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Tab

(11,093 posts)
Sat Mar 30, 2013, 04:51 AM Mar 2013

Arizona man, 86, sentenced to probation after mercy killing of his ailing wife

There was no doubt 86-year-old George Sanders killed his ailing wife. Yet everyone in the small Arizona courtroom — the prosecutor, the judge and even the couple's family members — agreed it was a time for compassion, not punishment.

"My grandfather lived to love my grandmother, to serve and to make her feel as happy as he could every moment of their life," Sanders' grandson, Grant, told the judge, describing the couple's life together as "a beautiful love story."

"I truly believe that the pain had become too much for my grandmother to bear," he said, while Sanders looked on during the sentencing hearing Friday and occasionally wiped his eyes with a tissue as relatives pleaded tearfully for mercy.

Sanders was arrested last fall after he says his wife, Virginia, 81, begged him to kill her. He was initially charged with first-degree murder, but pleaded guilty to manslaughter in a deal with prosecutors. Still, he faced a sentence of up to 12 years.

His wife, whose family called her Ginger, was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis in 1969, and was forced into a wheelchair soon after. She and Sanders, a World War II veteran, moved from Washington state in the 1970s for Arizona's warm, dry climate.

George Sanders became her sole caregiver. He cooked for her, cleaned the house, did laundry, put on her makeup and would take her to the beauty salon where he'd hold her hands up so she could get her nails done.

Eventually, though, his own health deteriorated. He had a pacemaker put in, and Virginia was diagnosed with gangrene on her foot. She was set to be admitted to a hospital, then likely a nursing home where she would spend the remainder of her life.

"It was just the last straw," Sanders told a detective during his interrogation shortly after the shooting at the couple's home in a retirement community outside Phoenix. "She didn't want to go to that hospital ... start cutting her toes off."

He said his wife begged him to kill her. "I said, 'I can't do it honey,'" he told the detective. "She says, 'Yes you can.'"

Sanders then got his revolver and wrapped a towel around it so the bullet wouldn't go into the kitchen. "She says, 'Is this going to hurt?' and I said, 'You won't feel a thing,'" he said.

"She was saying, 'Do it. Do it. Do it.' And I just let it go," Sanders added.

In court Friday, as Sanders awaited his fate, his son told the judge the family never wanted him to be prosecuted.

More: http://www.foxnews.com/us/2013/03/30/arizona-man-86-sentenced-to-probation-after-mercy-killing-his-ailing-wife/

It's going to be a long time before we embrace end-of-life dignity, but we have to go there. Currently we're mired in beginning-of-life dignity (pro-life) while ignoring actual life dignity (reasonable health care) and end-of-life. But we are strangely pro-gun - but that's not the point of this thread.
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graham4anything

(11,464 posts)
1. I don't understand- what is in the kitchen?
Sat Mar 30, 2013, 05:05 AM
Mar 2013

from the article-
Sanders then got his revolver and wrapped a towel around it so the bullet wouldn't go into the kitchen.

enough

(13,259 posts)
2. I'm glad everyone agreed in this case. But we need laws so that
Sat Mar 30, 2013, 07:23 AM
Mar 2013

the outcome is not based on compassion and the agreement of prosecutors. It's easy to imagine situations in which prosecutors would be avid for a different outcome.

We need laws to allow people's family and friends to help them die with dignity when the individual decides it is time.

Thanks for posting this story, Tab.

GeoWilliam750

(2,522 posts)
4. We have beaten so many killers
Sat Mar 30, 2013, 07:45 AM
Mar 2013

So many diseases, infections, starvation, heart disease, cancer, and so many other things. It is so very much harder to die than it once was - prolonging life has become so technologically easy, and profitable too.

We now live until we destroy that which we worked so hard to create, and that which we love so much.

Ours is the first generation that has had to think really hard about how much care to give our aging parents, and whether another five years in a nursing home bed is a good thing or the ultimate cruelty.

However, the moral dilemma is whether allowing some one to die is the same as killing them. Whether allowing some one to live in suffering is the same as torturing them.

I do not presume to have the answer, but having had a number of family in elder care, there is no way I could serve on a jury, and punish a man for easing the pain of - to him - the most beloved person in the world, in the only way left - to him.

I can also understand that the state must prosecute, or set a terrifying precedent.



Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
6. So sad that the end is this way. Maybe they'll meet again later.
Sat Mar 30, 2013, 08:13 AM
Mar 2013

That was probably their last opportunity to take their futures into their own hands, before they carted her off to an institution, and then what would happen to him?

If I were the wife, I wouldn't want to live at that point. Quality, not quantity, of life is what it's all about to some.

 

Hoyt

(54,770 posts)
7. I cannot believe we force people like George Sanders to do this. It's past time for euthanasia.
Sat Mar 30, 2013, 10:59 AM
Mar 2013

Sure, it can be abused, but this poor man who loved his wife was abused too.
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