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lovemydogs

(575 posts)
Mon Jun 4, 2018, 01:29 PM Jun 2018

Tone Deaf Media and the Clinton/Lewinsky scandal

I am not a hardcore Clinton fan. I disagreed with many of his centrist policies. But, I well remember the unfairness of the media pile on that the media took for 8 years.

I never understood why the media had a problem with the Clintons but, it began before he took office in 1992. And its never stopped.

The Trump fans who complain of people being mean to Trump have nothing compared to what the media did to Bill and Hillary Clinton in the 1990s. It was brutal.

As a woman I am upset with the tone deafness of the media in regards to the Lewinsky scandal and Bill Clinton.

The MeToo Movement is not about consensual sex.

It is about women being forced to have sex, being raped, being harassed by powerful men with their jobs and careers held hostage as a result.

These are surviors.

Monica Lewinsky was a 24 year old college graduate in the late 90s. She was not a 16/17 novice in the world.
She knew what sex was about.
And Bill Clinton did not force her to have sex. He did not hold her career hostage.
It was consensual.

Clinton was wrong in general to be chasing after young women to begin with. He was wrong for his career of sexual encounters with women while married.

And wrong for lying

Both parties were wrong.

But, the media is ganging up to condemn Clinton as if he was like Bill Cosby or Donald Trump (who forced himself on women, many perfect strangers).

I feel they are using the MeToo movement as an excuse to go after Bill Clinton just like it was 1998.

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Tone Deaf Media and the Clinton/Lewinsky scandal (Original Post) lovemydogs Jun 2018 OP
I agree with what you are saying here. madaboutharry Jun 2018 #1
It is NOT consensual when the woman is an intern and the man is the POTUS. former9thward Jun 2018 #10
I disagree. madaboutharry Jun 2018 #13
Disagree leftynyc Jun 2018 #17
I have represented people before the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission. former9thward Jun 2018 #20
All irrelevant to who will control congress after Nov. 6. Hortensis Jun 2018 #21
This not what this OP is about. So not Ok. former9thward Jun 2018 #24
I don't view harassment that way leftynyc Jun 2018 #23
This exactly. fallout87 Jun 2018 #22
I may not condone Bill's actions, but it was consensual. Beacool Jun 2018 #25
I agree. Even if it was "consenting", the power difference is enormous mythology Jun 2018 #28
This insistence on infantilizing Lewinsky solely because she made a conscious decision to have sex EffieBlack Jun 2018 #29
Consent, MeToo, and Time'sUp - Monica Lewinsky says: yallerdawg Jun 2018 #2
Clinton should probably have resisted the temptation EffieBlack Jun 2018 #5
Perfectly Stated ProfessorGAC Jun 2018 #7
I agree completely. She initiated it. Demit Jun 2018 #14
Did you read the article? RandomAccess Jun 2018 #15
Generally I agree however, IIRC, Lewinsky initiated the affair YessirAtsaFact Jun 2018 #3
Hear Hear EffieBlack Jun 2018 #4
This media should be sitting down with the current president and ask questions FloridaBlues Jun 2018 #6
+1000 Proud Liberal Dem Jun 2018 #9
The bigger problem is blind loyalty loyalsister Jun 2018 #8
I was never too comfortable with the consenting adults thing, either. yallerdawg Jun 2018 #16
Time should have been up when Anita Hill came forward loyalsister Jun 2018 #19
It was consensual. Move on. IluvPitties Jun 2018 #11
Funny you use those words. MoveOn.org was created robbedvoter Jun 2018 #27
Lewinsky set out to seduce the most "powerful man on the planet." procon Jun 2018 #12
every single time it was aired this morning i changed channels.... samnsara Jun 2018 #18
Charlie Rangel: look who their enemies are (his are the same as ours) robbedvoter Jun 2018 #26
Bob Livingston was one of many legislators having affairs during Clinton's impeachment Freethinker65 Jun 2018 #30

madaboutharry

(40,212 posts)
1. I agree with what you are saying here.
Mon Jun 4, 2018, 01:41 PM
Jun 2018

Monica Lewinsky already had a history of having affairs with married men. While a college student, she had an affair with a professor. I specifically recall reading this. I agree that Clinton's behavior was wrong and that his womanizing hurt the country. But I do not see Lewinsky as being part of the "Me Too" movement. They had a consensual relationship. This all seems like another pile on.

former9thward

(32,025 posts)
10. It is NOT consensual when the woman is an intern and the man is the POTUS.
Mon Jun 4, 2018, 02:34 PM
Jun 2018

If this was an intern with the CEO of an oil company people would be screaming for his head because he was in a position of immense power over the woman. She obviously was vulnerable to this , because as you point out, she had an affair as a college student with her professor. In most colleges that would call for the discharge of the professor if it became known.

madaboutharry

(40,212 posts)
13. I disagree.
Mon Jun 4, 2018, 02:49 PM
Jun 2018

"She obviously was vulnerable to this..." Really? A 24 year old woman who pursued married men and sought to have an affair with the president. Nope. I will never see Lewinsky as a victim.

We will have to agree to disagree.

 

leftynyc

(26,060 posts)
17. Disagree
Mon Jun 4, 2018, 03:01 PM
Jun 2018

She went to DC to screw the president. She wasn't preyed upon and was no novice when it comes to sleeping with married men. Don't you put ANY of the blame on the 22 year old woman? At what age does a woman stop being a victim in your eyes? In your world view, every single woman who goes for a powerful man is a victim.

former9thward

(32,025 posts)
20. I have represented people before the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission.
Mon Jun 4, 2018, 03:42 PM
Jun 2018

And I think they would disagree with your view. Their view is that sexual harassment is established as a prima facie case when there is a large gap in power between the executive and the employee. It is then up to the executive to prove themselves innocent. Now you may disagree with that but that is the law in the private sector which is why I gave the example of an oil company executive. The EEOC only has jurisdiction over the private sector so Bill Clinton did not need to worry about them. But it does not make it right.

Hortensis

(58,785 posts)
21. All irrelevant to who will control congress after Nov. 6.
Mon Jun 4, 2018, 03:47 PM
Jun 2018

Please realize this is manipulation to make people not vote for Democrats.

Until November 6, whenever you hear "Clinton," think frightened children crying in ICE holding camps. Okay?

 

leftynyc

(26,060 posts)
23. I don't view harassment that way
Mon Jun 4, 2018, 03:57 PM
Jun 2018

Consensual sex can NEVER be harassment as long as they're both consenting adults. To me, harassment is "fuck me or you're fired", it's having to put up with a boss putting his hands on you in ANY way that is not welcome, it's having to work in an environment that makes you uncomfortable (language,etc). The only person that abused Lewinsky was linda tripp.

Beacool

(30,250 posts)
25. I may not condone Bill's actions, but it was consensual.
Mon Jun 4, 2018, 04:15 PM
Jun 2018

By her own admission, she was the one who went after Clinton. She flirted with him and then snapped the elastic of her panties. I'm not excusing his behavior, it was deplorable and he should have known better, but she was no innocent girl. She had already been in an affair with one of her married professors. She even followed him to OR from CA and ingratiated herself to his wife, trying to get the wife to give her a babysitting job.

 

mythology

(9,527 posts)
28. I agree. Even if it was "consenting", the power difference is enormous
Mon Jun 4, 2018, 04:41 PM
Jun 2018

If nothing else it gives the appearance of impropriety.

 

EffieBlack

(14,249 posts)
29. This insistence on infantilizing Lewinsky solely because she made a conscious decision to have sex
Mon Jun 4, 2018, 05:17 PM
Jun 2018

with her boss rather than a different man is ridiculous.

yallerdawg

(16,104 posts)
2. Consent, MeToo, and Time'sUp - Monica Lewinsky says:
Mon Jun 4, 2018, 01:44 PM
Jun 2018
But it’s also complicated. Very, very complicated. The dictionary definition of “consent”? “To give permission for something to happen.” And yet what did the “something” mean in this instance, given the power dynamics, his position, and my age? Was the “something” just about crossing a line of sexual (and later emotional) intimacy? (An intimacy I wanted—with a 22-year-old’s limited understanding of the consequences.) He was my boss. He was the most powerful man on the planet. He was 27 years my senior, with enough life experience to know better. He was, at the time, at the pinnacle of his career, while I was in my first job out of college. (Note to the trolls, both Democratic and Republican: none of the above excuses me for my responsibility for what happened. I meet Regret every day.

I—we—owe a huge debt of gratitude to the #MeToo and Time’s Up heroines. They are speaking volumes against the pernicious conspiracies of silence that have long protected powerful men when it comes to sexual assault, sexual harassment, and abuse of power.

https://www.vanityfair.com/news/2018/02/monica-lewinsky-in-the-age-of-metoo
 

EffieBlack

(14,249 posts)
5. Clinton should probably have resisted the temptation
Mon Jun 4, 2018, 01:59 PM
Jun 2018

But, I'm sorry. If you brag to your friends that you are getting out your "presidential kneepads," march into your boss' office, show him your drawers and then willingly give him oral sex and afterward brag to your friends some more about it, you've lost all ability to claim you didn't give "consent."

An inappropriate relationship that you initiated but didn't turn out the way you hoped it would is not exploitation, it's not assault, it's not harassment and it's not abuse of power. It's a bad choice that YOU made willingly.

ProfessorGAC

(65,076 posts)
7. Perfectly Stated
Mon Jun 4, 2018, 02:25 PM
Jun 2018

I think she's glomming onto the #metoo thing now, but those "dynamics" didn't seem to matter much to her in the mid-90's.

Her recent statements seem rather convenient.

 

Demit

(11,238 posts)
14. I agree completely. She initiated it.
Mon Jun 4, 2018, 02:50 PM
Jun 2018

Also, I seem to recall that she didn't actually work directly for him. Obviously, as president he could have arranged to have her employment terminated, but he wasn't technically her boss.

YessirAtsaFact

(2,064 posts)
3. Generally I agree however, IIRC, Lewinsky initiated the affair
Mon Jun 4, 2018, 01:49 PM
Jun 2018

So this wasn’t an instance of Bill chasing women.

It was an instance of a woman pursuing Bill.

He should have known better than to accept the invitation, but he was invited with a flash of the thong by Ms. Lewinsky.

 

EffieBlack

(14,249 posts)
4. Hear Hear
Mon Jun 4, 2018, 01:55 PM
Jun 2018

I am disgusted at watching the media that gave Trump a free pass for a year before his election now pile on to Bill Clinton over this. It's ridiculous.

This was NOT a #MeToo situation, as you explain. He doesn't owe Monica Lewinsky and apology any more than she owes him one. And, whatever anyone thinks of his behavior, he has paid for it in spades. Good Lord, the man was IMPEACHED over it! And, not only that, he was publicly humiliated, his marriage jeopardized, every bit of minutiae about his private life was dragged out for all to see, his presidency was forever tarnished.

It's over. It's not a #MeToo issue. Stop it.

Proud Liberal Dem

(24,414 posts)
9. +1000
Mon Jun 4, 2018, 02:33 PM
Jun 2018

not condoning Bill's actions but, c'mon, that all happened TWENTY YEARS AGO and we have a REAL sexual perv in the WH who openly brags about sexual assault, has had multiple affairs, made creepy comments about his own daughter, and wanders around underage(?) beauty pageants.

loyalsister

(13,390 posts)
8. The bigger problem is blind loyalty
Mon Jun 4, 2018, 02:30 PM
Jun 2018

She never shirks responsibility, but the power differential was not acknowledged at the time and is still dismissed as unimportant. Standing by while alleged supporters of women's rights switch sides and smear her the way a defense attorney would a rape victim is something I really regret taking part in. It was a shameful moment in our history, as a country and as a party. We had a chance to say that it is unacceptable for powerful men to use their privilege and power to manipulate women sexually and emotionally for their personal enjoyment. We are finally saying it. One person could validate and advance the destruction of a system that protects such men. He chose, instead, to take the side of men who cry victim when they get caught. hmmmm

yallerdawg

(16,104 posts)
16. I was never too comfortable with the consenting adults thing, either.
Mon Jun 4, 2018, 02:54 PM
Jun 2018

The President of the United Sates and a White House intern?

Yes, I wanted "my tribe" to stay in power (term we use 20 years later).

But given Weinstein, Cosby, on and on - there was something going on that has to end.

Time's up. I hate to see us Democrats repeatedly waffle on this issue.

loyalsister

(13,390 posts)
19. Time should have been up when Anita Hill came forward
Mon Jun 4, 2018, 03:29 PM
Jun 2018

Even Democrats protected Thomas, though. I suspect that many had their own histories. It's a shame that people we like are being exposed. I was sad to learn about Charlie Rose,, James Clyburn, and certainly Cosby. But, it was bound to happen because the protective mechanism has been systemic and solidly supported by widespread cooperative efforts and willful ignorance among powerful people in politics, entertainment, academia, and every other professional and social arena.

Time's up demands a full scale dismantling of that mechanism. We are willing to rethink the past when it comes to entertainment and news media and at least some political figures. But there is one exception whose voice could be a force in the interest of gender equality.

procon

(15,805 posts)
12. Lewinsky set out to seduce the most "powerful man on the planet."
Mon Jun 4, 2018, 02:35 PM
Jun 2018

Clinton's womanizing is legendary, but I've never thought Lewinsky story was credible. I knew her type in college and business, young women who were enthralled and thrilled to be around famous and powerful men. They used sex as the means to enhance their social and professional status, their careers, fame and access, bank accounts, and even their marriage prospects.

Lewinsky had her own agenda, a door through the Oval Office (but not necessarily with Clinton) that she thought would give her fame and fortune. She was out of her league, a clumsy fool who quickly got in over her head and was unprepared for the inevitable blowback.

samnsara

(17,622 posts)
18. every single time it was aired this morning i changed channels....
Mon Jun 4, 2018, 03:24 PM
Jun 2018

...i wont be part of the medias sustained bullying of other Dems.

robbedvoter

(28,290 posts)
26. Charlie Rangel: look who their enemies are (his are the same as ours)
Mon Jun 4, 2018, 04:38 PM
Jun 2018

He said that when Clinton spoke in Harlem - after opening his office there. His(their) enemies are exactly all the deplorables Trump dredged up. Same fight, less cyber-hacking. That's my answer you your question "why".

Freethinker65

(10,024 posts)
30. Bob Livingston was one of many legislators having affairs during Clinton's impeachment
Mon Jun 4, 2018, 05:40 PM
Jun 2018

As was Newt, etc.

Clinton lied about Lewinsky on National TV and got too cute about it under oath. He should have just admitted it, said it was consensual, and moved on. The fact he was willing to lie about it made him appear vulnerable to blackmail from those that knew the truth. I do not see that having much to do with the me too movement.

Gennifer Flowers was consensual. However, there was also Kathleen Willey, (?) Broaddrick, and of course Paula Jones that claimed at a minimum sexual harassment from Clinton.

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