Politics can be put aside at times like this.

I respect your perspective though I would disagree in some ways. I certainly have family who are more conservative, and even some who voted for Trump believing some of the falsehoods he stated during the campaign.

I would support my family in any way I could, but I would say that there are some, fundamental things that would necessitate a decision to disengage from communication and communion with even family members. Politics should, in most cases, not be one. However, with this particular administration and the way that the GOP has supported it, there are some areas, where a person's identity would be a very strong motivator to disengage, especially if the family in question were fervent supporters of the Trump/GOP agenda.

I would have to say that if I had a child who was LGBT and my parents were stridently anti-LGBT, that is not a question of mere politics, but of a fundamental identity of someone that came from me. If family members supported Trump's desires to push LGBT people back into the closet, into the lives of silent desperation before their rights began to be recognized and respected; that would be an injury to me that I would not be able to overlook.

Perhaps if my child were wiling to forgive, then I would react differently, but hurt my child and I cannot accept it as a difference in politics or personal preference. That to me, would indicate that my "loved one" does not respect a fundamental part of who my child is. Relationships are built on mutual trust and respect. I can respect people with whom I have differences, but when it comes to fundamental beliefs and core identities, those are harder to set aside even for familial reasons.

That said, I still believe that you have to do what you feel is right and best for you and wish you nothing by peace, unity, and comfort in the difficult days to come with your family.

She is a tea party born again fundie who’s politics are reprehensible. But I can’t just write her off. Her husband though..,