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Soph0571

(9,685 posts)
Tue May 14, 2019, 05:20 PM May 2019

Why women everywhere deserve a better choice than I had as a pregnant schoolgirl - a baby I didn't..

...want or a backstreet abortionist in rubber washing-up gloves

The ‘heartbeat’ bill passed last week makes it illegal to have an abortion after 6 weeks (the time doctors say they can detect life in the womb) and will become law next January. Georgia follows other states - Ohio, Mississippi, Kentucky, Iowa and North Dakota - in bowing to the right wing lobby and restricting a woman’s right to a legal termination.

These reactionary laws drive poor and very young women underground (not the middle classes, who can afford to travel), to illegal local abortionists, who can endanger their lives and potentially ruin their chances of ever having kids when the time is right.

I feel so strongly about this, because - as a seventeen year old teenager in London - I was stupid enough to get pregnant by a long-standing boyfriend, at a time when it was almost impossible to get an abortion without telling your parents, seeing a doctor and a psychiatrist.
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I will never forget the long walk from the train station to a run-down building by a parade of shops. I rang a bell, went upstairs, handed over the money. I was told to take off my knickers and lie down on a kitchen table in a run down apartment. I was quaking with fear.

I won’t go into detail about the next ten minutes but it was horribly painful. I remember the woman wore a dirty apron and rubber washing up gloves. I staggered back to the station and the journey home passed in a blur. I had confided in one friend, who came around to my house, but couldn’t do much to help as I spent much of the next twenty four hours in the bathroom, bleeding profusely, with terrible stomach cramps.


[link:https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-7029179/JANET-STREET-PORTER-women-deserve-better-choice-pregnant-schoolgirl.html|

And here we go again....

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Cirque du So-What

(25,989 posts)
1. The so-called pro-lifers will chalk up all that pain, misery or death to gawd's will
Tue May 14, 2019, 05:30 PM
May 2019

Their version of 'she had it comin''.

volstork

(5,403 posts)
5. They believe those women deserve to die
Tue May 14, 2019, 05:50 PM
May 2019

for daring to try to control their own bodies. It's as simple as that, really.

Nay

(12,051 posts)
13. Yep. Anyone who thinks that describing the horror of back alley abortions will cause
Tue May 14, 2019, 08:10 PM
May 2019

these legislators to pause is living in dreamworld. These monsters live for the day they can see women die like this. It gives them pleasure. They are evil.

dhol82

(9,353 posts)
2. I came of age in the 60's.
Tue May 14, 2019, 05:31 PM
May 2019

Had a number of friends and roommates who needed abortions.
Most were the back room abominations and I even had one roomie go into a psychotic episode afterward. It was never pretty.
Actually even knew a guy who did abortions. He had some minor medical background - really minor: he took care of lab animals and worked at a medical school. His sterility capabilities were nonexistent but it was the best that some women had at the time.
It was just never pretty.
If you had money or connections you could get a legal termination at a university hospital. All nice, clean and sterile.
The young women today just don’t have a clue.

proud patriot

(100,715 posts)
4. I got pregnant when I was 16 in 1986
Tue May 14, 2019, 05:46 PM
May 2019

I walked through picket lines calling me a killer .. My dad held my hand and told me
that day "Always remember there was a time when this choice wasn't legal" .

I am thankful I had an intelligent even if disappointed dad, to guide me and give me
courage.

My Abortion occurred at 7 weeks .. I had only missed one period ..

that it is a crime now anywhere in the U.S. breaks my heart and then
PISSES ME OFF ..

We won't go back !

Marthe48

(17,039 posts)
10. It was good you had the support for your choice
Tue May 14, 2019, 07:42 PM
May 2019

My soon-to be-husband and I had the baby. She was born a month early, and just 6 months after we were married. When my husband called my dad to tell him the news, my dad said, "The first one can come at any time, but the others take 9 months." It really helped that both of my parents were so accepting. My husband's parents were ok with the early arrival as well. We had two children before I was 21. My husband was 5 1/2 years older than I am.

That being said, I wasn't ready to have children, and I didn't do a good job of taking care of our 2 children the first few years. My husband had wanted to start a family, but he was not ready to be helpful or involved. So he'd go out with his friends, he drank a lot, I got stuck at home, felt like a drudge, and we fought a lot. I wanted him to leave. I didn't want to be a wife or mother because it all sucked. But believe it or not, we worked it out. We both grew up and straightened ourselves up. We ended up being good parents, not just to our kids, but other kids too. We ended up having a good marriage and relationship, too. We stayed married for almost 46 years. He died from cancer about 2 1/2 years ago.

I am glad we both encouraged our daughters to do things differently. The way we did it was tough and included a lot of challenges we could have avoided if we had been mature and ready to start a family. I am definitely pro-choice.

Your story spoke to me, thank you.



MiniMe

(21,719 posts)
6. Some of these laws that are passing make it illegal to travel to another state to get an abortion
Tue May 14, 2019, 06:01 PM
May 2019

The lawmakers are just downright cruel.

colsohlibgal

(5,275 posts)
8. This Is All About One Thing
Tue May 14, 2019, 07:09 PM
May 2019

They are pushing all these restrictive abortion laws, the more ridiculous the better, to get this to the Supreme Court to overturn Roe Vs Wade.

The prime pushers seem to be men.

Evolve Dammit

(16,778 posts)
9. Thank you so much for this account of what must have been terrifying.
Tue May 14, 2019, 07:34 PM
May 2019

Can't imagine the emotional angst. Christo-GOPers don't give a fuck about women's health. At all.

Initech

(100,107 posts)
11. What think tank is writing these laws and who is funding them?
Tue May 14, 2019, 07:46 PM
May 2019

Calling them "barbaric" is an understatement. But following the money will hopefully provide some answers.

AllaN01Bear

(18,462 posts)
12. so right to lifers are you ready for back alley abortions ? have you seen one
Tue May 14, 2019, 08:03 PM
May 2019

seems this person did . my late mom witnessed many as a social worker for a county in calfiornia.( her first job). wasnt pretty. rich can go to another abortion friendly state , or, to another country where it is leagel. or pay the dr to look the other way. also right to lifers are u willing to adapt a unwanted child or foster parent i? no i hear?it seems the courts shoot these down, yet they keep shoving these things down our throat . i wonder if alec is behind these "model " bills.

corbettkroehler

(1,898 posts)
15. I Wish The Truth Mattered To These Political Whores Who Ban Everything
Tue May 14, 2019, 10:09 PM
May 2019

That is a wrenching article.

The only good news is that the other side has overreached BIG TIME and to such an extent that it will galvanize the nation finally to push for a constitutional amendment so that all of these death-by-a-thousand-cuts laws wouldn't make it past the governor's desk.

Relying on an old supreme court decision is not a strong enough barrier to intrusion.

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