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DonViejo

(60,536 posts)
Fri Mar 29, 2019, 07:58 AM Mar 2019

Wife of Sandy Hook father Jeremy Richman speaks out for the first time since his suicide,...

Wife of Sandy Hook father Jeremy Richman speaks out for the first time since his suicide, saying he ‘succumbed to the grief that he could not escape’

By NICHOLAS RONDINONE | HARTFORD COURANT | MAR 28, 2019 | 3:17 PM


Jenniffer Hensel, holding a portrait of her daughter, Sandy Hook School shooting victim Avielle Rose Richman, stands with her husband Jeremy Richman at a news conference at Edmond Town Hall in Newtown, Conn., Monday, Jan. 14, 2013. (Jessica Hill/AP)

Jennifer Hensel, the wife of Jeremy Richman, said her husband “succumbed to the grief” from the death of their daughter, Avielle, who was among the 20 first-grade students and six educators gunned down in the Sandy Hook massacre.

Richman, 49, was found dead at Edmond Town Hall in Newtown on Monday. His death was ruled a suicide.

In the note, posted to a fundraising page established by a relative, Hensel wrote: “Side by side since 1991, Jeremy and I walked a path of deep friendship, marriage, and parenthood. As you may know, our first born, our beautiful Avielle, was murdered at Sandy Hook school in 2012.”

Hensel and Richman, both scientists, started a foundation in honor of Avielle in 2013 that was dedicated to researching how brain health is tied to violence. The Avielle Foundation maintained an office in Edmond Town Hall.

On the foundation’s website, the couple described Avielle as having “a grand spirit of adventure and was willing to bravely try new things.” They said she loved her school and took great pride in the community she had at Sandy Hook Elementary School.

Richman’s death Monday sent a shock of grief through the Newtown community, where the family stayed after the deadly mass shooting. It prompted many to consider the lasting impact of these tragedies and how grief can persist.

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Wife of Sandy Hook father Jeremy Richman speaks out for the first time since his suicide,... (Original Post) DonViejo Mar 2019 OP
I don't think I could get over the loss of a child. Or the loss of my spouse. Some tragedies ... marble falls Mar 2019 #1
You don't get over it. easttexaslefty Mar 2019 #18
Heartbreaking Kitchari Mar 2019 #2
I have always felt UpInArms Mar 2019 #3
That poor woman. I wonder if they have other children? Tipperary Mar 2019 #4
Often people who commit suicide believe that their depression is such a burden on their loved ones femmedem Mar 2019 #6
My family has been touched by suicide also. Tipperary Mar 2019 #7
Yes, and now they are 3 times more likely to die by suicide, too. aikoaiko Mar 2019 #10
They had a boy and a girl after treestar Mar 2019 #12
They have two young children under five womanofthehills Mar 2019 #17
Oh hell. I hope she has other family and good friends. Tipperary Mar 2019 #19
I used to see movies at the Edmond Town Hall when I was a kid. Act_of_Reparation Mar 2019 #5
and to think CDerekGo Mar 2019 #8
This story breaks my heart hotrod0808 Mar 2019 #9
Just a minor request to no one in particular to switch to "died by suicide" from "committed suicide" aikoaiko Mar 2019 #11
what is the death count now, 20? barbtries Mar 2019 #13
This is just so heartbreaking. smirkymonkey Mar 2019 #14
Guns kill people. B Stieg Mar 2019 #15
Yep. That's what they're designed to do. llmart Mar 2019 #16

marble falls

(57,093 posts)
1. I don't think I could get over the loss of a child. Or the loss of my spouse. Some tragedies ...
Fri Mar 29, 2019, 08:06 AM
Mar 2019

take years to play out.

Kitchari

(2,166 posts)
2. Heartbreaking
Fri Mar 29, 2019, 08:10 AM
Mar 2019

..."how grief can persist," even though they channeled their grief into a foundation to help people. Just heartbreaking.

UpInArms

(51,284 posts)
3. I have always felt
Fri Mar 29, 2019, 08:58 AM
Mar 2019

that, if something should happen to my son, they would just need to dig a bigger hole

 

Tipperary

(6,930 posts)
4. That poor woman. I wonder if they have other children?
Fri Mar 29, 2019, 09:00 AM
Mar 2019

He must have been beyond rational thought from the horrible grief to have left his wife behind to deal with yet another death. Such a tragedy.

femmedem

(8,203 posts)
6. Often people who commit suicide believe that their depression is such a burden on their loved ones
Fri Mar 29, 2019, 09:19 AM
Mar 2019

that eventually the people they leave behind will be better off.

You're right: it isn't rational. But sometimes people (not you) think that suicide is a selfish act, but that isn't usually how the people see it when in the midst of their depression.

I say this as someone who lost a loved one to suicide several decades ago.

Act_of_Reparation

(9,116 posts)
5. I used to see movies at the Edmond Town Hall when I was a kid.
Fri Mar 29, 2019, 09:06 AM
Mar 2019

$1 for kids, $2 for adults. A truly screwy, dissonant juxtoposition of emotion and memory.

CDerekGo

(507 posts)
8. and to think
Fri Mar 29, 2019, 09:32 AM
Mar 2019

that azzhat Alex Jones to this day says Newtown was fake. I wonder if all of that didn't play on Mr Richman. There's only so much an individual can take.

hotrod0808

(323 posts)
9. This story breaks my heart
Fri Mar 29, 2019, 10:00 AM
Mar 2019

We all lose a parent, or a friend, or a colleague. It is expected. To lose one to murder is tragic. Nothing will ever top the loss of a child, which is devastating. To lose one to murder, I assume, is even worse than that. No matter how many other kids a person has, no matter how much they love their wife or family, no matter how good they are at their job, that void still remains and there is a feeling of failure to protect or fix your child. My heart goes out to those who survive the loss of Avielle and Jeremy. If someone reads this and feels like Jeremy did, I implore you to reach out to a professional, a friend, or even the hotline at 1-800-273-8255. Let one of us help you make it through another day, and we will worry about tomorrow when that gets here.

aikoaiko

(34,170 posts)
11. Just a minor request to no one in particular to switch to "died by suicide" from "committed suicide"
Fri Mar 29, 2019, 10:04 AM
Mar 2019

Last edited Fri Mar 29, 2019, 05:08 PM - Edit history (1)

Depression and suicide advocates ask us to switch our terminology so that we don't reinforce suicide as a sin and stigmatize those who might be suffering.

 

smirkymonkey

(63,221 posts)
14. This is just so heartbreaking.
Fri Mar 29, 2019, 10:40 AM
Mar 2019

In addition to the tragedy of his daughter's death, apparently Alex Jones and his evil minions just hounded him to death and told him his daughter was still alive and that SH was all a hoax, etc. These people are beyond depraved. It makes me so angry to think of what they are doing to the surviving family members.

llmart

(15,540 posts)
16. Yep. That's what they're designed to do.
Fri Mar 29, 2019, 11:00 AM
Mar 2019

What a sick country that worships these things.

This picture and story is heartbreaking.

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