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lastlib

(23,233 posts)
Thu Feb 7, 2013, 10:47 AM Feb 2013

Two of Phelps' granddaughters leave Westboro Church

http://www.kansascity.com/2013/02/06/4052727/two-members-leave-westboro-church.html#storylink=omni_popular

Two granddaughters of Westboro Baptist Church firebrand Fred Phelps have split with the Topeka-based congregation, indicating their views have evolved and they now regret the pain they have caused others.


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A statement signed by both sisters and posted on social media Wednesday said the two were trying to figure out their future.

“We know that we’ve done and said things that hurt people,” the statement said. “Inflicting pain on others wasn’t the goal, but it was one of the outcomes. We wish it weren’t so and regret that hurt.”

Steve Drain, a spokesman for the church, said in an interview Wednesday that the sisters had rejected the Lord. “We can’t control whether or not somebody decides, when they grow up, that they don’t want to be here,” Drain said. “Those two girls were kind of straddling the idea that they wanted to be of the world but that they would also miss their family, the only thing they ever knew. If they continue with the position that they have, those two girls, yeah, they’re going to hell.”


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Two of Phelps' granddaughters leave Westboro Church (Original Post) lastlib Feb 2013 OP
"yeah, they're going to hell" barbtries Feb 2013 #1
I thought that was for "God" to judge? Sounds like Blasphemy to me! AAO Feb 2013 #14
Lovely church, that one. longship Feb 2013 #2
That is how they console themselves for being so stupid siligut Feb 2013 #9
Good for them! KurtNYC Feb 2013 #3
I had them on my twitter for awhile. TrogL Feb 2013 #4
Ever quote the story of Jesus healing the Roman warriors male lover? nt justiceischeap Feb 2013 #7
Yes, actually. The problem is that a "Bible Christian" won't accept a sociological argument. TrogL Feb 2013 #15
There is nothing like a Christian with a good theological training to confront these bigots. Thanks. jwirr Feb 2013 #8
I hope they are warmly welcomed to their new life. annabanana Feb 2013 #5
Absolutely caraher Feb 2013 #6
I hope so also. Sissyk Feb 2013 #17
+1 anyone can change and I think we should give the benefit of the doubt Politicub Feb 2013 #18
GOD hates granddaughters! Liberalagogo Feb 2013 #10
Defections are usually the beginning of the end for organizations like this Downtown Hound Feb 2013 #11
More power to them! I love these brave, intelligent Young Ladies!! hue Feb 2013 #12
Brave intelligent young ladies??! oberliner Feb 2013 #19
they were intelligent enough Skelly Feb 2013 #20
Fair point oberliner Feb 2013 #27
they were brainwashed from before they were born magical thyme Feb 2013 #28
OK - but what about the other people they have hurt? oberliner Feb 2013 #29
I didn't call 27 years old a child magical thyme Feb 2013 #30
That's good news. Chorophyll Feb 2013 #13
Evolution. WilliamPitt Feb 2013 #16
--gasp!-- lastlib Feb 2013 #25
That's amazing for people who've been raised since birth within the cult. Kablooie Feb 2013 #21
Are either or both of these women shawn703 Feb 2013 #22
I found a little more on skepchick, showing in the midst of insanity, logic works: freshwest Feb 2013 #23
This message was self-deleted by its author Shankapotomus Feb 2013 #24
STeVE frigging DrAIn??? farminator3000 Feb 2013 #26

siligut

(12,272 posts)
9. That is how they console themselves for being so stupid
Thu Feb 7, 2013, 12:19 PM
Feb 2013

They have to continually lie to themselves and thus condemn anyone who threatens their fantasy world.

TrogL

(32,822 posts)
4. I had them on my twitter for awhile.
Thu Feb 7, 2013, 11:33 AM
Feb 2013

They got really upset when I'd quote Bible passages they weren't familiar with or discussed Greek grammar.

TrogL

(32,822 posts)
15. Yes, actually. The problem is that a "Bible Christian" won't accept a sociological argument.
Thu Feb 7, 2013, 12:50 PM
Feb 2013

To them, the Bible says what the Bible says and only in English. To them, you're reading into the word "servant" because there's no literal translation from the Greek in English. Also, they don't care what was happening in society at the time. If it ain't the Bible, it didn't happen.

jwirr

(39,215 posts)
8. There is nothing like a Christian with a good theological training to confront these bigots. Thanks.
Thu Feb 7, 2013, 12:19 PM
Feb 2013

annabanana

(52,791 posts)
5. I hope they are warmly welcomed to their new life.
Thu Feb 7, 2013, 11:59 AM
Feb 2013

They have known nothing BUT this poisoned family all their lives. They are incredibly vulnerable right now and subject to exploitation. I hope that there is a welcoming community available to them to help them transition.

caraher

(6,278 posts)
6. Absolutely
Thu Feb 7, 2013, 12:08 PM
Feb 2013

They're victims of years growing up in an abusive cult, and deserve every consideration as they recover.

Sissyk

(12,665 posts)
17. I hope so also.
Thu Feb 7, 2013, 01:00 PM
Feb 2013

I can't imagine being raised with that much hate for the world by your parents and grandparents. Hopefully, this generation will be the start of the end for Westboro!

I wish these two young ladies well!

Downtown Hound

(12,618 posts)
11. Defections are usually the beginning of the end for organizations like this
Thu Feb 7, 2013, 12:35 PM
Feb 2013

It always starts with a few, and then grows...

 

oberliner

(58,724 posts)
19. Brave intelligent young ladies??!
Thu Feb 7, 2013, 01:02 PM
Feb 2013

Are you kidding? Have you seen the things they have said/tweeted over the past few years?

Skelly

(238 posts)
20. they were intelligent enough
Thu Feb 7, 2013, 01:36 PM
Feb 2013

to figure out what they were told and brought up to believe was a lie (many quite older than these two ladies still haven't figured it out). Then, they were brave enough to not only do something about it, but what they did required them to leave their families, and the only way of life they have never known. Not an easy thing to do.

 

magical thyme

(14,881 posts)
28. they were brainwashed from before they were born
Thu Feb 7, 2013, 05:22 PM
Feb 2013

It took incredible insight for them to overcome that brainwashing, and courage for them to leave the only world they've ever known.

If you read the article, you will see that they are staying with a sibling who had left earlier. They are paving the path for additional young family members to leave.

That they have done so, and done so publicly, is already significant atonement.

 

oberliner

(58,724 posts)
29. OK - but what about the other people they have hurt?
Thu Feb 7, 2013, 06:01 PM
Feb 2013

What about those who were at the receiving end of their hateful words, deeds, and tweets. Have you seen the BBC doc on the church and their involvement? They have a LOT to atone for. 27 years old is not a child.

 

magical thyme

(14,881 posts)
30. I didn't call 27 years old a child
Thu Feb 7, 2013, 06:17 PM
Feb 2013

But when you've been brainwashed your entire life, that is literally all you know. Their escape is no different than the escape of Jeffrey whatizname's Mormon child brides. It isn't easy, it doesn't happen over night, many never make the break. Even now, the "spokespeople" are calling for them to burn in hell. That is their parents and siblings calling for them to burn in hell.

It is not so easy to leave your family and the beliefs that were put into your brain your entire life. Many people are never able to...I suspect the majority.

Certainly I feel for the victims of their hateful words. As somebody who grew up bullied, I can totally empathize. But at least their hate was limited to words. Words hurt vulnerable children far more than adults, who normally have developed the capacity to tune them out. And their hateful words have repeatedly been mitigated by protesters turning up at funerals to surround the grieving families.

As somebody who has recently lost several loved ones, I also know that when one is grieving, stranger's words don't penetrate. Even a kind person officiating is barely present in your consciousness. I don't mean to suggest that what they do doesn't matter; only that the pain of loss is so great that what they do barely exists in comparison. It's like a hangnail when you've been stabbed in the heart. Your total focus is on your lost loved one and your bleeding heart.

Chorophyll

(5,179 posts)
13. That's good news.
Thu Feb 7, 2013, 12:45 PM
Feb 2013

I can't really see this "church" hanging together very well once that delusional old loon kicks the bucket.

lastlib

(23,233 posts)
25. --gasp!--
Thu Feb 7, 2013, 02:06 PM
Feb 2013

how can that happen, Will? The Bible says if you believe in in, you're going to hell! It's right there in The Gospel according to Fred, ch.2, verse 4!

shawn703

(2,702 posts)
22. Are either or both of these women
Thu Feb 7, 2013, 01:47 PM
Feb 2013

In that documentary about their church some years back? I just remember watching it and thinking how odd it was listening to them tell another person they were going to hell in a matter-of-fact way and with smiles on their faces.

freshwest

(53,661 posts)
23. I found a little more on skepchick, showing in the midst of insanity, logic works:
Thu Feb 7, 2013, 02:02 PM
Feb 2013
She left last November but her announcement was apparently timed to coincide with this article from Jeff Chu.

In Chu’s piece, Phelps describes the moment she started seriously thinking about alternatives to the viewpoint she was raised with: “My doubts started with a conversation I had with David Abitbol,” she says. Megan met David, an Israeli web developer who’s part of the team behind the blog Jewlicious, on Twitter.

“I would ask him questions about Judaism, and he would ask me questions about church doctrine. One day, he asked a specific question about one of our signs— ‘Death Penalty for Fags’— and I was arguing for the church’s position, that it was a Levitical punishment and as completely appropriate now as it was then. He said, ‘But Jesus said’—and I thought it was funny he was quoting Jesus—‘Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.’ And then he connected it to another member of the church who had done something that, according to the Old Testament, was also punishable by death. I realized that if the death penalty was instituted for any sin, you completely cut off the opportunity to repent. And that’s what Jesus was talking about.”

The story supports the idea that I (and many other skeptics) have long stressed: the key to winning someone over isn’t to do it all in one argument but to plant a seed of doubt that eventually grows. It’s amazing that Megan and her sister were able to overcome years of indoctrination and leave. It appears from the article as though Megan still believes in a god, but I’d be very interested to know if the sisters are in touch with their brother uncle, atheist Nate Phelps, and whether or not they’ll be exploring the possibility that God doesn’t hate fags not because he’s a great guy but because he’s not really there.


http://skepchick.org/2013/02/megan-and-grace-phelps-leave-westboro/

Let he who is without sin cast the first stone and For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.

Christians differ on the application of those verses, dependent on their level of humanity and humility. That's the crux of the difference between conservative and liberal believers, in my experience. The former are more judgmental of others, only because they have not grasped the logic that they, too, are eligible for hell.

They often use the 'born again' excuse, which is like the 'rapture' both added on to allow them to get away with what they have done or plan to do wrong. Despite the phrase in scripture, it's a logical fail as they apply those concepts.

Because if they were 'born again' with hearts like children, they would not be judgmental. If they were too good for life in this realm and deserving of escaping the End Times, they'd already be gone.

JMHO, not interested in religious debate.

Response to lastlib (Original post)

farminator3000

(2,117 posts)
26. STeVE frigging DrAIn???
Thu Feb 7, 2013, 02:48 PM
Feb 2013
Steve Drain, a spokesman for the church,

that Megan is a looker! she can join my church (of one) anytime!
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