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gollygee

(22,336 posts)
Sat Mar 14, 2020, 06:27 PM Mar 2020

I have neighbors having a big party this evening

I don't get it. Am I missing something? I'm keeping my kids away from other kids and my neighbors are inviting tons of people over. Maybe I'm overreacting? My family hasn't been stockpiling or anything but we are keeping physical distance from other people.

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I have neighbors having a big party this evening (Original Post) gollygee Mar 2020 OP
No flippin way Alliepoo Mar 2020 #1
You're not overreacting MaryMagdaline Mar 2020 #2
No. You are not overreacting lunatica Mar 2020 #3
Denial can be quite strong Kitchari Mar 2020 #4
This is why dystopian movies have so few survivors lunatica Mar 2020 #5
Remember the movie Independence Day? Initech Mar 2020 #9
My younger daughter told me marlakay Mar 2020 #6
No way, buffet. KY_EnviroGuy Mar 2020 #11
Did you hear about what AOC said about people banning buffets? It was amazing. jimfields33 Mar 2020 #47
Sneeze guard enid602 Mar 2020 #57
Last night was on the phone with friend said he was picking up another friend waiting outside lunasun Mar 2020 #31
The ONE time they should listened to DT. ONE time he was right! That's what happens when you napi21 Mar 2020 #52
Don't go. maxsolomon Mar 2020 #7
It's not real to most people yet. n/t Ms. Toad Mar 2020 #8
+1, some are in partial denial uponit7771 Mar 2020 #18
I'm with you Cal Carpenter Mar 2020 #10
What's your business? nt tblue37 Mar 2020 #36
Retail Cal Carpenter Mar 2020 #39
Oh, I hope this doesn't set you back too far. Do you have an online sales operation, too? tblue37 Mar 2020 #40
Yeah, we have an online option Cal Carpenter Mar 2020 #41
Yes, it sure is. Good luck! nt tblue37 Mar 2020 #49
I'm going to a small local bar later. evertonfc Mar 2020 #12
Our county doesn't have any confirmed cases gollygee Mar 2020 #14
I think reasonable safety measures evertonfc Mar 2020 #20
You sound like a perfect carrier. Maru Kitteh Mar 2020 #55
Jesus Christ dude evertonfc Mar 2020 #59
The bigger issue is your county could have thousands of cases but with no testing who knows? uponit7771 Mar 2020 #19
Right. I don't think there's any way to know whether there are cases here gollygee Mar 2020 #21
Note to neighbors: Ethyl alcohol ingested will not cure this virus. KY_EnviroGuy Mar 2020 #13
There's one down the hall right now. lindysalsagal Mar 2020 #15
Well, your neighbors are stupid. Stupid is indeed stupid. Or there is another possible excuse: Stuart G Mar 2020 #16
If there is anyway you can MLAA Mar 2020 #17
masque of the red death - trailer - vincent price msongs Mar 2020 #22
Perfect. emmaverybo Mar 2020 #29
It'll only take one confirmed case nearby to shift everyone's thinking Mr. Ected Mar 2020 #23
A Facebook friend just drove her daughter to a date HarlanPepper Mar 2020 #24
My son just recently started dating a new girl, they are in their BusyBeingBest Mar 2020 #33
If you lived in China, you could have them arrested. Sneederbunk Mar 2020 #25
My Republican neighbors are having a going away party DUgosh Mar 2020 #26
I am in TN,, kozar Mar 2020 #27
There are 29 confirmed cases in TN Generic Brad Mar 2020 #38
I am in Bristol, kozar Mar 2020 #43
This message was self-deleted by its author democratisphere Mar 2020 #28
Jim Jones Memorial Party..... spanone Mar 2020 #30
I'm starting to think a more accurate translation of Matthew 5:5 tanyev Mar 2020 #32
YOLO Renew Deal Mar 2020 #34
You might have fewer neighbors in a few weeks. nt tblue37 Mar 2020 #35
Not overreacting Lulu KC Mar 2020 #37
I live in downtown Raleigh, NC. We have confirmed cases in the county. mnhtnbb Mar 2020 #42
Love conquers all? n/t zackymilly Mar 2020 #46
Newt Gingrich of all people says we aren't over-reacting!?! Brainfodder Mar 2020 #44
When the party gets going strong, sneak over and steal all the toilet paper. n/t zackymilly Mar 2020 #45
Your neighbors are being foolish. GeorgeGist Mar 2020 #48
They're irresponsible. BeckyDem Mar 2020 #50
Same thing is happening next door to me. I am speechless. Not only clueless but Ferrets are Cool Mar 2020 #51
In my opinion they are being unwise. Note that it has been confirmed that people without... PoliticAverse Mar 2020 #53
My 24 yr old is working form home and school from home. Figured he would be out and about with his LizBeth Mar 2020 #54
Our Fox-bot neighbor thinks COVID is being Duppers Mar 2020 #56
Denial aint just a river in Egypt... Hekate Mar 2020 #58

Alliepoo

(2,221 posts)
1. No flippin way
Sat Mar 14, 2020, 06:29 PM
Mar 2020

Would I be hosting a party or attending a party!! I don’t think you’re overreacting at all.

MaryMagdaline

(6,855 posts)
2. You're not overreacting
Sat Mar 14, 2020, 06:29 PM
Mar 2020

Your neighbors don’t think they’ll get a serious case and they don’t care if the spread the bug

lunatica

(53,410 posts)
3. No. You are not overreacting
Sat Mar 14, 2020, 06:30 PM
Mar 2020

Look at it this way. Are you going to believe thousands of doctors specifically trained in pandemic outbreaks or your neighbors and their friends?

Kitchari

(2,166 posts)
4. Denial can be quite strong
Sat Mar 14, 2020, 06:31 PM
Mar 2020

We opted out of a gathering today for dear friends, and it felt quite correct

lunatica

(53,410 posts)
5. This is why dystopian movies have so few survivors
Sat Mar 14, 2020, 06:33 PM
Mar 2020

Most of humanity acted like your neighbors.

It’s also why the great Roman Empire fell. People partied in decadent abandon while the Barbarians moved on them.

Initech

(100,076 posts)
9. Remember the movie Independence Day?
Sat Mar 14, 2020, 06:37 PM
Mar 2020

Half the people were running from the alien spaceships, the other half had welcoming parties on rooftops of high rise buildings. You can't fix that level of stupid.

marlakay

(11,468 posts)
6. My younger daughter told me
Sat Mar 14, 2020, 06:34 PM
Mar 2020

That my older daughter was taking my mom to a buffet today along with my 21 yr old granddaughter.

I nearly choked, we both begged no no no.

Hopefully they picked another restaurant.

Its hard when people you love don’t listen, believe, etc.

Updated. We must have got to them. They are going to bistro nice one instead.

KY_EnviroGuy

(14,491 posts)
11. No way, buffet.
Sat Mar 14, 2020, 06:38 PM
Mar 2020

Those would be the very worst for spreading disease.

Glad you pleaded for your mom......

enid602

(8,620 posts)
57. Sneeze guard
Sat Mar 14, 2020, 11:56 PM
Mar 2020

I would only feel comfortable eating at a buffet if there is a big sign that say 'Corona Virus Free' on the sneeze guard.

lunasun

(21,646 posts)
31. Last night was on the phone with friend said he was picking up another friend waiting outside
Sat Mar 14, 2020, 07:31 PM
Mar 2020

so called to say hi because I’ve been working out of town now I’m back and glad to wfh
They were going to buffet he told me
I asked if that is a good idea . He had hand sanitizer on he said
I said what about coughing ? No they have a shield over the food he said .
Then his friend came out and the phone was on a speaker . I heard his friend say hi to him and then say “can you believe that asshole trump was on TV trying to make people stay home now for 2 or 3 weeks no f’n way .”
I just said bye and thought why why why
I give them balls but not brains

napi21

(45,806 posts)
52. The ONE time they should listened to DT. ONE time he was right! That's what happens when you
Sat Mar 14, 2020, 09:20 PM
Mar 2020

LIE ALL THE TIME! nobody will ever believe him on anything.

Cal Carpenter

(4,959 posts)
10. I'm with you
Sat Mar 14, 2020, 06:38 PM
Mar 2020

I'm not gonna say mean things about your neighbors and their guests. Hell, if one of my friends decided to throw a last blowout tonight before it gets worse I'd be tempted to go.

But we have to slow the spread of this thing. Our health system cannot handle this, so the slower it spreads, the better. And the way to do that is to reduce social contact. It's that simple.

Our federal government is not making this clear, but fortunately many state governments are. We need to follow their lead, and lead by example for others.

I just today shuttered my business to the public, and will operate with limited hours in a way that minimizes human contact. It sucks, but I couldn't, in good conscience, keep my doors open anymore. We have positive cases in my town, and the numbers in my state are increasing as tests are made available. I can't be part of the problem.

I dont know what it means for the future of my business but I guess I'll find out...

Cal Carpenter

(4,959 posts)
39. Retail
Sat Mar 14, 2020, 08:11 PM
Mar 2020

Mom and pop. Rather not be precise, but sorta niche retail, akin to a hobby shop or something.

tblue37

(65,361 posts)
40. Oh, I hope this doesn't set you back too far. Do you have an online sales operation, too?
Sat Mar 14, 2020, 08:14 PM
Mar 2020

I'm guessing (and hoping) you do, to keep up sales.

Cal Carpenter

(4,959 posts)
41. Yeah, we have an online option
Sat Mar 14, 2020, 08:25 PM
Mar 2020

It isn't the best, but it will help bring in some money without much extra effort. And just as important, it will help keep us connected to our customers. We have a lot of loyal regulars and we will do what we can to stay connected to them through good service and some communication. As long as suppliers keep shipping, we'll at least be doing some business. Fortunately we are in good standing with all of our vendors, and we have almost no debt. But this could last several months, I fear, and it's hard to even think that far out.

Day by day.

I think everyone is facing a crisis from this if they get sick or not, whether it is hours being cut, insurance being lost, kids out of school without child care, unrelated health issues with an overwhelmed health system, psychological stress...

All we can do is go day by day and try to offer mutual support despite isolation. It's gonna be a rough ride.

 

evertonfc

(1,713 posts)
12. I'm going to a small local bar later.
Sat Mar 14, 2020, 06:39 PM
Mar 2020

I'm in a county with no confirmed cases. I follow safety measures as our state dictates. I'm very careful but can't simply secluded my self inside for next 6 months unless told it is necessary. I would be less likely to step out in NYC or Seattle My teen son is having a few buddies over as well

gollygee

(22,336 posts)
14. Our county doesn't have any confirmed cases
Sat Mar 14, 2020, 06:42 PM
Mar 2020

but counties near us do. It seems likely there's at least someone with it in our county at this point, though it is early enough it might be fine. It's taking a chance but maybe it's a reasonable chance?

 

evertonfc

(1,713 posts)
20. I think reasonable safety measures
Sat Mar 14, 2020, 06:48 PM
Mar 2020

are necessary. I'm healthy, fit and 47. If I had a health issue I might act otherwise.

Maru Kitteh

(28,340 posts)
55. You sound like a perfect carrier.
Sat Mar 14, 2020, 09:59 PM
Mar 2020

Social distancing is at least as much about being a responsible member of your community, taking every measure not to become infected (even though you may never really feel it) so that you do not infect others who may die.

In short: It's not just about you.

 

evertonfc

(1,713 posts)
59. Jesus Christ dude
Sun Mar 15, 2020, 12:52 AM
Mar 2020

I follow all precautions stated by local health officials. I work from home now, I limit my social contacts. Are you hold up in a bunker? If not, stop giving damn advice. I'm fully aware and conscious of what I'm doing. Thank you very much

gollygee

(22,336 posts)
21. Right. I don't think there's any way to know whether there are cases here
Sat Mar 14, 2020, 06:49 PM
Mar 2020

It seems likely there would be at least some at this point, but maybe not many yet.

KY_EnviroGuy

(14,491 posts)
13. Note to neighbors: Ethyl alcohol ingested will not cure this virus.
Sat Mar 14, 2020, 06:40 PM
Mar 2020

Only effective when applied to surfaces........

Stuart G

(38,427 posts)
16. Well, your neighbors are stupid. Stupid is indeed stupid. Or there is another possible excuse:
Sat Mar 14, 2020, 06:44 PM
Mar 2020

...These neighbors are absolutely sure that they won't be infected. That is often the thinking with people who are "experts" at this or that. Here is an example of what experts tell us. ...I was told by people who know, that I should get a pneumonia shot during the time I had heart surgery. Deep down, that did not feel right, but what could go wrong?..Yes I had had pneumonia a couple of times, but they were recommending it. So I took the shot, and got pneumonia. Very mild, and I recovered quickly. But I was "stupid" to take the shot. My experience said ..NO.
...I was sure that the shot would not cause anything. But I was totally wrong....As your neighbors are .."totally wrong" I was not smart, and your neighbors are..not smart...Having a lot of people over at a time like this is "dangerous".and ..stupid is stupid
Why? Your neighbors are .."sure that no one would be infected"..and that is indeed stupid..
...Oh, and they don't want to cancel their get together. That is also stupid..

MLAA

(17,293 posts)
17. If there is anyway you can
Sat Mar 14, 2020, 06:46 PM
Mar 2020

stock up on some canned food (beans are good), rice, pasta, pasta sauce. Just in case you do have to stay in for a few weeks 🙂

Mr. Ected

(9,670 posts)
23. It'll only take one confirmed case nearby to shift everyone's thinking
Sat Mar 14, 2020, 06:52 PM
Mar 2020

I live in the middle of Trumpland, and every single one of them that I've spoken with truly believes that this is a liberal myth and that warm weather will burn it off and it's no worse than the flu. Over and over I have heard this. However, in the grocery stores, they have outted themselves: no bread, water, toilet paper, etc. They're hoarding in one breath and denying with the other.

Remember, though, these people are conspiracy theory lovers and overreactors. Once this becomes real to them, aka, someone they know contracts the virus and perishes or is hopelessly crippled by it, they will scream and yell and prove their not-so-rugged individualism.

Posers and impostors, that's what they are.

 

HarlanPepper

(2,042 posts)
24. A Facebook friend just drove her daughter to a date
Sat Mar 14, 2020, 07:10 PM
Mar 2020

These are college educated Democrats. I don’t get it either. You expect it from the GOP dopes but not people who I know can think.

BusyBeingBest

(8,053 posts)
33. My son just recently started dating a new girl, they are in their
Sat Mar 14, 2020, 07:33 PM
Mar 2020

20's and go out to eat and go to bars still. I can't stop them, they're adults. Young adults do not feel vulnerable. But if my kids were still teenagers? No, I wouldn't drive them anywhere other than school or other necessary places. Edit to add: my son is a germaphobe, so at least I know he's hand washing like a mofo.

DUgosh

(3,056 posts)
26. My Republican neighbors are having a going away party
Sat Mar 14, 2020, 07:20 PM
Mar 2020

For some older folks moving away. An smirky email was sent out this afternoon announcing that of course the party was still on - they are using “common sense” precautions for those who expressed concern. No of course I am not going.

kozar

(2,116 posts)
27. I am in TN,,
Sat Mar 14, 2020, 07:24 PM
Mar 2020

According to Mrs K,,there is only 1 case reported here, and she questioned my decision. To keep her in house, because she has been diagnosed with COPD and is 65 years old , and we have a 31 yo hcp daughter , who I decided would not be going to her day activities anymore. And after she questioned me on this,, I simply said ,,,1 case,,hmm,, how many have been tested, with what we know for truth right now? She understood. My point is,,you never over react when you simply act on what you care about..


Koz

Generic Brad

(14,275 posts)
38. There are 29 confirmed cases in TN
Sat Mar 14, 2020, 07:43 PM
Mar 2020

The nearest case to me is within a 40 minute drive of where I live. My company has asked me to be homebound for the next 60 days and manage my team remotely as part of our pandemic plan. They have also advised me that if this spirals out of control, they may ask me to extend this until August.

The Nashville area looks to be an up and coming hot spot with most of the cases coming from there. You must be near Memphis, Chattanooga or eastern TN where the confirmed cases look to be few.

I hope you can convince your family to take it as seriously as you do.

kozar

(2,116 posts)
43. I am in Bristol,
Sat Mar 14, 2020, 08:32 PM
Mar 2020

which truly I know,, is not part of Tn,, as I moved here when I met Mrs K, from Manchester Tn, small town,,totally different world. so yeah, a bit of culture differences within same state. I made my decisions,, Mrs K will not leave house,, Tess (hcp dghtr) no longer going to day services. and I will do shopping, and I do wipe the carts now.. alll these "numbers" Brad, are not only screwed up in the world,,they are already screwed up with in our same STATE!! hence my decision,,,, thanks,, I wish best for all

Koz

Response to gollygee (Original post)

tanyev

(42,559 posts)
32. I'm starting to think a more accurate translation of Matthew 5:5
Sat Mar 14, 2020, 07:33 PM
Mar 2020

should be “Blessed are the introverts for they shall inherit the earth.”

Lulu KC

(2,565 posts)
37. Not overreacting
Sat Mar 14, 2020, 07:40 PM
Mar 2020

I just saw a local person on social media trying to organize a pub crawl.
It seems that the thing about it all hurting old people is too abstract for younger people to grasp.
They don't seem to get it that children will be unable to get the help they need when this peaks if we don't flatten the curve.
So frustrating!

mnhtnbb

(31,389 posts)
42. I live in downtown Raleigh, NC. We have confirmed cases in the county.
Sat Mar 14, 2020, 08:30 PM
Mar 2020

Across the street from my building is an old area of brick buildings called City Market. Dates to 1914. Very attractive small area with several restaurants, shops, and a wedding venue. When I walked the dog past there this evening, it was clear people were gathering for a wedding.

Pretty brave. I wonder if the couple will be flying off somewhere for a honeymoon?

Ferrets are Cool

(21,106 posts)
51. Same thing is happening next door to me. I am speechless. Not only clueless but
Sat Mar 14, 2020, 09:09 PM
Mar 2020

extremely SELFISH. Oh, I left out STUPID.

PoliticAverse

(26,366 posts)
53. In my opinion they are being unwise. Note that it has been confirmed that people without...
Sat Mar 14, 2020, 09:21 PM
Mar 2020

symptons can still infect other people.

LizBeth

(9,952 posts)
54. My 24 yr old is working form home and school from home. Figured he would be out and about with his
Sat Mar 14, 2020, 09:57 PM
Mar 2020

X free time. He said no.... The whole purpose is to isolate for others.

I appreciated it from youth so no, I do not think you are over reacting. I think some are not even thinking this thru.

Duppers

(28,120 posts)
56. Our Fox-bot neighbor thinks COVID is being
Sat Mar 14, 2020, 10:05 PM
Mar 2020

Greatly exaggerated & blew it off.

He petted one of our dogs - I wiped the doggo down with soapy water when we got him home. I don't trust anyone with such an attitude.

Hekate

(90,690 posts)
58. Denial aint just a river in Egypt...
Sun Mar 15, 2020, 12:13 AM
Mar 2020

On the other hand, it looks like my Bunco group is self-cancelling, as one lady after another is responding "Mmm, maybe not this time" to the notice. Our usual hostess is over 80, and tho the younger ones look like they are in their late 40s, the rest of us passed "young" a long time ago.

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