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MineralMan

(146,317 posts)
Mon Dec 2, 2013, 10:39 AM Dec 2013

I See You.

This is a standard greeting for some African tribes. It says much more than "Hello." It is a recognition of the person as a person. "I see you."

If we really saw people, most of the difficulties we have in communicating with others would be ended. "I see you," implies recognition of the individual nature of the person you are greeting. It implies a willingness to accept that person as who he or she is, not who we expect the person to be.

Perhaps the use of that greeting would be a useful thing for all of us.

"I see you."

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I See You. (Original Post) MineralMan Dec 2013 OP
Namaste GliderGuider Dec 2013 #1
Thank you! MineralMan Dec 2013 #2
Phatic statement. Orrex Dec 2013 #3
Would it? I don't think that's necessarily MineralMan Dec 2013 #4
"God Bless You" is also a complete sentence. So is "Hey, how are you doing?" Orrex Dec 2013 #14
The thing is that I'm not trying to convince you of anything. MineralMan Dec 2013 #15
Well, all right. Orrex Dec 2013 #18
The short history of 'hello' as standard English greeting is pretty interesting itself. Bluenorthwest Dec 2013 #5
Hallo, Hullo, Ola, and variations MineralMan Dec 2013 #7
Edison did not coin the word, he simply oversaw that which broght the word into constant useage. Bluenorthwest Dec 2013 #10
Hahahah!!! pipi_k Dec 2013 #8
And so on! Bluenorthwest Dec 2013 #11
From the viewpoint pipi_k Dec 2013 #6
I can see your issue with it, for sure. MineralMan Dec 2013 #9
Yes... pipi_k Dec 2013 #12
"I see you" is also the greeting used by the blue people in Avatar. Bluenorthwest Dec 2013 #13
I'd forgotten that. Looks like the writers for that MineralMan Dec 2013 #16
Very true ... 1StrongBlackMan Dec 2013 #17

Orrex

(63,213 posts)
3. Phatic statement.
Mon Dec 2, 2013, 11:13 AM
Dec 2013

After the second or third use, "I See You" would become as banal and meaningless as "hello."

MineralMan

(146,317 posts)
4. Would it? I don't think that's necessarily
Mon Dec 2, 2013, 11:18 AM
Dec 2013

true. Language has intrinsic meaning. "Hello" is not evocative of much, while "I see you" contains linguistic meaning that implies more than just a greeting.

So, I disagree with your statement. I believe that rote greetings and other social pleasantries have more function than you may think, and much of their function is linguistic in nature. Language reflects the character and social concepts of those who use it. "I see you" is a complete sentence, involving an active interaction between two individuals. It's all in there, linguistically speaking.

Orrex

(63,213 posts)
14. "God Bless You" is also a complete sentence. So is "Hey, how are you doing?"
Mon Dec 2, 2013, 12:11 PM
Dec 2013

Both of those are phatic statements.

The way that you've described it, "I see you" serves the same primary function as "hello." Aside from the hipster appeal of using a non-western-conventional greeting, I am confident that the "active interaction between two individuals" would very quickly boil down to another empty social idiom.

It would take a fairly compelling argument to convince me otherwise.

MineralMan

(146,317 posts)
15. The thing is that I'm not trying to convince you of anything.
Mon Dec 2, 2013, 12:43 PM
Dec 2013

I found that greeting to be interesting, so I posted something about it. I have no illusions that it could replace our current customary greetings. I just found the language interesting in a linguistic sense.

My response to a "Hey, how are you doing?" greeting is to provide some feedback to the person about how I'm doing. I reply to the question with a word or two that indicates my general state of being at the time. "Great!" "Lousy." "Meh." I don't launch into an explanation, but do offer some information in my reply to that.

Same thing when I exchange greetings with a Spanish-speaking friend. We converse in Spanish. If a question is part of the greeting, I respond with a brief answer to that question. Communication takes place. Is it phatic? That depends. Not always. Sometimes the greeting and How are you doing question evolves into a conversation. Sometimes not. It depends.

"Hello." conveys nothing and gets nothing in return other than "Hi." A conversation requires more effort, but is always welcomed.

Orrex

(63,213 posts)
18. Well, all right.
Mon Dec 2, 2013, 01:12 PM
Dec 2013

Your OP was structured along the lines of "wouldn't it be nice if we did it that way?" which sort of came across as a wish that we all did it that way. I was responding to that aspect of the post.

My response to a "Hey, how are you doing?" greeting is to provide some feedback to the person about how I'm doing. I reply to the question with a word or two that indicates my general state of being at the time. "Great!" "Lousy." "Meh." I don't launch into an explanation, but do offer some information in my reply to that.
That's lovely, but the question "Hey, how are you doing?" is still a phatic statement unless the speaker actually intends it as an invitation to expound upon your condition. Your response of "great," "lousy" or "meh" is also phatic unless you intend it to initiate a conversation about your state of being.

Even if you do intend it that way, and even if the initial speaker does sincerely ask the question, that the idiom itself is still phatic regardless of a few occasional anomalies.

Same thing when I exchange greetings with a Spanish-speaking friend. We converse in Spanish. If a question is part of the greeting, I respond with a brief answer to that question. Communication takes place. Is it phatic? That depends. Not always. Sometimes the greeting and How are you doing question evolves into a conversation. Sometimes not. It depends.
Well, yeah. If an actual exchange of information occurs, then it's not phatic, and we can spend all day coming up with goofy exceptions (if a spy's code-word is "hello," then it's not a phatic statement because it conveys the information that he's the contact, etc.), but it's not about those few outliers. The statement in general, casual use is a phatic statement.

I am confident that "I see you" would be the same after the initial novetly (very quickly) wore off.
 

Bluenorthwest

(45,319 posts)
5. The short history of 'hello' as standard English greeting is pretty interesting itself.
Mon Dec 2, 2013, 11:36 AM
Dec 2013

When telephones were new, Alexander Bell advocated 'ahoy' as the greeting to use when lifting the earpiece, Edison advocated 'hello'. Edison won and the greeting quickly spread out from the phones to become the greeting for live encounters as well. Myself, I wish we'd gone with 'ahoy' because it has some whimsey, or seems to since we don't use it constantly. Imagine the songs! Beatles 'Ahoy/Goodbye'. Lionel Ritchie with the simply titled 'Ahoy'.

MineralMan

(146,317 posts)
7. Hallo, Hullo, Ola, and variations
Mon Dec 2, 2013, 11:43 AM
Dec 2013

seem to be pretty universal today. Although it is not in the etymology, I see the word "Hail" in there, on a linguistic level, so there's probably some ancient Sanskrit root involved. But, as Quinnox pointed out, it is a phatic expression, not meant to convey much meaning, and succeeding admirably in that. Linguistics is a funny study. Our choices of polite expressions seem to move away from conveying meaning and "hello" is a good example of that. That's why I think, "I see you" is a much more expressive greeting. It has linguistic content and some pretty important basic meaning.

Our greetings tend to be impersonal and neutral. I'm interested in the idea of making them more personal and having them convey some meaning. I think it's very unlikely that our standard greetings will change, though. But, it would be interesting to introduce new ways of greeting people that actually conveyed some intrinsic meaning on a linguistic level.

Just a musing for a Monday morning.

 

Bluenorthwest

(45,319 posts)
10. Edison did not coin the word, he simply oversaw that which broght the word into constant useage.
Mon Dec 2, 2013, 11:49 AM
Dec 2013

Point being that it was not really 'our choice' but a conflict between competitors in early telephony that lead to the use of 'hello'.

pipi_k

(21,020 posts)
8. Hahahah!!!
Mon Dec 2, 2013, 11:45 AM
Dec 2013

"Ahoy, I love you, won't you tell me your name" (The Doors)

"Ahoy Dolly!" (Louis Armstrong)

"Ahoy, It's Me" (Todd Rundgren)

"Ahoy, is there anybody in there? Just nod if you can hear me..." (Pink Floyd)




pipi_k

(21,020 posts)
6. From the viewpoint
Mon Dec 2, 2013, 11:39 AM
Dec 2013

of someone who has had social anxiety disorder for decades, the phrase, "I see you" would be highly disturbing to me.

Because I spent many years trying to be invisible. Unnoticed. Unseen.

It actually took lots of work for me to realize that nobody is really paying that much attention to me at all. Or, at least, not as much as I feared they were.

Guess I'm just one of those really weird people...

MineralMan

(146,317 posts)
9. I can see your issue with it, for sure.
Mon Dec 2, 2013, 11:45 AM
Dec 2013

Still, language usually doesn't take individual or personal issues into consideration all that much. That's especially true with stock expressions like greetings and so on.

pipi_k

(21,020 posts)
12. Yes...
Mon Dec 2, 2013, 11:50 AM
Dec 2013

it's all very subjective, which is what causes problems when people try to regulate what others should find offensive based on what they themselves find offensive.

I mean, how many arguments and debates have there been right here at DU over the years with regards to words/language that some find offensive but others don't.

Still, language is the best we have, aside from people being able to read each others' thoughts, and I'm not entirely sure that would work out any better. Might even be worse...

MineralMan

(146,317 posts)
16. I'd forgotten that. Looks like the writers for that
Mon Dec 2, 2013, 12:46 PM
Dec 2013

were aware of the African greeting. I know that I've known about it for decades, so it's probably fairly commonly known. It's also linguistically interesting.

 

1StrongBlackMan

(31,849 posts)
17. Very true ...
Mon Dec 2, 2013, 01:05 PM
Dec 2013

and the movie had a lot of other African references that translate across a broad spectrum of aboriginal peoples.

It was the only saving grace for that movie for me ... except for the graphics; that kept me watching it, too.

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