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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsPlease send prayers/thoughts out to my aunt, uncle and cousins (Alaskan Bear victim)
The story that has been in the news yesterday and today about the Alaskan man missing since Monday and found after being mauled by a bear is a member of my direct family.
Michael Soltis was my first cousin, the eldest child of my Aunt and Uncle; and he was lost to us this week in tragedy. He went out for a hike in the woods near his home, as he had done countless times in his life and this time never returned. The cause was discovered amid a nearly additional tragedy, which was narrowly averted - as it is believed the bear that killed him attacked searchers trying to find Michael, and nearly claimed another life before being scared off.
Please send thoughts, emotions and if you pray, prayers for my aunt and uncle and cousins especially. This tragedy is more than any family should have to endure, but they deserve and need all the support that can be summoned to them. I will not name them all, in respect for their privacy, but each and every one of them are in my thoughts now.
Distance, age and circumstance kept Michael and I from being particularly close when we were children, as my aunt and uncles and cousins all grew up in and lived in Alaska, while my family was in the Chicagoland / Lake Michigan area...but I have very clear, fond memories of Michael as a child, when they visited us and we took a cross-country drive from Chicago to Florida; and when we visited them for a month in the summer before I started high school (and we toured what seemed to be the entire state in my aunt and uncle's Chevy Suburban (a dozen people on an unending tour of the great state of Alaska), and impressions of earlier visits for the birth of his siblings when we were both very young, other cousins of mine.
Michael was a free-spirited and adventurous soul, dedicated to exploration and outdoor living, which is how I remember him tonight and always. An easy-going, ever-present and semi-mischievous smile and a warm, caring disposition are what I recall, childhood impressions and memories that live on, that are apparent in the photos and memories being shared in light of this horrible time. Being kids from different worlds and experiencing those differences along the way. Riding motorcycles and canoes and bicycles. Throwing rocks across an ice-cold Alaskan lake shore (which did not end well) or into Lake Michigan from the beaches on its southern shores (which was truly less eventful)... Being kids exploring the area around the family home on those trips north, or trying to keep up with him around my own suburban neighborhood when they were visiting the lower 48.
To my everlasting regret and loss, we will not reunite or have a chance to ever look back on those childhood memories again in this life, but I carry them with me as my journey goes on with a loss deeply felt and sincere wishes for the pain to be eased for those in my family who were much closer and present in Michael's life day to day and are feeling his absence so keenly now.
Rest in peace Michael, you are no longer with us in body, but your spirit remains forevermore in the memories, minds and hearts of your family, friends and loved ones.
https://www.cnn.com/2018/06/21/us/bear-kills-man-anchorage-alaska/index.html
BigmanPigman
(51,611 posts)applegrove
(118,696 posts)KT2000
(20,583 posts)you and the rest of your family have my sympathy. This has to be difficult.
Rhiannon12866
(205,505 posts)Thinking of you and your family.
brer cat
(24,577 posts)You have given him a beautiful eulogy here.
lunamagica
(9,967 posts)lillypaddle
(9,580 posts)deepest sympathy to you and your family.
Hekate
(90,714 posts)KY_EnviroGuy
(14,492 posts)Thanks for sharing your story with our family on DU. Sounds like he was quite the happy, free spirit and I hope the good memories carry your family through your mourning.
The link below tells a story of bravery related to this tragedy and of how folks there handle these bear-related events:
Link: https://www.adn.com/alaska-news/anchorage/2018/06/21/brown-bear-believed-to-have-killed-hiker-and-mauled-searcher-stays-out-of-sight/
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airmid
(500 posts)need to get through this.
Cha
(297,322 posts)Frustratedlady
(16,254 posts)ones. I can't begin to imagine. Deepest sympathy for your loss.
Hold on to the memories. They help.
montana_hazeleyes
(3,424 posts)What happened is so tragic. I hope your memories of your wonderful cousin will help you . There is such a great bond between cousins.
Sending prayers for you and your family.
irisblue
(32,980 posts)Raine
(30,540 posts)for your family...
GreenPartyVoter
(72,378 posts)I am so very sorry for your loss! *huge hug* Thank you for sharing your cherished memories with us. Not sure if you know this, but we have a breavement forum here at DU that is a great source of comfort. *extra hug*
hlthe2b
(102,292 posts)to your cousin. Nothing can console from the horrific manner in which he died, even while that remains part of the nature that I know he loved. But, to have a loved one, a family member, a friend speak so eloquently of you when you pass, is a wonderful thing.
My thoughts are with you and your family.
GoCubsGo
(32,086 posts)I am so sorry.
AwakeAtLast
(14,132 posts)So sorry this has happened, sending prayers of comfort, peace and love to you and your family!
Moostache
(9,895 posts)I was just reading some of the comments in the online reporting sections of many outlets reporting on this tragedy and I about lost my faith in humanity completely. So much ignorance, hate and flat out inhumanity it makes the mind reel and the soul ache. Jokes about his death, attributing it to 'liberalism', snide comments suggesting it was stupidity that led to this tragedy...enough bile and vitriol to make me want to do unspeakable things at times. I have never been in more need of an oasis of sanity than just now and I can find it here.
Here at DU, the community is everything I love and cherish about this nation, and what we collectively can be - supportive, empathetic, human. Out there in the waste land of the internet (and sadly around this country apparently), anonymous forums and reply buttons on Yahoo and Google and newspaper sites across the nation, it caters to the base and amoral in society...hideous, mean-spirited and abhorrent deviants. Anonymity gives people license to show you EXACTLY what they are, and it is not a pretty or uplifting sight.
Again, from my heart and soul, thank you DU for the kind words and thoughts and for helping me stay sane in an insane world and at an insane time. I can never thank you all enough.
peekaloo
(22,977 posts)Strength and peace to all touched by this tragedy.
RandomAccess
(5,210 posts)for this tragic loss.