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nolabear

(41,987 posts)
Sat Aug 24, 2013, 01:10 PM Aug 2013

REAL Women...

From FB, by a talented writer on feminism. I support this. Take the time to read.

““Excuse me while I throw this down, I’m old and cranky and tired of hearing the idiocy repeated by people who ought to know better.
Real women do not have curves. Real women do not look like just one thing.

Real women have curves, and not. They are tall, and not. They are brown-skinned, and olive-skinned, and not. They have small breasts, and big ones, and no breasts whatsoever.

Real women start their lives as baby girls. And as baby boys. And as babies of indeterminate biological sex whose bodies terrify their doctors and families into making all kinds of very sudden decisions.

Real women have big hands and small hands and long elegant fingers and short stubby fingers and manicures and broken nails with dirt under them.

Real women have armpit hair and leg hair and pubic hair and facial hair and chest hair and sexy moustaches and full, luxuriant beards. Real women have none of these things, spontaneously or as the result of intentional change. Real women are bald as eggs, by chance and by choice and by chemo. Real women have hair so long they can sit on it. Real women wear wigs and weaves and extensions and kufi and do-rags and hairnets and hijab and headscarves and hats and yarmulkes and textured rubber swim caps with the plastic flowers on the sides.

Real women wear high heels and skirts. Or not.

Real women are feminine and smell good and they are masculine and smell good and they are androgynous and smell good, except when they don’t smell so good, but that can be changed if desired because real women change stuff when they want to.

Real women have ovaries. Unless they don’t, and sometimes they don’t because they were born that way and sometimes they don’t because they had to have their ovaries removed. Real women have uteruses, unless they don’t, see above. Real women have vaginas and clitorises and XX sex chromosomes and high estrogen levels, they ovulate and menstruate and can get pregnant and have babies. Except sometimes not, for a rather spectacular array of reasons both spontaneous and induced.

Real women are fat. And thin. And both, and neither, and otherwise. Doesn’t make them any less real.

There is a phrase I wish I could engrave upon the hearts of every single person, everywhere in the world, and it is this sentence which comes from the genius lips of the grand and eloquent Mr. Glenn Marla: There is no wrong way to have a body.

I’m going to say it again because it’s important: There is no wrong way to have a body.

And if your moral compass points in any way, shape, or form to equality, you need to get this through your thick skull and stop with the “real women are like such-and-so” crap.

You are not the authority on what “real” human beings are, and who qualifies as “real” and on what basis. All human beings are real.

Yes, I know you’re tired of feeling disenfranchised. It is a tiresome and loathsome thing to be and to feel. But the tit-for-tat disenfranchisement of others is not going to solve that problem. Solidarity has to start somewhere and it might as well be with you and me.””

~ Hanne Blank

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REAL Women... (Original Post) nolabear Aug 2013 OP
Yes! shenmue Aug 2013 #1
I clicked on this thread to argue against the concept of "real women," ZombieHorde Aug 2013 #2
Ha! I did the same thing. arcane1 Aug 2013 #8
I confess the title was bait. The opposite of flame bait, I hope. nolabear Aug 2013 #11
Would that be fire-extinguisher bait? arcane1 Aug 2013 #15
link here: steve2470 Aug 2013 #3
Thanks Steve! I didn't know that link existed. nolabear Aug 2013 #5
you're very welcome, better link here: steve2470 Aug 2013 #7
Thank you, my dear nolabear. Well done! n/t CaliforniaPeggy Aug 2013 #4
I'm just the reporter. And a proud one at that. nolabear Aug 2013 #6
You are more than just the reporter. How else does the word get out? CaliforniaPeggy Aug 2013 #9
Righteous! a la izquierda Aug 2013 #10
I'm finding mine, and will put them to good use! nolabear Aug 2013 #12
Preach it Nolabear! JustAnotherGen Aug 2013 #13
Just sharing another's preaching. But I am ALL over "Amen!" nolabear Aug 2013 #16
fwiw, I just posted her article on my FB page steve2470 Aug 2013 #14
Be a shame to lose friends over such an inclusive post. nolabear Aug 2013 #17
I assume my friends are right-wingish, which usually prevents arguments steve2470 Aug 2013 #22
spoken just like a... eggplant Aug 2013 #18
And a nice historical explainer... eggplant Aug 2013 #19
very nice Skittles Aug 2013 #20
True dat. I've never been a single digit, but I know KICK ASS women who are! nolabear Aug 2013 #21
gals of all sizes kick ass, nolabear! Skittles Aug 2013 #25
Please forgive me nolabear!! Sissyk Aug 2013 #23
I don't think it is. It was credited at the bottom. But, hopefully the jury will set me free. nolabear Aug 2013 #24
That was splendid! JNelson6563 Aug 2013 #26
Link for it, nolabear Skidmore Aug 2013 #27
That read like a high-velocity poem Link Speed Aug 2013 #28
Real women have a vagina and uterus HockeyMom Aug 2013 #29
And sometimes they don't. KitSileya Aug 2013 #30
Ac-tually, that's not true. nolabear Aug 2013 #31
Thank you for that insight LittleBlue Aug 2013 #32

nolabear

(41,987 posts)
6. I'm just the reporter. And a proud one at that.
Sat Aug 24, 2013, 01:16 PM
Aug 2013

We are SO many things, and so much more than people believe.

steve2470

(37,457 posts)
14. fwiw, I just posted her article on my FB page
Sat Aug 24, 2013, 01:32 PM
Aug 2013

It will be very interesting to see the reactions. I might lose a few friends over it, but I don't care. I agree with her article.

steve2470

(37,457 posts)
22. I assume my friends are right-wingish, which usually prevents arguments
Sat Aug 24, 2013, 02:51 PM
Aug 2013

If they are RW, good riddance. The article nails it.

Skittles

(153,169 posts)
20. very nice
Sat Aug 24, 2013, 02:49 PM
Aug 2013

I am tired of the meme that "real women" cannot be a single digit size - I am in my fifties and I have never been a double digit size

Sissyk

(12,665 posts)
23. Please forgive me nolabear!!
Sat Aug 24, 2013, 02:56 PM
Aug 2013

I alerted your OP because I thought it was a Copyright Violation. I was wrong, but wanted to let you know.

Please forgive! I also copied and pasted it because I love it! lol

nolabear

(41,987 posts)
24. I don't think it is. It was credited at the bottom. But, hopefully the jury will set me free.
Sat Aug 24, 2013, 03:05 PM
Aug 2013
No worries.

JNelson6563

(28,151 posts)
26. That was splendid!
Sat Aug 24, 2013, 03:18 PM
Aug 2013

The sooner all women realize we're all in this together and we need to help each other, the better off the world will be!

I for one am happy to accept my sisters in this world however they happen to be.

Rock on my sisters!

Julie

 

Link Speed

(650 posts)
28. That read like a high-velocity poem
Sat Aug 24, 2013, 03:29 PM
Aug 2013

Simply great.

Thanks for the post. This is the first thing I have read after waking at noon and having my cup of coffee.

 

HockeyMom

(14,337 posts)
29. Real women have a vagina and uterus
Sat Aug 24, 2013, 03:44 PM
Aug 2013

That is about all you can say about "real women". Everything else really doesn't matter

KitSileya

(4,035 posts)
30. And sometimes they don't.
Sat Aug 24, 2013, 04:04 PM
Aug 2013

For a variety of reasons, women may be born without a uterus, or a vagina, or both. Or they may have had to remove either, or both. Doesn't make them less of a woman.

nolabear

(41,987 posts)
31. Ac-tually, that's not true.
Sat Aug 24, 2013, 04:07 PM
Aug 2013

Transgendered people (male to female) don't originally, and women who have had certain kinds of surgery don't, and they are still women. I know. My mother was one. So that doesn't matter either.

 

LittleBlue

(10,362 posts)
32. Thank you for that insight
Sat Aug 24, 2013, 04:12 PM
Aug 2013
Real women do not have curves. Real women do not look like just one thing.

Real women have curves, and not. They are tall, and not. They are brown-skinned, and olive-skinned, and not. They have small breasts, and big ones, and no breasts whatsoever.


I had no idea that "real women have curves" is used literally. I honestly believed that skinny women were not women at all, they must be aliens.

In other news, Captain Obvious to the rescue.
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