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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsIs anybody else still struggling with the fact that this is *real*?
How can this be really what's happening? I'm still trying to get my head around it. It's the same feeling I had after 9/11 when I watched TV non-stop, seeing the video of the planes crashing into the WTC. But this is worse because it will last God knows how long, kill more people, maybe including me and/or people close to me, and it's terrifying. It doesn't do to be terrified all the time but I'm having trouble dealing with the reality that we are in a huge mess with no end in sight.
Anybody else feel this way, or am I being too weird?
Turin_C3PO
(14,044 posts)I feel the exact same way as you do. These are scary and uncertain times and we have the absolute worst person in charge to deal with it.
yuiyoshida
(41,858 posts)If Obama were in office I don't think I would worry so much, but All Trump thinks about is how he is going to look... and He will use the BEST words ever....no, not reassuring
C Moon
(12,221 posts)yuiyoshida
(41,858 posts)DonaldsRump
(7,715 posts)If the President had been Obama or Clinton, I would be worried, but careful. However, I would know that there was a smart person at the rudder.
We are rudderless with this fool, and while I am deeply worried for my family (don't really care about myself), I AM OUTRAGED at this idiot. WHAT A COMPLETE PIECE OF SHITE HE IS.
I have a slight sense of being powerless since we can't do anything for several months. Then I realize we ALL can do so much right now to make sure Trump and Rus-publicans are voted out on November 3.
LET US DO THINGS NOW TO GET THESE CRIMINAL FOOLS OUT ON NOVEMBER 3!
intrepidity
(7,336 posts)Similar to after awaking from an intense dream or nightmare.
Surreal is right.
Lars39
(26,112 posts)Now I have a word for the daily doom that occurs after the split second of sleepy well-being.
Alacritous Crier
(3,818 posts)Raine
(30,540 posts)a nightmare. 😴 😫 😭
marble falls
(57,181 posts)BComplex
(8,064 posts)I hope they will be safe. We're going to look like northern Italy in the USA very soon.
marble falls
(57,181 posts)stopwastingmymoney
(2,042 posts)He said they dont even go outside anymore and suggested we take vitamin c and other immune support supplements Theyre about 10 days ahead of us I figure
marble falls
(57,181 posts)OhNo-Really
(3,985 posts)stopwastingmymoney
(2,042 posts)Theyre in a house with a garden so theyre going out there but no one is going for walks etc like we still are.
Eta. I have a puppy so if I cant take her out its a real problem 😛
kentuck
(111,110 posts)Last edited Sat Mar 21, 2020, 05:59 PM - Edit history (1)
Not knowing when it will end, or if it will ever end, is a "come-to-Jesus" moment.
msongs
(67,438 posts)Response to The Velveteen Ocelot (Original post)
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StarryNite
(9,459 posts)I go outside for a walk or into the backyard to pull some weeds and I feel better. But then I come back in and the reality hits me again. Maybe I should just stay outside looking at the sky, the trees, the birds, and even my yard full of weeds.
Hermit-The-Prog
(33,413 posts)I can go out and walk all day if I want to without coming anywhere near civilization. Can't imagine what it's like for people in apartments during this.
barbtries
(28,811 posts)to walk our dogs, etc. just maintain a safe distance from others. fortunately we're usually the only ones out on our walks.
wnylib
(21,601 posts)near the center of town. There is a postage stamp size of lawn behind the building that might pass for a yard. But, to go outside for a walk, even down the block on the sidewalk, also means touching elevator buttons and doors that are commonly used by everyone.
Same for washing and drying clothes in the commonly used laundry rooms.
I have gloves, hand sanitizer, Lysol spray, and Chlorox wipes, as well as a supply of bleach, isopropyl alcohol, and peroxide. But not knowing how long this will last, I use everything as sparingly as possible, without scrimping to the point of taking risks. Do not want to run out and have to go out in public to try buying what is probably no longer available.
My apartment is on the 5th floor where I have a good view of 2 main streets in town. Our governor, Cuomo, has ordered non-essential businesses in NY state closed. There are 12,000 confirmed cases in the state and who knows how many untested ones? This is Sunday. Churches are closed. So why do I see cars driving by on both streets? Not as many as usual, but more than expected for a Sunday in these circumstances. So who are those people and where are they going?
Pluvious
(4,315 posts)Or going somewhere open, to get out and walk or jog.
Foraging store to store for TP ?
A break from a noisy household ?
wnylib
(21,601 posts)If so, there are a lot if people in town who felt a need to get out.
Kali
(55,019 posts)-SNIP-
No matter what you touch, soap and water is the best way to remove any potential coronavirus from your hands before it can lead to infection. The coronavirus does not penetrate through skin because your outermost layer is slightly acidic, which prevents most pathogens from entering the body, explains Greatorex.
Soap works so effectively because its chemistry pries open the coronaviruss exterior envelope and cause it to degrade. These soap molecules then trap tiny fragments of the virus, which are washed away in water. Hand sanitizers work similarly by busting apart the proteins contained in a virus.
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wnylib
(21,601 posts)shared laundry room, I am not going to count on just washing my hands with every load. I wipe the parts of the machines that I need to touch, e.g. the coin slots, lid. I can wash my hands when I return to my apt.
When I go to the lobby for my mail and have to touch elevator buttons and two doors going there and returning, plus the mail boxes stacked together in the lobby, I am giing to protect my hands first and then wash them afterward.
Thanks for your info but I will do what I feel is necessary. I am too high risk to take chances.
Hermit-The-Prog
(33,413 posts)Oh, and you're weird. Only weird ocelots are velveteen.
bdamomma
(63,919 posts)and that 1% may be thinking they will come out this clean but they won't, even if they think they are entitled and we are not.
Hermit-The-Prog
(33,413 posts)wnylib
(21,601 posts)in 14th century Europe, too, during the Plague. Depicted in poetry and art of the times.
ansible
(1,718 posts)If you didn't, well I'm sorry but have you just been complaining on DU for the past 4 years instead of actually preparing for the worse?? Of course Trump and his republican asshats were going to run this country to the ground, bad things ALWAYS happen when they're in charge!
Wednesdays
(17,406 posts)Did you hoard food, now well past its expiration date? Or were you the reason all the stores are now devoid of toilet paper and hand sanitizer? Please do enlighten us!
SlogginThroughIt
(1,977 posts)Keeping a food store isnt hoarding. It is smart. My grandparents did it. They were WWII era folks and always had stores if food that they kept. Old stock in front new stock in back.
I slowly built my supply up over time. And now I have what I need. I decided on election day that this turd would put me and my family in danger the first time he had to handle a real crisis and look where we are.
Preparing fir the worst and managing your food supply is NOT hoarding. It is smart household management.
redwitch
(14,946 posts)Good thing we are social distancing.
avlbeerfan
(52 posts)Im so sick of Corona and its not even started.
My wifes an FNP and see`s walkin`s in a minute clinic setting.
Im 60 with health problems and probably will die.
Its like a damn horror novel in real life.
StarryNite
(9,459 posts)sammythecat
(3,568 posts)Everything's fine, then something odd happens. More odd things happen. People get concerned. World leaders get concerned. Military called out to enforce desperate measures and 6 months later we're wearing rags roaming the countryside killing each other and looking for food. A dystopian novel cliche.
God what a mess we find ourselves in. Sailing into a typhoon with a stupid child at the helm.
hlthe2b
(102,351 posts)I and everyone I know works directly in or related to healthcare. My sister, an ER nurse in Atlanta just told me that her hospital, part of Emory, just brought in an ER nurse coworker of hers and intubated her husband--both with COVID-19. She and her coworkers seem to think he was the source-- from his work, rather than the hospital, but...
Now I just got a text from a good friend who is now fully symptomatic 12 days after sitting next to a coughing man on a flight back from Houston. She has lots of risk factors though is not beyond her 60s, both autoimmune factors, and past pneumonia. Her husband is on chemo for malignant cancer, so I'm waiting to hear if she's going to need me to don one of my two remaining N-95 masks and transport her to the hospital. Of course, she is freaked out.
Frankly, although I'm hardly new to any of this-- so am I.
gldstwmn
(4,575 posts)the last two weeks. My goal today is not to cry.
dewsgirl
(14,961 posts)gldstwmn
(4,575 posts)be a good thing long term.
saidsimplesimon
(7,888 posts)my self imposed exile, aka "social distancing". I still hop in my car and run errands, pick up takeout, visit my daughter.
For the past 2 weeks traffic has decreased on a daily basis. It's eerie.
Blaukraut
(5,693 posts)When I allow myself to delve too deeply into our new reality, I tend to freak out. Not just for myself (being in the high risk category) but for the world in general.
jberryhill
(62,444 posts)We got Bruce Willis running around without teeth chasing them down.
wcmagumba
(2,890 posts)the last two times I have gone to my small grocery store there has been less and less, no potatoes...? I live alone and family is estranged, limited resources so even if there is availability of supplies I can't afford to "stock up" for long....very scary times....spending my time on tv binge or playing guitar, reading, surfing DU...I know we'll be ok but....
DarthDem
(5,256 posts)We will indeed be okay. Keep playing your guitar. I bet it sounds great.
wcmagumba
(2,890 posts)feeling better today, all my best to you and all of DU in this unsettled time...
Demonaut
(8,924 posts)two middle aged black women who are always friendly, they went off on how many customers are now rude and racist, open with their distaste for black people, after I paid with my cc I broke out a small bottle of sanitizer, the clerk helping me stuck out her hands for some, they had no protection, I went back to my car and grabbed some medical gloves and some wipes sealed in a bag, I wish I could've done more.
MustLoveBeagles
(11,632 posts)I bet your kindness meant the world to them.
Croney
(4,670 posts)filling up with water, and realizing that Katrina was completely destroying the city that held so many memories for me. How could this be happening? How is this possible?
Now I wake up with that same sadness. How can this be real?
luvallpeeps
(935 posts)Not weird at all. Just when I talk myself off the ledge and start to convince myself that everything will be okay, I stupidly turn on the television and see the menacing yam and I panic again. Of all the people to have running the show at a time like this, we get him. That turns my mind on again, and I start thinking about what could happen, and the cycle begins again.
BComplex
(8,064 posts)My husband works at a cash register, ringing up liquor bottles for sale all day, in a heavily-trafficked area near the capitol of our state. They have provided them with gloves, but the counter is only 2-1/2 feet wide, so he's breathing in everyone else's air all day. There are people buying 8 and 10 bottles at a time....worse than toilet paper!!! They're busy from the minute they open the doors.
He won't quit his job and come home. He says he can't...but he can!
I don't have much hope. I was a heavy smoker for many years, even though I quit many years ago. But I'm older than the danger zone they've been talking about.
Mike 03
(16,616 posts)It's hard to comprehend. I think my mind is doing some trick to protect me from deeply experiencing how dangerous and insane this is. It's not that I'm not terrified and depressed, but it should be a lot worse than it is. It's like watching "Apocalypse Now" for the first time, or something. I'm too busy taking it all in to know what I feel about it.
smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)I almost feel like I am having an out-of-body experience and I am watching this all happening to somebody else. I have been feeling calm and going through the motions, but like you, I am sure my mind is working overtime to protect me from the sheer insanity of what is happening right now.
I just can't quite wrap my mind around it yet. It hasn't really hit me.
PETRUS
(3,678 posts)Like you, my reaction to this is similar to 9/11 (as an aside, I had an international flight that day and landed shortly before the first plane hit). For me, my first thought on 9/11 was - well, something like this was bound to happen sooner or later. That's the way I feel now.
It's my firm conviction that an escalating series of "emergencies" is baked in to our future. We've arranged the global economy in a way that hurts (and pisses off) people - raising political tensions - and is overshooting multiple ecological boundaries. This particular crisis isn't related to that, but the failure of the US system to deal with it effectively is.
So, yes, life feels very strange right now, but I see it as a bit of reality crashing into a long collective habit of denial.
I was gently warning someone the other day that this talk about getting past it, or it being "over" were probably unrealistic, as there will be something else by then. In fact, terrible things will probably happen during this epidemic, like wildfires, hurricanes, earthquakes, man made disasters and other negative force multipliers. It's going to be scary as hell. Resources are going to be spread too thin to handle it. And the cost is inconceivable.
It's terrifying, but the sooner we confront some of these realities, the better.
leighbythesea2
(1,200 posts)Fortunately or unfortunately i had a reason to follow Chinas trajectory in January. I had sent all my technical packages dec 12 because chinese new year was early this year. The factories close so if you want a 1st sample in 6 weeks that was the date. We then had some issues, then it was clear there would be noone in our overseas offices end of January--- then i started to fear for those colleagues health & well being. It was like watching a slow moving wreck. & they locked down Wuhan solid.
I started a convo w my husband. (Same industry) Can you imagine locking down NYC as a comparison? Its coming yet we are "free" here. With a clown in charge. Im honestly mentally on month 3 i think? Probably sounded so chicken little to my family. Prepped in February best i could. Am my moms caregiver so those "extra" thoughts were happening too.
Its not important but product sampling cadences are wrecked. My sisters company is prioritising other counties for production. BUT, the fabric and raw materials are China. So it doesn't matter if US or Vietnam or whoever can make it. No materials.
LastLiberal in PalmSprings
(12,591 posts)I felt sick to my stomach as I listened to him struggle through his victory speech, realizing that this "man" would be leader the Free World for four years of my life. I knew he would damage the country -- I had seen the kind of people who attended his rallies -- but I never imagined he could completely disassemble the national structure and destroy the world economy.
I would rather have a six-year-old child as president right now. At least he'd listen to the advice of people smarter than him.
I blame the Senate Republicans for not removing Trump from office when they had the chance. The blood of each person who dies from this pandemic is on their hands.
kentuck
(111,110 posts)...you knew it was just a matter of time. You just didn't know when? That was the first hint of what was to come.
kpete
(72,013 posts)The Women's March in January helped.
But yes, I still remember SNL's rendition off Hallelujah afterward
Eerie, how yes, WE KNEW and felt the worst was to come
wellness to you,
kp
hamsterjill
(15,223 posts)I didnt go to work the day after the election. I knew. I just knew!
johnthewoodworker
(694 posts)financially. I guess we were unlucky.
Totally Tunsie
(10,885 posts)blinding disbelief, morphing into despair. Suffice it to say, nothing has happened since then to make it any better.
woodsprite
(11,924 posts)In the years since, shes sold some artwork and has a following, got engaged (although with Trump president he may not be able to move to America).
Im 56. I feel that Trump has stolen much more than our money and democracy from all of us. Hes stolen our personal hopes and dreams. My husband and I always dreamed of rving and traveling in our retirement, going up/down the coast doing craft shows - my jewelry, his custom Halloween props. Building a beach box on a piece of property we bought in FL that we could rent out 6 mo out of the year. Cant see any of that happening now. Told hubby we need to have a talk with the kids about what happens if we die during this. What would they would need to do, how things need to happen. At 26 and 19, they shouldnt have to be thinking like that. We thought we were getting through the rough times and looking forward to enjoying our life as travelers, retirerees, future grand parents, but Trump and his cabal of greedy bastards has put ours, and all of Americans hopes/dreams for the future in jeopardy.
MustLoveBeagles
(11,632 posts)I wasn't concerned at first. I'd felt cautiously optimistic that day until about 8:30 when I had a sudden feeling of dread. I spent the rest of that evening hoping my gut feeling was wrong but knowing deep down it wasn't. Went to bed in early morning hours and didn't sleep a wink. Was hoping we'd get through his presidency relatively unscathed but it wasn't to be.
Texaswitchy
(2,962 posts)I have a friend who had heart surgery .
She is getting depressed.
It is raining today so outside.
She talked to.her kids and grandkids today it didn't help.
Brother Buzz
(36,461 posts)It took me a little time to digest the ramifications. But, Boy howdy, it got real real quick.
Definition of pandemic (Entry 1 of 2)
: occurring over a wide geographic area and affecting an exceptionally high proportion of the population
pandemic malaria
The 1918 flu was pandemic and claimed millions of lives.
pandemic noun
pan·dem·ic | pan-ˈde-mik
Definition of pandemic (Entry 2 of 2)
: an outbreak of a disease that occurs over a wide geographic area and affects an exceptionally high proportion of the population : a pandemic outbreak of a disease
Newest Reality
(12,712 posts)I think that is to be expected. In fact, the more you expect and realize it, the less impact it has.
When your way of life is perturbed and and does not align with your expectations of how things should be, that kind of dissonance puts you into shock and that's kind of dream/nightmare like and is very disconcerting at first, until you settle into the reality of it more.
A good metaphor is that your mind/life is like a calm, clear pond on a Spring day when, all of a sudden, a big ol' branch falls into it, stirring up the mud and sending ripples flying out in all directions. It will calm down, clear up and smooth out eventually and you can help it along.
Mike 03
(16,616 posts)Yes, there's something to this.
BamaRefugee
(3,487 posts)Taking off into the night to rain death and terror on people in tiny villages. Those people never knew if any given night was the night they and their families would get hit.
They just knew it was out there, in the dark, and it was coming.
dewsgirl
(14,961 posts)Aristus
(66,452 posts)It's similar to the way I felt when I got my orders to the Gulf in 1991. As active-duty Army, I knew it was a possibility, but being hit with the reality of going, and the underlying risk that I might not come back, was just a little unreal...
spinbaby
(15,090 posts)Felt that way since sometime in 2016.
SCantiGOP
(13,873 posts)and nothing to get hung about
strawberry fields forever
felt this way since 1967
AnotherDreamWeaver
(2,852 posts)They offered a rent free room if I answered the phone and night and forwarded messages. I was not required to pick up bodies, but if I was willing to they would pay me. The one night I stayed there I had the following dream: I was in a church on my knees in front of an alter, there was a rack of candles burning on my right. I kept repeating in prayer, "What is real?" An answer came that I understood with such profoundness that I laughed and cried at the same time. The answer: "It's All Real." I got up and went out a side door which was small, and a few steps in an alcove led to the sidewalk. I sat down on the steps laughing and crying and leaned against the wall of the alcove. Many of my friends and family walking down the sidewalk would come up and ask if I was alright. I answered I was fine, thanks for asking, all was OK through my laughter and tears. When I awoke from that dream I thought I wasn't ready for religion and took the job out of town, helping milk cows on a dairy for a place to stay.
Best Wishes DU,
ADW
3catwoman3
(24,037 posts)...to sleeping in a mortuary. 🐮 🐄
AnotherDreamWeaver
(2,852 posts)HarlanPepper
(2,042 posts)We all react in our own way. Youre fine. To be honest when I want real news or a dose of optimism I dont come here. Ive been leaning hard on BBC News. Here, Its like a contest on who can create the most apocalyptic melodramatic scenarios possible. A cauldron of doom.
SammyWinstonJack
(44,130 posts)HarlanPepper
(2,042 posts)WERE ALL GONNA DIES!111
defacto7
(13,485 posts)and disregard what you don't. I guess a lot of people do that. That's not my thing.
HarlanPepper
(2,042 posts)Not people turning up here after a visit to their local market proclaiming well all be eating our pets by July because they couldnt get hamburger meat. But hey, you do you.
a la izquierda
(11,797 posts)I needed to read this and giggle a little.
HarlanPepper
(2,042 posts)Turin_C3PO
(14,044 posts)pretty much every expert is predicting our economy is going to be seriously fucked up after this. Many more jobless, a sharp gdp contraction, lower DOW, etc. Plus the human toll from this virus is going to be a tragedy. Its no exaggeration to suggest that a million might die in this next year from the virus. Hopefully, well get ahead of it soon and it wont be that dire. These are very uncertain times and we have the worst asshole in the universe leading us.
TwilightZone
(25,476 posts)There does seem to be a preponderance of posters over-hyping a situation that requires none and who believe that their personal anecdotes are representative of the entire country. But that's really nothing new here.
DU is just another source. It's not the best; it's not the worst. But, like most sources, it requires some filtering to get past those who seem intent on disrupting more than providing context or accurate information.
Some of it clearly should be disregarded, just like hyperbole or false info from any other source. That doesn't mean that we hear what we want to hear. It means that we're capable of deductive reasoning and independent verification.
DarthDem
(5,256 posts)Everyone of course means well - except for the maleficent actors, who as usual aren't very good at hiding themselves. But you raise good points.
llmart
(15,552 posts)I read some of DU posts and take a lot of it with a grain of salt, and recall that little nursery tale "Chicken Little" from my elementary school days. But this has always been my personality, so I can actually pity the people who are having panic attacks and fixating on this 24/7.
Politicub
(12,165 posts)The reason I say "kind of" is because I believe that the virus is deadly, and is going to wreak havoc on our society, but right now it seems like American life is in a denial state. Social distancing is important, and I have a firm belief in it being an effective way to flatten the curve, but it seems like others aren't paying attention to the advice at all. I question if I'm taking the advice too seriously.
There was a thread on a local facebook group about where everyone is going to order takeout from this evening. I can't help but think of all of the surfaces where the virus can reside (cardboard pizza boxes, foil wrappers for burritos), and then bringing potentially infected materials into their home. Why would they risk it?
My husband and I have been sheltering in place since Wednesday. That's when I last went to the grocery store. But we haven't hermetically sealed ourselves in, as we probably should. We have ordered some things from Amazon (cardboard boxes that can transfer the virus with items handled by people that may have the virus).
What is coming is so big that I can't wrap my mind around it -- the sickness, overcrowded hospitals, continuing fall of the markets, elections in the midst of all of this... it's a surreal time.
enki23
(7,790 posts)It is all too fucking real. We will be infected in the first wave. I hope we pass through this filter. I hope at least one of us does, for our child's sake. We are mid-40's. She is healthy. I have moderate hypertension, and am on an ACE inhibitor, which leaves me with hard-to-guess choices. But I am otherwise in ok condition. We shall see, I guess. I know that I couldn't possibly be more proud of her. I know that the only thing which could cause me to hate Republicans more is if something were to happen to her or my son.
It's very real to me. I am filled with anxiety, alternating with resignation, and always filled with rage. The anxiety may pass, the resignation may give way to horror and sadness, and, holy shit but I do hope, relief. But the rage, well, that one will stay with me till the day I die. Whenever that may be.
ONn the opposite corner of the country, Im in a rural area, 18 miles from the commercial and medical hub of the region which has become a hot spot over the last 8 days.
The community is mostly poor and/or elderly.
We own the community pharmacy and cant close, were trying our best to keep our staff healthy. Its getting quite stressful.
totodeinhere
(13,058 posts)in an effort to save lives. And not to scare you but I'm sure you are aware of this already. There is some anecdotal evidence out of China that repeated exposure to the virus by health care workers who are otherwise healthy can tend to wear their immune systems down over time and cause them to become more vulnerable.
And this hits home for me too. My younger sister is an RN in Skagit County, Washington doing home health care visits so she is on the front line as well.
NRaleighLiberal
(60,019 posts)dchill
(38,530 posts)Gothmog
(145,530 posts)Sugar Smack
(18,748 posts)youthful, partying, shitfaced, with whatever judgment wiped away, obviously having the time of their lives. They look happy, got their whole lives ahead of them. Except that there's a pandemic lurking that no one can see. We look at them live, and it's like we're already a few scenes ahead of them in the story. It's like waking up into a horror movie with a sort of predictable ending.
KSNY
(315 posts)KSNY
(315 posts)Trump and his crew (exceptions to some scientists) will look for an angle to deceive people during this preventable tragedy (as Bush/Cheney did after 9/11...another preventable tragedy, but with fewer deaths than this will cost) I have doubts about how this will impact the census, the election, and the future of trial by jury (and McConnell pushed through scads of conservative judges), but I believe in science.
Kablooie
(18,641 posts)I'm sure they are spending much time strategizing how to make this a political coup for themselves.
With traditional systems broken down there is ample opportunity for someone to take advantage of the gaps and deficiencies to their own advantage if they concentrate on that instead of helping people.
Trump at least has certainly made that his number one priority and has ordered his underlings to help him.
Kablooie
(18,641 posts)When you go outside the world is still there.
It's not like England in WWII where you hear bombs and see buildings destroyed.
Physically nothing has changed and you can't see the enemy.
At least for those of us that aren't in the medical profession.
For the noble medical service providers I'm sure it's as real and concrete as you can get.
Hugin
(33,198 posts)I'm acutely aware of what you are feeling, though.
I've had no trouble recognizing this is real. But, I'm an outlier and have lived a life where events are always very real. I think it's due to the fact I experienced several existential crises at a very young age. Which, I survived.
There's probably the key. I survived.
And, we will survive this.
Stay helpful, hopeful, and healthy.
The Velveteen Ocelot
(115,833 posts)While there are thousands and thousands of people out there, working on the front lines, risking their lives in hospitals and clinics, people delivering the stuff I need because I'm not going out, the people who are keeping the wheels turning as well as they can in jobs they can't do from home, I just sit at home and fret. I want to do something but I guess my only contribution is a negative one - shelter in place and help flatten the curve, and contribute some money where it can do some good.
Hugin
(33,198 posts)Especially, for intelligent people who have empathy and compassion.
However, the best thing you can do and the biggest contribution you can make at this point in this situation is taking care of yourself. Because, if you are caring for yourself, it frees up resources for the care of those who can't care for themselves.
So, pitch in by not rushing into the fire.
Hang in there! Stay aware of the situation and eventually you'll find your niche.
The Velveteen Ocelot
(115,833 posts)I know the best thing I can do is just hunker down and try to wait it out, but I feel so guilty because I'm not out there doing something - I'm just letting other people wait on me by delivering things I've ordered. Yes, that means they have jobs so I guess that's something - I'm contributing in a small way to the economy, at least until I run out of money too. Good thing I'm already on a diet.
lordsummerisle
(4,651 posts)that was one small way of giving back.
wnylib
(21,601 posts)I want to be able to do something. But I am a senior with health concerns. The best I can do is to avoid getting sick, not just for myself, but to avoid further burdening the system.
But I'm thinking that another way we can help ourselves and each other, within our limits, is to create some balance in our lives by sharing positive news, anecdotes, and humor. Take more breaks from it all at the DU Lounge on threads totally unrelated to the pandemic, economy, and politics.
That is not a refusal to face reality. It is a recognition that mental AND physical health require a balance through R & R. I have a wooden plaque that I could not resist buying when I saw it. It says, "Life is not about waiting for the storn to pass. It is about learning to dance in the rain."
flibbitygiblets
(7,220 posts)I've been a teleworker for years, part of a virtual team spread across the country. I interact with colleagues all day long, and literally everyone continues to do their jobs and act like total professionals, as if nothing catastrophic were happening. The sense of normalcy is at once comforting and disconcerting; I find myself sometimes wondering if I am weak or overreacting. Because no one mentions breaking down and crying now and then. I don't mention it either, but it happens.
So far though, most of what I feel is gratitude. For my job, my family, and for the decisions I made in the past few years (like trips we took that seemed extravagant at the time). I'm glad for the times I listened to the voice that said "you only live once".
uppityperson
(115,678 posts)And there is nowhere. I'm in WA and been focusing on our state, am aghast at what's happening everywhere.
The majority of people will come through this OK. A minority won't. There are risk factors, but for each of us as individuals, we don't know if we will be OK. What we do now will not show an immediate effect, but will in 2 weeks. This is hard for many to comprehend.
As far as the economy? IDK.
You are not alone.
BlueJac
(7,838 posts)PWPippinesq
(195 posts)i also find myself emerging from isolation as in "On the Beach" and finding no one in sight. Well, maybe a few walking dead. Then, I listen to Governor Cuomo and find the world righting itself, again. I appreciate his measured tone, fact based presentations and humanity while sharing his personal struggles with the pandemic, like family decisions about where it is best for his mother to be. I wish Trump could be muzzled and the true scientific experts would be allowed to lead without having to correct his lies.
stopwastingmymoney
(2,042 posts)For wild fires a couple times in the last few years. This feels similar in mood to that.
I dont know if its good that were prepared or bad that were becoming accustomed to this kind of crazy
The best part of my day is dog park time. We have a puppy so she has to get out. Attendance is light but steady, were grateful to still have something pleasant to do
Be well everyone
Evolve Dammit
(16,760 posts)a few weeks ago, or even yesterday. I would say you are 100% normal! Of course, I'm not a Psychologist, but since I'm the same way, I say we're good!
Quote from another poster: "All we got were lies. Saying its fake, by saying this is a Democratic hoax. There are still people today who believe that, to their detriment. Speaking as a public health person, this is the most irresponsible act of an elected official that I've ever witnessed in my lifetime".
Initech
(100,100 posts)Everything that I used to be able to do now seems like a pipe dream. And I too keep staring at the news hoping that something will show a sign of things getting better. And then it seems to get worse, which only amplifies my anxiety.
DarthDem
(5,256 posts)There are several forums out there with dedicated discussions of good news and hopeful news, like reddit. And of course you can do a search for good or uplifting news. That has helped me. I hope it might help you.
malaise
(269,157 posts)while we are trying to process this - not good.
Scarsdale
(9,426 posts)is sky high, they will add to it with bailouts to rich companies. Then when it settles down, the SS fund and Medicare funds will be depleted, so then they get their wish of ending both. They likely have stock in medical supplies, so all is well for them. Meanwhile, their pensions will be secure. Why do we have to ensure their pensions, when they all retire as millionaires? Not only that, their pensions increase with every raise the working politicians get. I use "working" loosely, since they hardly "work". Their healthcare is ensured, too. Imagine that! Screw taxpayers over for a living, then retire and do the exact same thing.
A HERETIC I AM
(24,376 posts)And by 'wrong time' I mean when the hospitals are overwhelmed.
I am almost 2 years without a cigarette and prior to that day, I was in the hospital on average every 8 months for the previous 5 years for serious COPD attacks.
I know I am high risk. I've been thinking about it quite a lot, and the fact is, if it comes on for me in a quick way, as I have read that some people do experience the worst of it, I'm fucking doomed.
If there is no where to put me - no ICU beds available, no respirator, no nothing because every hospital in a 100 mile radius is utterly packed, what am I going to do?
My job requires that I drive a different truck almost every time I get behind the wheel, and I have no idea if the guy that drove it before me was a walking test tube or not. I took a trip last night and cleaned the steering wheel off with a wet wipe and it came away dark brown! Most of our trucks do not get cleaned on the inside at all. I'm taking paper towels and a bottle of alcohol with me now, as well as my own water and coffee so I don't have to go into truck stops. I can pee alongside the road if I have to.
All this is new protocol for me within the last few days. I flew across the country last Monday and posted pics as I went and I still feel just fine, but I have a chronic dry cough anyway as a result of my 40 years of smoking as well as a sinus infection that won't clear up no matter what I do, so I'm just waiting for the first signs of fever.
My older brother lives with me and we have agreed to treat each other like we are contagious. I keep to my side of the house and he his. We are taking the precautions we can. I cleaned off the door handles and everything else I touched with alcohol when I came home early this morning.
It's all in the timing. If the cases stay below the rate at which the hospitals can handle it, and provided the medical staff stay healthy enough to work, it might work out.
But I have realized that this could very well kill me, along with possibly millions of other humans.
And there isn't a damned thing I can do about it.
So no, you aren't being too weird.
AnotherDreamWeaver
(2,852 posts)Have you ever tried snorting salt water up your nostrils?
There was a post the other day about it on DU. I have done it when having a bad cold/flu.
The salt water should be boiled to sterilize it, and allowed to cool. I made a pint the other day and gargle with some too, just to be on the safe side.
Many Blessings with your work,
ADW
barbtries
(28,811 posts)i saw it rolling out quite awhile ago, but it does feel surreal at times for sure. best example i can think of is that both my son who lives with me and i agree we will probably get it, but neither of us thinks we'll die from it. Now, logically and reasonably, I know there's a real chance that we could die from it. especially me, but him too.
fact is though, acknowledging that does not mean it would make sense for us to shut the door, seal up the house, and hunker down. life goes on and it has to. worry and fear are real, but not useful.
none of us, not a single one, has lived through times like these. the rare exception would not recall what it was like. it's unprecedented.
to try to save lives, we're all alone. in this, we're not alone. I am so thankful for technology!
Chainfire
(17,620 posts)I am stunned that we are running out of medical devices, like a damn banana republic. The stupid bastard has killed, and will kill, a lot of Americans with his arrogance and his ignorance. We all knew we had a fool in the White House, but we are only now realizing how bad the results such an error can be. Of course, 40% of us are still making excuses and looking for scapegoats. Nothing appears to have changed there yet. I saw a suggestion on a gun forum, earlier today, that we "nuke" China over the Chinese virus from one of the lesser clowns who put the chief clown in office. The president's words have consequences.
For the time being, I have to be content that I have done everything I know to protect myself, I have no further control over the situation and I am just a spectator to the big show. I woke up this morning and I said to myself, "Good luck self." Now lets spin the wheel!
Pobeka
(4,999 posts)and for the most part, the rest of the world, including the USA, completely wasted that time to prepare for the arrival of the virus. Prepare in terms of having testing ready, public education, health care system resources amped up. It was not a mystery what was going to happen, the only mystery was would it happen in a month, or two months...
AlexSFCA
(6,139 posts)Feel lack of ability to react to humor, feel like Im stressed on adrenaline every day. I would not say depressed yet just cause everyone is going through same thing and there is a sense of community rather than a sense of division now. Either way dar feeling, hard to get excited about anything. Oddly enough, for the first time in my life, I miss traffic.
panader0
(25,816 posts)There was already a long line into the parking lot. In about 10 minutes it had doubled.
I was amazed. I've lived outside this town for forty years. I used the word surreal to
a fellow line person. They just nodded. When it opened at 6am, there was no tp, no
beans or rice and almost no meat. Some cans of soup.
Was able to score some tp when Wal-Mart opened at 7. Again the line was unreal. When the doors opened people raced to the paper aisle, which had been empty the day before.
It was crazy. Cray, cray!
But I have an eight pack of tp. I hope it lasts until the madness ends.
In the mean time I stay on my acreage. Walk in the trees. I have hung out at
home for a few years now since I retired, so no problem there. But no more music
sessions with my friends...........
DarthDem
(5,256 posts)Who knows? It may be sooner than we think. Best to you.
Bernardo de La Paz
(49,036 posts)Personally, I'm not struggling with the reality of this.
I accepted it long ago (about 6 weeks ago), and made some preparations a couple of weeks ago before self-isolating to achieve social distancing. I still walk the dog with a friend some days, but we don't face each other as we talk and walk.
I monitor the course of the statistics, perhaps too frequently, multiple times a day, and I'm not surprised.
The most worrying thing is tRump, but I can't do a thing about him, so I don't worry about him, even as I loathe and despise him, avoiding hot hate.
The Magistrate
(95,255 posts)In terms of risk from disease, it is as if we have been transported back in time a century or so, if not more. It is frightening, and it does not matter if one dwells on that or not, the danger is there just the same. The nearest to comfort from it for me is accepting the outcome will be largely a matter of chance, and outside my control.
lynintenn
(648 posts)there was no meat, bread, milk. After that, I panicked shopped and bought things out of fear just like everyone else in the store was doing. My son lives near Chicago and is working from home since someone is his office tested positive last week. My grandchildren are out of school for the rest of the academic year.
murielm99
(30,761 posts)Dubya supposedly said that. For once, he was right.
It has been unreal since election night, 2016. And that seems like a thousand years ago. Usually, I am so busy that time flies. Every day since election night 2016 has been a long one. Will it ever end?
I knew he would kill us all, but not like this. The Jewish people here might criticize me, but this is a holocaust.
bdamomma
(63,919 posts)Assad, instead of poison gas it's a viral pandemic.
iamateacher
(1,089 posts)USA Today, Feb 5th, 2020. Headlines: China going to prosecute officials who let Covid 19 get out of control, U.S. had 11 cases, WHO official said COvid 19 was not a pandemic and urged countries not to impose travel restrictions, and Anthony FaucI expressed disappointment that an HIV vaccine had not worked out....
kimbutgar
(21,185 posts)No day program just hanging out in his room. We picked him up for his every other weekend home And he is having troubling grasping the enormity of this situation. We told him life is going to change and we have to be flexible and accept whatever happens. He seems to grasp that this virus kills people and you have to wash your hands and today we took him to Lowes and I made him wear gloves. When we got home we washed our hands again.
But I hear your concern and fears, life as we know it will change and Im trying to not be scared or think negative (except for that orange maggot anus who appears on tv everyday mocking reality] My older sister is freaking out and getting depressed. I work as a substitute No jobs for the next three weeks, hubby works for the airlines and so far they have offered to cut his hours or he takes his unused sick days. But maybe this might be the thing that brings families back together and people go back to cooking for the,selves and helping out that elderly neighbor who is housebound. We have to look for the positives and be optimistic.
marlakay
(11,488 posts)It will be over soon but the realist in me says this is going to last for a long time.
I am slowly starting a new life, my dance class and my bookclub are both on zoom now.
We did a FB meeting with my 2 adult daughters and my 92 yr old mom for 2 hrs this morning with dogs and cats and kids and husbands walking in and out so we felt together. We decided to do this more often since most of us are inside. My older daughter busy manager is down from 300-400 employees to 50 at her car dealership and half the office girls out. She has private office and tries to stay there as much as possible. She is totally exhausted from calming people down all week, she was in bed still at 11am when we started and didnt get up till the end.
My grandkids start virtual school next week.
My biggest fear is Trump, I read my state asked for money before Florida and only got 10% while Florida got it all. I think he is going to use this to cripple and kill the blue states.
I am not a person who hates but I hate him with a burning fire. I wish we could descend on the white house with pitch forks and fire.
Lulu KC
(2,572 posts)I wake up in the morning and it's kind of like when you've first moved into a new place and it takes a minute before saying, "Oh, yeah, we live here now."
I just read that other counties in my state are asking residents to self-quarantine for two weeks after visiting ours. 26 cases, first death today.
Then read that our entire metro area is going into stay-at-home mode officially on Tuesday at midnight.
We have been living that way for 10 days already. Every day it gets a little easier, as we identify our real needs and ways to deal with irritations and frustrations.
And still--every morning--it's another day of, "Oh, yeah, we live here now."
trocar
(243 posts)^^^^ a word I never use, and yet it seems right.
yaesu
(8,020 posts)believed is that history repeats itself. No one is truly prepared for it but like other past calamities this will pass, it will greatly change the way we do some things but we will adjust.
Delmette2.0
(4,169 posts)I remember my reaction to 9/11. I was numbed for days.
Election night 2016 I was incredulous, then there was a knot in my stomach and hopes pinned on the Electoral College. Every hope faded away by the end of January 2017.
I'm with my sister today in her small mountain town. We both know we are likely to not survive C-19.
We worry about her grandchildren. I of course worry about my son who can now work from home. But, his wife just got a job at the local hospital, patient admissions. Holy S***.
I will probably not see the end of this virus or a vaccine. I do want to see the end of Trump and his administration.
In the mean time I hover over the news (again) hoping for good news and try to not be anxious and depressed.
ooky
(8,928 posts)I try to avoid dwelling on the bad stuff as much as possible. Everyone is scared out of their minds for all the reasons you mentioned. Very little we can do except distance ourselves from the virus the best we can and just try to keep ourselves in the basic necessities until something breaks. But it is definitely not weird to feel the way you are feeling, and probably would be more weird if you didn't.
Warpy
(111,336 posts)What I'm having trouble wrapping my head around is the degree of blind panic out there.
Leith
(7,813 posts)It's surreal, dangerous, and there's nothing I can do to help. I felt the same way when I saw the news about the tsunami in NE Japan.
It makes a lot of difference that we have each other here.
tavernier
(12,398 posts)It helps to go to a park, walk, watch kids playing. There will always be children playing somewhere. Im in the tropics so I walked past a pool in a county park today and heard the kids shouting MARCO POLO with screams of laughter as splashing commenced. Many of us oldies may not live through it, but life will spring anew.
bucolic_frolic
(43,273 posts)Suggest reading books about World War II. Feel the ingenuity, the struggle, the ability to cope, the frayed nerves. Bios - FDR, Churchill, the war years, SOE, resistance. It is remarkable how many books about this period have come out after Trump seized office. Some written by Brits practically pave the way to resistance. They show how seemingly small decisions, spur of the moment, backed by capability of previously unknown use, won the day here and there. The carrier pigeons that communicated with the French underground. Winnie's ad hoc development of specialty sabotage devices. FDR orchestrating theaters of war, foreign leaders, personalities (De Gaulle in particular) and the right sequence of battlefield deployments. Doolittle's raid on Tokyo was FDR's project. So was Torch. Someone seduced Stalin. It wasn't Churchill.
IOW sharpen the mind for the years ahead. Learn from great successful decisions.
mommymarine2003
(261 posts)It is a beautiful day in the Pacific Northwest today, and everything feels so "almost" normal. There are lots of people walking around and many working in their yards. Still you can feel the undercurrents of worry. I went to the post office this morning. We stood about 6 feet apart, but then you are only about two feet apart when you speak to the postal worker. She was wearing a mask and was very worried about getting sick. I still go walking every morning with my friends, although we try to stay 6 feet apart.
My son-in-law works in a very large care facility in Tacoma, WA. My daughter has compromised lungs from nearly dying a years ago. She is terrified of him exposing her to the virus, and many times I have had to calm her down over the phone. He is, as you can imagine, extremely stressed working in a health care profession. They have two boys who start school over the Internet next week. My youngest lives in Seattle and works for the Seattle Fire Department but not as a firefighter. He knows a lot about what is going on up there, but he cannot talk about it. He plays soccer on the field where King County is setting up the field hospital. They have little ones, and the 6-year-old is climbing the walls. My middle son lives in Oregon, but they have a new baby, so we have decided that it is best that we all just communicate by phone for the time being. My children call more often, so that might be the only plus in this massive nightmare. We were up in Seattle the first weekend this month right when everything was starting to get going in Kirkland, WA and the first announcement of a case in Oregon. Now we don't know when we can get back up to see all our kids and grand-kids.
I have had a couple of mini-meltdowns, usually when I hear a song that gets to me or worrying about my family. My husband, youngest son, and 6-year-old grandson are all asthmatics, so that freaks me out a bit. Am trying to say optimistic. All my kids are still employed, so that is good. We are having a 6-feet apart "party" in a neighbors' driveway at 5 today while the weather is good. It is bring your own drinks and snacks and sit far apart. I think we all our are trying to keep our sanity and humanity.
treestar
(82,383 posts)or anyone that knows anyone that has it.
warmfeet
(3,321 posts)It's like being in an episode of the Twilight Zone or in the novel "Through the Looking Glass." I have felt like this since November 2016, but much more so now. I just hope we all come out the other side.
greatauntoftriplets
(175,749 posts)They'd roll down the streets, pushed by someone who would call out "Bring out your dead!"
I also think of my grandmother when my mortician grandfather was embalming dead soldiers. He caught it and died from the complication of pneumonia at age 36.
It's scary.
Beringia
(4,316 posts)They say 80% will get the virus at some point.
My siblings have not posted anything on FB about it. I am the only one to be posting about it. Thank goodness for Democraticunderground in situations like this.
The Genealogist
(4,723 posts)And while doing some walking earlier, I also arrived at 9/11. I feel like there are a conflict in my mind, knowing that this is real, yet feeling that it just can't be this crazy. I had much the same feeling on 9/11, where I knew what I was seeing was real, yet, it just can't be.
Woodwizard
(846 posts)Had the whole year planned out most of it is out the window.
But find other things to do social media and 24 hour news just creates more anxiety.
TexasBushwhacker
(20,213 posts)I'm struggling with the fact that we will have more dead people because him.
I'm struggling with the fact that we could have been prepared, but we weren't. We knew a pandemic would come, just not when. Despite 100s of billions of dollars spent on healthcare every year, we have little preparedness built into our system. We don't have enough hospital beds or ventilators. We're running out of the most basic supplies, like face masks, in a matter of weeks.
lillypaddle
(9,581 posts)and it is magnified by the fact that we have an incompetent, lying POS as president. God help us.
I alternate between tears, worrying about my family, and total denial. And in the midst of it all, I developed cellulitis in my leg, and have to go in to an infectious disease doc to get antibiotic infusions. So much for self isolation.
ancianita
(36,132 posts)When habit and bubble-world views are the standard, seeing reality can feel weird and called weird. But no, you're not weird at all.
Death is close by for people all over the world. And it's messy. That we're feeling it here, by the millions, does create an anxiety we're not used to. I now talk readily with anyone, and they with me, and we have this world crisis to make us connect as human.
I'm trying to ready myself for death. Getting papers in order; my kids have called to make sure they can locate everything in that event. Surprisingly, even they don't think that's weird. They share with me that our lives feel darker.
When I'm anxious, I've developed a habit of going out at night, looking as far as possible, so that I remember my place. Daytimes, I go out and search for big sky places to be for awhile. Being in nature can be comforting.
As for no end in sight, consider that IF45's "big press" is on to now just get this thing "over with," because that devil has every incentive to "solve" the problem he helped create in time for the RNC in August, so he'll have something to act all presidenty about. So that might bring an end in sight,and not the original 18 months of misery that were predicted. New tech is coming up with great fever surveillance, and vaccine trials are going on.
Short term, we all know there will be a lot of death, lowered contamination rates. Down the road, vaccine availability, and future hot spot vigilance by health experts. New public health majors will graduate; more doctors and nurses, more databases shared across the public health world.
More positively, besides new laws enacted, checks cut, we and the world just won't ever be the same. Humans will be newly appreciated, not seen as expendable, like before, and newly understood as the greatest asset nations have. Corporations don't want to face it, but they'll learn that it will still take a long time for them to make their wealth, or have their health care without humans. Maybe the internal life of corporations will change because of the huge death numbers we face.
To me, the good news is that the more closely this pandemic gets connected to climate change, the more motivated the wealthy are to end fossil driven climate change so they aren't swept away in some new, even worse pandemic waves, as well. And maybe my grandson will have an okay life.
We're all doing the best we can. There's nothing weird about any of that.
wendyb-NC
(3,329 posts)I get wigged out having to go to the grocery store, or pharmacy. I want to avoid contact, because how do you know if someone has been exposed and incubating the Covid-19 virus. It is one awkward dilemma.
Laura PourMeADrink
(42,770 posts)Shitty equipment/tests infuriated me - like a 10.
TheFarseer
(9,326 posts)RandySF
(59,193 posts)AdamGG
(1,294 posts)If you told me in 2012 that there was a pandemic virus that had jumped species from a bat through a pangolin that had shut down nearly all human activity and that Donald Trump was President of the United States running the country in league with Vladimir Putin, I would have thought that that sounded like a really bad sci-fi movie, maybe starring Sylvester Stallone.
The Velveteen Ocelot
(115,833 posts)Steelrolled
(2,022 posts)Let's list some of the reality.
Yes it is here and spreading
We know the number of people who had symptoms and were tested positive, and this number is growing rapidly.
We know that the severity of the illness varies a lot. We suspect there are a lot of people who had it, or who have it, and don't realize it (or certainly not being treated).
We know that is has been brought under control (to some degree) in several Asian countries.
We know more than 20 vaccines are in the process of development and they are moving as fast as they can. One vaccine has started human testing in the US. See this:
https://www.npr.org/2020/03/21/818759617/i-wanted-to-do-something-says-mother-of-2-who-is-first-to-test-coronavirus-vacci
It won't go on forever, but it could be a long time. We in the US have had some head-start in terms of school and business closing, shelter-in-place, etc.
Bmoboy
(273 posts)When I was born I didn't know how to speak any language. Slowly I learned to copy and eventually spoke and understood English.
But it took a while.
This (and I don't even have a word for this thing yet) is happening too quickly for me to process.
I have no familiar references. And I was a nurse for over 40 years.
Atmospheric nuke testing when I was a kid, asbestos insulation in my elementary school, Vietnam draft, dioxin, Swine flu, H1N1, Zika, Y2K, 9/11, the list of threats goes on.
But they developed more slowly or were hidden for years.
This is coming at us too fast and too big.
And I don't know enough to know what I don't know.
area51
(11,920 posts)emmaverybo
(8,144 posts)to complete horror. Most of us will have it better. And it is not a mass evil that led us here unless
you count Trump and company.
I am still processing a day at a time.
I think of twilight zone stories too, but also, on the side of reality our ancestors living through 1918, wars, holocaust, slavery.
I might feel much less sanguine when I see army trucks taking the bodies away, when our great research hospital is reduced to gurneys full of patients in its hallways flailing for breath, when my neighbors are dead, and the little shopping center I walked to today shuttered. And when I, or worse, my daughter is one of those flailing patients.
Raine
(30,540 posts)to remind myself that all through out history people have awful things they have to deal with. Knowing what the Franks and all those in the Annex had to go thru gives me courage and helps put this whole thing into prospective
emmaverybo
(8,144 posts)GoCubsGo
(32,088 posts)Yeah, it does have that 9/11 feeling about it. The 2008 economic crash, as well. I'm dealing with it alright, but it is damn stressful. The worst part is that I usually work my stress off at the gym. It's still open, but classes are all cancelled. Home work-outs just don't do it for me. I may break down and go in for a swim tomorrow. I had the pool to myself much of the time on Tuesday. Hopefully, it will be the same should I break down and go tomorrow.
empedocles
(15,751 posts)implications, triggers, stress points, collapse points . . .
It may not be, as is casually claimed, entirely uncharted territory.
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LuckyCharms
(17,455 posts)colsohlibgal
(5,275 posts)I live alone at this point and do well with getting by. I love to read and have multiple books I have and have not read. I have DVDs galore. And so on. I frequently text with my two children, my younger Sister, and my close gal pals.
And...nothing is stopping us from getting in our cars and driving around a bit.
So far so good.
jimlup
(7,968 posts)this is the worst situation I have experienced in my lifetime and I'm 62.
AirmensMom
(14,648 posts)I am the only person in my circle of friends & family who is absolutely terrified. The only person Im seeing at all is my husband. He went out for breakfast this morning, just like he does every Saturday morning. Its safe, dont ya know, because no one else is there except the server and cook. The breakfast isnt even very good, but its worth risking our lives for, I guess.
But at least today he stopped teasing me for being so scared. Gotta start somewhere.
GulfCoast66
(11,949 posts)Because my science education taught me about this kind of thing. We have actually been very lucky to avoid a pandemic since my grandparents were children. It is playing out like most predicted it would.
Now our political leadership is somewhat of another matter. Not a total surprise if you read history. But it sucks my wife and I have to go thru a period of rampant nationalism overlaid with a pandemic.
But to someone how has read much history and does not believe in American exceptionalism it is not shocking.
JudyM
(29,270 posts)Blue_true
(31,261 posts)adequate credit for the job that it did tackling the coronavirus. Even with Trump in charge, when I heard about the first case here, I figured that we would be far superior in controlling it. Of course I didn't factor in the graft, incompetence and lying that we are seeing.
Marrah_Goodman
(1,586 posts)In most places people are still out and about spreading it around. What worries me is how people are going to react when the real dying starts. This is not mom in a hospital bed, you holding her hand while she passes. This is people dying alone, in isolation. You can't visit . Funerals... probably not by that point. Over the last decade I have read most books out there on viruses and epidemiology. This is the airborne one that the experts having been dreading.
On top of it all this happened when we have an imbecile at the helm. My daughter works in a hospital. She and her coworkers have no masks. I am making them, they are thrilled to have anything, even if it is not 100% effective. We are going to start seeing a lot of healthcare workers becoming very ill.
It only all seems half real, like a bad dream. All we can do is try to not make things worse and survive. I think that the world will not be the same after this. At least not our country. All major chage needs a catalyst, this is a catalyst. Let us hope the changes are in the right direction.
Stay safe everyone.
58Sunliner
(4,394 posts)I finally feel a little better today. I have a degree in respiratory therapy and I will not enter a public place without a mask, goggles and now I wear a jumpsuit, either Tyvek or the one cloth one I have. I also wear a beanie with my hair under it. It's like being in natural disaster movie where you know people are going to die, and the crisis is going to unfold. And I don't know what to do except try to help people around me and support people as much as I can. I look at other people who are not seemingly using precautions and wonder how it is we are having parallel lives. I saw Fauci the other day on tv downplaying the risk of air transmission, and wonder how the fuck he can do that. It's a respiratory viral infection. Of course it can picked up by breathing. Gonna bet that is a big issue. These ugly bastards are trying to kill us.
In It to Win It
(8,283 posts)I wouldn't have guess that the whole world would have basically stopped a week ago.
Raine
(30,540 posts)a horrible sick feeling of dread. 😩
applegrove
(118,771 posts)trauma. I am definitely not reacting like i normally would. I can't see my dad. All i can do is make cotton masks for the staff in his building when the supplies arrive and pray that with great healthcare in the city run nursing home he lives in, they will not have an outbreak. I am scared for a number of things. Last week it was poor people in the US and Africa i was afraid for. This week it is family. So i think i'll break down and cry any time now.
Cha
(297,595 posts)is to be going about our business dealing with life and then do a 180 dealing with life and death the next day.
It wouldn't have happened like that if we had gotten Hillary for our Leader.
I drift in and out of it being real.. the more we have to go out and get supplies and keep ourselves protected while doing so the more it sinks in.
sprinkleeninow
(20,254 posts)yodermon
(6,143 posts)Not even joking
LittleGirl
(8,291 posts)and you know youre safe in bed but you still scream.
That feeling lasts all day and you cant shake it.
And repeat.
Bettie
(16,124 posts)and it doesn't help to know that we have the worst possible people in charge of this.
Trueblue Texan
(2,440 posts)This virus has shut down the entire world and its economies. We have never had anything like this. We don't know what is to come and it is important that we stay awake so that we can help steer our direction into a truly kinder and more accountable system of economies and society.
ClusterFreak
(3,112 posts)...moment of my lifetime. I even thought this two weeks ago. What's happening now is so far beyond my meagre imagination of what my life might look like, it feels like a dystopic dream.
ecstatic
(32,729 posts)But, nope. This is the result of allowing a grossly unfit and incompetent person to be president.
Right now, we're at the mercy of the most evil, heartless and corrupt thugs. It's terrifying. My worst fears are bring realized in a spectacular fashion.
On top of wondering if I or my loved ones will survive, I'm also worried the GOP will use this situation to grant themselves absolute power.
I've called the trump presidency a nightmare since day 1. I don't even know what to call this phase of it.
Alliepoo
(2,225 posts)I ask the universe or what/whoever is out there to keep my son safe. He works for a property development/management company that has sunk a big chunk of $$ in a huge new development in central Ohio. All of the other similar companies around him have their people working from home and if a client wants to see a condo model, they are sent a virtual tour. He said their street is a ghost town and theyre the only office open. Boss was in the other day to say business as usual. That means daily face to face contact w the public and riding in elevators to show properties etc. My son said people must be bored because they are busy. Why are folks out looking at luxury condos right now? And why hasnt Mike DeWine shut this crap down? My son moved in with us a few months ago to save $$ to buy a house so whatever cooties he picks up at work hes bringing home to us. While we are in pretty good health, were in that age group. Im guessing its inevitable that we 3 will all be infected with this at some point. Hope not but my usual optimism is becoming more difficult to muster up. I know that so many have it much worse than us but Ive already lost a daughter to drunk drivers-I cant bear to lose my son to this when its something that can be avoided.
The best thing he can do for you is to keep his distance from you when he first comes home. He should wash his hands using the proper technique and dry them and the sink faucet with a paper towel. Then he should go back with a sanitary wipe and swipe down any surface that he has touched since he got home. After that, I am sorry to say, he should keep his distance from you as best he can, but the hand-washing and surface wiping are the most important. I speak from my experience here in Italy where these precautions are now second nature. Good luck to you and your son!
Alliepoo
(2,225 posts)It is much appreciated!! I will be sure that he/we follows what you say! Stay safe and well!!
highplainsdem
(49,032 posts)I have to admit I'm pinning my hopes on medication being developed or effectively repurposed to treat the more severe cases so that ventilators won't be as necessary.
My own life hasn't changed too drastically because I'm retired, and a homebody. And I was stocked up on most items even before all the news about empty store shelves, because I tend to stock up on anything (ideally when on sale) that can be stocked up on in autumn, before I have to worry about possible winter storms making it harder to get to the store very safely. There weren't very many such storms so I added more to those stocks over the winter, rather than depleting them.
I'm in my 60s so theoretically more at risk because of age, but I have no health problems, take no prescriptions.
I'm very worried about people including family members at more risk than myself, though, because of age and/or health problems and/or hospital, nursing home and homeless-shelter jobs, and/or caregiving responsibilities.
I'm trying not to over-focus on news, but I hafta admit that even though I have Netflix and Roku, I'm really not that interested in binge-watching TV. Honestly, I've never understood people who could. I've started rereading books I read last more than 40 years ago, but I'm discovering I still remember them pretty well, though not in every small detail. I haven't bought many new books for years, since I'd simply run out of room for them, and these days I don't want to go to the local library, though I think it's still open.
So I log in here, and I scan for tweets and for news from other sites that might be interesting enough to post.
And when I can, I try to post any info I find that might be helpful in this crisis, and that anyone can afford and use:
https://www.democraticunderground.com/100213057252
https://www.democraticunderground.com/100213100961
centrarchus
(62 posts)JustABozoOnThisBus
(23,364 posts)This one seems more personal, though. Stresses: I might die, I might not find toilet paper, I might have to eat ramen.
Texin
(2,597 posts)It's impossible to see what's happening and not know in one's gut that there is a very deliberate quality to tRump's inaction.
I know he can't will the production of a vaccine or some kind of antiviral that will work for everyone infected, but there are test kits available from overseas. The fact that he hasn't invoked the Defense Protection Act seems proof beyond a reasonable doubt that he actually wants a huge percentage of Americans to die from this disease. I think he's betting that he'll be okay and remain healthy - and he'll certainly have all the advantages in this. As will all the other wealthy and protected members of their ilk. The fact that he's got Barr going about trying to suspend habeas corpus throughout the land seems to me the clearest signal that he's preparing for a sort of dystopian U.S. version of Mad Maxx and an even clearer signal that he is going nowhere. If anyone is still laboring under the pleasant fiction that there's actually going to be an election in November, I'm telling you it's not going to happen.
Jarqui
(10,130 posts)And I'm worried about witnessing us helpless to reduce the suffering that is about to be riddled within our news.
mvd
(65,180 posts)So yes, it feels unreal. It is unlike anything I have ever been through, and I am always scared about how bad things will get. PA increased another 108 cases. Trump, as expected, has been awful but I have hope in state and local officials.
LudwigPastorius
(9,167 posts)entering an alternate universe.
I'm not convinced that some high-energy particle experiment at CERN didn't create some strange matter that split us off from the original timeline we were on.
mwf
(25 posts)Yes, we can walk our dogs for short distances. We can go out to buy groceries or medicine and for other essentials. We carry a document with us that states the reason for being out on the street. Most of us are following the procedures conscientiously, but even here in Italy where people should know better, there are the defiant complainers who go out anyway.
demigoddess
(6,644 posts)Under The Radar
(3,404 posts)....to our excesses and our idleness. For those that survive this, I hope your eyes are opened and you create concrete rules and regulation to prevent it from happening again and have a much better response to it in the event that it does happen again.
Yea and I consider the a Trump Presidency a crisis in itself.
BumRushDaShow
(129,414 posts)except it is happening, in slow-motion, just about everywhere.
All week, I have been watching the careful "shutdown" of cities and states - and it was obviously planned (to a degree) to do this gradually vs abruptly, which would cause immediate public backlash.
It reminds me of how they took every aircraft out of the sky late that 9/11 day - every single one (plane, helicopter, blimp, ballon, etc) and only had CAPs running. Living under flight paths between airports here in Philly, you get so used to something flying overhead (whether large commercial jets or small private jets or some news helicopter) it was eery to having nothing - and notably at night when you have gotten accustomed to looking up and seeing carefully spaced lights departing, circling, or landing.
The U.S. and its functional society is a HUGE juggernaut and watching the effort to bring the machinery to a halt is just breathtaking.
I suppose as a lesson from 9/11 and the air traffic example, the easier part was to take the planes out of the air (they landed at whatever was the closest airport and parked). But the harder part was to get the air-traffic system back up and running again - moving planes out of "non-home" locations and getting them back home when "foreign" planes were parked at their homes... and that required a high level of coordination to do all the shifting to make it so. It was a massive undertaking, but it was eventually done.
But bringing the U.S. back up and running is going to take an unimaginable effort.
sorrybushisfromtexas
(488 posts)Most of the comments on local media are this is a liberal plot to bring down our Savior, President Donald Trump. I am a 70 yr. old semi retired Science Teacher. I am not surprised by the virus at all, My father lost his mother in the flu epidemic of 1918. Knowing the way virus can mutate it is not going to do anything but get worse. A vaccine in 12 to 18 months will be part of an answer. I am afraid that this will bring America to its knees economically , emotionally, and health wise. Hoping that I am wrong!
Dennis Donovan
(18,770 posts)I'm trying to absorb everything I'm watching on TV or reading here and on Twitter because the more I know, the better I can keep myself, or my loved ones, safe. I've discovered that it comes with a price. Almost daily panic episodes. Most are mild, just typical agita one might feel before going to the dentist or having to take an exam. I've had a few, however, that caused a rapid heartbeat coupled with lightheadedness. It passes after a short time, but it gets your attention.
This is scary stuff. Scariest of our lifetimes. But, we have something that past generations haven't in times of crisis - the internet. We have access to knowledge and real time information. That gives us enormous power over this.
And we have DU. Each other. None of us are alone.
Karma13612
(4,554 posts)And complete indifference (?denial? ).
mnhtnbb
(31,402 posts)after a week of doing nothing but the same thing every day and watching the numbers climb exponentially.
I am in the high risk group by age and having asthma. I live on the 17th floor of a high rise apartment building and have a dog that has to be walked several times/day. Although about half the time no one else is on the elevator with us, that's not always the case. I feel as though I'm playing Russian roulette when there is someone else on the elevator with us. When I take her out and see someone coming down the middle of the sidewalk towards us who looks like they won't move over, I cross the street.
I've only made one short 10 minute trip into a store in the last week. Probably won't go in again for at least another week.
My will is up to date but I'm planning to write a page of instructions for my oldest son, who is the executor. I'm going to put legal documents all in one file so he can easily find the information he'll need to give for a death certificate. I've been meaning to do that for some time, and I guess now is the time.
I read, play on the computer, watch movies, walk the dog, text or talk with friends. My life is pretty much what it was as a widow living alone before this, but now there are no nights out to the ballet, or symphony, or musical theater, or movie theater, or coffee/lunches with friends. No visits with my son who lives 30 minutes away. I suspect that a trip I had planned for late May will be canceled. I ended up coming home from a birthday trip to Bonaire a week early. Tomorrow will be 2 weeks since I flew home and I have no symptoms. So, at least that's something positive.
The joy of my life has really diminished. I am grateful to be able to weather this financially. Most of us will get through this, but some will not. There will be DU'ers who won't make it. One of my instructions to my son will be how to sign on to my account and tell people that I am gone. It's a sobering thought to really face mortality and leave a plan to help family when one is gone.
It's a very tough reality.
Bayard
(22,141 posts)Or its so unreal to them, they're just tuning it out. I feel like I'm in Walking Dead world--avoiding infected people, and scavenging for supplies.
I think the PTSD has been building for the past 3 years under trump, and this is pushing us over the mortal edge. I worry about my family and friends, and being able to continue paying the mortgage. I worry for our country, and our species in general.
The only way I can get the knot out of my stomach is to go outside for awhile.....taking care of animals and farm chores, working in the gardens, doing my regular routine.
Trying to maintain. Taking less of the good things for granted.