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Katinfl

(157 posts)
Tue Jun 30, 2020, 05:00 PM Jun 2020

So here's my problem

I have made a new acquaintance in my community. She is outgoing and looking to make friends. She has joined water aerobics, stretch and tone, etc. We have a lot in common regarding our hometowns and upbringing. I would like to hang with her. Problem is that she and her husband are sporting ‘Ivanka 2024 “ stickers on their cars and I know that her husband in a Fox News viewer (also “The Five”). So I know where they are parked. My husband says no way can we connect with them and I agree. But I have a feeling that the time will come when she suggests we meet up for a drink, snacks, etc. I see her at the pool all the time and I feel it is just a matter of time before I am confronted. I hate it because I think I could like spending time with her but it is out of the question knowing they are repulsive. My husband says no way would he even consider it. Did I say we have so much in common because we all come from upstate NY? This is something we have never encountered in our over 50 year marriage. Sucks.

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So here's my problem (Original Post) Katinfl Jun 2020 OP
Lol! demmiblue Jun 2020 #1
It might depend on how "evangelical" they are about Trump... Wounded Bear Jun 2020 #2
Sometimes my husband and I would use each other. I would laugh and say no way. My husband would LizBeth Jun 2020 #3
One of the many conveniences of being married. Phoenix61 Jun 2020 #6
Lol, true that. LizBeth Jun 2020 #8
waste of time NJCher Jun 2020 #4
I appreciate your situation. Phoenix61 Jun 2020 #5
Anyone who puts an Ivanka sticker on their car tells you all you need to know. LuckyLib Jun 2020 #7
Listen to your husband, he's right, IMO. If the time comes where she wants to talk, yonder Jun 2020 #9
Put a Biden 2020 sign in your yard and problem solved. Ferrets are Cool Jun 2020 #10
Got a Biden 2020 sticker on our car Katinfl Jun 2020 #18
Hold her head under water at rzemanfl Jun 2020 #11
that's an actual "Joda" move onethatcares Jun 2020 #14
Tell them you have a Democratic Party meeting to attend that night... brooklynite Jun 2020 #12
+1000 cayugafalls Jun 2020 #17
Did you ever consider asking... Dan Jun 2020 #13
No Katinfl Jun 2020 #19
I think you already know where a friendship with them will lead. brush Jun 2020 #15
You are right Katinfl Jun 2020 #22
Tell her you are social distancing and... WestLosAngelesGal Jun 2020 #16
Passively terminate the relationship. Flash Biden merch/posts and let them break off from you. TheBlackAdder Jun 2020 #20
Just say this... rufus dog Jun 2020 #21
OMG, I'd run the other way lettucebe Jun 2020 #23

Wounded Bear

(58,660 posts)
2. It might depend on how "evangelical" they are about Trump...
Tue Jun 30, 2020, 05:04 PM
Jun 2020

bad look from the start, of course, but it might be worth a try to see if they turn into recruiters. If that happens, it's Katie bar the door.

JMO.

LizBeth

(9,952 posts)
3. Sometimes my husband and I would use each other. I would laugh and say no way. My husband would
Tue Jun 30, 2020, 05:05 PM
Jun 2020

never go for hanging out with a person that has an Ivanka bumper sticker.

Leave it at that.

Chat with her at the pool.

Phoenix61

(17,006 posts)
6. One of the many conveniences of being married.
Tue Jun 30, 2020, 05:09 PM
Jun 2020

Along with a 50% greater chance of remembering someone’s name.

NJCher

(35,675 posts)
4. waste of time
Tue Jun 30, 2020, 05:06 PM
Jun 2020

She might have some attractive points but sooner or later the maladjustment that makes her a Trump supporter will show itself and then you have even a bigger problem. Best to nip this right in the bud and tell her you're all out of "friend" time right now.

Phoenix61

(17,006 posts)
5. I appreciate your situation.
Tue Jun 30, 2020, 05:08 PM
Jun 2020

Just remind yourself under that cheerful, fun loving persona lurks a heart that is as black as coal. She is ok with caging children, snatching health care along with their food stamps from millions. Who, I’m pretty sure, if you told her how you really feel wouldn’t ever speak to you again.

LuckyLib

(6,819 posts)
7. Anyone who puts an Ivanka sticker on their car tells you all you need to know.
Tue Jun 30, 2020, 05:10 PM
Jun 2020

If she proposes something, simply say, “I’m sorry, but our values don’t mesh. At this stage of life I only have friends who enrich my life.”

yonder

(9,666 posts)
9. Listen to your husband, he's right, IMO. If the time comes where she wants to talk,
Tue Jun 30, 2020, 05:12 PM
Jun 2020

let her come to you. And if that happens, don't take any shit from her either.

Ivanka 2024??? You can do better.

My two cents.

Katinfl

(157 posts)
18. Got a Biden 2020 sticker on our car
Tue Jun 30, 2020, 05:50 PM
Jun 2020

But it is always in the garage. Trust me, if i see any kind of trump sticker, yard sign, etc. I will report it. I have before and I will do it again. Unfortunately, bumper stickers are allowed I guess.

onethatcares

(16,168 posts)
14. that's an actual "Joda" move
Tue Jun 30, 2020, 05:18 PM
Jun 2020

since most think the dumpster can walk on water, his minions are able to hold their breath for 20 minutes underwater.

Tell her you read it somewhere.

cayugafalls

(5,641 posts)
17. +1000
Tue Jun 30, 2020, 05:32 PM
Jun 2020

So much this. Great way to ease into it without being mean at all.

Let them be mean, if they don't like the excuse.

Dan

(3,562 posts)
13. Did you ever consider asking...
Tue Jun 30, 2020, 05:15 PM
Jun 2020

Where or who put the sticker on their cars? And then work from there...

Katinfl

(157 posts)
19. No
Tue Jun 30, 2020, 05:54 PM
Jun 2020

why would anybody but the owner of the car put a bumper sticker on it? She has mentioned her husband watches Fox all day and he watches “The Five”. Need I say more? He may be more pro trump than her, but still......?

brush

(53,778 posts)
15. I think you already know where a friendship with them will lead.
Tue Jun 30, 2020, 05:19 PM
Jun 2020

You might nip it in the bud by casually bringing up the Ivanka bumper sticker and just be frank. Tell her you're a Democrat and don't understand how anyone can be for trump because of his racism, his horrendous bungling of the virus response and now his abdication of his obligation to protect our troops re: Putin paying bounties for their deaths. None of that is negotiable.

If you don't the confrontation will come later after diving into the friendship, especially with the campaign heating up and election day nearing.

Katinfl

(157 posts)
22. You are right
Tue Jun 30, 2020, 06:03 PM
Jun 2020

We have already lost friendships over this issue and we do not need to try to start another one only to end in disagreement. We are in a mostly republican community/county in FL so we are already in the minority, but so be it. We can handle it. I mentioned to my husband that we should leave the car in the driveway, not in the garage, so each time they drove by they could see it. Childish, isn’t it?

Trust me, this won’t go much further because of the politics of it all. She/he can surely hook up with others with mutual views. Won’t be hard to find in this area. Sure sucks though.

 

rufus dog

(8,419 posts)
21. Just say this...
Tue Jun 30, 2020, 05:59 PM
Jun 2020

So I see you are sitting out the 2020 election and hoping in four years the daughter can learn enough so as not to make her father's mistakes.

That should cover you.

lettucebe

(2,336 posts)
23. OMG, I'd run the other way
Tue Jun 30, 2020, 07:16 PM
Jun 2020

It's not easy making friends but there's no friggen way. Ivanka? Her voice literally makes my skin crawl

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