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Stinky The Clown

(67,800 posts)
Sun May 12, 2013, 10:15 AM May 2013

For those very special Moms . . . . .

. . . . . . . . the Moms who have, for so many painful, awful, terrible, inexplicable reasons, outlived their child.

The mothers of Newtown.

The mothers of sons and daughters who went willingly to serve their country's call.

The mothers of cops and firefighters who met with a bad guy, or a stubborn fire, bent on destruction.

But no less to the mothers who have lost their children to drugs, to crime, to stray bullets while sitting on the stoop.

The mothers who have lost children to childhood diseases.

To mothers who, wherever they might live, have lost children to starvation, civil war, dictatorial power struggles. the vagaries of a left over land mine.

To the mothers who lose a child to drunk driving.

To all mothers who, so unnaturally, have outlived a child.

This is to take nothing from the millions upon millions of moms who celebrate this day in the glow of the love of their children.

But today I think of the other moms. The Moms who continue on, in whatever way they're able, after the loss of a child.

"Happy Mother's Day" just seems so misplaced for those mothers, those for whom we can't even imagine the emotions they might feel today. I don't even know what the right sentiment is.


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For those very special Moms . . . . . (Original Post) Stinky The Clown May 2013 OP
There is really never a Happy Mothers Day Autumn May 2013 #1
We do continue on, Sekhmets Daughter May 2013 #2
So true UtahLib May 2013 #5
Well done. nolabear May 2013 #3
Or the mother of someone like James Holmes alphafemale May 2013 #4
Thank you for the reminder Stinky The Clown May 2013 #15
I wish you a very special day UtahLib May 2013 #6
Thank you for your kind words. I lived longer than my younger son riverbendviewgal May 2013 #7
And to those women, who either by choice for not, do not have children... VPStoltz May 2013 #8
Sorry. I posted the same thing after you. Women who take care of all of us are so wonderful. JDPriestly May 2013 #11
you had me in tears with this one, Stinky! Thank you. blondie58 May 2013 #9
And to the many, many women who would like to be mothers but instead of having JDPriestly May 2013 #10
Thank you. easttexaslefty May 2013 #12
Your post pipi_k May 2013 #13
thanks so much MrsBrady May 2013 #14

Sekhmets Daughter

(7,515 posts)
2. We do continue on,
Sun May 12, 2013, 11:08 AM
May 2013

what choice is there really? Sometimes comforted by other children. Sometimes deeply touched by the words of a stranger. Thank you Stinky The Clown.

UtahLib

(3,179 posts)
5. So true
Sun May 12, 2013, 11:38 AM
May 2013

My wish for those who have suffered a heart breaking loss is to be able to remember without dwelling on the pain.

Stinky The Clown

(67,800 posts)
15. Thank you for the reminder
Sun May 12, 2013, 08:02 PM
May 2013

These are children that are, as practical matter, much the same as dead.

I recall Jeffery Dahmer's father on various talk shows way back when. A totally defeated man.

riverbendviewgal

(4,253 posts)
7. Thank you for your kind words. I lived longer than my younger son
Sun May 12, 2013, 12:57 PM
May 2013

He was 26 when he died of a brain tumour. It will be 14 years this October that he passed on.
May 2nd he would have been 40.

The pain is there every day. I am no longer hysterical. I miss him very much, as his dad who passed on 18 months later.

I still have my older son who is in the UK now. I have had no choice but to go on. My remaining son gave me the will to not kill myself. I could not leave him alone.

We keep on keeping on.

VPStoltz

(1,295 posts)
8. And to those women, who either by choice for not, do not have children...
Sun May 12, 2013, 01:01 PM
May 2013

yet still act like everyone's mom: teachers, nurses, doctors, etc.
They don't have to - but they do!

JDPriestly

(57,936 posts)
11. Sorry. I posted the same thing after you. Women who take care of all of us are so wonderful.
Sun May 12, 2013, 02:10 PM
May 2013

Thanks for your post.

JDPriestly

(57,936 posts)
10. And to the many, many women who would like to be mothers but instead of having
Sun May 12, 2013, 02:09 PM
May 2013

their "own" children take care of the children of others. To women who are nurses, doctors, teachers, foster parents, big sisters, caregivers of all kinds. Have a wonderful day.

You are mothers to the world. You give your love to those who need it the most without asking "Is this MY child?" You are wonderful. Thank you.

pipi_k

(21,020 posts)
13. Your post
Sun May 12, 2013, 06:38 PM
May 2013

brought tears to my eyes.

Thank you so much for your compassion...


~Mom to Pammy, who died from SIDS in 1975

MrsBrady

(4,187 posts)
14. thanks so much
Sun May 12, 2013, 07:11 PM
May 2013

our culture doesn't even really acknowledge parents without children with a word, term, or phrase.

We have widows and widowers who've lost spouses.
Orphans for children without their parents.

but a parent without a child...well...there is no word....

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