My Husband Just Died:I too Was My Own Death Panel
As with Bennyboy, we brought my husband home for home hospice care. We removed his drip, and he was sustained on meds that kept him comfortable and free from pain. He had laid out an advance directive and we observed his wishes that no heroic efforts were to be made. He died in the heart of our home surrounded by the children and grandchildren who adored him in peace and free of the illness that had ravaged his body.
As his wife, I am grateful and honored to have helped his release into the great silence.
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May he cross gently.
No one says that living life and doing the right thing in these situations is going to be easy.
May you all live in peace knowing you did the right thing 
May he rest in peace!
What a beautiful parting gift you gave him. This is how I want to go, too, in my own home, with the people who love me all around.
Peace to you & your family.
passing with his family and love surrounding him is wonderful.
My he rest in peace.
And beautiful. As a nurse I have learned there is such a thing as a 'good' death. Western medicine is slowly catching up. For so long any death was not considered to be okay. We know differently. Huh. 
hugs to you, your family and friends.
Tikki
Please accept my condolences.
Peace to you and yours.
It's lovely that he made his wishes clear ahead if time, and that you followed them through. I hate that people have to pass away. But you made it as gentle and loving as possible for your husband. That's a mitzvah. I can't imagine a more selfless gift. Sending hugs to you and yours.
I suppose we have to acknowledge as being our own death panel, by committing our wishes on paper, thus, relieving our loved ones of having to make or live with any consequences from those decisions.
Such beauty in this post.
sounds like a wonderful man and I have such respect and admiration for you and your family in honouring his wishes, without such a peaceful passing in love could not have been realized. Peace to you luv
your husband May all of the good times you shared be in your heart forever and help bring you comfort and peace.
The decision you made was one which can only be admired for its humanity and kindness.
May you all find peace in knowing you did everything possible to respect and ease your husband/family member's passing.
I'm guessing that most of us here would want that same care, compassion, and release.
I certainly would, for myself.
must be inspirational to your family as it is to us.
you did what any loving person would do. against her wishes, we put my sister on hospice care because we did not want her to suffer needlessly. she died a few days later, but thank goodness for hospice because she wasn't in pain. my deepest sympathies for your loss 
anniversary of my husband's death. he died peacefully in his sleep in hospice.
It is a blessing you were able to bring him home to be with his family is his last days.
I and my sisters made the same decisions on our parents at the end of their lives. As hard as it was, I felt better for it. I knew they were no longer suffering.
... that is what they wanted... to pass in their own homes in dignified privacy with their loved ones gathered around. I know exactly what you are going through. I was my Mother's caretaker and we went through this a few years ago. My heart is with you and your family. Peace. 
To pass with grace and dignity is something we all should hope for.
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Peace to you, and your family.
May your Husband RIP
My thoughts are with you and your family
Full of loving memories.
My condolences to you, and all those who knew and loved him.
I do not know that I would ever have your strength.
Any married person over 50 knows that one of you is going to go first. Which doesn't make having half of you ripped away any easier to deal with. Hoping you have a strong support group to help you through this.
to add my deepest condolences to you and yours.
I'm so sorry for your loss!
