did this?

...Second-Wave Feminism.

to refer to me as Mr. (wife's last name.)

The fun of it is that my wife's last name is difficult to pronounce and mine is simple.

If it's a call asking for money, I inform them (correctly) that Mr. (Wife's last name) is dead, referring to my father-in-law.

all the travel plans, we're always greeted as the "Neema Family," even if I make a point of specifying my husband's full name. It's still just assumed that my last name will match his.

...that his birth certificate should show his last name as his mother's.

It pissed me off, really. I asked if she would have had to have signed a release if it had been the other way around.

(This was New Jersey, not Oklahoma.)

The fact is that my boys are mostly who they are because of their mother.

I have a sister-in-law, a religious fundamentalist, who insists on referring to my family by my last name, although I am the only one of the four of us who has that name.

It's not worth it to have a fight over it, but it's pretty damned annoying.

I was very honored to become my wife's husband, and I love her beautiful name.

given the number of people who have babies without getting married, the number of divorces/remarriages/blended families, and the growing number of people who don't change their names or even come up with an entirely new name. At this point, you'd think it would just be SOP to ask each family member what their full name is and leave it at that.

My mother-in-law insists on making everything out to me using my husband's last name. Sigh. Like you, I'm not going to fight her over it, but it's annoying. What's worse is getting mail from her, or anyone else, labeled "Mr. and Mrs. Husbandsfirstname Husbandssurname." Like, wow, my entire identity reduced to "and Mrs."

When we bought a house, my husband suggested mine be the first name on the papers and he be “spouse.” Of course, they had his name and information as well.

The mortgage guy didn’t quite know how to handle deferring to the woman rather than the man, but we got through it. Now when he sends us postcards, he sends two—one in each of our names.

Not long ago, I received a card addressed to "Mr. and Mrs. [my first name, last name]". It's like my wife suddenly became an appendage and lost her own name!

Shit like that bugs me.

I was just saying upthread that I don't appreciate my identity being reduced to "and Mrs."

Love Stephen King, one of my favorite authors. Tabitha King writes as well and have loved her books. They are equals with all due respect to one another.

BTW, have you read his son's books? He writes as Joe Hill.

The Kings rock!

My grandmother’s headstone reads

“Mrs. xxxxxxx”

Even in death ... 🤦🏽?♀️

Something with your husband, a credit card, a group, anything and even if when you sign up your name is first on any email or correspondence they change it to him.

I usually say something scarcastic and my husband teases me not understanding what its like to always be treated as less than.

I have done the bills since we married as he is lousy with money and I was a bookkeeper when I was younger. I got so tired of having to have my husband give me permission to talk about our credit accounts I had my name added permanently as person to talk about accounts.

He use to laugh as I handed over phone because he had zero idea of any of our accounts, good thing I am honest could have bought anything.

Looking both to preserve the past and to enlighten the future.

I would very much enjoy sitting down with her, and going through New England genealogy.

That should get her good and pissed at me!

under english common law, wife and husband are one, and that one is the husband. women simply do not exist as autonomous human beings under patriarchy and misogyny.

for being married to him.