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irisblue

(33,032 posts)
Fri Mar 22, 2019, 01:25 PM Mar 2019

Parkland shooting survivor Sydney Aiello takes her own life



Source--https://www.cbsnews.com/news/parkland-shooting-survivor-sydney-aiello-takes-her-own-life/

snip--"On the day a gunman opened fire at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School, Sydney Aiello escaped with her life. However, the grief of losing 17 of her classmates and teachers, as well as the long-lasting effects of enduring such a traumatic event, weighed heavily on her. And this weekend, at the age of 19, Aiello took her own life."

snip--"While the nation's attention turned to budding young activists like David Hogg and Emma Gonzalez, however, other Parkland survivors were suffering in silence. And the Aiello family's tragedy is an all too painful reminder that trauma effects teens deeply, often quietly, and for years."

snip--"Sydney's mother, Cara Aiello, told CBS Miami that her daughter struggled with survivor's guilt and was diagnosed with post-traumatic stress disorder in the year following the tragedy. And while she reportedly never asked for help, she struggled to attend college classes because she was scared of being in a classroom."

snip--There is now a GoFundMe page to help Sydney Aiello's parents and brother pay for her memorial services. "


More at article. I'm pretty sure the clips are out of sequence,


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Parkland shooting survivor Sydney Aiello takes her own life (Original Post) irisblue Mar 2019 OP
Heartbreaking mainstreetonce Mar 2019 #1
I don't know what to say. This is an incredible kick in the gut (for all who care about these kids hlthe2b Mar 2019 #2
tragic AlexSFCA Mar 2019 #3
before it starts a fad. mopinko Mar 2019 #7
Oh no, weeping here. My heart breaks for her and her family emulatorloo Mar 2019 #4
The horrors never leave. ProudMNDemocrat Mar 2019 #5
Oh Jeez! sdfernando Mar 2019 #6
Unbelievably tragic. MoonRiver Mar 2019 #8
What is must be like to be a survivor of the all too common American mass murders& attempts irisblue Mar 2019 #9
I consider this another fatality from the shooting. (nt) ehrnst Mar 2019 #10
Thank you NRA and ReTHUGs malaise Mar 2019 #11
+ 1 red dog 1 Mar 2019 #43
(I would've changed your first word to "FUCK".) lastlib Mar 2019 #71
You're right malaise Mar 2019 #79
HEY--NRA and pukes and deniers--this child's blood is on YOUR hands, you bastards. niyad Mar 2019 #12
The DA should modify the charge to 18 counts of murder SpankMe Mar 2019 #13
+1. . . . nt Bernardo de La Paz Mar 2019 #19
Another Victim, Tragic Dave in VA Mar 2019 #14
I wouldn't doubt she was harrassed by gunners online. lpbk2713 Mar 2019 #15
I don't want to think what the gun nuts are doing to her family right now DBoon Mar 2019 #20
So tragic and sad. I'm at a loss for words ... nt Jarqui Mar 2019 #16
And then this gun humper boy irisblue Mar 2019 #17
Meanwhile, our need to over the same few stories like a hamster wheel. Media's not doing it's job. Karadeniz Mar 2019 #28
Is is just soooooooooo sad and heartbreaking. a kennedy Mar 2019 #18
OH, poor girl Bettie Mar 2019 #21
Heartbreaking HootieMcBoob Mar 2019 #22
Very sad. gademocrat7 Mar 2019 #23
Absolutely heartbreaking Stargazer09 Mar 2019 #24
Heartbreaking NewJeffCT Mar 2019 #25
Oh, lord! This is tragic. Wake up, politicians. ❤ Karadeniz Mar 2019 #26
+++ agree iluvtennis Mar 2019 #39
How many more are we going to lose Lazy Daisy Mar 2019 #27
My heart literally hurts reading this. jmbar2 Mar 2019 #29
Another victim HopeAgain Mar 2019 #30
Another desperate cry. Collimator Mar 2019 #31
Just part of the price gun-lovers expect us to pay for their sick hobby and irrational fears. Hoyt Mar 2019 #32
.....So Very Sad..... titanicdave Mar 2019 #33
The hurt continues long after... Canoe52 Mar 2019 #34
Thanks NRA red dog 1 Mar 2019 #35
I can't imagine seeing so many friends and classmates killed... spanone Mar 2019 #36
So sad for one so young! pazzyanne Mar 2019 #37
The Shooter claims another victim mcar Mar 2019 #38
That poor girl lillypaddle Mar 2019 #40
Horrible n/t hibbing Mar 2019 #41
Is there a process by which these survivors can file a class action suit Volaris Mar 2019 #42
Oh no shenmue Mar 2019 #44
... defacto7 Mar 2019 #45
Jesus... Blue_Tires Mar 2019 #46
PTSD, it's an insidious silent condition sarge43 Mar 2019 #47
Absolutely heartbreaking. Tears pouring down my face. Dem2theMax Mar 2019 #48
as far as I'm concerned barbtries Mar 2019 #49
Heartbreaking. SunSeeker Mar 2019 #50
Survivors Guilt is very powerful Gothmog Mar 2019 #51
Survivors' Guilt in not just powerful. Haggis for Breakfast Mar 2019 #65
I agree that survivor guilt is overwhelming Gothmog Mar 2019 #68
My niece KNEW this girl. Haggis for Breakfast Mar 2019 #69
Hug your niece Gothmog Mar 2019 #70
RIP dear Sydney. MontanaMama Mar 2019 #52
So sad. demmiblue Mar 2019 #53
This horrible event reminds us of how the suffering from a tragedy spreads.... KY_EnviroGuy Mar 2019 #54
Well hell! luvallpeeps Mar 2019 #55
... ck4829 Mar 2019 #56
So tragic. smirkymonkey Mar 2019 #57
The first line of Ford Madox Ford's "The Good Soldier" comes to mind .. DemoTex Mar 2019 #58
It is sad Lifelong Protester Mar 2019 #59
I Am So Sorry for the Loss of this Beautiful Young Life dlk Mar 2019 #60
Sad Sherman A1 Mar 2019 #61
That is heart wrenching news. wendyb-NC Mar 2019 #62
This is so sad, I would dugog55 Mar 2019 #63
Oh sweet child. Akacia Mar 2019 #64
She used a gun? Wabbajack_ Mar 2019 #66
Tragic Niagara Mar 2019 #67
Poor tormented soul .. BlueFlorida Mar 2019 #72
sending a few $$$ akraven Mar 2019 #73
.. Cha Mar 2019 #74
just gutted here, crying and raging at same time Celerity Mar 2019 #75
Editorial cartoon says it all. What evil lurks in the realms of power. We must defeat them. YOHABLO Mar 2019 #76
RICO Act the fuckers Celerity Mar 2019 #77
Suicide is the #2 cause of death for teenagers. SergeStorms Mar 2019 #78
too sad. so preventable. the 2nd Amendmenteers suck. SleeplessinSoCal Mar 2019 #80
Researchers who study suicide say the field is grossly underfunded. Gothmog Mar 2019 #81

hlthe2b

(102,376 posts)
2. I don't know what to say. This is an incredible kick in the gut (for all who care about these kids
Fri Mar 22, 2019, 01:28 PM
Mar 2019

May this young girl find peace and her family find comfort in knowing she is no longer tortured by the horror...

AlexSFCA

(6,139 posts)
3. tragic
Fri Mar 22, 2019, 01:31 PM
Mar 2019

I wish all survivors could find ways to be activist like hogg and gonzales. I bet it helps quite a bit with ptsd, survivor’s guilt and other consequences. Now it is the time to make sure other survivors are getting help.

mopinko

(70,225 posts)
7. before it starts a fad.
Fri Mar 22, 2019, 01:33 PM
Mar 2019

we really need to get better at this mental health shit if this could have slipped through the cracks.

irisblue

(33,032 posts)
9. What is must be like to be a survivor of the all too common American mass murders& attempts
Fri Mar 22, 2019, 01:36 PM
Mar 2019

To see how fast & decidedly repulsed the Kiwis of New Zealand were.

And it'll likely happen here in the US, this weeekend again.

lastlib

(23,288 posts)
71. (I would've changed your first word to "FUCK".)
Sat Mar 23, 2019, 12:10 AM
Mar 2019

FUCK Every. Last. God-DAMNED. One. ofThem!! With a fucking fiery red-hot Pitchfork.

niyad

(113,576 posts)
12. HEY--NRA and pukes and deniers--this child's blood is on YOUR hands, you bastards.
Fri Mar 22, 2019, 01:41 PM
Mar 2019

I do not know how you can sleep.

My heart goes out to her loved ones and the community. requiscat in pace, dear one.

SpankMe

(2,966 posts)
13. The DA should modify the charge to 18 counts of murder
Fri Mar 22, 2019, 01:41 PM
Mar 2019

More blood on the hands of Republicans, the NRA and the gun lobby.

lpbk2713

(42,766 posts)
15. I wouldn't doubt she was harrassed by gunners online.
Fri Mar 22, 2019, 01:43 PM
Mar 2019



If they found her ID they would have made her life hell.

My condolences to the family. It's a terrible thing to lose a child.

DBoon

(22,397 posts)
20. I don't want to think what the gun nuts are doing to her family right now
Fri Mar 22, 2019, 01:55 PM
Mar 2019

I hope the family has shut off social media

irisblue

(33,032 posts)
17. And then this gun humper boy
Fri Mar 22, 2019, 01:45 PM
Mar 2019

17-year-old arrested in connection with Charlottesville racist online threats
Charlottesville police announced that a juvenile was arrested on Friday morning for threats to commit serious bodily harm to persons on school property and harassment by computer. School had been canceled for the second day in a row over the threats.Photo via @ReutersUS


Karadeniz

(22,573 posts)
28. Meanwhile, our need to over the same few stories like a hamster wheel. Media's not doing it's job.
Fri Mar 22, 2019, 02:08 PM
Mar 2019

jmbar2

(4,906 posts)
29. My heart literally hurts reading this.
Fri Mar 22, 2019, 02:20 PM
Mar 2019

Every survivor needs loving support at this time. Please don't give up.

HopeAgain

(4,407 posts)
30. Another victim
Fri Mar 22, 2019, 02:24 PM
Mar 2019

And this country just shrugs it's shoulders and accepts this as the price of loving a Constitutional Amendment that has no relation to modern society. Places like New Zealand are just more civilized, I guess.

Collimator

(1,639 posts)
31. Another desperate cry.
Fri Mar 22, 2019, 02:27 PM
Mar 2019

This is a vague memory, but I seem to recall a story about the mother of one of the Columbine victims. She went into a gun store, asked to see a gun, and shot herself to death right there in front of the salesperson.

This is a clear example of the therapists' adage "Depression is often anger turned inwards."

To those who pointed out that the young people who turned to activism seem to be coping better with the trauma they endured, it seems that you may have a point. The mother turned her grief and anger onto herself. She probably wanted the gun store owner to suffer as well, but if she and others were encouraged and supported into taking that anger into the public forum, there would be far fewer "fallout" victims of horrific shootings.

Final note: I don't claim to know what comes next beyond this mortal world, but I do hope that Sydney can find peace and comfort. I especially wish that for her family.

 

Hoyt

(54,770 posts)
32. Just part of the price gun-lovers expect us to pay for their sick hobby and irrational fears.
Fri Mar 22, 2019, 02:39 PM
Mar 2019

Sorry for the family.

red dog 1

(27,857 posts)
35. Thanks NRA
Fri Mar 22, 2019, 02:59 PM
Mar 2019

for being the evil, despicable, GOP-backed organization that gets most of it's funding from gun manufacturers, not from NRA members.

This is very sad.

(I wish that Sydney HAD asked for help)

spanone

(135,880 posts)
36. I can't imagine seeing so many friends and classmates killed...
Fri Mar 22, 2019, 03:02 PM
Mar 2019

and then NOTHING is done about it. Zero, Zip, Nada.

Hard for anyone to internalize let alone a teenager

pazzyanne

(6,557 posts)
37. So sad for one so young!
Fri Mar 22, 2019, 03:05 PM
Mar 2019

Remembering Aiello and sending sympathy to her family and friends on this great loss.

Volaris

(10,274 posts)
42. Is there a process by which these survivors can file a class action suit
Fri Mar 22, 2019, 03:26 PM
Mar 2019

Against the NRA?
even if it's a no-win case, the discovery phase would be most impressive: I'd bet dollars to donughts that the NRA has the same kind of data regarding guns and mental health, that Exxon had on climate science, and Phillip Morris had regarding cancer.

sarge43

(28,945 posts)
47. PTSD, it's an insidious silent condition
Fri Mar 22, 2019, 03:36 PM
Mar 2019

The mind is wounded and sometimes it can not heal.

Be at peace now, child. The pain is over and no one can hurt you anymore.

Sincerest condolences for her family and friends.

Dem2theMax

(9,654 posts)
48. Absolutely heartbreaking. Tears pouring down my face.
Fri Mar 22, 2019, 03:45 PM
Mar 2019

What is wrong with this country? Why in the world are guns more important than our kids? This young woman never should have had to experience what she did, and then to have to live with survivor's guilt, it's too much for these kids.

I can imagine the fear when it happened, the shooting at the school, her parents wondering if she survived. And she did, physically. But what she went through took its toll on her, and sadly this was the only way she could find to get out of the pain.

My heart breaks for her parents and her family. I hope they get all of the support they need to help them through this.

Haggis for Breakfast

(6,831 posts)
65. Survivors' Guilt in not just powerful.
Fri Mar 22, 2019, 09:14 PM
Mar 2019

It is overwhelming. Right now, it is CRUSHING the children of Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School.

As someone who has a personal connection to the Parkland massaacre - my niece attends this school - I can tell you all that this is like we have all been whisked right back to that day. That time. That place. Those anxious hours of not knowing. Before the calls from family can even get through, the police report out and the news carries it all. The oxygen is sucked out of your lungs as your heart stops beating in your chest. You can't breathe. You can't think. You can't feel. You can only freeze in that moment.

For those of us with with child relatives at that school, this was the worst single moment of my life. I live out on West Coast, so the news on the telly got to me first. I tried and tried calling, but couldn't get through. ALL of the lines into south Florida were jammed. I could not reach anyone. I lost my mind, then I lost myself totally, screaming, crying, vomiting.

You cannot know what the past year has done to our family. My niece has been living in Hell. She's only 16.

Now this.

My sister told me at the one year anniversary that she knew that this was going to happen, as the community of Parkland was once again plunged into reliving this horror.

In an hour, we will have a marathon phone conversation.

Gothmog

(145,567 posts)
68. I agree that survivor guilt is overwhelming
Fri Mar 22, 2019, 10:50 PM
Mar 2019

My heat aches for the family and friends of this young lady. I understand that this has to be tough on your niece. She will be in my prayers

MontanaMama

(23,337 posts)
52. RIP dear Sydney.
Fri Mar 22, 2019, 04:26 PM
Mar 2019

No one should have to go through this trauma. I'm sick about this.

This tragic story makes me wonder how many of these survivors aren't getting the mental health support they need? Good therapy costs thousands and without good insurance in place, it is just plain not affordable for many if not most. There should not have to be a GoFundMe for any of these situations. Good lord, we should be caring for all Americans. I'm sorry we failed you Sydney.

KY_EnviroGuy

(14,494 posts)
54. This horrible event reminds us of how the suffering from a tragedy spreads....
Fri Mar 22, 2019, 06:20 PM
Mar 2019

to victims and those near the event, to their families, to their extended families and friends, and to an entire community.

The healing from Parkland will continue for many decades for thousands of people.

RIP, precious Sydney and may the Aiello family and all of Parkland someday find peace...... .......

 

smirkymonkey

(63,221 posts)
57. So tragic.
Fri Mar 22, 2019, 07:31 PM
Mar 2019

My heart just breaks for this girl and her family and friends.

Why can't we fucking do something in this country about the scourge of guns? New Zealand has a major terrorist attack, and boom! Assault weapons are banned. We can't even seem to pass minor regulations of fucking killing machines and the people who would buy them.

DemoTex

(25,403 posts)
58. The first line of Ford Madox Ford's "The Good Soldier" comes to mind ..
Fri Mar 22, 2019, 07:46 PM
Mar 2019

"This is the saddest story I have ever heard."

dlk

(11,578 posts)
60. I Am So Sorry for the Loss of this Beautiful Young Life
Fri Mar 22, 2019, 08:40 PM
Mar 2019

She deserved a normal life, not one of an epic trauma survivor. My heart goes out to her family and friends.

dugog55

(296 posts)
63. This is so sad, I would
Fri Mar 22, 2019, 08:55 PM
Mar 2019

have believed that all the "thoughts and prayers" would have healed her deep emotional scars. Just like they do for all the families, friends, and relatives of other shooting victims.

SergeStorms

(19,204 posts)
78. Suicide is the #2 cause of death for teenagers.
Sat Mar 23, 2019, 03:04 AM
Mar 2019

And that's without the psychological burdens Ms. Aiello carried with her every minute of every day since the Parkland massacre. This is so sad. It's horrible that she couldn't find the help she needed to prevent this tragedy.

I hope her family can somehow deal with their grief over this tragic loss. Maybe they'll have enough money from the GoFundMe page to start a scholarship in her name.

There are no words to express the sadness - and anger - I feel over the entire series of events that precipitated this situation.

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