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If you were to start on Independence Avenue from where it splits off from Pennsylvania Avenue NE at Third Street and head east, as you get to RFK Stadium you loop around the circle and then cross the Anacostia River on East Capitol Street. A few miles later on your left is an aging junior high school building that houses a non-profit charter Middle School and companion High School. I teach in the former.
Knowing several of the staff, and having visited the school previously, I thought I was prepared. I knew the population was very much at-risk. I had no idea.
I teach 7th grade Social Studies - Ancient World History. The students are all African-American, from Wards 7 & 8, the poorest parts of the District of Columbia. We are just several hundred yards inside the District from its boundary with Prince George's County Maryland. The students are supposed to wear uniform shirts, different by grade, which most of them do. I knew that many came from families that at best struggle, some from single parent households, some living with relatives other than their parents. Still I was not prepared. I did not expect a small 7th grade girl who walked into my room - she is due to give birth on January 23, when she will still be 12 years old.
I am told that she will be the 2nd 7th grader to give birth this year.
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I teach less than five miles from our nation's Capitol, in a setting that remains invisible to far too many who make policy based on flawed and incomplete data without ever seeing the reality of the children.
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a geek named Bob
(2,715 posts)Been a while...
Warpy
(111,357 posts)instead of expelled to live without education and without hope, out of sight so that bureaucrats could deny their existence.
12 year olds were getting pregnant 50 years ago when I was in school. This is nothing new. What is new is that we're dealing with it rather than denying it.
Brickbat
(19,339 posts)liberal_at_heart
(12,081 posts)Is she giving it up for adoption or is she going to try to raise a newborn at the age of 12 or 13 and still be able to stay in school? Pregnant teens are now allowed to go to school rather than being forced out but the drop out rates are still very high for this group of young women. The odds are against her but I wish her the best. I hope she beats those odds.
immoderate
(20,885 posts)A girl I taught was fourteen. Her daughter was two. Nice kid. Good mother from what I saw.
--imm
beveeheart
(1,371 posts)in Salisbury MD. One of my 7th grade students hid her pregnancy from everyone and gave birth to the baby on the kitchen floor where her mother found her and the baby when she arrived home from work. The girl never returned to school.
It's a very good thing that the girls can remain in school now, even though some still do discontinue their education.
WinkyDink
(51,311 posts)proverbial sun.
Liberal_in_LA
(44,397 posts)Heather MC
(8,084 posts)This may happen often but it's always shocking. I have a son who will turn 11 this December I don't look at him and think, oh yeah he is ready to be a daddy. I see a little boy who likes riding his bike, playing video games, and playing trains with is little brother.
I hope this little girl gets the support she needs to stay in school. She is still just a little girl no matter what adult things she thinks she is ready for.
The sad reality is no one will treat this girl like she was violated and she was, who is the father? Will he be held responsible for the life he created.
I know a guy who got a girl pregnant when he was 14, His father mad him man up an take care of his son. And he never got another girl pregant after that. well not without marrying her first.
this is sad
knitter4democracy
(14,350 posts)Most fathers of young girls' babies are quite a bit older from the studies I've seen. Chances are, the father's a relative, a friend of the family, or a female relative's boyfriend.
Hestia
(3,818 posts)12 year who knocked her up, this is abuse plain and simple.
defacto7
(13,485 posts)There's the abuse... neglect.
white_wolf
(6,238 posts)Blaming either of the kids is just stupid. Neither of them are old enough to really understand the consequences of their actions, especially if their parents aren't willing to talk to them about sex and explain the risks, which a lot of parents aren't.
madinmaryland
(64,933 posts)Can it even be called consensual when neither of them are even teenagers??
white_wolf
(6,238 posts)vaberella
(24,634 posts)For instance in Alaska you can be 13 and consent to having sex with someone 13 but younger than 16. Even though the state laws says the age of consent is technically 16. However, it would not in any way sexual abuse if let's say a 13 year old consents to having sex with another 13 year old.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ages_of_consent_in_North_America#United_States
madinmaryland
(64,933 posts)The question I have, is do 13 year olds have the legal ability to consent to anything? Yes, it's a very gray area.
If it is considered consensual, then who is responsible for the child? The mother or father, the grandparents, the state...?
And will any state allow them to marry at the age of 13?
Schema Thing
(10,283 posts)the addition of "legal" to "consent" doesn't really modify the word consent, it changes it's meaning into a useful legal term with a unique definition not all that related to the original word "consent".
Karia
(176 posts)it is usually by an adult.
white_wolf
(6,238 posts)If they were both 12 years old it wasn't child abuse. They are both children, the boy involved isn't anymore mature or responsible than the than the girl, assuming it was consensual. It was poor judgment on both of their parts. Honestly I'm more upset with the parents of the two people involved than I am with either of them. They both messed up, but their parents shouldn't have allowed this to happen. Trying to have a 12 year old charged for child abuse is just stupid and will cause far more harm than good. The best thing for society to do in this case is make sure the mother is aware of all of her options regarding her pregnancy knows that she can give it up for adoption if she chooses.
knitter4democracy
(14,350 posts)The odds are very high that the father of the baby isn't under the age of 18.
vaberella
(24,634 posts)That is in Canada---I say take anything and give it an exponent and you've just been introduced to American schools.
Ilsa
(61,698 posts)should be giving birth. If it was my daughter, I'd probably talk her into having an abortion. Pregnancy in one so young is high risk. I'm surprised doctors or parents go this route.
AgingAmerican
(12,958 posts)...when I was a kid. The neighborhood was poor and white in Washington state. This is relatively common in really poor neighborhoods in the US, unfortunately.