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DainBramaged

(39,191 posts)
Fri May 3, 2013, 08:22 PM May 2013

I just got home a few minutes ago, cops everywhere, the coroner's van parked in the street

My downstairs neighbor, in his 50's, not an educated man, hung himself.


Lost his menial job on the night crew of a supermarket of many years to an argument with his supervisor. Soon after unable to find work, his girlfriend of many years and their daughter left him because he had become abusive and argumentative. After the first year, we noticed he had begun drinking, parking on the sidewalk, talking slurred when we saw him on his deck. The last time I talked to him a couple of months ago, he had said he was out of money and he would have to leave here soon because he couldn't' find a job, a menial job for an uneducated soul. He didn't know how to use a computer, he was amazed at what I do. He went out many mornings, I've seen him nicely dressed in a tie, but I guess he just didn't fit the profile for corporate America.


They must have put the eviction notice on his door today because it wasn't there this morning when I left for work. The only reason they found him was a visit from his sister late this afternoon. A visit to give him some money to help him out. (I talked to her before I sat down to write this tonight).


Another victim of the recession dies alone. No money, no job, no hope. His cry for help unheard.


It just sucks.

Godspeed Woody. You deserved better.


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I just got home a few minutes ago, cops everywhere, the coroner's van parked in the street (Original Post) DainBramaged May 2013 OP
k&r.. spanone May 2013 #1
Damn, Dain. elleng May 2013 #2
he could have been working in a factory Skittles May 2013 #3
^ This! Lizzie Poppet May 2013 #9
We no longer live in a country, we live in a corporation, USA, Inc., with a bottom line P&L. USA, RKP5637 May 2013 #57
Yes. I have family members who worked in unionized factory jobs until retiring comfortably whathehell May 2013 #69
AN UPDATE DainBramaged May 2013 #139
so sad Skittles May 2013 #140
. Little Star May 2013 #4
Damn indeed nadinbrzezinski May 2013 #5
Tragically, I expect to hear stories like that more and more in the years to come. n/t winter is coming May 2013 #6
Yep. But of course this is all going exactly according to plan. kestrel91316 May 2013 #17
Exactly. WinkyDink May 2013 #48
It is Nite Owl May 2013 #64
some show today on radio was saying that the people I want to say 40-65 have a higher suicide rate lunasun May 2013 #20
Oh, I think the under-40's know they're getting the shitty end of the stick, too. winter is coming May 2013 #30
Everyone is going to suffer in the new America, and those that still don't get it just haven't RKP5637 May 2013 #60
I read similar.. defacto7 May 2013 #44
I can not remember the radio show either ! but this link says Native Americans lunasun May 2013 #47
The Native American suicide rate has always been defacto7 May 2013 #52
Oh we know it will not fare well and all the injured they are already fucking with too lunasun May 2013 #58
;( defacto7 May 2013 #95
Could it have been Thom Hartmann? LongTomH May 2013 #125
I'm so sorry to hear this magellan May 2013 #7
It all gets shoved under the rug, like almost all of the dirt in USA, Inc. n/t RKP5637 May 2013 #63
This breaks my heart. gateley May 2013 #8
Oh, my dear DainBramaged... CaliforniaPeggy May 2013 #10
RIP Woody and some peace to you tonight also lunasun May 2013 #11
When death steps in my garden Xipe Totec May 2013 #12
I love these songs you post. Thoughts we all have. Good to have been loved once, just a little. freshwest May 2013 #33
Thank you annabanana May 2013 #56
Thank you for this Aerows May 2013 #82
It is. Very Painful. nt Xipe Totec May 2013 #92
Ahhh, the great Joan Manuel Serrat. Beacool May 2013 #105
Yes indeed Xipe Totec May 2013 #114
Yeah, it didn't affect the intent of the song. Beacool May 2013 #129
Beautiful. Sad, but beautiful. IrishAyes May 2013 #134
. Liberal_in_LA May 2013 #13
It is getting crueler every day... Lifelong Protester May 2013 #14
Fuck the oligarchs. woo me with science May 2013 #15
The oligarchs don't give a fuck what anyone thinks. n/t RKP5637 May 2013 #65
I have several friends and clients who are just about to fall off the cliff right now, kestrel91316 May 2013 #16
In the last few weeks, quite a few very well educated, highly experienced.... OneGrassRoot May 2013 #18
Being 50+ and out of work in this country has become a LibDemAlways May 2013 #32
this kind of stuff didn't used to happen as much olddots May 2013 #19
Sadly, many Americans have their head so far up their ass they will never see the light of day! n/t RKP5637 May 2013 #70
Very sad, very tragic. I live in a house behind a larger house, converted into... GReedDiamond May 2013 #21
"converted into six or eight 'studio apartments'" Cleita May 2013 #27
I would not really call this particular place... GReedDiamond May 2013 #37
It will be a slum in a few years. Saw many of those Cleita May 2013 #40
I tend to think not... GReedDiamond May 2013 #46
Neither was Santa Monica, but it did have slum housing tucked Cleita May 2013 #50
OK. You're talking about Santa Monica, I am not... GReedDiamond May 2013 #66
You are talking about LA and a lot more of SoCal. This is what our slums are Cleita May 2013 #77
Well, the "shithole" I made reference to in my... GReedDiamond May 2013 #79
Good night to you too. Sleep well. n/t Cleita May 2013 #80
I will, but it's too early to go to sleep...enjoy the rest of tonight, & have a great weekend...nt GReedDiamond May 2013 #81
You did not deserve the responses given No Vested Interest May 2013 #99
Thanks, but it is a weird world, it is. GReedDiamond May 2013 #104
That's too bad and also he may have had health issues that Cleita May 2013 #22
Free health care or Medicare for All would have helped a lot. It takes the edge off. Overseas May 2013 #120
Oh, God. Poor man. Poor, poor guy. He became one of the statistics we just read about... Honeycombe8 May 2013 #23
I personally have known 4 people(over many years) who have committed suicide and they virgogal May 2013 #24
We need to lower SSI to at least age 50 to put a net under these people. CK_John May 2013 #25
But they want to raise it to seventy. Cleita May 2013 #28
They want to kill off many children, old, disabled and ill. And those deemed unproductive to RKP5637 May 2013 #68
No, we have to work until we die. Or, just die. Skeeter Barnes May 2013 #67
You get it. If there are not enough jobs to go around, we have to give people money to live. reformist2 May 2013 #98
Untreated depression is a killer. Ikonoklast May 2013 #26
Is this depression or the result of economic flamingdem May 2013 #88
Seems he may have had some level of a problem all along. Ikonoklast May 2013 #90
It doesn't matter how he lost his job. juajen May 2013 #119
I love Hillary too. IrishAyes May 2013 #135
Just one of the side effects of the "free market," an increase in suicides. mountain grammy May 2013 #29
High rate among "Boomers". glinda May 2013 #96
Very Sorry :( Debbie357 May 2013 #31
How incredibly sad... Sekhmets Daughter May 2013 #34
There are a LOT of people that fit the "Al Bundy" profile... Spitfire of ATJ May 2013 #35
RIP Woody and Peace to you, DB. freshwest May 2013 #36
There's many a slip twixt cup and lip, a great many ways to fail and far fewer to succeed Fumesucker May 2013 #38
That breaks my heart. countmyvote4real May 2013 #39
rip. HiPointDem May 2013 #41
A great sickness has descended upon our world MannyGoldstein May 2013 #42
+1 harun May 2013 #117
This is so heartbreaking! DianaForRussFeingold May 2013 #43
. chknltl May 2013 #45
So sad.... ;( defacto7 May 2013 #49
DreadfulStuff there....Big Hugs to you.....what could you have done...? KoKo May 2013 #51
Another lost human being to the "New age" ...sigh... BlueJazz May 2013 #53
One more of many that will never be heard of by MSM in la la land America, home of delusional RKP5637 May 2013 #54
When there aren't enough jobs to go around, everyone deserves a basic income. reformist2 May 2013 #55
Heard this morning on the radio... Triana May 2013 #59
If you see his sister again madaboutharry May 2013 #61
Capitalism Claims Another Soul And We Let Capitalism Do So - Change The System! cantbeserious May 2013 #62
Godspeed Woody SalviaBlue May 2013 #71
Wasn't there an article on DU this week, which said the percentage Frustratedlady May 2013 #72
a lot about it in the media lately. not only in the us, either. HiPointDem May 2013 #86
Out Among The Stars ~~ Merle Haggard Wernothelpless May 2013 #73
It does suck. Baitball Blogger May 2013 #74
Post removed Post removed May 2013 #75
paying rich people for a DU star DainBramaged May 2013 #78
I hope the supervisor finds out. moondust May 2013 #76
Reports of suicides being up are very disturbing. SleeplessinSoCal May 2013 #83
That is so sad. People are committing suicide all over the world now because they have no sabrina 1 May 2013 #84
That is absolutely fucking terrible. ellie May 2013 #85
So sad flamingdem May 2013 #87
Another casualty of the "new economy." Brigid May 2013 #89
The upper class is a pack of Nazis to not care that they are killing people en masse. diane in sf May 2013 #91
May he rest in peace! hrmjustin May 2013 #93
Sad! RIP Woody! burrowowl May 2013 #94
Yeah....very very sad. tblue May 2013 #97
another one.... BlancheSplanchnik May 2013 #100
peace be with you woody hopemountain May 2013 #101
I know what he was going through I have been there. kevinmc May 2013 #102
Heartbreaking. Beacool May 2013 #103
i'm sorry. what a tragic story. orleans May 2013 #106
Our beloved "free market" system told your friend he was worthless. Ken Burch May 2013 #107
+100000000 woo me with science May 2013 #109
But that's pretty much reality, Ken condoleeza May 2013 #111
Then our work must be to reshape that reality. Ken Burch May 2013 #131
Jeebus! You just sort of described my upstairs neighbor dogknob May 2013 #108
Well, thanks to you, he will not be forgotten. Jamastiene May 2013 #110
This message was self-deleted by its author LisaL May 2013 #126
RIP Woody. LeftofObama May 2013 #112
RIP, Woody ReRe May 2013 #113
I cried like a baby when I read this post. I remember when I was kid in the 50s and 60s madlefty May 2013 #115
And this is the stupid part. If the rich weren't so effing greedy, they could still be winter is coming May 2013 #132
They don't even understand true self interest. IrishAyes May 2013 #136
american capitalism heaven05 May 2013 #116
A lot of 'supervisors' ARE stupid IrishAyes May 2013 #137
Such unnecessary tragedy. CrispyQ May 2013 #118
I get sick of hearing someone Worried senior May 2013 #121
He WAS uneducated, he DID a menial job, it was WHAT HE WAS. DainBramaged May 2013 #122
A Sad K & R !!! WillyT May 2013 #123
An uncounted casualty in the war on the 99% Doctor_J May 2013 #124
R.I.P and Godspeed for your friend! LongTomH May 2013 #127
The Elite 1% didnt want him dead, they just dont care that he is. nm rhett o rick May 2013 #128
My sympathy however mimi85 May 2013 #130
Where was Woody supposed to get $ for meds or a therapist WITH NO JOB? Think! IrishAyes May 2013 #138
So sad to hear IrishAyes May 2013 #133
 

Lizzie Poppet

(10,164 posts)
9. ^ This!
Fri May 3, 2013, 08:34 PM
May 2013

Not so very long ago, Woody could have found a decent job in manufacturing. It might have been hard work. It might have been repetitive work. But it would have paid him a true living wage. Not a subsistence wage...a living wage, one that would have allowed him to enjoy some frivolous things, to put something away for retirement in a paid-for home that was his.

Now? Those jobs are gone. And the responsible parties could give a shit...

What happened to this man makes me so damn mad.

RKP5637

(67,111 posts)
57. We no longer live in a country, we live in a corporation, USA, Inc., with a bottom line P&L. USA,
Fri May 3, 2013, 09:40 PM
May 2013

Inc. is all about money, not about people. People count for less and less each day in USA, Inc. And those that still don't get it just haven't gotten their pink slip yet, be that through age, off shoring, illness and/or the fact that often shit happens. ... but in USA, Inc, none give a damn that have the ability to correct this mess, because $$$$$ to them is more important than "we the people."

whathehell

(29,067 posts)
69. Yes. I have family members who worked in unionized factory jobs until retiring comfortably
Fri May 3, 2013, 10:01 PM
May 2013

in their Sixties.

I SO hate how so many have been sold out. My dad, a WW II Veteran and proud FDR Democrat all of his life would

be sick about it.

DainBramaged

(39,191 posts)
139. AN UPDATE
Sun May 5, 2013, 12:57 PM
May 2013

Just spoke at length to his sister this afternoon.


Woody was under treatment for depression, was taking Xanax and other drugs


Had $88 left in the bank


Left a long 8 page rambling, hate filled, and confused letter in his Jeep and had parked it in a handicapped zone so that it would be found along with the keys to his apartment. He had planed this all out.


Management told his sister as soon as the funeral is over she has to remove his possessions so they can refurbish the apartment and rent it out. Scumbags.


There is no good ending to this story, none.


I have nothing more to say.


Woody deserved better.

Nite Owl

(11,303 posts)
64. It is
Fri May 3, 2013, 09:49 PM
May 2013

the soul less people want the unneeded ones out of the way. It's more than the 1% that want this.

lunasun

(21,646 posts)
20. some show today on radio was saying that the people I want to say 40-65 have a higher suicide rate
Fri May 3, 2013, 08:49 PM
May 2013

currently and they were theorizing that anyone born b4 raygun had experienced a better place and what is happening now is too much of a change in the economy-and any aid /support they expected is lacking plus they are dreaded when hiring in many fields(too old)
But the post rayguns were told the govrnmnt is bad and so is any help from them -predictions that there will not be SS etc. for this demographic and not a good rising salary or job market for most of their lives so the younger do not take as traumatic all the downturns since they have had it gone straight down since birth

Imo I think it sucks for everyone.
all ages seem severly affected

winter is coming

(11,785 posts)
30. Oh, I think the under-40's know they're getting the shitty end of the stick, too.
Fri May 3, 2013, 09:00 PM
May 2013

But if you're older and you've been laid off, there's not much hope of every finding another halfway decent job.

RKP5637

(67,111 posts)
60. Everyone is going to suffer in the new America, and those that still don't get it just haven't
Fri May 3, 2013, 09:46 PM
May 2013

been hit yet ... unless they are in the top few percent ... but for millions of Americans their future is going to be very very bleak. Yep, the market indices went up, for the millions of Americans this means nothing ... and the stock market going up does not create more jobs.

defacto7

(13,485 posts)
44. I read similar..
Fri May 3, 2013, 09:19 PM
May 2013

It said that middle aged white men had a higher suicide rate. Not so for black or Hispanic men or women. I think it also said suicide for middle aged white women was slightly up. Sorry, No link...

lunasun

(21,646 posts)
47. I can not remember the radio show either ! but this link says Native Americans
Fri May 3, 2013, 09:26 PM
May 2013

have it the worst if you are breakingit down racially
65% increase!!

Sadly, the highest rate among any group is Vietnam Veterans.


http://guardianlv.com/2013/05/suicide-rate-increase-on-white-men-between-ages-35-64/

defacto7

(13,485 posts)
52. The Native American suicide rate has always been
Fri May 3, 2013, 09:31 PM
May 2013

unbelievably high. I also remember Vietnam Vets being mentioned as the highest group. Wait a few years and we will see how Veterans of more recent wars fare. I'm afraid to project what it may be.

lunasun

(21,646 posts)
58. Oh we know it will not fare well and all the injured they are already fucking with too
Fri May 3, 2013, 09:41 PM
May 2013


The U.S. military lost more service members to suicide than combat last year -2012, as
the number of troops who took their lives rose to a record history high.
check out these charts-telling
http://www.guardian.co.uk/news/datablog/2013/feb/01/us-military-suicides-trend-charts#civ

defacto7

(13,485 posts)
95. ;(
Sat May 4, 2013, 12:03 AM
May 2013

Damn that Bush and his council of evil megalomaniacs. Sometimes I'd like to speak more directly but not me and not on the Internet.

magellan

(13,257 posts)
7. I'm so sorry to hear this
Fri May 3, 2013, 08:28 PM
May 2013

It's happening all too often, but no one with the power to stop it or at least bring it to public awareness is doing a damn thing about it.

CaliforniaPeggy

(149,637 posts)
10. Oh, my dear DainBramaged...
Fri May 3, 2013, 08:35 PM
May 2013

I am so sorry...

Woody sure did deserve better than this.

Safe passage to him...

for you, sweetie...

lunasun

(21,646 posts)
11. RIP Woody and some peace to you tonight also
Fri May 3, 2013, 08:36 PM
May 2013

I remember when my upstairs neighbor died of health reasons and that was sad -what you witnessed in the building today is tragic

Xipe Totec

(43,890 posts)
12. When death steps in my garden
Fri May 3, 2013, 08:39 PM
May 2013


Who will vouchsafe that I died
a natural death?

Who's crying voice will be heard in my town?
Who will put on a black tie
and leave the gate ajar?

Who will be the good friend
will die with me,
if only a little bit?

Who will lie an "Our Father"
and there but for the Grace of God ...
think to himself?

Who will care for my dog​​?
Who will pay my funeral
and a metal cross?

Which of all my lovers
will buy flowers
for my funeral?

Who will empty my pockets?
Who will settle my debts?

Who will end my diary
when the last page in my calendar falls?

Who will speak between sobs?
Who will kiss my eyes closed
to give them light?

Who will pray to my memory,
God rest his soul,
and toast to my health?

Who will make my corn bread?
Who will put on my coat
next December?

Who will be the new owner
of my house and my dreams
and my wicker chair?

Who I rummage my drawers?
Who will read my songs
with morbid pleasure?

Who will lie in my bed,
with my pajamas
and look after my wife,

who will bring a chrysanthemum
the first of November?
to my grave ...

Who will end my diary
when the last page in my calendar falls?
 

Aerows

(39,961 posts)
82. Thank you for this
Fri May 3, 2013, 10:33 PM
May 2013

It is beautiful.

It is always very painful to me when I hear someone kills themselves.

Beacool

(30,250 posts)
105. Ahhh, the great Joan Manuel Serrat.
Sat May 4, 2013, 02:31 AM
May 2013

Very apropos song. I have an issue with one line in the translation. It's not "Who will make my corn bread?", but "Who will make bread from my wheat?" Although that's a minor thing.

Xipe Totec

(43,890 posts)
114. Yes indeed
Sat May 4, 2013, 07:01 AM
May 2013

I saw the mistranslation after I posted and decided to let it stand for the same reason; it seemed minor.


 

kestrel91316

(51,666 posts)
16. I have several friends and clients who are just about to fall off the cliff right now,
Fri May 3, 2013, 08:42 PM
May 2013

and some who have already fallen. And I am afraid if this "recovery" gets any worse, I'm not far behind.

OneGrassRoot

(22,920 posts)
18. In the last few weeks, quite a few very well educated, highly experienced....
Fri May 3, 2013, 08:46 PM
May 2013

BRILLIANT souls have written me after I shared a wee bit of my situation as far as my struggle publicly.

I would never have thought these people were struggling. Their resumes are extraordinary.

Yet they are in their 50s and cannot find work. Not work commensurate with their experience. ANY work.

They no longer have a safety net.

Each one mentioned suicide, as they feel they are literally worth more dead than alive.

I am so very sorry about your neighbor.

It's brutal out there for so many. And so much of it is unnecessary, as the rich get richer...



LibDemAlways

(15,139 posts)
32. Being 50+ and out of work in this country has become a
Fri May 3, 2013, 09:03 PM
May 2013

nightmare. It wasn't that long ago companies valued the experience of older workers. Today, they find reasons to boot them out the door - too young for social security, too "old' to be hired. My 62-year-old husband, who is hanging onto his job by a thread, was reading an ad for a job fair today. I told him if he showed up, they'd tell him the seniors' bingo game was being played down the hall in another room. It's cruel.

 

olddots

(10,237 posts)
19. this kind of stuff didn't used to happen as much
Fri May 3, 2013, 08:48 PM
May 2013

anybody who disagrees has their head so far up their ass they can't see the tears of us who care.

we all knew you Woody

RKP5637

(67,111 posts)
70. Sadly, many Americans have their head so far up their ass they will never see the light of day! n/t
Fri May 3, 2013, 10:01 PM
May 2013

GReedDiamond

(5,313 posts)
21. Very sad, very tragic. I live in a house behind a larger house, converted into...
Fri May 3, 2013, 08:55 PM
May 2013

...six or eight "studio apartments."

One of the units had a woman, well into her 80s, living in it with her 50-something year old son.

He's a nice enough guy, but not well educated, with no discernible skills, and not much enthusiasm for anything I know of.

He works at a local Home Depot, but only part time, and, of course, with no benefits.

Unfortunately, about two months ago, his mother passed away, and with her went her Social Security checks, so the son could no longer afford the rent, which was about as low as rent gets in a decent neighborhood in the Greater Los Angeles area.

He was forced to move out, don't know where he went, but I fear he's living on the streets now.

RIP Woody.

"The American Dream - You have to be asleep to believe it." -George Carlin

GReedDiamond

(5,313 posts)
37. I would not really call this particular place...
Fri May 3, 2013, 09:08 PM
May 2013

...a "slum."

It's actually in a very nice neighborhood, and the units are affordable for both the retired elderly, and lately, some 20-ish y.o. types who have been moving in as units become available.

The rents are in the $400-500 a month range, they are clean, and the plumbing and all actually works.

I've seen and been in slum-like neighborhoods, both here in the L.A. area, and around Chicago, many years ago.

I would not call this place a slum.

Cleita

(75,480 posts)
40. It will be a slum in a few years. Saw many of those
Fri May 3, 2013, 09:11 PM
May 2013

conversions in Santa Monica over the years before they were eventually torn down and expensive condos built. I don't know if they have shared bathrooms, but it would seem that would be the case. At least the Santa Monica apartments averaged $90 a month.

GReedDiamond

(5,313 posts)
46. I tend to think not...
Fri May 3, 2013, 09:23 PM
May 2013

...suffice to say that the neighborhood - the Old Town area of Monrovia - is not anything near being a slum, on any level.

Every unit in the place I'm referring to has their own bathroom and kitchen. They are just very small, and mostly inhabited by single individuals.

The guy formerly living there with his mom was the exception.

In any case, time will tell...

Cleita

(75,480 posts)
50. Neither was Santa Monica, but it did have slum housing tucked
Fri May 3, 2013, 09:28 PM
May 2013

around it like houses converted into "studio apts.", or in the case of my apartment building a reconverted and unreported to the building dept. laundry room with an old timer living in it. Down the block some landlords were renting garages as apartments, wholly unauthorized by the city. Most are gone now though with the building and real estate bubble of the nineties converting them into expensive condos. I guess the marginal people living in them at the time are now living on the streets.

GReedDiamond

(5,313 posts)
66. OK. You're talking about Santa Monica, I am not...
Fri May 3, 2013, 09:51 PM
May 2013

...and I have been inside the place in front of me, and it is most definitely not a slum dwelling.

Most of the housing in this area consists of single family homes, with some condos (one right next door to me) and apartments spread sparingly between the homes.

The neighboring towns are Sierra Madre, Duarte, and Arcadia, also not generally known for their "slums."

However, your cynicism is duly noted...or perhaps you have a more realistic outlook than I.

Either way, I must nonetheless object to your characterization of my neighborhood as a "slum," as it simply is not, and that was not the point of my original reply to this thread.

Cleita

(75,480 posts)
77. You are talking about LA and a lot more of SoCal. This is what our slums are
Fri May 3, 2013, 10:19 PM
May 2013

like, shit holes in the middle of what seem like nice neighborhoods. You still have a back East idea of blighted neighborhoods with crumbling buildings. Our blight is nicely concealed behind the hydrangea, behind the car port area.

GReedDiamond

(5,313 posts)
79. Well, the "shithole" I made reference to in my...
Fri May 3, 2013, 10:23 PM
May 2013

...original reply, is NOT a shithole, it's a clean, functional building with small, affordable units in a good neighborhood.

But thanks anyway for trashing my community by your insistence that I live in (or next to) a "slum."

End of conversation, goodnight.

No Vested Interest

(5,167 posts)
99. You did not deserve the responses given
Sat May 4, 2013, 01:30 AM
May 2013

to your sharing of a interesting anecdote re your neighbor.
Sometimes I don't understand what people are thinking when hurtful remarks are made.

GReedDiamond

(5,313 posts)
104. Thanks, but it is a weird world, it is.
Sat May 4, 2013, 02:25 AM
May 2013

I am as cynical as anybody, I think, but maybe not, in some cases.

Best Wishes!

Cleita

(75,480 posts)
22. That's too bad and also he may have had health issues that
Fri May 3, 2013, 08:56 PM
May 2013

often lead to the crabby disposition because of the pain and the drinking to kill the pain. Let me guess that he probably didn't have health insurance at his menial job, which probably led to the argument with the supervisor because he was feeling bad. I know I'm just speculating here, but I've seen too many similar situations. I wonder if something as easy as access to health care to take care of his problems before he went down the rabbit hole would have helped?

Overseas

(12,121 posts)
120. Free health care or Medicare for All would have helped a lot. It takes the edge off.
Sat May 4, 2013, 10:37 AM
May 2013

I remember how deeply soothing it was to know that if I ever got ill, I could get healthcare at a nominal cost, even as a resident alien. Medical and dental. The care wasn't fancy but it was efficient and effective. I remember that secure feeling versus the nervousness I felt, looking for free clinics, after I'd returned to the US and was working full time without insurance benefits.

The many other industrialized countries that have universal health care systems provided them because they knew that their countries' job markets would be rapidly evolving and might leave people without a basic human right like health care if they made that job-dependent.

They knew their people understood public health to be a part of national security.

They knew government provision of nonprofit medical care would take a large burden off of their businesses and make their products more competitive on a global market.

Our legislators try not to acknowledge that we the people would be glad to pay taxes to support free health care for all instead of spending ten times as much on the military as many other countries combined. They know we would be content spending five times as much as our competitors on the military in order to provide Medicare for All.

But somehow, our legislators were convinced that retaining the enormous private profits of our medical system was more important than their constituents' long term quality of life, or even their survival.

Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
23. Oh, God. Poor man. Poor, poor guy. He became one of the statistics we just read about...
Fri May 3, 2013, 08:56 PM
May 2013

the high jump in suicides, esp among middle aged men.

 

virgogal

(10,178 posts)
24. I personally have known 4 people(over many years) who have committed suicide and they
Fri May 3, 2013, 08:56 PM
May 2013

were all middle class or upper middle class.

It's severe depression and some people cope with it better than others.

Alcohol certainly doesn't help.

CK_John

(10,005 posts)
25. We need to lower SSI to at least age 50 to put a net under these people.
Fri May 3, 2013, 08:57 PM
May 2013

Not a cut back program but full SSI just like you get now at 65. Give them a chance to get their life back in order with dignity and hope.

Most of this group can start turning their hobbies into a business. Or join local vol fire dept, or even run for city, town or village office.

RKP5637

(67,111 posts)
68. They want to kill off many children, old, disabled and ill. And those deemed unproductive to
Fri May 3, 2013, 09:58 PM
May 2013

the mission of USA, Inc. People do not count, only $$$$$ is counted. The US is no longer about people ... and it's kept moving along by the American delusion, the American dream.

flamingdem

(39,313 posts)
88. Is this depression or the result of economic
Fri May 3, 2013, 10:59 PM
May 2013

difficulty during a personally trying time? Anyone gets depressed with loss.

I think it's a bit facil to start blaming a very specific condition for what is really a socio-economic reality, though for sure some personal tendencies come into play.

Ikonoklast

(23,973 posts)
90. Seems he may have had some level of a problem all along.
Fri May 3, 2013, 11:03 PM
May 2013

And then things just spiraled out of control.

Why did he really lose his job? One argument with a supervisor is seldom enough to get fired.

juajen

(8,515 posts)
119. It doesn't matter how he lost his job.
Sat May 4, 2013, 10:16 AM
May 2013

That is, unless he was the one being abusive. Nobody wants to lose a job; however, slavery is another reason for just giving the hell up. Too many hours being worked without a living wage, no insurance, no sick days and no paid vacation is just one of the reasons for hating a job so badly that one day you just split. Inconsiderate and plain hateful bosses abound. When you are stripped of human dignity, you just want out. Sometimes the only way out is a rope, gun or death by water, cop, or fire. Sometimes you take others with you.

In the forties and fifties our parents created the middle class. Unions were the reason the people flourished. My father was born in a farming family, and only had a sixth grade education; but, he worked for US Steel, with 100% medical coverage for him, his wife, and his seven children. He also got regular good raises and vacation, also because of unions. Because of his job, his seven children all had opportunities that you do not find here today, and all had college educations eventually, though some waited a while to continue their education.

But, the USA or "Corporations Are Us", decided they wanted more profit, and they got it. We are enslaved once again. The only thing that can change that is a renewal and rebirth of our once great country, with unions at its core. Our workers haven't changed. My sons both were working over 60 hours a week when they were laid off because of this little recession. Jobs have flown overseas, and those of us who actually supported Ross Perot are vindicated; not that this does the country any good now. If Clinton has a defense, it would be that safeguards he put in place have been ignored by subsequent administrations, and by ignorance of the electorate.

We hopefully turn down a new path with a new President, and though that might be a Clinton, I believe she is a horse of a different color, not a duplicate of her husband. Our choices are limited to people that can get elected, and to finally have a woman in office, gives us inherent female perspectives which I think are very valuable. The fact that she is graced with a very good brain, and compassion can only help. I remember her actually going into a trailer home to talk with the people inside about their cares and woes. I also remember when she tried with all her heart to get some needed healthcare for this country and we all know that her life has been spent standing up for women's rights and their offspring. It is my hope that the heart of a mother will help this country. Please don't trash this post with remarks that have more to do with other people's choices than hers. I also believe that Bill will be a very good First Gentleman.

Also, don't trash them because they lived the American Dream; as both of them were raised in homes that did not have money, and Bill was raised by a single mother, and loved her very much. This single mother lived to see her son President of the United States. I have heard a lot about their riches. They both have legitimate ways that they made money after leaving office, you know, writing books, speaking fees, and the ability by both of them to raise money for some good causes. They both were born with exceptional intellectual talent, which this country sorely needs right now. Some of you need to get off your high horses, and run with the winning filly, which we are all lucky to have in this hurtful and debilitating time.

Sekhmets Daughter

(7,515 posts)
34. How incredibly sad...
Fri May 3, 2013, 09:04 PM
May 2013

They come, one story after another, of people ground into the dirt by greed and selfishness.

R.I.P. Woody,

 

Spitfire of ATJ

(32,723 posts)
35. There are a LOT of people that fit the "Al Bundy" profile...
Fri May 3, 2013, 09:05 PM
May 2013

They were just coming out with pocket calculators when they were in High School and they consider computers to be for nerds.

Suddenly, they are out of work after 20 or more years and nobody wants them. It's like trying to find work for a blacksmith.

This is one of the main reasons we need to lower the retirement age to 55.

Fumesucker

(45,851 posts)
38. There's many a slip twixt cup and lip, a great many ways to fail and far fewer to succeed
Fri May 3, 2013, 09:09 PM
May 2013

Farewell Woody.

Take care Dain.


 

MannyGoldstein

(34,589 posts)
42. A great sickness has descended upon our world
Fri May 3, 2013, 09:16 PM
May 2013

Such an awful thing, to lose all Hope.

All because of a clutch of Predators whose avarice knows no bounds.

My heart goes out to you, to Woody, and to all others who are damaged by this endless war against the 99%.

defacto7

(13,485 posts)
49. So sad.... ;(
Fri May 3, 2013, 09:27 PM
May 2013

What has happened to humanity? He should have been able to have a life without worry for the every day necessities. The wealth is there. He would probably still have his family and his senses. There's no reason for humanity to be ripped by the wealthy at the expense of the joy of living for all people. The phrase, "pursuit of happiness" comes to mind.

KoKo

(84,711 posts)
51. DreadfulStuff there....Big Hugs to you.....what could you have done...?
Fri May 3, 2013, 09:30 PM
May 2013

it's awful. Things folks are going through these days... And, that they feel so little hope...and this happens and we knew them...thought we might have been able to prevent...but it isn't up to us...totally what happened to them...but yeah.. it's bad stuff.

RKP5637

(67,111 posts)
54. One more of many that will never be heard of by MSM in la la land America, home of delusional
Fri May 3, 2013, 09:35 PM
May 2013

dreams. What a shame.

reformist2

(9,841 posts)
55. When there aren't enough jobs to go around, everyone deserves a basic income.
Fri May 3, 2013, 09:38 PM
May 2013

And in a modern society with trillions in wealth, I dare say that it's an individual right.
 

Triana

(22,666 posts)
59. Heard this morning on the radio...
Fri May 3, 2013, 09:43 PM
May 2013

...that the rate of suicide in men in their 50s has skyrocketed. Tough economic time was mentioned as a reason. These people get shitcanned when their jobs are outsourced - or for other reasons, and they ever find another. Over a decade from retirement, what's the alternative? Death, of course.

Frustratedlady

(16,254 posts)
72. Wasn't there an article on DU this week, which said the percentage
Fri May 3, 2013, 10:02 PM
May 2013

of suicides in midage is rising? It's not to hard to figure out why.

So sad.

Response to DainBramaged (Original post)

moondust

(19,993 posts)
76. I hope the supervisor finds out.
Fri May 3, 2013, 10:16 PM
May 2013

He/she needs to know how badly he/she screwed up somebody's life. Over an argument? Really? Fucking little despot.

RIP Woody.

SleeplessinSoCal

(9,123 posts)
83. Reports of suicides being up are very disturbing.
Fri May 3, 2013, 10:37 PM
May 2013

I don't see a turn around very soon when reports of 5 year jobless economy ahead of us.

sabrina 1

(62,325 posts)
84. That is so sad. People are committing suicide all over the world now because they have no
Fri May 3, 2013, 10:42 PM
May 2013

jobs.

RIP Woody, you did deserve better than this

tblue

(16,350 posts)
97. Yeah....very very sad.
Sat May 4, 2013, 01:19 AM
May 2013

Oh the poor man. And, bless his soul, he didn't take anyone with him. Hug to you.

kevinmc

(3,001 posts)
102. I know what he was going through I have been there.
Sat May 4, 2013, 02:11 AM
May 2013

I tried suicide two times on consecutive days ended up in a hospital and then a place for a month. You reach a time where you have tried everything and you finally give up. Sad he had to go that way.

Beacool

(30,250 posts)
103. Heartbreaking.
Sat May 4, 2013, 02:24 AM
May 2013

I find this to be so sad: "He went out many mornings, I've seen him nicely dressed in a tie, but I guess he just didn't fit the profile for corporate America."

May he finally rest in peace.

 

Ken Burch

(50,254 posts)
107. Our beloved "free market" system told your friend he was worthless.
Sat May 4, 2013, 03:09 AM
May 2013

He lost his family and ended his life because he choose to believe that.

I am sorry and enraged that all of this happened.

Condolences to all who need them, and a challenge to the rest of us:

If we are to survive, we HAVE to find a way to remind everyone, when they most need it, that all of us are of value and all deserve to live. And we have to find a way to run life that respects the value and worth of all.

Too many, too DAMN many, have been thrown under the bus.

woo me with science

(32,139 posts)
109. +100000000
Sat May 4, 2013, 03:19 AM
May 2013

I wish it were possible to rec posts.

Corporatism is a cancer. It replaces human values with something horrific.

Every single one of us is precious. We have to get this bloodsucking value system out of our government and out of our nation. We have to take our country from corporatists and reclaim it for human beings.

condoleeza

(814 posts)
111. But that's pretty much reality, Ken
Sat May 4, 2013, 04:53 AM
May 2013

I've lost a sister and brother to suicide for the same reasons people have talked about here in response to Woody's death, which is sad, but completely understandable, IMO, and my sister also hung herself.

Too many of us grew up in hard times, with little family support. Us baby boomers are vilified daily, we're the ones supposedly bankrupting the system. I'm 64, still working in a very physically challenging job as a self employed person. I can't do this forever, hope to hold off on retiring and claiming SS for a few more years. I do a fucking amazing job, but can't do this forever and lost half of my savings thanks to Dubyah. Pretty much own my house and have no debt, so can live on that for awhile. Have raised 2 incredible daughters that I have no wish to saddle with my problems, as they are both dealing with the baby boomer in-laws now being raped and pillaged by the care centers they are living in.

Tired of this game, as are so many of us this age who lived through the shit storm of VietNam and had our loved ones and dreams taken away by the lies and manipulations our Gov't. has put us through. I've been working and paying SS since I was 14 and I feel ashamed to even collect SS or use Medicare?? Is this depression?, or is it reality? Frankly, it doesn't matter, when my $ is gone, when my dignity is gone, I'll be gone too. Fuck it.

 

Ken Burch

(50,254 posts)
131. Then our work must be to reshape that reality.
Sat May 4, 2013, 06:50 PM
May 2013

We must make humanity and dignity for all real, for the first time. That's going to be a massive task, but we have to take it up it we're to survive in any meaningful way.

dogknob

(2,431 posts)
108. Jeebus! You just sort of described my upstairs neighbor
Sat May 4, 2013, 03:18 AM
May 2013

Seriously.

Can't use a computer. Can't help but mock me for making a living doing so. I helped him apply for some jobs online at places like Home Despot and Lowe's. Lowe's psych test was exactly like a police interrogation: same 6 questions over and over, worded differently -- including this absolute gem:



I know a guy who works at Lowe's. Off the record... my neighbor failed the psych test.

He'll pick up maybe a day or so of construction work before they "give him a few days off" because he ain't that bright and he ain't that charming.

The man is doomed. I know it and everyone else does. I don't know how it's going to play out, but I have definitely imagined a scenario like the one you were unfortunate enough to be a part of this evening.

I have also imagined worse. We live 2 blocks from an elementary school.

I walked by his window the other day and I could hear his TV, tuned to a religious program which consisted of a man ranting at the top of his lungs non-stop. Holy fuck.

Jamastiene

(38,187 posts)
110. Well, thanks to you, he will not be forgotten.
Sat May 4, 2013, 03:24 AM
May 2013

So many others, though, will never have their stories told.

Response to Jamastiene (Reply #110)

madlefty

(37 posts)
115. I cried like a baby when I read this post. I remember when I was kid in the 50s and 60s
Sat May 4, 2013, 08:35 AM
May 2013

I saw my dads pay check one time and for two weeks he made around $250.00 dollars. He was a civilian employee at an air force base. I had a brother and a sister we had a 3 bedroom house in a nice neighborhood and he bought a mid size car about every two or three years. The new cars then were around 3000.00 or less and the house we lived in was about 8000.00 with a low mortgage. Any we were all happy as clams and this was all under Eisenhower and Kennedy. It seems to me the shit started hitting the fan when Regan took office and has not stopped.......

winter is coming

(11,785 posts)
132. And this is the stupid part. If the rich weren't so effing greedy, they could still be
Sat May 4, 2013, 07:02 PM
May 2013

plenty rich and the rest of us could live comfortably. Not only would that be a humane thing for them to do, it would be a smart thing to do. You let the 99% have some security, some comfort, and an occasional luxury and they'll likely leave you alone in your mansions. You make lots of people desperate and they're far more likely to turn on you.

IrishAyes

(6,151 posts)
136. They don't even understand true self interest.
Sat May 4, 2013, 09:13 PM
May 2013

Bottom line, fat cows give more milk. Mad cows eventually gore their tormentors to death.

 

heaven05

(18,124 posts)
116. american capitalism
Sat May 4, 2013, 09:21 AM
May 2013

forced this. Sad commentary. Us older people in a society such as this are castoffs. I'd like to know what the disagreement was about with his 'supervisor' and what type of person this 'supervisor' was/is. I know the last manager I had to deal with for 23 years was a real jerk. Only my cool rationale, (and not wanting to go prison) along with being a union steward kept me from doing something rash. Also I didn't want that manager to 'win', ever. He TRIED to fire a lot of people, but reams of paperwork tripped him up every time. Also, he was kind of stupid.

IrishAyes

(6,151 posts)
137. A lot of 'supervisors' ARE stupid
Sat May 4, 2013, 09:23 PM
May 2013

They get promoted by those above them who know they'll never be a threat to their own jobs. It almost drives me insane to hear people whine about the 'dearth' of talent and dedication. That's what drove me from the tender embrace of corporate america. I never made as much $ as I could've as an arse-kisser, but I kept my soul. On the other side of the river we'll see who really won or lost, the 98% or the oligarchs.

Til then, keep your finger poked in their eye.

CrispyQ

(36,478 posts)
118. Such unnecessary tragedy.
Sat May 4, 2013, 10:07 AM
May 2013

I'm feeling this and this at the same time.

And it's being repeated across the nation, people killing themselves out of economic desperation, while our elected officials make sure the airlines are running smoothly for themselves & tell us over & over that austerity is what's needed. Fuck you assholes! We are feeling the austerity. When the fuck will you?

I am so sorry about your neighbor.

Worried senior

(1,328 posts)
121. I get sick of hearing someone
Sat May 4, 2013, 10:44 AM
May 2013

described as uneducated. Not all people are cut out to go to college. He still had a right to a job that would give him some quality of life.

Culling the herd is right, they want to rid this country of the average person but they forget someone has to do the grunt work.

DainBramaged

(39,191 posts)
122. He WAS uneducated, he DID a menial job, it was WHAT HE WAS.
Sat May 4, 2013, 11:53 AM
May 2013

Sorry it makes you sick.


It makes me sicker that you are offended by who he was.

 

Doctor_J

(36,392 posts)
124. An uncounted casualty in the war on the 99%
Sat May 4, 2013, 12:49 PM
May 2013

Just another day for the Cock Brothers. We can take a little comfort that he didn't harm any innocents before throwing in the towel.

A sad day

mimi85

(1,805 posts)
130. My sympathy however
Sat May 4, 2013, 06:42 PM
May 2013

we've had two suicides on my side of the family, two on my husband's side. None had anything to do with their education or their skills. My grandfather shot himself in the 1950s when a business deal went bad and my uncle (his son) killed himself just two years later because he was gay. The 50s were def NOT a good time to be gay.

My brother in law had been drinking at an Angel game with his wife and some friends. Got up, left the stadium and walked straight onto the freeway - this was in the 80s. We never were clear on his motive but he went to Vietnam twice and was never the same.

My nephew had a bad drinking problem and walked into traffic on Highway 1 in Central California - this was in the 90s.

None of these had anything to do with education, skills or the state of the economy, so I think we should be careful who or what we blame for a disturbed person as the four in our family.

I wouldn't be so quick to blame the current financial climate for this poor man's death. Had he seen a therapist? Was he on any kind of anti-depressants? There are always a lot of questions when it comes to suicide.

IrishAyes

(6,151 posts)
133. So sad to hear
Sat May 4, 2013, 07:51 PM
May 2013

And all too common, I fear. When people lose their purpose in life, it's hard to hang on. Woody probably did the best he could under his circumstances, and I'm glad you were able to be there for his sister. Give her our condolences.

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