anyone keep a phone shared with an abuser?

Get some kind of a basic phone and just buy the minutes as you need them.

continuing to use a shared phone if one of her concerns is that her abuser can access the records.

needs to stop using the shared phone.

it's the victim who has to shell out extra quid to protect herself?

Who the hell has her back?

Then you have to re-up with someone else. Many women leaving abusive situations are in very poor financial shape. Oh, and when your abuser discovers you've left the contract, you've got a pissed off abuser, who's already pissed off because you left. The period immediately following a woman leaving the relationship is statistically the most dangerous.

Read the article. Sometimes the only option for women in this situation is a Go Phone.

If you really want to help, you can donate an old phone:
http://www.ncadv.org/takeaction/DonateaPhone.php

I know my partner shares phones with family thru Sprint and they can't see everything.

http://community.sprint.com/baw/community/buzzaboutwireless/customer-service/sprintdotcom-support/blog/2012/07/16/dont-share-your-account-pin-or-security-questionanswer-for-online-profile-creation

It costs more per minute, but you can get Triple Unit phones that bring the cost way down.

Or just stop using the phone for awhile to call people--use the Tracfone for that, and only use it for INCOMING calls.

You'd think Sprint would allow the person to dump that contract if they fired up a new one. How much would the penalty be?

Sprint lies about the contract when you sign up.

I had to break my Sprint contract and the penalty was more than it should have been according to the formula they gave me when I signed up. Wouldn't have been too bad because my new company, Credo, promised to refund the penalty. But Sprint refused to send the final bill. They just wanted me to pay it, kept insisting that the hard copy I was asking for was a "duplicate," told me that "maybe" they might be able to print it for me if I came to their store, and then they were too busy trying to slime new customers into signing up. Jerks.

Even if I didn't have to pay the penalty in the end, I still wanted to know why it was so high. Got some manager to explain to me the formula they use. I pointed out that that was not the same formula I had been told at sign-up. He said no, the real formula is too complicated to explain. I said, "So Sprint lies." "No," he said, "of course not. Sprint doesn't lie."

Jerks. I want nothing to do with them.

Or some such crap.

When I signed up years ago, the dumbass gave me an out of state telephone number. WTF? Then, they couldn't just give me a new number, they had to cancel the one contract & set up another. I got a $350 bill for the canceled contract. It took a month to iron that mess out.

For 11 years I finally had enough and dropped them, they do not care a whit about any individual customer.....had three phones and they would rather lose a customer than give an inch on their "policies".

Having done through two cell phone contracts I refuse to get into a third contract. If I want a cell phone I will buy an expensive one that I can just put minutes on every month. I don't need a cell phone with every available gimmick and I don't need to send text messages. A cell phone is strictly a means to make a phone call if I am not at work or home. And I spend a lot less money in the process.

The contract gives you a discount on the full price of the phone. The rates are the same and without the contract you can stop using their service whenever you decide.

$30 phone and a 200 minute phone card each month is plenty good enough for me. I am actually without a cell phone at the minute because I just don't need one. I only make local calls at home on a land line. Beyond that, there is the internet with email, Face Book, DU, etc. Friends and family are more likely to get me by email then any other way.

Had to jump through a couple of (fairly easy) hoops, but once I did that they took the remaining cost of the contract off of my bill.

... but just saying, They entirely use the sprint network. I don't know how if they are even allowed to buy out a sprint contract.

or as public private partnerships or using the government's power of eminent domain to acquire land. It's not "Sprint's network" any more than they are "NBC's airwaves".

Thank you for the link.

Signed and sent.

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A bit different topic, but my husband served on a jury on a domestic violence case a while back.

It's illegal here to prevent someone from a 911 call. The women, who was getting severely beat, tried to call 911, but the guy grabbed the phone and tossed it. So one of the charges against the man was interfering with a 911 call.

The jury-- except for my husband--decided the guy wasn't guilty of that because it couldn't be proven. My husband was pissed. He told he'd sit there for days and as far as he was concerned, finding a beaten woman's cell phone across the room on the floor was evidence enough, given the rest of the circumstances, for example the hole in the Sheetrock her head made when he threw her up against the wall

My husband prevailed, and the asshole was convicted on ALL counts.

There need to be more men like your husband, who will stand with us and say "NO MORE."

And he does.

but need to keep paying the bill. Women are treated like children. A ten year old boy was able to impersonate my ex and get the phone turned off. And I am a career woman. It was an eye-opening experience.

be so--I imagine a wet-behind-the-ears lawyer could get someone out of that contract pretty easily.

If the phone was in the ex's name, and he signed the contract but was no longer living in the home, then HE is responsible for the bill. The thing to do is send the bill back to the phone company and say "No longer at this address" and provide the forwarding address.

I just wanted to cancel the phone service. And they basically told me I would have to keep paying the bill with no option to turn it off unless the ex authorized it. I was quite upset at the time. I really raised hell about it, then asked the kid to impersonate the ex and they finally relented.

I am glad I didn't have to go to a lawyer. But I was mad enough to!

because the guy you say is "in charge" of this bill ain't living in this house--here's his forwarding address. You send the damn bill to him and he'll tell you where to stuff it, I'm quite sure!

If it's in his name, it's his game!

Then you call the phone company and get a phone in your OWN name. Or get a tracfone that no one can trace and be real careful about who you hand the number out to!

I was trying to get a price on a car from an out of state dealer because it had a hard to find option package. They WOULD NOT tell me the asking price over the phone, they wanted me to come look at it. Wouldn't even give me a ballpark figure.

Anyhow, I had my boyfriend call and the exact same person gave him the price immediately and without hesitation.

Needless to say I bought the car someplace else.

a very strong case for women maintaining their social and financial independence in a marriage.

Start by not changing your last name. Then, keep your own credit cards in your name. Have your own separate checking accounts.

If there is a break-up, no need to move and look for cheaper accomodations because you based your living standard on dual incomes.

When you have your own name, you control your own life.

Although I did have a friend years ago who hated her name (it was pretty awful--it sounded way too much like a personal body part) and she was thrilled to marry someone with a much more generic name and change hers out. She kept the name but not the husband!