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qwlauren35

(6,148 posts)
Sat Apr 18, 2020, 02:28 PM Apr 2020

Love my husband, but...

He's now talking "third-party".

He is still "Bernie or die". It's like he didn't get the memo.

If I didn't live in a blue state, I would defy him and campaign (I am bipolar and it is not good for my health. It puts me in a manic state, and it's not fair to make him live with me when I'm like that.)

He is certain that Biden is ill, and has to rest for a week between speaking engagements.

Four years ago, I knew he would vote for Jill Stein and I decided that the house would be "politically silent" so that I wouldn't kill him. The few times we got into it, he didn't understand that he was making me crazy.

I take politics way too seriously. We are in a blue state. There was no risk. If we had been in a swing state, I would have gone out of my mind.

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Love my husband, but... (Original Post) qwlauren35 Apr 2020 OP
Obviously he could care less about the SC, and what has happened in the last four years still_one Apr 2020 #1
Nope. qwlauren35 Apr 2020 #5
Noam Chomsky said it best in 2016 to those who refused to vote for Hillary still_one Apr 2020 #8
Who's on the third partyline dem4decades Apr 2020 #2
Trump is ill, even though he speaks every fucking day. CrispyQ Apr 2020 #3
Since you're in a blue state, don't fret it. Ms. Toad Apr 2020 #4
Sorry, no one should take any state for granted. Michigan, Pennslvania, and other still_one Apr 2020 #9
I'm talking blue like NY, CA, etc. Ms. Toad Apr 2020 #14
I hear you. The electoral college absolutely, but I also want to see a huge popular vote number still_one Apr 2020 #15
Post removed Post removed Apr 2020 #16
Sorry, anyone not voting Democratic over the nazi, doesn't know what the word principle means still_one Apr 2020 #17
That is insulting. Ms. Toad Apr 2020 #18
................................... still_one Apr 2020 #19
(1) do you really think throwing a big name at me makes any difference? Ms. Toad Apr 2020 #20
Voting for a third party or not voting is a vote for trump and Putin Gothmog Apr 2020 #46
Well, does this work for ya? still_one Apr 2020 #51
I am sorry. sheshe2 Apr 2020 #21
+1000. ehrnst Apr 2020 #22
I am pissed. sheshe2 Apr 2020 #25
You are right, he is endangering are lives. I appreciate what those in your family are doing still_one Apr 2020 #33
We got to social distance the other day. sheshe2 Apr 2020 #40
Wow, that's tough. Please take care still_one Apr 2020 #44
People of goodwill cannot differ on the relative importance of human life mcar Apr 2020 #26
+1000 Demsrule86 Apr 2020 #35
Or that we are dealing with a racist, sexist, and bigot in the WH. There is no ambiguity here still_one Apr 2020 #37
Nailed it. sheshe2 Apr 2020 #41
No, anyone who does not vote for the Democratic nominee is not principled, and I despise. them. Demsrule86 Apr 2020 #32
If they won't vote to rid this country of Trump than they are fakes and not progressive. Demsrule86 Apr 2020 #36
Sir Winston Churchill once said DenverJared Apr 2020 #38
Failure to vote foe Joe Biden is a vote for trump and. Putin Gothmog Apr 2020 #45
This is a big reason why "I live in a non-swing state, my vote doesn't matter" doesn't hold water. Gothmog Apr 2020 #63
Amen JustAnotherGen Apr 2020 #50
Green Party has not qualified for the ballot in Pennsylvania, Wisconsin, NH, Iowa or Minnesota Gothmog Apr 2020 #49
Very sorry to hear it, qwlauren, elleng Apr 2020 #6
There is one problem, at least I can never have DFW Apr 2020 #7
Same with me. betsuni Apr 2020 #34
Even though Bernie says Joe lame54 Apr 2020 #10
Might be worth looking into a good divorce lawyer. HarlanPepper Apr 2020 #11
Ask him if he'd feel better if Liz was VP! Baclava Apr 2020 #12
while hc and biden are more corporate than bernie questionseverything Apr 2020 #13
Define "corporate," please. ehrnst Apr 2020 #24
I, too, await the answer mcar Apr 2020 #29
I want to know if people really think Sanders would have stopped capitalism betsuni Apr 2020 #39
Still waiting for your definition of "corporate." ehrnst Apr 2020 #48
White male privilege. SMH... ehrnst Apr 2020 #23
+1000 sheshe2 Apr 2020 #27
This! mcar Apr 2020 #30
Yup, They want to hold on to that privilege JI7 Apr 2020 #60
HOld on now, qwlauren35 Apr 2020 #66
My bad - in this case it's just hetero male privilege. ehrnst Apr 2020 #67
Put Him On The Couch Till He Gets Some Sense, Ma'am The Magistrate Apr 2020 #28
So. sheshe2 Apr 2020 #31
Hit him in the head samplegirl Apr 2020 #42
I've run into the meme that Biden is senile, has dementia treestar Apr 2020 #43
This message was self-deleted by its author Sherman A1 Apr 2020 #47
"Bernie or die?" DFW Apr 2020 #52
Yep, then die it will be Meowmee Apr 2020 #54
One might hope he reconsiders his options. DFW Apr 2020 #55
Yep 😹 if he wants to die fine but don't kill the rest of us nt Meowmee Apr 2020 #56
Let's hope he becomes more flexible as his options narrow n/t DFW Apr 2020 #57
I doubt he will so hopefully in a blue state it won't matter. Meowmee Apr 2020 #58
Your husband is a jack ass😿 I would leave for good if possible if it were me Meowmee Apr 2020 #53
Your Husband is not a liberal and most likely agrees with many Right Wing things that Trump Does JI7 Apr 2020 #59
Campaign and make him live with you like that anyhow. Jamastiene Apr 2020 #61
I can never understand how intelligent ppl can be so dumb when it comes to math. tavernier Apr 2020 #62
I don't love your husband. n/t MrsMatt Apr 2020 #64
I don't think we should take any states for granted during this pandemic. ecstatic Apr 2020 #65

qwlauren35

(6,148 posts)
5. Nope.
Sat Apr 18, 2020, 02:34 PM
Apr 2020

He truly believes that Hillary would have been just as bad.

As I said, I try to stay politically silent. Every time I say "Hillary would not have done this." "He says, maybe not, but she's a corporatist and she would not have fixed the country for the working people."

Nothing else seems to matter to him.

NOTHING.

CrispyQ

(36,482 posts)
3. Trump is ill, even though he speaks every fucking day.
Sat Apr 18, 2020, 02:32 PM
Apr 2020

"Don't let the perfect be the enemy of the good." He needs to ponder the meaning of that old adage.

Ms. Toad

(34,080 posts)
4. Since you're in a blue state, don't fret it.
Sat Apr 18, 2020, 02:34 PM
Apr 2020

I live in a purple/red state - so every vote counts. My daughter (at least as of the day Bernie dropped out) and (at least) two friends are in the same situation. one is in a blue state (the one who is less stable - so I a grateful I can ignore it); the other two are in states where every vote matters. I suspect both will vote the right way - but I'm givine them space.

still_one

(92,273 posts)
9. Sorry, no one should take any state for granted. Michigan, Pennslvania, and other
Sat Apr 18, 2020, 02:49 PM
Apr 2020

states were traditionally blue, and too many people "didn't fret it"

There is no doubt in my mind that the vast majority of Sanders supporters will be voting for the Democratic nominee

Why every vote is important for the Democratic nominee regardless of the state, is to send the message loud and clear, how much the country detest the nazi in the WH

https://www.commondreams.org/news/2016/11/25/those-who-failed-recognize-trump-greater-evil-made-bad-mistake-chomsky






Ms. Toad

(34,080 posts)
14. I'm talking blue like NY, CA, etc.
Sat Apr 18, 2020, 03:49 PM
Apr 2020

Not purple states, or states Trump won, or came close to winning in, in 2016. (All the states you mentioned are in the latter, not the former, category)

I've been jumping all over people who are posting "When we win" and reminding them of 2016. But there is a distinction between believing that the election is a slam dunk, and recognizing that there are certain states that will (for the foreseeable near future) be red or blue. Far too many people took a win in 2016 for granted and (1) didn't vote or (2) did a protest vote for a third party candidate to show President Clinton she needed to listen to more liberal voices or - not expecting their votes to help Trump win.

still_one

(92,273 posts)
15. I hear you. The electoral college absolutely, but I also want to see a huge popular vote number
Sat Apr 18, 2020, 03:59 PM
Apr 2020

to send the message how much trump is detested

Response to still_one (Reply #15)

Ms. Toad

(34,080 posts)
18. That is insulting.
Sat Apr 18, 2020, 04:19 PM
Apr 2020

People of good will can differ over the relative importance of competing principles.

I disagree with them, but they are all extremely principled people, at least two of which have engaged in civil disobedience in furtherance of those principles.(i.e. putting their lives and freedom at risk because they disagreed so strongly in actions the government was taking)

Ms. Toad

(34,080 posts)
20. (1) do you really think throwing a big name at me makes any difference?
Sat Apr 18, 2020, 06:25 PM
Apr 2020

(2) he does not address what I was talking about - people who are living in states that (at least for the forseeable future) will be landslide blue states whose votes will not change the outcome of the presidential election.

Gothmog

(145,374 posts)
46. Voting for a third party or not voting is a vote for trump and Putin
Sun Apr 19, 2020, 02:17 AM
Apr 2020

Putin will be very happy to see sanders supporters not vote

sheshe2

(83,815 posts)
21. I am sorry.
Sat Apr 18, 2020, 06:48 PM
Apr 2020

Last edited Sat Apr 18, 2020, 10:30 PM - Edit history (2)

Ms. Toad
18. That is insulting.

People of good will can differ over the relative importance of competing principles.

I disagree with them, but they are all extremely principled people, at least two of which have engaged in civil disobedience in furtherance of those principles.(i.e. putting their lives and freedom at risk because they disagreed so strongly in actions the government was taking)


If they have said 'principles' and

(i.e. putting their lives and freedom at risk because they disagreed so strongly in actions the government was taking)

Sigh, yet here we have a government and president that are actively with malice and forethought are murdering Americans on American soil. Said government are not only taking away their freedom, they have killed 37K with non action and refusing, REFUSING!!! to provide them with the equipment that may save them. Worst yet, they are killing the doctors and nurses that have risked their lives and the lives of their families by REFUSING to provide them with PPE!

MY NIECE WAS GIVEN HER NEW PPE A FEW WEEKS AGO. A RAINCOAT! A raincoat, one mask per day. Friends are donating gloves and masks to her unit. Yet the highly principled people you speak of are angry at a Hillary and a Biden and refuse to vote against the most dangerous man in the world. Their purity be damned.

No blue state is ever safe unless we all vote.

I am sorry. I have family on the line and I am angry that others do as well and are just not interested in protecting themselves, their family and the rest of us that will suffer from their inaction and lack of care for their fellow man. It is selfish.

Update*** 38,928

sheshe2

(83,815 posts)
40. We got to social distance the other day.
Sat Apr 18, 2020, 09:14 PM
Apr 2020

She is busy with work and three children. She spent a day shopping for 3 households. A whole day going to three markets to find what was needed. The kids do not want my sister or myself in the store.

It was the first time in months I saw her and the kids. We sat outside on the cold deck apart from each other. No one but my sister and I are allowed in the house because of mom.

I miss my family.

Hugs.

Demsrule86

(68,609 posts)
32. No, anyone who does not vote for the Democratic nominee is not principled, and I despise. them.
Sat Apr 18, 2020, 07:44 PM
Apr 2020

I don't care where they live. We need a landslide and as much popular vote as we can get...anyone who stays at home, votes for Stein or whoever or writes in Sanders or anyone else's name is a fucking traitor to this country and the Democratic party...and I don't care what the hell their 'problem' with the primary was...boohoo. Everyone had a fair shot Biden won. Now if you are a Democrat you vote blue period end of story...otherwise you are a Republican and help reelect Trump or make it close enough for a steal by Republicans.

I will hate those who voted for Jill Stein, stayed home...wrote in a name in 16...didn't vote for the Democratic nominee (the only one who could stop Trump and the same is true today) until the day I die. These folks have blood on their hands. And I have no interest in their what I consider whining...selfish care for nobodies if you ask me. Trump has kill thousands of Americans, put babies in cages and starved the poor among other horrors. If these folks are not motivated to vote for Joe Biden a decent man who was Pres. Obama's VP then they can get lost as far as I am concerned. I am sick of their sniveling.

 

DenverJared

(457 posts)
38. Sir Winston Churchill once said
Sat Apr 18, 2020, 08:04 PM
Apr 2020

"One cannot vacillate or remain neutral between a house on fire versus the fire brigade."

In this case, the fire brigade may not be of your liking but to use it as a "principle" will only make the house burn down and perhaps surrounding houses as well.

Similarly, not everyone passionate about something is "principled" - some do it for attention, some do it for ego and many are just plain stupid. Have you ever been to a gathering of the "flat earth society?" They are also very passionate about their position but to call them principled is an abomination.

DFW

(54,415 posts)
7. There is one problem, at least I can never have
Sat Apr 18, 2020, 02:40 PM
Apr 2020

My wife is a German citizen and votes here in Germany.

I vote absentee back in Texas. We flipped my home district (TX-32) last time, and I doubt we'll go for Biden or ditch Cornyn, but it's not forbidden to dream! If Trump keeps acting more and more like a candidate for a straitjacket, and Abbott and Cornyn continue to lick his ass, well, even Texas has a breaking point.

betsuni

(25,558 posts)
34. Same with me.
Sat Apr 18, 2020, 07:46 PM
Apr 2020

My husband's Japanese and I don't pay much attention to politics here. I make him promise to vote for women candidates when he can, but I have no idea who he ends up voting for, too many parties to keep track of. Once he came home from voting excited because there was an I Love Vinegar Party on the ballot.

questionseverything

(9,656 posts)
13. while hc and biden are more corporate than bernie
Sat Apr 18, 2020, 03:25 PM
Apr 2020

at least they are American corporations not Russian mobsters

the current occupant literally represents the Russian mob and no one else

 

ehrnst

(32,640 posts)
24. Define "corporate," please.
Sat Apr 18, 2020, 07:22 PM
Apr 2020
During his 10 years on the Senate, Bernie Sanders has been a regular presence at luxurious Democratic fundraising retreats, according to more than a half-dozen lobbyists, donors and former Democratic Senatorial Campaign Committee staff members with whom he attended the events. Sanders most recently appeared at one last July, shortly after he announced his presidential run.


http://www.msnbc.com/msnbc/bernie-sanders-regular-luxurious-dscc-fundraising-retreats


Mr. Sanders was cheered at a fancy campaign fund-raiser at the Hollywood home of Syd Leibovitch, a high-end real estate agent, and his wife, Linda, on Wednesday night.

Tickets for the event sold for a minimum of $250. Those who spent the maximum, $2,700, or who raised $10,000, were invited to a “pre-event reception,” according to the invitation.

The 14 co-hosts included Cindy Asner, the former wife of the actor Ed Asner, the actress Mimi Kennedy, and Benjamin W. Decker, whose website notes that he was once called the “legendary Hollywood P.R. maven” by Forbes magazine, and used to produce “celebrity-driven red-carpet movie premieres.”
...........................................
It was the ninth such event of his campaign, his aides said, according to the pool report.
................................

As Mr. Sanders began speaking to the guests, he joked that the Leibovitch house was a “proletariat” home, and told them, “The truth is there are many people in this country who have money but also believe in social justice.”


https://www.nytimes.com/politics/first-draft/2015/10/15/bernie-sanders-has-fund-raiser-at-fancy-hollywood-home/

betsuni

(25,558 posts)
39. I want to know if people really think Sanders would have stopped capitalism
Sat Apr 18, 2020, 08:13 PM
Apr 2020

or something if he were president.

"Centrist" and "corporatist" = person who does not hate capitalism, does not think the U.S. will ever turn into a fantasy Socialistprogressiveswedenland. I'm curious just what they thought Sanders could do.

 

ehrnst

(32,640 posts)
48. Still waiting for your definition of "corporate."
Sun Apr 19, 2020, 10:10 AM
Apr 2020

Just curious if you forgot or are avoiding answering.

 

ehrnst

(32,640 posts)
23. White male privilege. SMH...
Sat Apr 18, 2020, 07:22 PM
Apr 2020

"To put them in perspective, I think of being on an airplane. The flight attendant comes down the aisle with her food cart and, eventually, parks it beside my seat. “Can I interest you in the chicken?” she asks. “Or would you prefer the platter of shit with bits of broken glass in it?”

To be undecided in this election is to pause for a moment and then ask how the chicken is cooked."

This is a case of deciding that starvation is preferable to either the chicken or the platter of shit with bits of broken glass...

https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2008/10/27/undecided

qwlauren35

(6,148 posts)
66. HOld on now,
Wed Apr 22, 2020, 06:45 PM
Apr 2020

We are African-American.

He's not the only black Bernie supporter I know. I can think of two others, and one of them is still bashing Biden. The other one is keeping her mouth shut on the issue.

 

ehrnst

(32,640 posts)
67. My bad - in this case it's just hetero male privilege.
Thu Apr 23, 2020, 07:52 AM
Apr 2020

Last edited Thu Apr 23, 2020, 08:53 AM - Edit history (1)

The "burn it down" rather than select someone less than perfect to continue civilization is more the realm of men, and women who draw their identity and power from the men they align with than those of us who are thinking things through.

sheshe2

(83,815 posts)
31. So.
Sat Apr 18, 2020, 07:39 PM
Apr 2020

There is no such thing as a safe blue state. That is what everyone said last time and look what we got.

47,839 dead...and counting.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
43. I've run into the meme that Biden is senile, has dementia
Sat Apr 18, 2020, 10:13 PM
Apr 2020

and countered it with recent clips of Biden speaking. It's something for which there is no evidence that right-wingers too continue asserting.

Response to qwlauren35 (Original post)

DFW

(54,415 posts)
55. One might hope he reconsiders his options.
Tue Apr 21, 2020, 04:20 AM
Apr 2020

"Bernie or die" doesn't leave a lot of room for compromise, especially with the "Bernie" option now deleted.

Meowmee

(5,164 posts)
53. Your husband is a jack ass😿 I would leave for good if possible if it were me
Tue Apr 21, 2020, 04:14 AM
Apr 2020

Not suggesting you should- that crap would put me over the edge.

JI7

(89,254 posts)
59. Your Husband is not a liberal and most likely agrees with many Right Wing things that Trump Does
Tue Apr 21, 2020, 04:45 AM
Apr 2020

A vote for Jill Stein is a vote for Trump.

He can try to make excuses for it just like the Trump Trash demanding everything open up claiming it's about Freedom or some shit .

tavernier

(12,393 posts)
62. I can never understand how intelligent ppl can be so dumb when it comes to math.
Tue Apr 21, 2020, 06:31 AM
Apr 2020

If you watch a football game where Michigan is playing Ohio and everyone is betting on a winner, why would you put your money on Notre Dame? Because you like the fighting Irish better? Well good luck to you, but they aren’t playing.

Sorry, but I have those in my family who can only relate to a sports metaphor when it comes to politics, so that’s the one I use.

ecstatic

(32,717 posts)
65. I don't think we should take any states for granted during this pandemic.
Tue Apr 21, 2020, 07:55 PM
Apr 2020

The turnout models may not be the same as they usually are. Everyone needs to vote for who they feel comfortable handling this crisis through 2022.

Tell your husband that the choice is binary: trump or Biden. Who does he want handling this crisis and the next? Because trump isn't learning anything from his mistakes. He views everything he does as perfect. Meanwhile, he's actually creating new crises as I type!

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