of the guy she is with. Even worse, she's lost interest in him but she's used to the lifestyle she has with him and won't leave now. The lies. The racist lies. They disgust me. I finally got fed up when I saw her publicly supporting Trump and told her off. As with all of these types, she unfriended me and I felt no remorse. None. I've never unfriended anybody, and I likely never will. Several Trump supporters have done so, yet I never actually noticed as in I couldn't tell you exactly when it occurred (other than this one case described here.) In every other case it's just one less annoyance in my life.

The lies are what finishes it off IMO.

I don't blame you and thanks for your post!

Often life is just plain unfair!

She was outgoing, funny and always getting me to try new things; I wouldn't do anything differently if I had to do it all over again. Unfortunately she was willing to sell out her morals and ethics in order to move up in the world; i.e. have money. Yes I don't have as much money as I could if I was more aggressive and didn't care about how I affected other people. But I do, and I would rather be happy than wealthy.

She always was the instigator of fun. My life would have been boring and sad without her. I wouldn't do anything differently either.

I don't feel that she went into the hate business voluntarily. This guy told her things she had always wanted to hear from a man. She wasn't after money she just wanted to be loved like everybody.

I feel like Donald Fredo Trump took my friend away.

Infected her mind like a virus.

I wonder if now that she is in heaven she can see that all the hate was a waste of time.

Mine was the same way. Real tight with the money (never never paid for anything at all). It was on me, not that I had a damned thing. I sent money when down and out, I helped when I was able to do so but I guess that wasn't good enough.

At one point I asked for a favor and was hotly declined. It was not long after that that I was kicked to the curb. It hurt yes and it will always bear a scar as I wasted a lot of time with this person that only cares about one thing, their own very selfish self.

That is really hurtful. Betrayal hurts and is so hard to get over. I hope that in time new friends come into your life that more than fill the gap.

My friend S wasn't money hungry. Not at all.

She was hungry for love and she thought she had found it. I don't know what happened to that guy, since she cut me off I didn't know what happened in her life. On her pinterest board there are only 2 pins. Wedding gowns. Breaks my heart that she never found a lasting love. Her health took a very nasty turn after she blew me off and I'm guessing he didn't want to take on a sick woman. Or maybe he was just an asshole.

Her father died when she was very young. She spent her whole life looking for love.

She had a kind, generous heart her whole life and this guy, ruined her for me. I hope that they had some happy times together I guess it would make the heartache worth it a little.

I just miss my friend.

I posted about it a few days ago and was quite surprised at how many responses I got.

Posting these things in DU is very safe. DIers are amazing!

I'm sorry about your sister and I know exactly how you feel.

.... and cherish the positive impacts you two shared to help each other and grow while together. Those pleasantries of close human interaction will always be there for you to reflect upon with happiness and joy.

Oh yes.

How we end up in this spot is beyond me.

It was not what I particularly wanted but that is the way it is.

Take care!

We will survive Trump. I've lost several friends over Trump. But I'm at a place in my life where I want the people I keep as friends to reflect positively on who I am as a person. Trump supporters need not apply. They're more than welcome to come back if they renounce him, but until they do, there's no room for them in my life. I don't consider either racists or those who turn a blind eye to racism because they think it will get them something (which in this case, it won't) as people I want as my friends. I want people around me to care about justice, equality, compassion, and making the world a better place. Trump voters do not fit that bill.

Remember that you are who you hang with. I am sorry for your loss and understand that you are grieving. But remember that we as a society and as a species are never going to evolve unless we truly band together and make it clear that Trump and racism are NOT things we are going to tolerate, and if you choose to support him or the racism he represents, we are not going to tolerate that either.

Racists need to understand that there will be consequences for embracing hate. Trump has made them believe it's okay to be ugly and racist again. We need to show them that they are dead wrong in that.

We need to do something, and fast.

And she was dead wrong but now she's just dead.

She drank from the poisoned well.

All that hate killed her.

My Son,at his last cook out said,” NO POLITICS!”

Since his Inlaws are all Republican,suited me just fine. We stay friends!

Still, I bet there were a few cliques and mutterings going on while chowing on the excellent grub.

People love to complain, love to provoke, love to find offense.

Especially if they are not open thinkers.

Like us.

His house and yard seems to be the center of the family, and he loves every minute of it.

His grill,his Sundeck he built himself. He took early retirement 2 years ago so he could enjoy.

It is fun to watch. Gardening, building. Weddings!

It is sad that she did not live longer. It would have given her a chance to turn away from her dark turn before the end.

He was the source of her dark turn and I f-ing hate him.

I feel feel your pain. I also lost a friend I’ve known since 1978 to Fox News during the last Bush years. She is still alive but she is so far gone in twitler world. She got caught up with a guy who was a right winger evangelical. He cheated on her and broke her heart.

I'm sorry for your loss -- but joyful about the friend you had for as long as you had her.

I never saw it put this way before but you are so right.

You never had the chance to make up.

I have had a best friend since I was 4, she was 6. We are closer than sisters.

We are also on the same wave length. We have helped each other through so much it would be hard to be with out her.

Think of all the good things you shared. Politics is tearing apart families, friends all over.

she turned racist on me.

I was as surprised as you might be to learn that your bestie turned hateful.

I just don't get it.

That makes your loss so much worse. That is why I would like for you to concentrate on the good times you had.

Healing helps, but your loss never goes away. Try for any comfort you can find.

I understand. Try and make something good come out of the bad if you can.

To somehow turn this into a positive.

Just haven't figured out how yet.

Involve yourself in a Church, if you like, volunteer. The Y for exercise. You would be surprised just how many people need a good friend

Above all try to make new friends. I do this in times of great loss. Talk to people.

Post more! joking, but everything helps.

I just looked at my my post count and it is ridiculously low for someone on DU for 14 years.

I know H2O real well and Me. I remember some folks from the old days in 2004 but I don't think they remember me.

I live in a small town and I have loads of friends. Loads of cousins.

But some of them are republicans! The cousins. My friends are all sensible.

If there is an afterlife, may the self-inflicted wounds to her own soul be healed.

otherwise she's going to the other place!

I like to think that when you die there is only love and all the anger falls away.

I know how that feels losing a friend... but never could imagine losing a friend over that disgusting shit for brains in office.


And I hate to say it but maybe we are better off without people like that in our lives. True friendship stays together, it doesn't shatter over political views or differences in opinion.

I was better off without her as long as she was infected with hate.

Emotionally I just miss my buddy.

Perfect for how I feel today thank you.

I love this movie. Just remember the good, not what they become later. I truly believe people lose their way down the road in life sometimes.

I lost friends close to me because of change. Either within myself or others. But you try your best to keep the friendship intact. You did your best.

Most of my childhood friends (in Texas where I was born and raised) are Repugs. who voted for dt (this is how I refer to him - I won't write, type or say his name-under most circumstances- occasionally I'm forced to). I moved out here to California 30 years ago and most of them stayed in Texas. Pretty much ALL of my friends here are as progressive as I am. I've unsubscribed from the childhood friends on FB so I don't have to see what they're posting. I'm sorry you lost your friend. I know it's horrible. I've lost one of my very best friends here in CA (to his husband) but not because of politics - because of economic class. He and his partner are in the entertainment industry (not actors) and they make a TON of money. His husband is one of the biggest assholes I've ever known and an almost stereotypical snob. My wonderful, beautiful, and incredibly sweet-hearted friend who I was closer to than anyone ever is gone. I hope you can somehow find some peace....

That is sad to lose someone over their relationship.

In an indirect way I think I did too.

someone because of their relationship. I don't even think it was in an indirect way... . And mine either, it was direct, very direct. Fortunately, I have other wonderful friends. I will always miss and love him.... I hope you too are able to find some peace....

right back atcha.

Even when we disagree, it is still so hard to lose someone who has been close to you. My heart goes out to you and your friend. May she rest in peace.

you guys didn't have another decade to come together again, Coeur.

I am sure of it. I just have to believe we'll see each other in the afterlife.

Or be born again to start over.

work it through.

I really believe most eventually will, like you and your dear friend would. After all, the more hurtful the division, the less likely it is to get talked over, acknowledged, apologized for. We usually just tacitly, and gladly, agree to leave it behind and move on.

in a situation like this.

I'm really thankful for all of you guys.

My former bestie blocked me two months ago, we were friends for 44 years. 8 years ago she found her former high school bf on Fb. She left her husband and moved three hundred miles to stalk him and steal him from his wife. She was so full of racist hate and longing I didn’t recognize her anymore, she spends her time waiting for her “lover” glued to Fox News.

I can't see my friend stealing a husband but her boyfriend lived far away too.

They could have used for good instead of evil

it's just very sad.
tRump and Putin's playbook has divided people with their sick ideology.

and GOTV.

for the GOTV effort in my county. I live in a red county so there will be 3 of us . . .

Just kidding.

This is the best way I know how to fight this thing right now.

I’m sorry for your loss. I guess one good thing you can say is you had some good times together before she changed for the worse. As for the country I’ve given up pretty much, only time will tell if we’ll survive this. The problem is not only 🍊💩 per say, although the fake prez traitor in chief is a disaster, the real problem was already here with a bunch of crazies who agreed with all of this.

have been drinking the moron kool-aide.

I want to deprogram them all like they used to do with Moonies.

But imo you don’t drink what you don’t already have a propensity to believe in the first place.

This was in her somehow.

Her Mom was a living saint. A wonderful woman. She would have been rolling in her grave.

Now S is with her and she can straighten her out.

When their families did not hold those views. wishing you peace 💕

too many people let love turn into hate over disagreements ... always remember the good times you shared.

Thanks for the post.

..(((hugs)))

he has only exacerbated it by 1000%. The monster was given birth by Raygun and fed by hate, fear and unadulterated racism, it has grown into the monstrosity we are now living with daily.

I'm sorry you lost someone you cared about.

Fredo has given the racists freedom to be bigots in public but the racism must have always been there in private.

the poisonous gas from the swamp and now it permeates the USA.

it will take to recover our country.

So sorry for your great loss.

People pounced on Hillary when she spoke about women voting the way that their husbands and boyfriends told them to vote, but this is a clear example of a woman conforming to her "man's" point of view, and I'm sure it was a widespread phenomena this election cycle. It's not that women are weak minded, it's that we are expected to conform to what a man tells us to do. It's part of the patriarchy, and we HAVE to cast it off!

Her husband is a member of NRA and a rabid republican so she is too.

Her one saving grace is she just wishes Fredo would shut the hell up on Twitter.

Last night I exchanged emails with my friend's sister. I asked what happened with the guy who turned my friend into a racist loon.

She tried to get something going with him but he was a bad alcoholic. When they got together they drank too much and it played hell with her diabetes. Plus, he wasn't understanding when it came to her need to eat at regular intervals. It was a toxic relationship so she dumped him. Afterward he drunk dialed her sister for months begging her to help them get back together. Now they are afraid to tell him she's dead for fear of what he will do to himself. He's unemployed and living in a trailer due to his drinking.

Figures. Where I live many of the Fredo supporters are the poorest of the poor and the only thing that sustains them is their hate. Meanwhile Fredo is making sure they stay poor and uneducated.

Men are too emotional, clearly.

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And have no way of knowing what their lives are

It has been a time of self discovery for me to know that I can keep the good memories and let the flow of life go on without them.

Hugs to you, dear Lion

🙆🏻?♀️🙆🏻?♀️🙆🏻?♀️

undo the damage to the country. At least not in my lifetime.

yesterday that we rebuilt after the Civil War, we will rebuild after this.

Made me feel better.

Being fought every day on social media and in newsrooms. Father against son, mother against daughter, siblings against each other, friend against friend.

When we lost the Fairness Doctrine, we opened the door for 'alternative fact' bubbles to be created. Fox, hate-talk radio, Red State and its ilk - We desperately need a 21st Century Fairness Doctrine so we can get it so people are operating from the same set of facts, and so those facts are mostly true.

we're fighting the online version of hand to hand combat.

has helped immeasurably.

You all know how I feel and it trult helps.