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Last edited Thu Feb 28, 2013, 02:21 PM - Edit history (1)
trying to escape from their oppressive religious communities.
She's written a brief essay as part of a scholarship application, the winners to be determined by online voting. If you want to help, you could vote at the link.
http://www.wyzant.com/scholarships/v3/essay64934-Charlotte-NC.aspx
I grew up in an extremely religious home where women were encouraged to refuse an education and degree and have children and be homemakers. I left when I was 20 and have spent two years rounding out my education and working to save money so I can go to college. My parents refuse to support me or offer any assistance, including just signing my FAFSA.
If I were to finish college and get a degree, I would first help my 6 younger siblings (specifically the two girls) to also find a way out and get on their feet and go to school.
Then, I would love to create a safe-house where children of religious homeschooling families can come to improve their lives and future and have hope.
From struggling with poverty, to being unable to get a job without a resume or employment history, and often a substandard education; the children of the Quiverfull movement have extreme challenges to overcome. A home like this would be a safe platform for them to transition into the world without being abandoned to struggle. Many of their parents wish this difficulty for their children, saying it will cause them to return and be content with the party line. I want to create a buffer for the pain parents cause when they shun and disinherit their children for religious reasons.
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http://www.wyzant.com/scholarships/v3/terms.aspx?a=1
Prior to June 7, 2013, a second round of evaluation will take place during which current tutors on WyzAnt will be allowed to vote on the twenty finalists. At the conclusion of this period, the three Applicants whose essays have secured the highest total votes will be awarded scholarships of $10,000, $3,000 and $2,000 respectively. Each scholarship will be paid directly to the scholarship recipient's college or university.
CaliforniaPeggy
(149,641 posts)It's a difficult and lonely path she is on.
GoCubsGo
(32,086 posts)Hope she is successful.
freshwest
(53,661 posts)pnwmom
(108,980 posts)ProfessionalLeftist
(4,982 posts)leftynyc
(26,060 posts)The taliban would have beheaded or stoned her rather than let her escape their lifestyle. That said, this does sound like child abuse to me but religious fanatics tend to really piss me off.
ProfessionalLeftist
(4,982 posts)And religious fanatics piss me off to no end too.
southernyankeebelle
(11,304 posts)them up to become leaders in their government and turn us into a christain law runned country. What a group. The thing is all these groups such as this are doing it right under our noses and they don't care if it takes years. They figure they will win and turn us over. That is why I fear the republican party let them take over them. Scary stuff if you read about this group and many more like them. Palin is one of them. She thinks she is god's chosen. She thinks she is Queen Esther. America needs to pay attention to these people.
alp227
(32,034 posts)and then transvaginal ultrasound bills, I think the GOP already has.
southernyankeebelle
(11,304 posts)or 100 yrs to get what they want this country to be.
Ikonoklast
(23,973 posts)They have played the 'long game' now for over 100 years.
CrispyQ
(36,478 posts)It was two to three years ago, when Jack Cafferty was still on Blitzer's show. Cafferty did a brief segment on the dominionists. He had never heard of them. He was genuinely distressed about what he had learned & shared some things on air. He asked viewers to write in. Later, he read some responses. Every response, except one, had never heard of dominionists & they were as disturbed about it as Jack. It was apparent that people wanted to know more, but do you think CNN ever did a followup on dominionists? Fuck no. Religion is sacrosanct. Even if it's some seriously fucked up shit, talk about God & Jesus & you're safe. Words speak louder than actions.
southernyankeebelle
(11,304 posts)think Palin is. Also check out Seven Mountains. We must be kept aware. By the way is Caffy still on the CNN staff?
CrispyQ
(36,478 posts)He was one of the main hosts on CNN's morning show back in 2001. He was a real cheerleader for the Iraq war & Bush in general. Then he started to see the light & started speaking out. Next thing you know, he had two 3-minutes segments in Blitzer's show. I think even to the end he was a thorn in their paw.
southernyankeebelle
(11,304 posts)susanr516
(1,425 posts)Their goal is to overthrow the US government and establish a theocracy. They take the phrase, "Repent or die," literally. Other names for it are Christian Reconstructionism and Theonomy. Read a little about their beliefs; extremely scary, indeed.
Thanks for posting this.
Lars39
(26,109 posts)MineralMan
(146,317 posts)She needs nothing but her determination and help from those who understand her issues and goals. I think she will get what she needs.
antigone382
(3,682 posts)While understandable, this is a huge stumbling block for many people that I know when they are trying to go to college. I think it is one reason we are seeing so many nontraditional students these days (myself included). It was much easier for me once i no longer had to list the income of my estranged father, as if he has anything to do with my financial life.
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)even though you didn't have your parents' help.
distantearlywarning
(4,475 posts)My parents weren't interested in helping me financially, but they made a lot of money. I had to wait until I was in my mid-20s to go to college, because I couldn't get any financial aid at all when I was required to put their income on my forms - income I wasn't able to actually benefit from!
laundry_queen
(8,646 posts)Frustrating! I mean besides the fact you have to deal with parents who don't give a shit about your education, you have to deal with being forcefully disadvantaged because of them.
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)There's no excuse for making it 24.
Sorry this happened to you!
BuddhaGirl
(3,608 posts)she could be ruled ineligible, however a financial aid director usually has the authority to override certain regulations and could determine she is independent.
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)There are only a few exceptions now -- e.g., if she is married, has a baby, or is applying to grad school.
The age was bumped up a long time ago.
MineralMan
(146,317 posts)scholarship. I wish her success, but think she will succeed, one way or another.
Lars39
(26,109 posts)until she is age 24.
on edit: age 24, not 25.
bettyellen
(47,209 posts)to be treated like a 2nd class citizen.
Hope she gets the scholarship!
MineralMan
(146,317 posts)Christians in this country are very dangerous. They have zero tolerance for anything or anyone who is not closely aligned with their weird ideas. Because of this, they are against everything the United States is supposed to be for. They need shaming, at a minimum.
Pab Sungenis
(9,612 posts)End the cycle.
nolabear
(41,987 posts)It is indeed Taliban-like in keeping girls from being able to say "No" to men and make their own way in the world.
BuddhaGirl
(3,608 posts)This is an old photo, however
nolabear
(41,987 posts)pnwmom
(108,980 posts)BanzaiBonnie
(3,621 posts)I would love to know how she came to know of the "outside world."
BlancheSplanchnik
(20,219 posts)And that's an interesting question.
ancianita
(36,101 posts)Still Blue in PDX
(1,999 posts)I remember being chastised on message boards by those women about my sinfulness in not trusting the Lord enough to quit my job and stay home and bring an endless stream of babies into the world. Sometimes I let it get to me, but looking at my kids and their lives, though not perfect, I'm very happy with my choices.
Thank you for sharing this!
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)get the red out
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We, as a nation, are neglectful of the educational and psychological needs of young women raised in cults to be nothing but slaves and brood mares. It's considered "freedom of religion" when you fuck up another person's life and deny them full exercise of their rights because they happen to be your offspring.
BlancheSplanchnik
(20,219 posts)We can't give up. We have to fight for more women in power in all aspects of society--liberal, progressive women who know what discrimination is and have empathy and a drive to improve everyone's lives.
MadrasT
(7,237 posts)pnwmom
(108,980 posts)Moosepoop
(1,920 posts)I hope she's able to fulfill her dreams of being able to help others in her position.
Hekate
(90,714 posts)Little Star
(17,055 posts)My family home had the same stupid thinking that hers did. I hope she gets the scholarship. k&r
geardaddy
(24,931 posts)And best of luck to her.
dhol82
(9,353 posts)Can she not divorce her family? I have a problem with the concept of not having anything to do with parents and still needing their permission to get a loan.
Anybody know?
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)It appears to be very difficult, at least in most states. The law doesn't seem to recognize that there could be a necessity for this, once a person is 18 or older. (The emancipation laws only apply to those under 18.)
dhol82
(9,353 posts)How can you not get free of a toxic family until you get to be 24? Is that a magic age? Would the young person be liable for the parents debts, even if they do not live at home?
This is just a terrible situation.
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)years ago, adult children were held liable in some states for parents' nursing home costs. That changed when the Medicaid law was put into effect. But if that law was ever changed or repealed, states would be free again to hold adult children responsible for the care of their parents.
ismnotwasm
(41,992 posts)LadyHawkAZ
(6,199 posts)pnwmom
(108,980 posts)sheshe2
(83,793 posts)And Voted!
BlancheSplanchnik
(20,219 posts)april
(1,148 posts)hamsterjill
(15,222 posts)It must be extremely difficult to have been reared in that society, and yet have the brilliance of mind to oppose the doctrines of that society.
I hope this young woman has a bright future. She deserves it.
woo me with science
(32,139 posts)xxqqqzme
(14,887 posts)Heathen57
(573 posts)and then put onto my Facebook page, so she will get votes from the 3 people who follow me.
She has a important cause, and I wish her all the luck that she wins the scholarship.
wildeyed
(11,243 posts)Wishing her the best, she got my vote.
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)frylock
(34,825 posts)bravo! I voted for her as well.
Sissyk
(12,665 posts)and I wish her the best! THanks, pnwmom, for brining this here.
City Lights
(25,171 posts)Very courageous! I wish her the best of luck!
another_liberal
(8,821 posts)Far, far too often home schooling of children functions as what amounts to child neglect. Very few people are truly qualified to properly "school" their own children in the subjects taught by trained teachers.
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)I know a woman who had no one to turn to, when she was abused, because she was home-schooled in an isolated location.
another_liberal
(8,821 posts)Sometimes home schooling is actually used to teach children they should accept the worst kinds of abuse without complaint.
riderinthestorm
(23,272 posts)to make her dream come true. We need her to succeed!
DeSwiss
(27,137 posts)riderinthestorm
(23,272 posts)pnwmom
(108,980 posts)riderinthestorm
(23,272 posts)tabbycat31
(6,336 posts)I voted for her and wish I could vote again. I wish her a bright future.
I hope she writes a book about her experiences. I'd be the first to read it (I love books about escaping oppressive religions).