Second, awesome that she's writing about it so the world can know her truth.

Third, **ck those idiots who think they have the right to judge her. I'm a woman, but I'm no little bit that that guy can lay his fists on without getting acquainted in an overly familiar fashion with his own back end. Stuff that mouth talking **it right where it belongs.

been unbelievably vile.

But I won't be even sarcastically saying, "Oh it's all the woman's fault when she gets raped."

'Did you entice them to rape you?' Who the hell would ask a dumbass question like that?

I can't believe those people are even human to have so little regard for her situation.

she's been faced with and the sheer vileness of her critics.

The KKK of sexism exists. Maybe not organized in that way, but taking pleasure in violence towards women? Yes.

and disgusting, and while newsworthy, extremely shocking.

Praise be Amanda Lindhout and may she fare well.

Cyber-bullying in all its forms needs to be stepped on, hard. The anonymous posters need to be found out by police armed with court orders and search warrants. Those anonymous cowards need to be arrested, charged, prosecuted, convicted, sentenced, and jailed.

It is a peculiar form of weakness and psychopathy to cyber-bully a woman online with such ridiculous assertions.

All because she dared do something some men do (war zone journalism), something the cyber-bullies could never dare come close to doing.

I don't have any words... Nothing.

Any monster who wrote those things to her should be named and shamed.

But it proves 3 things that are highly inconvenient to real civilization: 1) 1 of every 20 men(and I bet it's higher) is a rapist, 2) Rape Culture is alive and well, and 3) The two things above are supported by certain groups of women, and they would have no traction otherwise.

I don't know what the solution is, but a solid problem continues in the form of how we treat victims.

1 of every 20 men is a bit high, I think.

Agree that Rape Culture is alive and well (and supported by many women passively).

The way that began is that if a woman spoke out she was a harpy type didn't get a good man/protector and her genes weren't passed on.

Sorry, I've heard the stories, the intimidation, use of drugs and alcohol...

It is shameful here in the U.S.; I can only imagine the prevalence being much higher in other places.

Which according to THIS site http://www.rainn.org/statistics

IS where we would be over the last 13 years IF Rape had not dropped by 60%


WHAT I AM SAYING IS THAT MEN IN THE US ARE MORE AWARE AND MORE CARING ABOUT THIS SUBJECT AND IT IS NOTICEABLE ENOUGH THAT 1 in 20 seemed way high.




Sexual assault has fallen by more than 60% in recent years.2 Had the 1993 rate held steady, 6.8 million Americans would have been assaulted in the last 13 years.

But, thanks to the decline, the actual number of victims was about 4.2 million. In other words, if not for the historic gains we've made in the last decade, an additional 2,546,420 Americans would have become victims of sexual violence.









Population 313,847,465 (July 2012 est.)
Age structure 0-14 years: 20% (male 32,050,686/female 30,719,945)
15-24 years: 13.8% (male 22,112,002/female 21,174,050)
25-54 years: 40.6% (male 63,713,761/female 63,556,345)
55-64 years: 12.1% (male 18,331,065/female 19,711,907)
65 years and over: 13.5% (male 18,424,785/female 24,052,919) (2012 est.)
http://www.indexmundi.com/united_states/demographics_profile.html


male 32,050,686
male 22,112,002
male 63,713,761
male 18,331,065
male 18,424,785

Total Males 154,632,299

Random adjustment - 18,424,785
Some males over 65 maybe still capable of rape and willing to do so, but some in the 0-14 range wouldn't know how to rape without explicit instructions and legally the definition is sketchy, so we'll cut the smaller group

Leaves approx 136,207,514 males potentially capable of rape.

1 in 20 = 5 in 100 or 5%

5% of 136,207,514 is 6,810,376

And I agree that there has been progress.

My point is I think there is a lot of under reporting, and a lot of ambiguity in the definition and implementation of what is rape. <~~That sentence is reprehensible in every way. But so is the ignorance of many people right here in the good ole US of A.

My own personal experience has lead me to avoid a particular type of woman that is heartbreaking. I cannot rationalize away the sexual dynamic that goes on. I knew a girl who would get very intimate with me but always said 'no'. So it would never happen. She was out with someone else and had a few too many drinks and said 'no' again but it was not heeded. It was rape but she herself did not report it nor seem too disconcerted by the occurrence. She even went out with him again. The cognitive dissonance is still to this day mind blowing. She probably was pretty torn up about it, but the stoic way she informed me was an epiphany for me. I was pretty young at the time.

I cannot physically proceed past the 'no'. My ego is innately entwined with the act. 'Yes' turns me on and 'no' turns me off. I see the 'yes' as an affirmation of desire and the 'no' as rejection. And while I cannot get over the ego bruise that is inherent in 'no', I do know that other men do not have that inclination. Their sense of entitlement does not comprehend what no really means. I do not proclaim a complete understanding of the psycho-sexual and power dynamics inherent in rape, but I do see the propensity of others to engage in such a thing. A good number of men believe there is something that is owed to them. It is shameful and ignorant.

In that shame and ignorance is the problem of under reporting.


And then there is this:
Sex Trafficking of Americans: The Girls Next Door
http://www.vanityfair.com/politics/features/2011/05/sex-trafficking-201105?currentPage=all

So, yeah... 1 in 20 seems a tad low when compared to the brutal reality.

http://www.shakesville.com/2011/03/feminism-101-helpful-hints-for-dudes.html



I know the number is higher, because 1 in 3 women is sexually assaulted by the time they are 18, and 1/10 men as well. That number of victims does not come from nowhere, and underreporting is a HUGE problem.

The best place to see it oozing to the surface are events like these where people attempt to tar the victim or it becomes a kind of voyeuristic orgy for the people who might or might not be capable of rape but find it arousing hear what they went through.

Like I said, I don't know what to do about it, but it has no place in a truly civilized society.

I'm not a great looking guy or physically impressive by current standards. Long and skinny, needless to say getting laid outside a relationship is not that easy a task for me. In my younger days I was extremely aggressive, physically violent for little to no reason, wrestled and trained in martial arts from a young age followed by a stint in spec ops. There is a very small number of women in the world that could stand up to me if I decided to have my way with them and that goes for many men as well if I chose to do so. I don't need a law to tell me what is right and wrong, I have a sister, mother aunts grand mothers and female friends that I'd do anything for, and every woman in the world is at least one of those things to every man. Rape is something I've never been able to understand and have no idea how to stop. The military has training on how to avoid becoming a victim while its hopefully helpful for some I have seen little to no effort in eliminating the root cause of rape as well as disgustingly small penalties for such a heinous act. I could go on for hours about this subject but I'm pretty high right now and feel like I'm just rambling.

In many posts on this board I admit to being an active criminal in the marijuana trade so my ideas in this rant may seem opposite of my normal stance on laws and law enforcement. Strict sentencing and outrageous punishment for victimless crimes is a crime itself in my opinion as it takes away time and resources from important police work solving crimes like rape.

people on du dare to argue this is a problem. reading that, i sit here numb. this has become our world. women are talked about in this manner in every facet of our world. be it the net, our media, on the streets. this is what our girls will be raised in and this is what our boys will hear and learn.