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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsTips on how to avoid being falsely accused of rape, sexual assault, harassment or misconduct
1. Dont put yourself in compromising situations.
2. Stay alert and aware at all times. If you are at a party with a woman who you think will falsely accuse you of sexual assault, limit your alcohol consumption. She is free to drink, but your impaired judgment is not an excuse for her false accusations.
3. If you walk or jog for exercise, try to vary your route and time on the street. To be predictable is risky. Dont give women the opportunity to falsely accuse you by having an exercise routine.
4. Keep your body covered. If you expose certain areas of your body she may get the impression you are interested in sex with her. Dont give her that impression by revealing more of your skin than necessary. Modesty is the best policy.
5. Think before you talk. Flirting with a woman is fine but be careful not to give her the impression youre interested in sex. Chaste words will help you maintain your virtue and good name.
6. Dont make yourself an easy target. Hold your head up, walk confidently, directly and at a steady pace away from the woman you think may falsely accuse you of sexual misconduct. Dont forget, youre a strong capable man too.
7. Attract attention to yourself if you feel like you might be falsely accused of sexual misconduct. Make noise, call 911, use a whistle in hopes that some one will come to your aid as a witness. You can get Falsely Accused of Rape whistles at your local shelter.
8. If you are being followed, head for a well-lit area where you think there will be other people who may be able to help you. Well-lit areas could be the difference between a please evening stroll or a night that will forever change your life.
9. Its probably best to stay home after dark. If youre worried that while youre walking home at night you might encounter a woman who may falsely accuse you of sexual assault, its best to avoid that situation completely. Consider a self-imposed curfew.
10. If you do have to be out after dark. Stay away from suspect women. Keep your guard up and keep your distance. Remember to bring your Falsely Accused of Rape whistle at all times.
11. Trust your gut instincts. Even if you get the feeling a woman is about to falsely accuse you of rape leave her alone immediately.
12. Always make sure you lock your car doors, whether or not you are in the car. Always check the floor and rear seat for suspect women before getting into your car.
13. If you suspect that you are being followed by a woman while diving, keep on goingdo not stop and pullover until you get to some place that is well-lit and where there are other people to assist you and attest to your innocence.
14. If your car should break down, raise the hood and remain in the car with the doors locked until the police arrive. Don't stand outside your car. This may give women the impression your helpless circumstance means you want to have sex with them. If a woman should stop and offer to assist you, roll down the window just enough to tell them you called the police.
15. Stay safe at home. Be sure you know whom you are opening your door to. If a sales or repair woman is legitimate, they will not mind your asking to see her identification and confirming their identity with the company they represent. If you still feel uncomfortable, schedule all appointments at a time when your wife can be home to help you.
16. For men who live by themselves in a house or apartment, never advertise the fact by listing your full name in the phone book or on a mailbox. This makes you an easy target for false accusations because you have no alibi.
17. Attend large parties with friends you can trust. Agree to look out for one another. Try to leave with your group, rather than alone or with a suspect woman.
18. Be cautious about revealing any personal information over the telephone and/or Internet. Dont make yourself a vulnerable target.
19. If you have roommates, talk to them about the importance of everyone following the safety strategies at all times.
20. Lastly, stay safe out there. There are plenty of good women ready to help you if you need it. Dont let a few bad apples change the way you feel about all women. Most of us are good and trying to help you do the right thing. #NotAllWomen
Disclaimer: Following these tips and strategies does not guarantee that a false accusation will not occur. They are offered as strategies to reduce the likelihood of you becoming a victim of false rape accusations.
http://www.blaireostler.com/journal/2018/9/29/stay-safe-out-there
IADEMO2004
(5,554 posts)BlancheSplanchnik
(20,219 posts)still_one
(92,202 posts)About 2% of all rape and related sex charges are determined to be false. That is about the same percent for other crimes
On the other hand, people are much more likely to disbelieve a woman if she says she was raped than if she says she was robbed, for no good reason.
Only about 40% of rapes are ever reported to the police because victims fear they will be shammed.
Just because someone does not report their crime does not mean it doesn't happen
mythology
(9,527 posts)These are all things women are told or do to avoid being the victim of sexual assault. It's making fun of guys who claim that there will be a rush of falsely accused men.
still_one
(92,202 posts)barbtries
(28,797 posts)instead it was this. i can't figure out if it's parody or what. is it meant to be funny? to point out these things that women routinely do in order to avoid being harassed or abused, that men generally need never worry about?
i feel quite dense because i don't get it.
maybe it's the residuals of the trauma of last week and this terrible sinking feeling that this country will never recognize that women are fully human beings.
marylandblue
(12,344 posts)NCjack
(10,279 posts)As one or more women are woman-handling you,
-- first, try to dissuade them by saying "please -- I don't want to do this."
-- then, scream
"NO,"
"DON'T -- I"M A VIRGIN."
"I WILL TESTIFY AGAINST YOU,"
"HELP"
"RAPE."
You must go through that sequence, otherwise the women are left with the belief that you want it.
-- finally, while they are removing your trousers, have a BM in your underwear and smear it onto your penis. That usually stops the rape. But, if it doesn't stop it, it will help in IDing the beer & sex crazed sorority sisters.
NewJeffCT
(56,828 posts)however, should the man just lie back and enjoy it?
dsc
(52,162 posts)rustysgurl
(1,040 posts).. that you are not alleging being a white woman somehow "protects" you from rape more than if you are a woman of color. According to the Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network statistics, Native American women suffer the highest incidence of rape, per capita, followed by white women, then black women, "other", and "Hispanic." Let's not veer off target here, and just stick to ALL women, shall we?
dsc
(52,162 posts)vs being black. think of how many times random black men have met the description of a suspect. If you don't believe that is a factor you are quite naive.
TygrBright
(20,760 posts)NewJeffCT
(56,828 posts)Even if you are all covered up, be careful not to wear clothing that is too tight as well - things like tight pants may be considered an invitation to sex. Loose, comfortable clothing is best.
gay texan
(2,453 posts)at least in my case.
However it does open the door for women to ask you about decorating advice (which i'm the wrong guy to ask)
They may not demand that you have sex with them and marry them, but they may expect you to plan their wedding.
mcar
(42,334 posts)Iggo
(47,555 posts)TryLogic
(1,723 posts)lpbk2713
(42,757 posts)No ... wait.