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alittlelark

(18,890 posts)
Sun Mar 22, 2020, 11:38 PM Mar 2020

VERY Serious discussion. I am very rural.

I have a local handyman that rents an Apt in my large house. He enters the house 3 or so times a day; re-stocks firewood, turns lights on or off. He has been doing this for 5 years.

He attends a church that had services last week. This week he admitted to me that even though they were not legally able to attend services they got together and hugged.

My father is the ONLY person I have been in contact with for 2 weeks other than him. My father is 81 and has COPD related to work at Sandia Labs in the '80's.

I'm not sure what I am asking - but is my disgust with his ignorance warranted???? I want him GONE

Cuz I want my dad to live - at 81 with COPD he has no chance if he gets it....................................

I am sure many ppl r in a similar boat - dealing with the idiot that ignores reality.



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VERY Serious discussion. I am very rural. (Original Post) alittlelark Mar 2020 OP
Report his church and what you have heard to the Dept of Health. Captain Zero Mar 2020 #1
THAT is what I needed to hear to get out of my 'SHOCK' alittlelark Mar 2020 #3
I don't blame you. He needs to stay out of Phoenix61 Mar 2020 #2
cancel his services, make an excuse you are sick Demonaut Mar 2020 #4
I told my own sister if she didn't quarantine herself she couldn't visit us. MLAA Mar 2020 #5
Would u trust her to do that? alittlelark Mar 2020 #10
She adores my high risk husband MLAA Mar 2020 #16
I stood five plus feet from my mother in law exboyfil Mar 2020 #6
I tried to show him skype... it was a FAIL alittlelark Mar 2020 #11
I wish you the best exboyfil Mar 2020 #12
My daughter is using houseparty. drray23 Mar 2020 #27
tell him to self quarantine in his apt for a few weeks. Demovictory9 Mar 2020 #7
I agree with Captain Zero's response. I do know, right or jrthin Mar 2020 #8
This message was self-deleted by its author democratisphere Mar 2020 #9
Graveyards are FILLED with those asking for gODS saving them.......... alittlelark Mar 2020 #13
In case you missed it: dixiegrrrrl Mar 2020 #30
............................................. alittlelark Mar 2020 #31
Unfortunately in many places evictions are now on hold. BamaRefugee Mar 2020 #14
Ask the fellow if he wants to be responsible for your dad's death. KY_EnviroGuy Mar 2020 #15
He'll just say customerserviceguy Mar 2020 #17
I did that this eveving .... apparantly gOD is ALL alittlelark Mar 2020 #18
I have a similar problem AnotherDreamWeaver Mar 2020 #19
We r living in strange worlds..... alittlelark Mar 2020 #20
But the same planet. We need new singers for the new dances we create. n/t AnotherDreamWeaver Mar 2020 #21
He didn't come back until last night sometime after leaving Monday, then left again AnotherDreamWeaver Mar 2020 #22
Here is a party you can play in, a free offering: AnotherDreamWeaver Mar 2020 #28
Tell that asshole Christians dont risk.others lives Drahthaardogs Mar 2020 #23
How many cases are reported in your rural area? madville Mar 2020 #24
If there's no testing, then there's no way to know. Crunchy Frog Mar 2020 #26
Can you evict him? He's obviously a major health hazard for your father. Crunchy Frog Mar 2020 #25
Nope Idoru Mar 2020 #29
Two neighbors who are the same way, going about daily routines like nothing has changed. sarcasmo Mar 2020 #32
Keep him out of your house. Flaleftist Mar 2020 #33

Phoenix61

(17,006 posts)
2. I don't blame you. He needs to stay out of
Sun Mar 22, 2020, 11:43 PM
Mar 2020

the house. I’d he’s too stupid to keep himself safe you don’t really have much choice.

MLAA

(17,300 posts)
5. I told my own sister if she didn't quarantine herself she couldn't visit us.
Sun Mar 22, 2020, 11:45 PM
Mar 2020

I would make sure she got groceries etc. but she could have no contact with anyone but us. Her choice, but no exceptions. Otherwise she could do what she wanted and we would talk on the phone.

MLAA

(17,300 posts)
16. She adores my high risk husband
Mon Mar 23, 2020, 12:15 AM
Mar 2020

and knows how serious his recent bouts of health troubles makes him extremely high risk, so I trust her. However she knows she can change her mind and stop coming over anytime. In fact, she said several times in the last 2 days she is getting tired of being in quarantine after a little over a week. I let her know that it is likely to be at least a couple more months and if she wants to start going places we will talk on the phone. I believe she will tell me soon she is ready to go that route.

exboyfil

(17,863 posts)
6. I stood five plus feet from my mother in law
Sun Mar 22, 2020, 11:45 PM
Mar 2020

today and talked with her outside. My daughter works in a hospital and lives at home with us. I figure we are going to get it eventually. She gets it - we will get it. I am working from home, and actually am not interacting with anyone.

My brother in law strongly advised his parents (my above mentioned MIL) to stop with the social interactions. At 80 they are still very active with church and other community activities. They took the hint. By the way he is a PhD microbiologist who works with viruses. I am so glad he talked to them.

Our pastor had a very nice online service today. We are fortunate to have him.

exboyfil

(17,863 posts)
12. I wish you the best
Mon Mar 23, 2020, 12:04 AM
Mar 2020

My mom has COPD as well. She lives in Florida. We were planning to see her in April (my wife and I were going to drive with the dogs and my daughters already have tickets).

drray23

(7,634 posts)
27. My daughter is using houseparty.
Wed Mar 25, 2020, 10:10 PM
Mar 2020

We used it tonight, pretty cool as you can have several live camera streams at once from all your relatives or friends.

jrthin

(4,836 posts)
8. I agree with Captain Zero's response. I do know, right or
Sun Mar 22, 2020, 11:50 PM
Mar 2020

wrong, I too would want him gone. As I tell my husband, no matter how diligent we practice safety measures, if other aren't doing the same, we are not safe.

Response to alittlelark (Original post)

alittlelark

(18,890 posts)
13. Graveyards are FILLED with those asking for gODS saving them..........
Mon Mar 23, 2020, 12:05 AM
Mar 2020

Just go to any European cemetary,

alittlelark

(18,890 posts)
31. .............................................
Thu Mar 26, 2020, 09:46 PM
Mar 2020

The CRAY ............... it BURNS.......................

KY_EnviroGuy

(14,492 posts)
15. Ask the fellow if he wants to be responsible for your dad's death.
Mon Mar 23, 2020, 12:12 AM
Mar 2020

I had to tell both my adult children if they bring that shit into my house, I'm likely a dead man and they're both sensible, grown smart people (Democrats, too).

There's just too much misinformation floating around now and much of it promoted by the right-wing to keep businesses afloat. Our public will have to be shaken very hard to get the vast majority into reality.

KY..........

AnotherDreamWeaver

(2,850 posts)
19. I have a similar problem
Mon Mar 23, 2020, 12:28 AM
Mar 2020

But at least he is not in my house. I let someone bring a trailer on my land, in exchange for work cutting blackberries, bay trees and making the area more fire safe. I have Parkinson's and don't get around like I used to. He hasn't done the hours I asked per week and leaves almost daily. I told him I'm getting a lock for the gate, and if he doesn't think about saving his life I realize he isn't concerned about mine and the other man I have helping me. When I get the lock he will not get a key and where ever he is that's where he can stay.

edit for spelling.

AnotherDreamWeaver

(2,850 posts)
22. He didn't come back until last night sometime after leaving Monday, then left again
Wed Mar 25, 2020, 09:54 PM
Mar 2020

this morning. I had someone go to the local hardware store and buy a lock. It's on the gate now. I gave the neighbors who have a need to know the combo.

Hope you are doing well and are able to resolve your situation.

Stay Well,
ADW

Drahthaardogs

(6,843 posts)
23. Tell that asshole Christians dont risk.others lives
Wed Mar 25, 2020, 09:57 PM
Mar 2020

Quote his gospel

"Do NOT put the Lord thy God to the test"

Then tellnhim to get the fuck.out for endangeringbyour dad

madville

(7,412 posts)
24. How many cases are reported in your rural area?
Wed Mar 25, 2020, 10:01 PM
Mar 2020

If there isn't a reported presence in your area the risk is probably pretty low.

Idoru

(167 posts)
29. Nope
Thu Mar 26, 2020, 05:22 PM
Mar 2020

I would tell him to leave. He is breaking the law and endangering the life of your father, he needs to be gone, he won't change. Imagine how you will feel if your father gets this and this guy is still there, that he was the cause. Get rid of him.

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