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mahatmakanejeeves

(57,573 posts) Sat Jan 18, 2020, 04:21 PM Jan 2020

As a researcher who studies college sexual assault, one of the most common questions I'm asked is,

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As a researcher who studies college sexual assault, one of the most common questions I'm asked is, "My daughter is starting college soon and I'm so concerned about campus sexual violence. What do I do as a parent?" Here's my answer:

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As a part of this, drop the lectures on risk reduction techniques. Parents who taught their daughters not to drink too much or go out alone after dark are the parents my participants least want to tell about their assaults.

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That being said, there is one intervention targeting women that--while in early stages--has been able to reduce sexual violence rates. The focus isn't on rape prevention tips, but on feminist empowerment.

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As a researcher who studies college sexual assault, one of the most common questions I'm asked is, (Original Post) mahatmakanejeeves Jan 2020 OP

Just skimmed this ismnotwasm Jan 2020 #1

Stands to reason Cirque du So-What Jan 2020 #2

Or worse, a what did you do to cause this lunatica Jan 2020 #4

That was my mother's reaction when I was raped as a sophomore in college Ms. Toad Jan 2020 #6

This is exactly why so many women won't tell people lunatica Jan 2020 #7

She has an interesting bias janterry Jan 2020 #3

A young woman ought to know how to castrate a pig. hunter Jan 2020 #5

ismnotwasm

(41,998 posts)

1. Just skimmed this

Reply to mahatmakanejeeves (Original post)

Sat Jan 18, 2020, 04:23 PM

Jan 2020

Absolutely fabulous. Thank you

Cirque du So-What

(25,965 posts)

2. Stands to reason

Reply to mahatmakanejeeves (Original post)

Sat Jan 18, 2020, 04:27 PM

Jan 2020

Assault victims feel bad enough without dreading a haughty ‘told ya so’ from their own parents.

lunatica

(53,410 posts)

4. Or worse, a what did you do to cause this

Reply to Cirque du So-What (Reply #2)

Sat Jan 18, 2020, 04:32 PM

Jan 2020

Or what were you wearing.

Ms. Toad

(34,086 posts)

6. That was my mother's reaction when I was raped as a sophomore in college

Reply to lunatica (Reply #4)

Sat Jan 18, 2020, 05:39 PM

Jan 2020

"Were you doing something you shouldn't have been doing?"

Intellectually, I get that she was a thousand miles away from her baby and couldn't do a darn thing to protect me, she had just learned very hard news via a phone call, and maybe she couldn't have stopped it even if I had been home if I had not been {insert behavior that is asserted to have triggered the rape} - but from an emotional standpoint it was about the worst thing she could have said.

lunatica

(53,410 posts)

7. This is exactly why so many women won't tell people

Reply to Ms. Toad (Reply #6)

Sat Jan 18, 2020, 08:33 PM

Jan 2020

about being raped or physically abused by their spouses. All throughout history it’s been the victims fault. Or explained as being the natural order of things.