Sending hugs and wishes for healing

I’m sending a hug and strength.

I'll be thinking about you today. I know that won't actually help, but it's all I can do.

I'm so sorry.

Do you have family or others for support, right now?

Sending good thoughts and positive vibes

JohnnyRingo is in the best place for care right now so this is the time for you to take care of yourself. He will need you if he comes out of the hospital. I would say when, I would love to but that would not be right he is in a tight spot.

Please find a way to take solace in the fact that you have been steadfast (25 years is a long time) and how that impacted his life in good ways is innumerable. Take care of yourself because he has managed to fight his way back many times and he may just do that again and he will need you strong and in the case he does not he would not want you to endanger your health.

I am sad. We are all sad. Please take care of yourself. That is perhaps the only thing good about not being able to go in, you can rest if not sleep and keep yourself healthy. I spent 2 months sleeping in the ICU waiting room when my brother was ill. It took a huge toll on me. Be well and know you have been the best friend anyone could ever ask for.

Our thoughts will be with Johnny too.

this is really a hard moment to bear for you and JohnnyRingo...
dear Lord, I pray for strength for both of you...such a sad and hard moment.

Please take care of yourself. I know it is hard.

He will be in my prayers.

I wish you could be with him!

I wish I had words to alleviate his suffering and your pain. Wishing you both the best

even though he can't talk back (or facetime, skype, zoom videoconference?) A lot of ICU staff are finding ways to do so with family members, given all the COVID-19 need.

If the hospital has pastoral care (chaplain) or even patient/family advocates, perhaps they could help you and his son set that up.

I really hope that you can. For your sake, Bob's sake, and certainly his son. Love to you all!

I understand...

I will hold you in my thoughts, since I cannot pray ...

Medicine and medical professionals and personnel do the best they can. Keep in touch with them. Ask questions. Give medicine and prayer a chance to work. Try to take a few moments for rest and zoning out. DUers are here for you.

Thinking of you both.💕

I know I'm just stranger behind a computer screen, but my heart truly goes out to y'all. Stay strong and know you have a lot of people out here supporting you.

That's the real beauty about this place. Out of many "strangers behind a computer screen," ONE big moral/emotional support system.

A difficult time for sure.

Maybe doing so can be at least somewhat helpful to YOU, as you struggle through this with him.

We're here. Keeping a vigil with you.

and we are all holding him close to our hearts.

Hoping for the best for him

If his other organs are okay, can they put him on dialysis for the kidney failure?

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Remember to take care of you! Eat good food on a regular schedule, engage in activities/ hobbies that you enjoy, call people who know you both to talk, talk to you doctor about sleep issues, turn off the news and watch movies on the internet/ tv (there are a lot of venders who are allowing people to watch without subscriptions right now). Take comfort from those who are keeping you in thoughts and prayers. You are not alone, and neither is JohnnyRingo. Love yourself and him.

Take care of yourself, try and rest...he’s In good hands.

My thoughts are with you and JohnnyRingo.

One of the things I do as a nurse is dialysis. I know we often bond to our patients because it’s a repeated, lengthy procedure. He’s sedated, If he’s intubated, but he sometimes hears, know that his nurse is there, she’s talking to him, explaining what’s happening, checking his face for minute signs of discomfort. Turning him, helping him with hygiene. He has therapies in there doing passive range of motion. We often put on music or the TV if it’s something the patient enjoys.

During this pandemic I can guarantee you that nurses and healthcare providers are aware of the loneliness, and we try to make up for it in in small ways.

I talk as much as possible to my patients if they want, as far as I’m concerned human contact means a lot right now.

Nurses, at least care, we really do. We are sorrowful. We want your loved one to survive to see their beloveds. If that is not possible we are always there, looking out for JohnnyRingo. Always.

I am so sorry, samplegirl, I wish I could help. I wish their was more than words to offer. I hope he recovers.

We never stopped doing transplant surgery in my hospital, but an important part of the process is support, it’s so hard to see people alone. Many of us try to arrange our days so we can provide a little social interaction. You know talk about family and pets and favorite places. We do this anyway, but it’s more important than ever. Human being comforting each other, together.

experiencing is shared by so many. Wishing you peace and stamina as you endure this awful ordeal.

Is the one who introduced me some 14 years ago to D.U.

No words can assuage your pain right now, but we are with you in your suffering.

And praying for you, samplegirl. Please take care.

is here for you.

doesn't sound good, but you never know what will happen.

Take care of yourself and hope for the best.

Sympathy to his son too.

Hugs and prayers to both of you.

Your whole life is on hold as you love this man through this phase in his life. While there is not much you can do for him right now, you have been there for him for many years. In his suffering, he knows that you are there, and that he is deeply and unconditionally loved. That is the best blessing anyone can have in this life.

We will be here for you as you go through this dark time. You are also loved by your DU family. {{{hugs}}} and tears.

Big hugs

I hope there is a way he can know that you are there for him. We are there for him, and you.

I don't think JohnnyRingo would want you to be wrecking yourself with worry right now. You cannot help him or his family by getting yourself sick. I'm sure Bob wants you to do the very best to take care of yourself physically and emotionally. Nobody is saying that you shouldn't have worry, that would be unreasonable, but you have to find a way to balance that out however you can by going for walks, meditation, anything you can do. Get outside in some nature if you can. Eat small, balanced meals. Soothing baths or showers.

Sepsis is a very serious situation and one that is unfortunately missed too often, in part because of the way it progresses in the body. It's sad, but not unforeseeable that in the midst of cancer, chemo and radiation treatments that unusual bloodwork results would be regarded as expected with all that was going on.

Those caring for him right now are pulling out every last stop they can to give him a fighting chance. Please, please, make sure you take care of yourself.

I had a couple thoughts about some things you could maybe do if the staff can help you out a little. You can't go up to the room, but maybe you could still do some things like read to him if he has his phone with him and they can put it next to him, mirror through the TV, skype, facetime, or something like that.

Caregiving is the toughest job life ever drops on us. I'll be thinking of both of you.

He really enjoyed D.U. He has so many hobbies...putting together airplanes. He worked on his sports car and mine soon as spring came. Matter of fact he would of been starting that soon!
Last week he patted my car and said.... almost time to get you uncovered and ready to roll. He’s been a triumph enthusiast since the day I met him. He loves working on cars. Nothing he couldn’t fix. I hope he can beat this! I miss talking everyday especially after Rachael!

Wish I could hug you.

God I can't imagine what the hell is probably going through everybody's head right now I hope he gets better I hope he pulls it out

Thanks for keeping us posted.

Keeping you in my thoughts.

going through similar with an old family friend - such a cool old guy.

to him, his family, and of course, you.

So much pain....

go out to Him and his family

and has been for 25 years. I just called they said critical but bloodwork looked better.

It’s Monday night 8:30 He said he was resting well. I’ve been crying off and on all day.
This is the time at night we would talk right after Maddow and discuss it.
I miss his voice. I miss his texts. Please don’t quit praying D.U. Family please. Laying in bed and holding my 18 year old cat so close.

♱ 🙏 💙 🐦 🦋 🌈 🌠♱

so sorry.

for JohnnyRingo. We are here for support, please take care of yourself.

Sending you love and cyberhugs.

For him, For his son, for you, for us. Hoping things take a turn for the better.

and saying a little prayer for you both.

It's been so tough on you. Hang in there. We're here for you whenever you need us.

and BIG hugs ..

...My father left me in charge of his health directive (my mom has a lot of other health issues, one of them being dementia). The night before he passed the nurses and doctors summoned me into a separate room and asked when the time came, should they attempt resuscitation.

Told them to give me 15 minutes. Went back to the room my father was in, as well as my mom and siblings. I don't think they grasped the situation. But in the end, decided we would only attempt a chemical resuscitation...in my heart, I already knew we wouldn't go there.

Went back to the nurses and doctors and told them of the family wishes.

The next day....he passed. They rushed to administer the chemicals, I took a look at our family and said, "I think we should just let him go peacefully, they all nodded". I then waived the nurses off. Almost instantly they went from needles to tissue boxes.

Probably not what you want to hear. Always hope for the best, but prepare for the worst. And cherish every moment...given my wife's brush with death along with my own...

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