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On Wednesday, we had a private viewing for immediate family, which lasted for an hour. Ma looked beautiful. There was so little make up. Truly I have never seen anyone look so naturally good. I am not just saying this because I am biased over my mom. But, I cannot tell you how good it made me feel and how much it helped to ease the images in my mind of her while watching her take her last breaths.
Yesterday we laid her rest. We said our last good byes at the funeral parlor. Very sad. Then had a procession to the gravesite.
With COVID, there could be none of the normal comforting. It did upset me my mom could not have the send off she so rightfully deserved.
However, we did the best we could and there are rays of comfort.
On both days there was live-streaming. At the private wake we played the 50s oldies and all who were important to her we able to see and participate and also say their goodbyes. At the gravesite There was a beautiful canopy and seats where me and my three sisters were able to rest our weary bones. The Reverend, whom I had spoken to of my mother, said a wonderful tribute.
My hope was that many would be able to join the procession from the funeral home to the gravesite. And my hopes were answered. We had a procession of over thirty cars.
When I looked out over and around the cemetery people were social distancing paying their respects and honoring my mother. It was a beautiful sight. A person on this hill another over there and over there......
We did our best for mom in these times.
I thought you might like to know what it might be like when a death occurs during the Covid.
Also, want to thank you all for you wonderful comments on the other thread and special thanks to the admins for adding Little Star to the DU memorial page. It all meant the world to me and my mom as well, of that I am sure.
Maeve
(42,288 posts)Hugs to you and your family
hlthe2b
(102,357 posts)will be an example for all too many of us to emulate in the months to come.
I'm glad you have that final memory of a deserving send-off and all the very good ones that came before. May peace find you and sustain you.
treestar
(82,383 posts)Demsrule86
(68,667 posts)at anytime...hugs to you and your family. I am so sorry for your loss.
Ilsa
(61,698 posts)I'm glad her friends were able to drive out for her quiet tribute.
-Laelth
FM123
(10,054 posts)"We did our best for mom in these times."
It is quite apparent from what you have shared with us, that you did your best for your mom at all times.
malaise
(269,157 posts)bluestarone
(17,030 posts)Atticus
(15,124 posts)I have to deal with these watering eyes.
lapucelle
(18,319 posts)Bayard
(22,149 posts)Hugs to you and your family.
brer cat
(24,605 posts)It's very hard to say goodbye to our mothers, but Covid robbed you of much comfort. I'm glad that so many friends were in the procession and grave site service.
You are with people who loved Little Star and love you, boston.
William769
(55,147 posts)iluvtennis
(19,871 posts)bucolic_frolic
(43,281 posts)Perfection doesn't exist. Thanks for sharing your details. It means a lot to all of us.
Peacetrain
(22,878 posts)You did good Boston Bean... she has been honored world wide right here on DU..
Glorfindel
(9,733 posts)Peace, comfort, and love to you
stillcool
(32,626 posts)is to know your mother. What a gift you must be to each other. Absolutely breathtakingly beautiful.
mcar
(42,372 posts)And what a beautiful tribute to your mom - 30 cars in these times.
SheltieLover
(57,073 posts)And your altruistic effort to help others understand are quite a testament to your character. Thank you for sharing!
Wishing you peace and comfort throughout your grieving process.
3catwoman3
(24,041 posts)...name.
From reading your recent posts, it is obvious that she was a luminous presence in your life.
Talitha
(6,613 posts)N_E_1 for Tennis
(9,775 posts)CaptainTruth
(6,601 posts)May you always have warm loving memories in your heart.
pandr32
(11,611 posts)Too many people must be going through similar feelings during this pandemic. It is hard to imagine grief without hugs.
It sounds like you did a good job for a proper funeral in spite of the circumstances.
crickets
(25,983 posts)niyad
(113,552 posts)mother with us.
Requiescat in pace, Little Star.
volstork
(5,403 posts)Dem2theMax
(9,653 posts)Your mom and your entire family had to go through so much more. I am grateful that you were able to give her a very dignified and respectful and loving goodbye.
Please know we are keeping you and your mom in our thoughts. Be gentle to yourself as you go through this time.
joost5
(421 posts)cate94
(2,813 posts)sheshe2
(83,898 posts)Love and hugs to you and your sisters.
Peace to you, Little Star.
Soph0571
(9,685 posts)My mum 'attended' a funeral yesterday, where everyone from her church attended in their cars to give a silent goodbye to a much loved congregant that had died from cancer at 33. The fact that everyone was there to watch the hearse was such a bolster to the family. In Northern Ireland where I come from, funerals are really part of our culture, much more than most places. We have wakes, we have unending visitors, we have open coffins, we have the coffin on the shoulders of out men carrying the coffin from the church to the graveyard, we have people comparing how many people rocked up to this funeral in comparison to the last funeral that was held. All within 2 days. All that has gone. Many are struggling over what the new normal looks like. You did really good for your mother in the new normal, and again, my deepest condolences at your loss.
Raine
(30,540 posts)to you
R-I-P Little Star
Old Terp
(464 posts)And may your love for each other stay with you always. Peace be with you.
BobTheSubgenius
(11,564 posts)What a beautiful nom de plume. Whether twinkling or shining bright, she will always light up your life.
spanone
(135,873 posts)tblue37
(65,487 posts)Karadeniz
(22,572 posts)Cha
(297,650 posts)you described it so eloquently.
murielm99
(30,761 posts)Peace and love to you and yours.
Squinch
(51,004 posts)You are in my heart.
rustysgurl
(1,040 posts)peacebuzzard
(5,182 posts)I will think of your lovely mom and her strong and courageous daughter.
she will be missed.
no words can express the loss of a mom,
I am so sorry,
SunSeeker
(51,694 posts)Silver Gaia
(4,546 posts)tishaLA
(14,176 posts)and peace to your beloved mother.
Phentex
(16,334 posts)What a beautiful tribute. I don't know how you managed it all but sounds like you got everything right. She's smiling somewhere.
It's so hard to believe she's gone, from you, from us. May she rest in peace.
yardwork
(61,703 posts)DenverJared
(457 posts)It took me a long time for me to post because it is so beautifully written and it brought back memories of my own.
Hope the river of time blunts your pain and sharpens the good memories which will make you smile.