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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsThank goodness for men who like sex
with real breathing, living, orgasmic women better than porn.
Never has a smilie been so richly deserved.
Bonobo
(29,257 posts)Because it actually lays bare your REAL objection to porn.
Katashi_itto
(10,175 posts)Puglover
(16,380 posts)I am cleaning coffee off of my monitor after reading this one.
1StrongBlackMan
(31,849 posts)really? Please tell me you forgot the "winking smiley face" thingy or any other smilie that would indicate that you are just kidding.
rrneck
(17,671 posts)with real breathing, living, believing faith better than Happy Holidays.
Fumesucker
(45,851 posts)rrneck
(17,671 posts)I loves me some sunshine.
Guess I should go back and add a sarcasm thingies.
A HERETIC I AM
(24,369 posts)Fumesucker
(45,851 posts)But keep trying..
A HERETIC I AM
(24,369 posts)Deuce
(959 posts)libodem
(19,288 posts)You said it sister!
Jamaal510
(10,893 posts)for the fellas who are looking for women, but are unable to get laid.
rrneck
(17,671 posts)so Ricky and Lucy will finally have the right to sleep in the same bed together.
Tuesday Afternoon
(56,912 posts)as in WTF are you talking about ... not following this analogy.
rrneck
(17,671 posts)Ricky and Lucy had separate twin beds.
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0043208/trivia
Although they slept in twin beds throughout the entire run of the series, during the first two seasons of the show, 1951-1953, Ricky and Lucy slept in twin beds that were pushed together in the same box spring. Once little Ricky was born CBS suggested that the beds be pushed apart to diminish the impact of the suggested sexual history of Lucy and Ricky. The only time we see the Ricardo's in two bed pushed together again is when they first move to the bigger apartment in the Mertz building, however, subsequently after that the beds are pushed apart again.
ETA
There's always a ragged fringe of propriety. From a glimpse of a finely turned ankle to high def no holds barred monkey love in 3D the outer edge defines what is considered generally acceptable. Ricky and Lucy in the same bed in 1843 would have been scandalous.
Fla_Democrat
(2,547 posts)I don't dare say 'he' or 'she'.. cause that would start another week long debate about which gender is a 'cover stealer'.
rrneck
(17,671 posts)MillennialDem
(2,367 posts)rrneck
(17,671 posts)Decaffeinated
(556 posts)Tuesday Afternoon
(56,912 posts)porn pushed the beds together ... ?
so Ricky and Lucy will finally have the right to sleep in the same bed together.
really? porn did that?
rrneck
(17,671 posts)Porn, and more specifically the technology that makes it ubiquitous, helps to set the boundaries of acceptable verisimilitude. It does it by pushing the envelope. Just like any other artistic medium, sometimes it tells us a good deal more than we want to know and more importantly, it generally focuses too much on a thin sliver of the human experience to the detriment of quality.
In antiquity graphic depictions of sexual activity using the most cutting edge technology of the time were just images of what people did. Nobody's doing anything in porn that people haven't been doing for thousands of years. Even rape porn. Remember, for most of human history rape was a weapon of war, and in our earliest history it was probably instrumental in our survival as a species. The word "rape" only dates back to the late thirteenth century. And the word pornography appeared not long after the first photograph.
To say that "porn pushed the beds together" is a significant oversimplification of a cultural trend toward verisimilitude in media. I wonder if future generations will look back on the internet as the Gutenberg bible of sex.
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rrneck
(17,671 posts)If you can't have a civil discussion, put me on ignore.
Tuesday Afternoon
(56,912 posts)You are not my Daddy and You don't pay my bills.
how about You put ME on Ignore.
what part of Peace Out and Deuces did you not understand?
as for not enjoying Rape Porn ... why should I take you at your word?
Internet Message Board and all that.
You sure Argue hard enough for it. Why is that?
1A? DON'T REGULATE THE PORN INDUSTRY ? DON'T REGULATE ANY CORPORATION, ANY BUSINESS, ANY INDUSTRY ?
THEY ALL HAVE THEIR 1A RIGHTS. PROTECT THEM ALL.
don't answer. consider the questions to be rhetorical because you and I are done here.
rrneck
(17,671 posts)You asked a question and I answered it. I took time to answer said question in a courteous dignified manner. You chose instead to respond in as petulant and juvenile manner as possible without getting in trouble for it, probably because I told you a bunch of stuff you didn't already know.
Most people in the civilized world don't follow a thinly veiled accusation with an offering of "peace" if they really mean it.
I guess it's better for you to beat a hasty retreat than to engage in a meaningful discussion if you're going to have that attitude. Unless you have something of substance to add?
Scout
(8,624 posts)At Mon Dec 2, 2013, 09:02 AM an alert was sent on the following post:
oh, really. big bad old white man telling me what to do? really? laughable.
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=4120070
REASON FOR ALERT:
This post is disruptive, hurtful, rude, insensitive, over-the-top, or otherwise inappropriate.
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Accusing a poster of enjoying rape porn after they stated on numerous threads that hey dont is tantamount o calling poster a liar. Constant attacks seem the norm for this poster.
You served on a randomly-selected Jury of DU members which reviewed this post. The review was completed at Mon Dec 2, 2013, 09:13 AM, and the Jury voted 1-5 to LEAVE IT.
Juror #1 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE and said: Not worth hiding. People ought to stay out of these threads if they don't like arguing and hot tempers.
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tammywammy
(26,582 posts)HappyMe
(20,277 posts)Scout
(8,624 posts)DU jury systems sucks, no?
HappyMe
(20,277 posts)I just think that that sort of childish, accusatory hissy fit aimed at somebody that was nothing but polite is ridiculous.
That post should not have been hidden. I recall on DU two that people were advised to "grow a skin". Not bad advice.
Bonobo
(29,257 posts)xulamaude
(847 posts)Another woman driven to exclamations because of "daddy issues".
Plenty of men are driven to the same by 'mommy issues'.
polly7
(20,582 posts)AUTOMATED MESSAGE: Results of your alert
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yep
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=4119995
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Lying about what someone has said and accusing them of enjoying 'rape porn' when nothing of the sort was claimed, is hurtful, rude and OTT. I'm so sick of seeing this double-standard. And I'm female.
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stevenleser
(32,886 posts)I hope DU juries hide them each time and that if those who do this continue, they are shut out of DU discussions per the new policies in place.
polly7
(20,582 posts)rrneck
(17,671 posts)but I don't hold it against Tuesday so I didn't alert on it. It's a hot button issue and the OP is little more than self aggrandizing flamebait. If any post should be hidden it should be the OP.
I would be nice to have an intelligent discussion about stuff like this though. I get a little tired of running down links and being nice to people only to be treated like trampoline for somebody elses ego.
polly7
(20,582 posts)Imo, when you have to accuse someone of the most heinous thing possible, it's hard to believe there's any willingness to discuss anything but your own pov. Yes, I would love to see examples of how we can all improve things for people who do not willingly engage in pornography, including those trapped in it d/t their economic situation, sex-trafficking, etc., and how to realistically help through diligent reporting, education and opportunity, and working with survivors of any such crime.
This blanket condemnation of anyone who chooses to watch legal porn that includes consenting adults is slut-shaming of both sexes, though the OP is trying to make it against males only. jmho.
rrneck
(17,671 posts)and those working in that industry deserve to be treated fairly. Generally speaking, workers secure rights through unions, but it seems that porn has been so stigmatized by both the right and the left that nothing can be done. Why aren't porn actors members of SAG? Is it even possible for them to join? Porn is a multi billion dollar industry with thousands of workers and a union won't touch them?
Given the attitude displayed here you can't blame the treatment of porn workers all on the political right or the porn industry.
polly7
(20,582 posts)and yes, they absolutely should have some sort of union.
I think the producers of this legal porn have a responsibility to adhere to safeguards already in place .... I remember how glad I was to hear it when mandatory STD testing was introduced. That said, I really don't know much about the porn industry at all, or how being a member of SAG would affect the making of it. Amateur porn is a whole different story, and probably impossible to regulate, which is why I said that diligent reporting when one sees something illegal should be something everyone is willing to do. Working together, rather than heaping scorn and insults on anyone disagreeing with the idea that 'all porn is bad and those who watch it are desperate perverts' isn't helping anyone but the morally righteous.
rrneck
(17,671 posts)but unless the general public can be comfortable with saying, "I was looking at porn and saw this..." it ain't gonna happen. For all the caterwauling about the cultural damage of porn does nobody realize that stigmatizing something that has been around for thousands of years and will never go away is the best way to close the door to not only the abuse of those in the industry but any possibility of developing it into something culturally useful?
This, I think, is the reason: Porn, like Harlequin Romance novels, Chic Flicks, Jock Rock, Lad Rags, and most of the blogs on the internet are cultural kitsch. There is kitsch for every niche market out there and more are no doubt being made every day. Hell, even high culture can become kitsch if it is consumed by people who do so just to be able to say they have class.
In_The_Wind
(72,300 posts)SummerSnow
(12,608 posts)And they never showed the bedroom on The Honeymooners
pintobean
(18,101 posts)CanSocDem
(3,286 posts)..."You never have to look your best."
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CTyankee
(63,912 posts)chooses "in dreams." When asked why he says "because you meet a better class of people."
Response to CanSocDem (Reply #109)
CTyankee This message was self-deleted by its author.
bluedigger
(17,086 posts)My research continues.
NickB79
(19,246 posts)From their first day of puberty to their final day on their death bed, they'll be looking for porn at some point in their lives. What they truly prefer has no bearing on what is available to them at, ahem, hand. Pardon the pun.
hfojvt
(37,573 posts)but that is certainly on my bucket list
Vashta Nerada
(3,922 posts)pacalo
(24,721 posts)yet the obsessive, redundant baiting seems to continue in General Discussion.
Illinoischick
(35 posts)Fumesucker
(45,851 posts)Kurska
(5,739 posts)and 10% of men lie.
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)a ridiculous, repetitive and pointless argument on an internet message board.
Most people would prefer the meaningful philosophical conversation. And many of us have room in our lives for both.
But, if we are honest, the ridiculous, repetitive and pointless message board arguments do seem to hold their own strange appeal, particularly at 1 am when there's nothing better to do.
BainsBane
(53,032 posts)when they suggest porn isn't perfection itself.
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)or does it?
Major Nikon
(36,827 posts)pintobean
(18,101 posts)I'm going to have to change my avatar.
In_The_Wind
(72,300 posts)Revanchist
(1,375 posts)But she has been sick for the past year (maybe longer, can't remember how long it's been this bad) and we haven't had any physical contact because of that. I'm not the type to cheat so when I need a release I use pornography, either visual or literature, to assist in the process. Sex is nice but isn't always there.
Bonobo
(29,257 posts)with guys who like porn.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Blue_Adept
(6,399 posts)Obviously lots of men (and lots of women) love sex.
And both like to watch porn as well. And it's always interesting what you can learn from porn that you can bring into your personal life to enjoy and have fun with.
Sometimes you can really learn something from people who do this as a living. It's not like ~real~ sex education is going to happen in school. Parents aren't going to teach it either because, well, ew for most people. It's all trial and error. And that just doesn't fly in most other parts of life, does it?
http://www.alternet.org/story/154266/why_porn_can_be_good_for_you_(and_society)
HereSince1628
(36,063 posts)with multiple female partners.
Curious, the effect of a plural pronoun on a close reading of your post.
Violet_Crumble
(35,961 posts)Like someone just pointed out, the two aren't mutually exclusive.
BainsBane
(53,032 posts)zazen
(2,978 posts)I try not to say "better" since I don't want to come across as ranking partners.
But I wondered about starting a thread where we actually talk about how bad sex is when the male partner has a glazed, distant look in his eyes because he's participating in some phantom script to which he's been conditioned by boring, repetitive, non-imaginative pornography.
It's great to be with a man who's actually present, physically and emotionally, and enjoys and attends to women's real bodies and souls, and isn't in some masturbatory trance.
I've definitely noticed that guys who aren't into porn, paradoxically (considering all of the erection obsession), have much higher sex drives and are much more "virile" in the traditional sense, well into their later decades. Because they're not hooked on cartoonish notions of female bodies and cartoonish, compulsively conditioned behaviors, they get much more easily aroused by actual living, breathing women.
There could be some self-selection here. Perhaps it's the guys who are terrified about losing their own virility who get hooked on porn. Two men I know who are extremely virile (like 20 year olds, except they've learned how to control it) told me that they stopped using it years ago because it felt gross and all-consuming. And these guys have very active sex lives, in part because they're not using that crap. Women sense it. And they're realllllly into women. There's an electricity about them. They're not in a trance.
I guess I could be more threatened that a male partner is living in "meatspace" and more sexually aware of the women around him (and potentially more attracted to them) because he's not living in some pathetic fantasy world where he orgasms to repetitive videos degrading women, but it's a trade-off I'll take,.
It doesn't matter how modelish you look and how much Victoria's Secret lingerie you have or how many porn scripts you learn (and the ways you have to self-medicate to do it), if your partner is addicted to porn you will never, ever be enough. That's because from the outset, their fantasy is more important to them than an authentic connection with your body. They need their next transgressive fix. The orgasmic moment for them is built on your degradation. I'm not talking about consensual BDSM. That'd be too honest, too emotionally present and accountable. Too non-masturbatory. No, they need to think they're (insert porn term) to that (insert degrading term for female). It precludes emotional presence.
It's a lot of bad things, but most of all, it's BORING.
Bonobo
(29,257 posts)zazen
(2,978 posts)The largest demographic using pornography is heterosexual males. And as a primarily "straight" woman I speak of my experience with that demographic.
However, if you're interested in this, you could check out John Stoltenberg's critiques of pornography and gay pornography in particular. He's a gay male feminist who's written vividly about the possibilities of sexuality without the "sexual ethic" (his term) of degradation. _Refusing to be a Man_ is one of his most famous works.
Violet_Crumble
(35,961 posts)Also, how do you know whether they're watching porn that degrades women (and there's a fair bit of it floating round) or stuff that doesn't?
zazen
(2,978 posts)We don't stop being concerned about racism because there are gray areas where they might not be intent to harm but a climate of harm continues.
We don't stop talking about potential harms of alcohol because there are gray areas between occasional heavy drinking and a slide into addiction.
I've never known a man who uses a steady diet of "erotica." I guess that would include nudes and other aesthetic compositions that are intended to stimulate a sensual and perhaps sexual response. Perhaps they are out there.
The guys I've known who've written off pornography experience all pornography--where at best you only have objectification of humans--as a type of crack cocaine, where you can't just "use a little." They've told me it's a slippery slope (and let's hope the the beavis and butthead humorists can leave that alone). The whole point of how the industries (mainstream and the outright criminal ones) get guys hooked is by conditioning them to want increasing levels of transgression of the target, usually female.
So I've known guys who use porn (and it's all been degrading--I've seen it, or else I know because of the way they speak to me once they're in their trance) and those who don't, and I notice an INTENSE difference in their sexualities. What I really notice is the impotence of the ones who are addicted to porn and the serious (Holy Mother of God!) virility of the ones who don't use it. Maybe that's what guys were like before the onslaught of all of the porn. You know, the millienia when men had erections (with partners or privately) without having to use external media, except for the uber wealthy who had access to the rare scroll or vase or Mallus Malleficarum.
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)Your point about porn (in the sense that I think you are talking about it) being boring is right on, esp. when you explore what women and men consider eroticism. It isn't a question of using sexually suggestive material v. none at all. There is a difference. Which is why some movie scenes that don't even contain nudity (but lots that do) can be enormous turn-ons for some women. Possibly the most erotic movie I ever saw was "Three Days of the Condor." The electricity in the lovemaking scenes with Redford and Dunaway was stunning. Ditto Redford and Streep in "Out of Africa." I think women and men coming together over what they find sexually stimulating is a miraculously wonderful and exciting experience. The men who know this are the best lovers, by FAR, IMO...
zazen
(2,978 posts)but you're right. And there really is legal backup for regulating pornography (not obscenity) and protecting erotic art. There were so many debates about this in the 80s and some sound legal arguments in the late 80s about how to amend the proposed Minneapolis legislation to be less broad.
I felt then and do now that had MacKinnon/Dworkin backed down a bit and allowed the three-pronged intellectual/artistic/political value as determined by a reasonable person argument to be built into the legislation, it might have been upheld. And the legislation was for civil remedies anyway.
Hitting the pornographers in their pocketbooks was a wise approach and the intent of the law, but they allowed ideological purity to trump the possible. I can't imagine how many adolescents' sexualities wouldn't have been twisted by this hateful gonzo pornography had this legislation been in effect before the advent of global internet usage. If the profit motive had been tamed a bit, perhaps they wouldn't have been so brazen. Don't know if it would have saved lives in countries without the regulations, but it might have made our pornographers more aggressive in shaming those places that could make gonzo without restraint.
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)I am in a kind of "arrested development" sexuality in men that somehow keeps them from a better enjoyment in sex with women. It starts with respecting intelligent, passionate women. Possibly it is a fear that women's sexuality is overwhelmingly strong and thus threatening to some men. And that is sad.
I think one of the reasons a lot of women (like me) love George Clooney is that he projects (as Redford did before him) a delicious love of smart, articulate and sexually/emotionally giving women. The whole package, as it were. Men who find such women are happier and lead more fulfilling lives and I for one cannot imagine my life without them. The sad, sad "left behinds" get my pity more than my scorn.
zazen
(2,978 posts)I had no previous expectations of where you stand on regulating pornography. I very much believe it should be regulated, but agree with your deeper analysis of the threat of intelligent, passionate women and the appeal of men who are strong and passionate enough to seek them out rather than attempt to degrade them or render them invisible. I'd put Daniel Craig in that category too. He actually married a woman his own age. Shocking.
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)I don't know about you, but when he is standing out in the cold in front of her front door and she rebuffs him, is so moving. The pain in his eyes...
Mojorabbit
(16,020 posts)rrneck
(17,671 posts)ismnotwasm
(41,984 posts)Pornography is clearly erotic for many people, but after a while to me it's repetitive, formulaic and boring. It's seldom seems erotic and is increasingly relying on 'kink' or shock porn, rather than the sensual and erotic. I stopped watching porn a while back.
Imaginative Colors, Textures, fabrics, sounds, good camera work, losing the objectification in both hetero and homosexual porn, sensual and well written story lines make the difference. I like the word erotica, but I don't think it will catch on.
The porn industry itself is as corrupt as Wall Street, reminds me of the sexual equivalent of Wallmart
BainsBane
(53,032 posts)about a connection between mystery and suspense movies and eroticism, or a propensity for viewers to have sex more often. It was a long time ago so I don't remember the details.
Blue_Adept
(6,399 posts)Or football
Or drinking
And you have nearly the same thing.
A vice is a vice. Some people will handle it better than others. The majority of people do it right.
Hell, you could probably change the word to guns and with a little modification have the same thing.
Bonobo
(29,257 posts)Women who use devices that look like Telefunken U47's or tiny chrome-plated machines that looks like a magical pigs with marital aids stuck all over it or with stud-covered plastic apparatuses become drooling, unresponsive, entranced robot who cannot appreciate a real penis and are unable to emotionally connect with men.
I find women that use vibrators to be unable to begin sexually aroused with real men because they are so used to the perfect mechanical phallus that never tires or softens. Such women appear to be in a trance, staring off into the distance dully and are unable to even become lubricated enough to perform with their chosen partners. It is really sad and precludes emotional presence.
But most of all, it's BORING.
riqster
(13,986 posts)Schema Thing
(10,283 posts)libodem
(19,288 posts)LOLOLOLOL
11 Bravo
(23,926 posts)a HUGE
LadyHawkAZ
(6,199 posts)westerebus
(2,976 posts)HereSince1628
(36,063 posts)about sex with men according to the Kinsey Institute??
And it may not be that the remainder who don't regularly fantasize about men don't fantasize about others.
Elizabeth Morgan, a psychology professor at Boise State found that 60% of a sample of female students at that institution fantasized about sex with other women.
Thinking your loving modest grandma (who might be a Church pianist) hasn't had such fantasies is common, but most likely, usually wrong.
yesphan
(1,588 posts)Zappa Reference.
rrneck
(17,671 posts)Wasn't there a thread in the lounge the other day about what goes through women's heads during sex?
very well said.
It's not hard to notice that men who obsess on porn are actually not very good lovers. They are masturbators and just need vessels and not human beings.
I suppose that's why Viagra is such a hot seller? Maybe more men are using more porn and ratcheting up the naughty til a normal human woman isn't stimulating enough so they have to pop pills.
Pretty sad.
alarimer
(16,245 posts)Some people might not watch porn, but might, say, fantasize about their favorite movie star a little too much. Possibly it's just a way of avoiding real life rather than an illness or addiction. Because let's face it, real life is hard and lonely sometimes. And sometimes it's easier to fantasize about some other life than it is to change the one you are in.
Obviously, this is a hot-button issue, but I do think you might be largely correct. Any sort of compulsive behavior, whether it's porn or video games can ruin a relationship. But it seems the issue is really the relationship and whatever problems are there than with whatever the other person is obsessed with.
If they don't hear your concerns and take action, then I think you (speaking generally, I'm not assuming you are talking about yourself) are completely justified in ending a relationship. No man or woman should play second fiddle to escapist fantasy, whatever it might be. Nor should they "put up" with bad sex because their partner is lost in some fantasy world.
HappyMe
(20,277 posts)You are also leaving out the fact that not all men like sex with women, not all women like sex with men, and women watch porn too.
Renew Deal
(81,860 posts)stevenleser
(32,886 posts)99Forever
(14,524 posts)Completely and undeniably, and looking to impose that obsession on everyone else.
Much like every other self-appointed, self-righteous judge of All That is Permissible.
Renew Deal
(81,860 posts)Not by some well intentioned people that have a view. Just a few people.
pintobean
(18,101 posts)Everybody knows it, thanks for saying it.
BainsBane
(53,032 posts)Renew Deal
(81,860 posts)BainsBane
(53,032 posts)Now I'm guilty for responding to a post, just like I forced you and everyone else to read threads you don't like and then go on to respond to them.
snooper2
(30,151 posts)A mother is in the kitchen making dinner for her family when her daughter walks in. Mother, where do babies come from? The mother thinks for a few seconds and says, Well dear, Mommy and Daddy fall in love and get married. One night they go into their bedroom, they kiss and hug, and have sex. The daughter looks puzzled so the mother continues, That means the daddy puts his penis in the mommys vagina. Thats how you get a baby, honey. The child seems to comprehend. Oh, I see, but the other night when I came into your room you had daddys penis in your mouth. What do you get when you do that? Jewelry, my dear. Jewelry.
Whiskeytide
(4,461 posts)... A young son asks his mother where babies come from. She explains that Daddy puts the sperm into Mommy and a baby grows in Mommy's tummy. The son thinks for a minute, and then asks "How does the sperm get into your tummy? Do you swallow it?" And she says "Only if Mommy wants a new diamond necklace".
idwiyo
(5,113 posts)Upton
(9,709 posts)I'm reminded of how lucky I am to be in a relationship with just that type of woman every time I come into GD and read another one of your absurd anti porn posts. You're clearly obsessed.
Nye Bevan
(25,406 posts)zazen
(2,978 posts)God, but that is one awful book. Well, I've surmised it is, based on a one paragraph sampling.
_The Story of O_ is so problematic, but for God's sake, at least it was well-written!
HappyMe
(20,277 posts)to like to read "Fifty Shades of Grey" and Jane Austen or Charles Dickens, Shakespeare...
zazen
(2,978 posts)Fifty Shades of Grey is boring. The prose is meandering and unimaginative. Whether the topic is a critique of neoliberalism or permaculture or child exploitation or the intricacies of mate selection in Regency England, humans have tended to value work that's been peer-reviewed and where the writer has gone through a process of careful thought and invention.
The book doesn't get a pass just because it's about a sexual topic and so, gee, anything goes, and if we critique her sloppy use of language, we must be anti-sex. In fact, there's much better written BDSM literature out there.
Orrex
(63,213 posts)HappyMe
(20,277 posts)of Fifty Shades made anybody anti-sex.
A person doesn't read that book for the literary qualities.
So you honestly think that somebody can't enjoy some classic literature AND some erotic crap? That's kind of absurd.
ismnotwasm
(41,984 posts)And the story line sounded like it would piss me off.
Plus as you say, the "Story of O" had its problems but it was damn good writing.
Now we got "Urban fantasy romance" it's like people need to inject werewolves and vampires in to their fantasy's landscape. Pretty interesting phenomena if you think about it.
Seeking Serenity
(2,840 posts)The first few are fairly straight-forward crime drama with the preternatural twist (vampires and werewolves living among us out in the open, etc.) Then they get really racy. Female porn, in my opinion (but I confess that I eagerly look forward to each new installment).
JI7
(89,250 posts)Codeine
(25,586 posts)BainsBane
(53,032 posts)Thank goodness for people who like well-written books instead of Fifty Shades of Grey.
stevenleser
(32,886 posts)Orrex
(63,213 posts)CTyankee
(63,912 posts)You are trying to find Puritansim out of "living, breathing" women enjoying sex? Huh?
Strange...
pintobean
(18,101 posts)hasn't ignored all the posts about porn that preceded this one.
Orrex
(63,213 posts)Honest!
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loli phabay
(5,580 posts)You need to be re programmed by attending workshops and ultimately a re education camp.
BainsBane
(53,032 posts)because in none of my critiques was "moral purity" at issue.
BainsBane
(53,032 posts)when in fact porn is not sex. It is commerce that generates a profit based on exploitation of labor. It's a substitute for or way of avoiding sex.
HERVEPA
(6,107 posts)Your posts are hysterical. Lots of men use porn to get off when they don't have a woman at that time, for whatever reason, or because they just enjoy it. You can enjoy porn where women are not victims. Why the hell can't you understand that?
BainsBane
(53,032 posts)but it bears no relationship to what I have written.
Edit: Oh, I see your issue. In that post, I meant exploitation of labor in the Marxist sense.
maddezmom
(135,060 posts)cantbeserious
(13,039 posts)eom
darkangel218
(13,985 posts)I'm a female and I like it.
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)Feminists talk about porn in the context of respect/disrespect for women. I am a feminist and I believe in the dignity of women, but that doesn't mean "puritansim." In fact, it is the direct opposite. It is a straightforward, unashamed respect for women's sexuality and capacity for passionate sex with her partner (or on her own, for that matter). The human brain's capacity for erotic turn ons is something extraordinarily fabulous. It always has been and always will be, for the human race to continue!
stevenleser
(32,886 posts)HappyMe
(20,277 posts)Or something.
I watch it sometimes too.
In_The_Wind
(72,300 posts)Most of the time I like being surprised.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)You do know that porn is used to by couple and threesomes and more to learn new stuff and get new ideas. Not everyone is stuck in the sex must be between a married man and women, only for procreation, only missionary position, and the word love and respect and be used at all times world that some seem to want. For every person on the planet there is a unique kink or fetish and that is what makes it great as you neveer know whats going to hit you when you jump in the sack.
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)You are right when you talk about never knowing what's going to hit you when you have sex. I know many feminists who love their erotica and sex paraphernalia. I think the reference is more toward viewing sex as something only fun if it is with"bad women" who fit a certain stereotype. Men who love and respect women are just better lovers, IMO. I feel that I know something about this because I am married to one. I would never have married him (or given him a second look in the first place) if he hadn't been!
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Sex, but for others those are no prerequisites. I look at it this way what works for you works and thats good, i would no more tell you what you should do sexually than i would expect you to tell me. Problem is in this world we have people who feel that they speak for everybody and feel the need to save people from themselves.
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)I am saying that I believe sex between mutually respectful men and women is terrific. Even tho I can't imagine everybody wanting that, I know there are some people who obviously don't, for a variety of reasons.
"I sing the body electric."
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)BainsBane
(53,032 posts)so if you adopt the above position regarding porn, ideological consistency would suggest you adopt the same view toward Walmart and other retail employers.
This particular OP was more spontaneous and less political in nature. It was a statement, unleashed by multiple margaritas, of my own personal preference.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)The last couple of decades, vcr is no longer the format used either. So answer me a simple question, if i want to watch porn, any sort of porn as long as its consenting why do you care. Thatbis if someone want to perform for me on webcam how is it any of your business.
BainsBane
(53,032 posts)I myself wouldn't call that porn, but if you want to, makes no difference to me. But porn in general is an industry designed to produce profit like everything else under capitalism.
HereSince1628
(36,063 posts)relationship. It's a bit unclear if it implies it should be that way all the time.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)CTyankee
(63,912 posts)I don't think it has any meaning beyond using correct grammar (she didn't say "a man" and "women" .
However, I don't think "monogamous" is even implied here. Maybe. Or maybe not. That's not her point, IMO.
HereSince1628
(36,063 posts)CTyankee
(63,912 posts)As an ESOL tutor, I deal with the English language a lot, trying to explain inconsistencies to speakers of other languages. This sentence is pretty straightforward.
HereSince1628
(36,063 posts)There is necessity for subject and verb to agree on number. But, agreement of subject and object depends upon the logic of the possible relations that could exist between the subject and the object.
As frequently happens, this one is somewhat ambiguous.
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)Orrex
(63,213 posts)How can you conclude this with certainty?
It can mean "Thank goodness for men who love women in a ratio of 1:1."
It could also mean "Thank goodness for the men who love women in a ratio of 1:20."
It is entirely reasonable to interpret the OP as referring to one man per woman.
It is also reasonable to interpret the OP as referring to to one man per an indeteriminate number of women.
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)If she had said " a man" and "women" together, the context would be very different.
Sometimes the simpler the explanation, the better. Occam's Razor and all that.
HereSince1628
(36,063 posts)The man ran a race.
The man ran races.
The men ran a race.
The men ran races.
If the number in the object makes logical sense, the sentence works.
Orrex
(63,213 posts)HereSince1628
(36,063 posts)who ran that type of race.
BainsBane
(53,032 posts)CTyankee
(63,912 posts)HereSince1628
(36,063 posts)It was never about intent, but about what was written...
How about sharing more of those never to be broken rules absolutisms about subject-object agreement?
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)You disappoint me, Here! I thought that what BB was VILLAINY and she's the Worst Person in the World! She has shattered so MANY lives with this thread! Oh, the pity of it!
pipoman
(16,038 posts)can't be honest and understanding of each others physiological differences and sexual wiring. Avoiding these very simple truths and pretending they don't exist lead to women believing all men are "dogs" and men believing all women are frigid..
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)simply cannot make love to her when she comes to visit him in his tent, because she is so open with her sexuality? It is one of the great episodes and Alda plays it so well. You feel sorry for Hawkeye because he can't appreciate what a gift she wants to give him sexually. At the end of the episode she leaves and he learns what was really wrong with the way he felt about her unashamed sexuality...that AMerican culture back in the 50s still carried around the old ideas of considering women who openly enjoyed sex being "bad" and a "threat" to a guy's manhood...
Bonobo
(29,257 posts)Can you imagine if someone suggested that female hormones were poison?
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)So what? He really loves great women and AFAIK, has a strong, enduring marriage (and I can see why, quite frankly!).
Bonobo
(29,257 posts)"testosterone-poisoning" is clearcut self-hatred and a tremendous insult to men in general.
Again, imagine the reverse. Having female hormones being declared to be poisonous.
Men bad/Women good is a good litany to keep certain women happy, true, but not a very fair position in the overall picture.
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)on some men who gain power and wreak destruction and death, thereby "poisoning" the world. I get his point. I doubt very strongly that he is "self hating." He strikes me as a pretty happy guy with his life. If that is "self hating" then I don't see it...
rrneck
(17,671 posts)CTyankee
(63,912 posts)inviting and there's no doubts where she wants things to go, so I guess it is, in a soft way. The two movies I mentioned were more explicit, esp. the uncensored sex scenes in "Three Days of the Condor." They were probably shot for foreign markets and edited out for the domestic version. But I wish they hadn't been. They were very exciting. Clooney and Vera Farmiga had some nice, hot moments in "up in the air" and every woman I've talked with about it has loved it. I'll bet there are lots of feminists who would love to bed down with Clooney...
And everybody enjoys a little kitsch now an then. Only the most affected among us would claim otherwise. But then, affectation can become it's own kitsch.
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)some of them can be pretty good...
rrneck
(17,671 posts)Would that subtility and complexity played a larger role in the media. That's how women get written out of the script even though they dominate the scene.
Rex
(65,616 posts)nt.
In_The_Wind
(72,300 posts)loli phabay
(5,580 posts)In_The_Wind
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CTyankee
(63,912 posts)In_The_Wind
(72,300 posts)I never paid very much attention to her because her voice is irritating to my ears.
We all agree that different things will excite people. Who am I to pass judgment on another's needs/desires as long as everything is done with mutual respect.
BainsBane
(53,032 posts)The2ndWheel
(7,947 posts)I'm pretty sure damn near every man would choose an actual woman over porn.
pintobean
(18,101 posts)loli phabay
(5,580 posts)The2ndWheel
(7,947 posts)Once you get beyond the first step of much more likely than not wanting an actual person next to you instead of images on a screen, then you start getting into the ever increasing complexity of individual preference.
I'm just going with the baseline stuff. It's one thing if you don't have sex and don't watch porn. Maybe you're just not into sex at all, and with 7+ billion people on the planet, that's a very real possibility that there's at least one person like that. But if you're going to watch other people have sex, you'd probably rather be having actual sex yourself.
BainsBane
(53,032 posts)especially when the woman is their wife.
Orrex
(63,213 posts)BainsBane
(53,032 posts)PowerToThePeople
(9,610 posts)Agschmid
(28,749 posts)cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)As BainsBane was told by someone else in one of her OTHER porn-rape-poutrageoftheday posts...
xulamaude
(847 posts)Yeah, but it was pretty much you who kept re-posting it over and over and over... and over here too.
Thank goodness for hot buttons.
Avalux
(35,015 posts)I'm not going to bash porn; it can serve a purpose, as in those times when a real breathing, living, orgasmic woman is not available. But when that woman is right there and willing, porn shouldn't interfere.
I can't wait until we start arguing about robot sex around here!
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)LadyHawkAZ
(6,199 posts)cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)As you were told by another poster in another thread...
Niceguy1
(2,467 posts)And porn fills the gaps when hot sex isn't available. Nothing wrong with it.
1StrongBlackMan
(31,849 posts)CTyankee
(63,912 posts)and so many men here are having fits...
it sounds like you "get" it (in more ways than one, I guess...)
happy days!
1StrongBlackMan
(31,849 posts)I would far rather eat my own meal, than watch someone else eat ... no matter how scrumptious the meal looks on TV.
stevenleser
(32,886 posts)This is a continuation of dozens of posts by the OP on the subject.
Most folks are reacting to the continuum, not this one post in a vacuum.
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)there's a novel idea...
stevenleser
(32,886 posts)CTyankee
(63,912 posts)easily stand on its own.
stevenleser
(32,886 posts)pintobean
(18,101 posts)You can't just ignore all of the context that led to the OP. Your attempt to spin it will only work on people who haven't been in GD for the last couple of weeks.
Prism
(5,815 posts)If DU is going to be the therapist's couch for inadvertent revelations of one's personal sexual id, the least we should be able to do is bill insurance.
Capt. Obvious
(9,002 posts)What happened to your other thread? Did you get locked out of it or something?
And more importantly - which HOF thread did you brag about this thread in?
BainsBane
(53,032 posts)talk about a temper tantrum.
KansDem
(28,498 posts)I turn 61 in January and for me the ultimate thrill is cuddling, hugging and holding hands, and giving unexpected gifts to show how special she is. Yeah, sex is nice and I've went to porn movies in my youth, but now it's just having someone special near to me that's the greatest thrill.
Harmony Blue
(3,978 posts)each man and woman freely chooses how they wish to live their lives.
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)I think that is implicit in the OP.
Some people's bitterness here is very, very sad.
Capt. Obvious
(9,002 posts)The OP?
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)But I see so much anger and frustration with responders here who totally distort what she is saying, just because they don't like her. I'm sad because it IS sad to have a life distorted by such rage. It reflects an awful lot of anger and resentment. And nobody can be happy carrying that stuff around...why not say "go and be well and love joyfully"?
stevenleser
(32,886 posts)Your assertions only work if you could make the rest of DU forget the persons many recent posts.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Participants and whatever they are into.
dipsydoodle
(42,239 posts).
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)polly7
(20,582 posts)real, satisfying sex life with actual people, if you ask me. How the hell does one come to that conclusion anyway? And why aren't women included in this porn-shaming OP? Because we're all VICTIMS, and surely can't know what's good for us. I'm not a porn watcher - as in, I don't seek it out, but really have no interest in monitoring or judging people who choose to see consenting adults who wish to share their experiences. for whatever reason. We're all VICTIMS I tell ya -, and only pig-men who can't find a real women partake in the evils of pornography. Does that also make the women who watch and enjoy it pig-women, who can't get a real partner? So confusing.
stevenleser
(32,886 posts)If you are a thinking person, the combined anti-free speech, simplistic stilted arguments, and blatant attempts at slut-shaming of the folks arguing against porn are way too much.
If you suspend all disbelief and turn off the higher centers of your brain, you might be able to stomach some of these arguments.
polly7
(20,582 posts)loli phabay
(5,580 posts)polly7
(20,582 posts)Just saying what I truly believe ... and, from what I've read in these many, many ban the porn threads - a lot of women here agree with me.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)So i look at this poster as being on the fringe, this idea that one can infringe on others sexuality that involves consenting adults is authoritarian in the extreme.
HappyMe
(20,277 posts)A woman that agrees with you.
polly7
(20,582 posts)HappyMe
(20,277 posts)CTyankee
(63,912 posts)the OP doesn't discuss that and I suggested that we clarify what we might discuss i.e., what we mean by "porn" and "erotica" in its broadest meaning. Since erotica has always been with us in art and literature and always will, IMO, perhaps that is the needed follow up to the OPs. Just a thought, but don't you think that might be a good idea?
polly7
(20,582 posts)be it 'erotica'/soft porn or any other where consenting adults are participating.
How about you answer that?
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)I affirm what I affirm. You may read into it what you will. I can't stop you nor would I try.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)CTyankee
(63,912 posts)loli phabay
(5,580 posts)CTyankee
(63,912 posts)Have you ever read the 13th century Afghan poet, Rumi? He was a Sufi mystic but many of his writings were what you might deem porn or erotica. I studied him in a grad school course in Mysticism. In one poem, he describes a young woman enjoying sex with her donkey in pretty explicit terms. He also describes his relationship with Shams,his spiritual adviser, very erotically ("Come to me naked. There's no one here..." For many years translations of this poet's writings were censored or sometimes the sex stuff was just translated into Latin. But now we have Coleman Barks's translation and his erotica is laid bare. It is incredibly beautiful and demonstrates a close relationship of the divine with the human.
If anyone asks you
how the perfect satisfaction
of all our sexual wanting
will look, lift your face
and say,
Like this.
When someone mentions the gracefulness
of the nightsky, climb up on the roof
and dance and say,
Like this.
If anyone wants to know what "spirit" is,
or what "Gods fragrance" means,
lean your head toward him or her.
Keep your face there close.
Like this.
When someone quotes the old poetic image
about clouds gradually uncovering the moon,
slowly loosen knot by knot the strings
of your robe.
Like this.
If anyone wonders how Jesus raised the dead,
dont try to explain the miracle.
Kiss me on the lips.
Like this. Like this.
When someone asks what it means
to "die for love," point
here.
If someone asks how tall I am, frown
and measure with your fingers the space
between the creases on your forehead.
This tall.
The soul sometimes leaves the body, the returns.
When someone doesnt believe that,
walk back into my house.
Like this.
When lovers moan,
theyre telling our story.
Like this.
I am a sky where spirits live.
Stare into this deepening blue,
while the breeze says a secret.
Like this.
When someone asks what there is to do,
light the candle in his hand.
Like this.
How did Josephs scent come to Jacob?
Huuuuu.
How did Jacobs sight return?
Huuuu.
A little wind cleans the eyes.
Like this.
When Shams comes back from Tabriz,
hell put just his head around the edge
of the door to surprise us
Like this.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Thats the problem with the written.word nuance etc gets missed.
R B Garr
(16,954 posts)What I get out of it is that it's a back-handed way of saying that some women have had enough of having to compete with porn performers as being any realistic indication of what women want and what appeals to them. Do you like the screaming women in some porn? Is that realistic? They are paid actresses.
I think the OP is pretty clever, actually. Not that I've read all the other porn threads and opinions, but I think it's safe to say that porn is marketed mostly to men. What's wrong with just admitting that.
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)getting dressed. He likes the women's beautiful bodies and I must say the guys are pretty good looking, too. But the acting is so ridiculous and so bad that we laugh ourselves silly over it. We call it "porn in the morn." I like that it is on Sunday mornings while people are getting ready for church...it'll give 'em something to think about during the sermon, I guess...
R B Garr
(16,954 posts)(like I think this OP is trying to do about being realistic), and get looks like he knows right away what I'm ridiculing, so he gets it. There are some real screamers out there, I tell ya! Whatever makes the $$$ because that's mostly what they are in porn for, and it's mostly consumed by males, so it's marketed to them.
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)sex is so fake you can't help laughing. Plus, they truly cannot act...you'd think some of them would want to do a little better but I guess if you are there just to pose, why put in the trouble?
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)are OK. I am not against you on women's sexuality (not at all!). We love our sexuality (no shame included!).
Join us!
polly7
(20,582 posts)Don't be scared, it's just people trying to impose their morals onto others on a message board while implying there's something wrong/bad with us. No biggie for you and I and people like us who have no doubt about who we are, and who do love our sexuaity.
But you sound confused about something I said. LOL
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)I felt it was a woman accepting and big hearted acceptance of sexuality for everyone... and I am so happy for that!
polly7
(20,582 posts)so I just included women among the millions/billions who partake.
The OP was just another flamebait for ego and the poster to sit back and watch the fireworks. Not enough drama with the many porn threads yet, apparently.
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)My god, how terrible!
C'mon, get real, polly. We feminists are living, breathing and orgasmic...please don't faint on us!
polly7
(20,582 posts)Seriously, enough with the fakey stuff. I said what I thought. Sorry it's had to imagine that not all women here don't agree with you.
PS, the poster who made the OP said it was a middle of the night drunken * up. I would't take it too seriously - just shit-stirring while inebriated. But I hope you're going to be okay! lmfao.
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)and I believe what she said was true. "In wine, there is truth."
And I think we are all going to be OK...LOL...
polly7
(20,582 posts)plenty of both lol. Yeah, we'll all be just fine!
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)progressive, Democratic liberal woman...
polly7
(20,582 posts)This is a message board. I get to reply to what I think is ridiculous flame-baiting. Does that bother you?
Edit for stupid spelling mistakes, I'm trying to bottle-feed a teeny kitty at the same time.
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)I think the OP is making an important statement. Maybe she wasn't meaning to make it quite that way when she did, but I interpreted it as "in vino, veritas." I think she meant it. And I think she's right.
polly7
(20,582 posts)CTyankee
(63,912 posts)bring me my fainting couch!...
polly7
(20,582 posts)I would guarantee the majority of men / and women who watch porn are perfectly able to love women / and men who are living, breathing and orgasmic. She pulled that fallacy out of her azz.
But I'd love to see some studies from you showing they aren't. With sources, please and thank you.
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)polly7
(20,582 posts)CTyankee
(63,912 posts)Let's all agree that we love sex and drink to that!
polly7
(20,582 posts)But I think I'll have a hot cocoa instead, while my feet, ears and pretty much everything in between thaw out.
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)polly7
(20,582 posts)but stupid me, I got my car stuck in my driveway and had to shovel for an hour.
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)polly7
(20,582 posts)but it's supposed to get cold tonight.
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)polly7
(20,582 posts)CTyankee
(63,912 posts)HERVEPA
(6,107 posts)Or women and women?
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)and THAT is the beauty of feminism!
La Lioness Priyanka
(53,866 posts)Capt. Obvious
(9,002 posts)stevenleser
(32,886 posts)To even type those words is a damnable sin to some folks who I am sure will be along shortly.
yodermon
(6,143 posts)pintobean
(18,101 posts)CTyankee
(63,912 posts)EOTE
(13,409 posts)For analytical purposes, of course.
Vashta Nerada
(3,922 posts)If you don't like porn, don't watch it. Don't criticize those who don't share your beliefs.
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MicaelS
(8,747 posts)Unfortunately many men are short, or old, or differently abled, or not in the best of health, or have some other such problem that they have a difficult, or impossible time finding a female sexual partner.
Some things a man can't do a damn thing about, like age, or health, or ableism.
Or height. There is this link that shows just how nasty women can be about short men.
https://twitter.com/heightismwatch
So any hatred of men you can show from some source it can probably be matched by women's hatred of men from another.
If men want or have an expectation of sex, especially beyond a certain age, we'll hear complaints about that.
If men want use Viagra, or some other product then we'll hear complaints about that.
If men buy sex, or attempt to buy sex, then we'll hear complaints about that.
And if a man who has no other sexual outlet except pornography, why then we'll hear lots of complaints about that.
All of these complaints can be found right here on DU.
Of course if advanced Gynoids were available, it would help men, but then you would probably complain about that.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Good tjing about the internet is regardless of what one would score on looks, age etc there isbsomeone out there who is intetested in you.
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)cover women's reproductive health care but do cover Viagra.
And I will say that as a feminist I don't hate that men who have the problems you mention avail themselves of pornography. In fact, it can be life affirming for them to do so.
I'll bet that if we. those of us on this thread right now, were to look at a bunch of pornographic pictures women and men would probably not like the ones that seek, not to amplify sexuality and stimulate desire, but are ones that deny dignity to women or threaten women or demean women. And if similar pictures did that to men, I think we'd probably not like them either.
BainsBane
(53,032 posts)Even late night drunken posts.
pintobean
(18,101 posts)drunk or not, but I'm pretty skeptical about that part.
MadrasT
(7,237 posts)rrneck
(17,671 posts)Capt. Obvious
(9,002 posts)Not sure where to start.
pintobean
(18,101 posts)Hissyspit
(45,788 posts)pintobean
(18,101 posts)because she keeps kicking it. What a train wreck.
Jester Messiah
(4,711 posts)Better yet, how about let people like what they like without judgment?
BainsBane
(53,032 posts)as the responses to this OP demonstrate.
Blue_Tires
(55,445 posts)BainsBane
(53,032 posts)CTyankee
(63,912 posts)This whole hullaballoo is so sadly an idea that has disenheartened a whole group of DUers). I am sad by it...I wish you the best!
Hissyspit
(45,788 posts)CTyankee
(63,912 posts)what , no answer at all gets tihis?
Hissyspit
(45,788 posts)If you don't understand why, start with post #171. (Also, check out #197.)
Human sexuality is a massively complex and nuanced thing, quite varied from individual to individual, intertwined with, life, survival, sex and gender identities, culture and power relationships. It is more deserving than the bigoted, simple-minded outburst in the OP (whatever it's motivation).
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)But I don't think the OP deserves this massive crap on. Why do this? Really. Why? What are you accomplishing by doing this thing? It does not burnish anyone's image to do this, really it doesn't....
Hissyspit
(45,788 posts)Why don't you ask your same questions of the OP?
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)And I responded in kind. I think it is quite wonderful.
Hissyspit
(45,788 posts)And the OP is insulting to humans.
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)Far from being insulting, she was being inclusive and loving towards joyfully sexual men and women. And how good is that? Aren't we supposed to celebrate our sexuality? I know I do!
Isn't that a good thing in your mind?
Hissyspit
(45,788 posts)apparent belief in what is "better" is hardly inclusive.
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)she wasn't writing a master's thesis fer gawd's sake...it was just a late night posting on a website.
Can we all take a breath and let this just be?
Bonobo
(29,257 posts)It wasn't "singing the body electric" so much as it was "stabbing at perceived slights".
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)BainsBane
(53,032 posts)Good lord. How on earth is expressing my fondness for sex "insulting to humans"?
We KNOW that it wasn't just you expressing your fondness for sex.
It was a swipe at people that watch porn. An implication that they don't also enjoy sex.
Passive aggressiveness in its most cheap and whiny form.
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)...SOON if they aren't already lined up! Hell, if they're complaining to ME on this thread you can be sure they'll make an effort at getting some kind of sympathy card...
EOTE
(13,409 posts)You don't REALLY believe that anyone here is unable to see the subtext of your OP? You DO know that if some random dude made an OP about the women he likes to have sex with that you and the rest of your outrage brigade would storm in and immediately demand an end to his patriarchal perversions. But keep it up. I get a tremendous kick out of watching people rapidly lose their dignity.
pintobean
(18,101 posts)BainsBane
(53,032 posts)It's a factual statement. Some people become so addicted to porn they prefer it to interactions with real people. I don't know how common it is, but certainly it occurs.
RandySF
(58,874 posts)AND I like porn.
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)Plenty of folks here agree with you and I think you are just great! Welcome!
edbermac
(15,939 posts)Should only be taken in moderation.
rrneck
(17,671 posts)FatBuddy
(376 posts)be like water, be like water.
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)"Be melting snow."
Be melting snow.
Wash yourself of yourself.
A white flower grows in quietness.
Let your tongue become that flower.
FatBuddy
(376 posts)CTyankee
(63,912 posts)heavily. We read Coleman Barks's translations which I am sure you can find in your public library or at Amazon. One I just loved was entitled "The Tavern: Whoever Brought me Here Will Have to Take Me Home." My whole class got a big kick out of that one!
Coyotl
(15,262 posts)the War on Christmas
BainsBane
(53,032 posts)It was happily off the front page of GD.
mstinamotorcity2
(1,451 posts)over a shot of crown Royal Black.