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A 19-year-old member of the choir at Swansboro United Methodist Church in North Carolina was fat-shamed by a church leader who told her she shouldnt be wearing jean shorts with her body.
Over the weekend, the singer, Jenna, went into the churchs bathroom to check her phone because a family member was in the hospital. She was confronted by Bonnie Sue Bihary, who immediately began to shame her by talking about how another chubby girl in the church wears an appropriate dress that comes to her knees, and why arent you doing that?
So youre sitting here calling me fat? Jenna asked her off camera, her voice thick with tears.
The woman put her hands on her hips and asked her: Oh. You dont think you are?
https://friendlyatheist.patheos.com/2019/07/03/church-leader-body-shames-19-year-old-girl-fat-girls-dont-wear-shorts/
gopiscrap
(23,761 posts)unless you're aiming them at some one who has made those remarks to another such as trump
Floyd R. Turbo
(26,547 posts)trev
(1,480 posts)Methodism is a rather conservative denomination, so it's bound to be authoritarian and brazen.
If I were her, I'd look for a better church to go to.
Floyd R. Turbo
(26,547 posts)trev
(1,480 posts)I think most Christians tend to stay with the church. I grew up Methodist myself, but left it when I was 18 to attend another church--much to the rage of my Republican parents. I left that one 8 years later and left my religion behind with it.
But I think I'm an exception.
smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)I make fun of how fat Trump is all the time, but that is because he is a mean bully who fat-shames and look-shames others when he is in no position to criticize anyone for what they look like. Also, I hate him and it gives me pleasure to tear him down. Not very mature, but there it is.
However, I would never do such a thing in real life to anybody, especially someone I didn't know. Besides, this is a church! Aren't they supposed to love and accept people for who they are and not what they look like? What makes people think that their unsolicited opinions are welcomed when they are only intended to hurt and shame?
MrsCoffee
(5,801 posts)If you are gonna claim to be something you aren't, expect to get called on it. And since Trump is such a disgusting bully, people do not need to hold back.
6'3" 230lbs my ass, lol
trev
(1,480 posts)He says so, so it must be true.
LuckyCharms
(17,440 posts)I've had plenty of people who have verbally abused me in my younger years, and then chastise me for "swearing" while giving their shit right back to them. I know the type well.
That young woman did very well for herself by standing up to that shitty older woman.
3Hotdogs
(12,382 posts)I can lose weight tomorrow."
Bettie
(16,109 posts)people think that commenting on the size of bodies is OK, especially if they don't meet the arbitrary beauty standards set for women.
Men get fat shamed too, but women are also treated as though their only value is in their looks, with the assumption being that fat is equal to ugly.
It is, however, pervasive.
cwydro
(51,308 posts)Wtf?
lame54
(35,290 posts)essme
(1,207 posts)think this kid just needs to think, "geezz, shut up you old twit," or something similar, and laugh it off?
I think the over reaction on the girl's part is a bit odd.
55 year old Episcopalian woman here who dealt with plenty of mean old snot wits back in days of the dinosaurs with no phones-
cwydro
(51,308 posts)I know what you mean. I dealt with a lot of that from older women (and men) growing up.
Ive never been fat, but Ive always had short hair - you wouldnt believe the comments I used to get as a young woman.
People are weird.
essme
(1,207 posts)I mean, Jesus Christ- the woman in the bathroom was CLEARLY to anyone breathing, a jerk-- but, to start screaming and crying over it? Recording it? Putting it on social media?
WTF?
cwydro
(51,308 posts)I dont get it, but Im not in that age group.
That being said, kind of funny to see that hateful church lady get her comeuppance.
Remember Dana Carvey? He nailed that type!
essme
(1,207 posts)That said, I don't think screaming and crying like that is normal for a 19 year old.
Floyd R. Turbo
(26,547 posts)putting that women flat on her ass!
essme
(1,207 posts)results in getting beat up, or put on social media these days?
The old lady is an asshole. No doubt. Clearly, she's a jerk. You don't think screaming and crying, and "putting the woman flat on her ass" is a LITTLE FUCKING over reactive?
Floyd R. Turbo
(26,547 posts)essme
(1,207 posts)Enjoy your prison time if you think that's OK
Floyd R. Turbo
(26,547 posts)onecaliberal
(32,861 posts)Floyd R. Turbo
(26,547 posts)tblue37
(65,358 posts)smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)I think the fat shamer was even heavier than Jenna! Jenna didn't look bad and the self-righteous church lady was quite hefty and unattractive. Typical Trumper.
no_hypocrisy
(46,114 posts)How does being a bully further the Word of Jesus?
jalan48
(13,866 posts)ProudLib72
(17,984 posts)Honestly, I think she should have been kicked out and told she was no where close to being a Christian. That would have, maybe, had some impact.
Niagara
(7,616 posts)Celerity
(43,383 posts)In a separate video posted to Twitter, Munger as also called for those harassing Bihary to stop, saying, "The only way we can kill that hate is by love."
Link to tweet