Why I suspect many women have lil sympathy for the LAPD

From 1990 to mid-1991, I dealt with a stalker.

Unfortunately he was subletting an apartment in the same apartment building where i lived. So according to the way the cops deal with "Real Estate law," his lease meant he had the right to live there. And if his idea of living there was to pound on my door for fifteen minutes, at three in the morning, screaming at the top of his lungs that he was going to "break your F____ Neck," there didn't seem to be anything I could do about it. The cops dismissed the death threats, even when witnessed by fellow apartment dwellers.

So I remained in a weird sort of limbo, where i didn't feel safe. I actually rented an artists' studio, so occasionally I had somewhere safe to sleep. I tried to have something happen about this abuse, but what that was, I didn't know. The police had no interest in helping me. The best they came up with was a "Maybe you should move out." They did offer reassurance that should I actually be killed, they would at least have a record of the abuse, so they would probably have the right person to nail for my murder. But that is not very much reassurance, is it?

Around the same time, one Nicole Simpson was being battered by Football Hero OJ Simpson, and despite her battered face, her complaints to the police in Southern Calif., usually ended up with the cops badgering OJ for some autographed photos. We know how that one ended.

Even now, things remain like this for women who are threatened. A friend here in Lake County called police when her boyfriend was moving towards her, and attempting to grab her and hurt her. She used her garden hose as a means to keep him at bay till police arrived. And guess what? Since the hose kept him from grabbing her a second time, she was considered guilty of assault, as getting someone wet with a hose is now considered an assault!

And it is not always man on woman violence, as writer Hurtzel attests in a recent article: http://nymag.com/thecut/2013/01/elizabeth-wurtzel-on-self-help.html Her landlord threatens her repeatedly, and the NYC PD could care less.

So Los Angeles police, you have your threats. Lucky for you guys, I have learned how to counsel you, from those wonderful times in the past when your colleagues counseled me. So here goes my counsel "Obviously LA Police - you friggin' deserve it. Something you did tripped this guy up, otherwise he wouldn't be threatening you. And if you don't like the threats, then friggin move out of LA County and get jobs elsewhere.

"So suck it up LAPD. Have yourselves a merry lil time with this - you must all be drama queens to seek out this person's attention! But don't worry, if he kills you, you'll be able to do something about it then."


A website with more information and stats on women and their vulnerability: http://www.futureswithoutviolence.org/content/action_center/detail/754