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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsIs porn bad now? I find it a weird topic for anything called "Democratic Underground"...
I thought maybe the one place where topics on porn would be about "which do you prefer?", would be a supposedly left wing underground forum that advocates freedom...
But it did get me wondering about something:
Is Transgender porn Misogyny or Misandry?
And it's corollary:
Why are Democrats trying to shame consenting adults?
quinnox
(20,600 posts)They are just very active and vocal. There are around 10 members in that group that are active on this topic, that is all. Most of the responses disagree with them.
leeroysphitz
(10,462 posts)quinnox
(20,600 posts)BuddhaGirl
(3,607 posts)to complain about "rape porn defenders" in the GD porn threads
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)Heh heh. Yeah, meta was educational, for folks who were paying attention.
BuddhaGirl
(3,607 posts)Meta was very, very interesting at times
el_bryanto
(11,804 posts)I agree that most people don't care but it looks to me like 9-10 feminists and 9-10 porn defenders go at it, while others make snippy/humorous comments around the edges or ignore it entirely.
Bryant
You mean it's just Porn Thread Wars?
LordGlenconner
(1,348 posts)Which wrapped up last week.
whttevrr
(2,345 posts)I thought porn was bad...
and icky...
truebrit71
(20,805 posts)....
whttevrr
(2,345 posts)... to differentiate the legal and illegal aspects for some people.
Consenting adults should be able to enjoy the transactional benefits inherent in the creation and consumption of legal porn.
NCTraveler
(30,481 posts)What are the "inherent" transactional benefits?
whttevrr
(2,345 posts)To create porn there are usually at a minimum two transactions, one being a contract between the producers and the actors and the other between the viewer and producer. The remuneration would be either monetary or psychological. If it is being done for money the inherent transactional benefits should be quite obvious.
If there is no money being paid for in the making of the porn then the transactional benefits have a different value unit used. Perhaps the people making and sharing the porn are in a relationship, or just get off on being watched. The inherent transactional benefits are more psychological than monetary in nature and would probably be a an oral agreement. The contract between the producer could be as simple as an agreement between someone and their self. They probably get a thrill out of the making of the porn. And they may even be making it for themselves.
I hear there are a lot of people out there who like the way their bodies look in motion and enjoy sharing that imagery.
I could probably find a few more transactions, but I think two involving money and two using a different reward system should suffice to clarify what the benefits are.
Vashta Nerada
(3,922 posts)historylovr
(1,557 posts)And another win for mental masturbation, as one of my history prof's used to say. Being anti-porn doesn't make one anti-sex, OR a Rick Santorum supporter. Geesh.
hunter
(38,313 posts)There's plenty of rotten porn on the internet, well deserving of feminist scolding.
Thankfully, none of it pictures, movies, or stories of me.
There are naked pics of me on the internet. If you find the one of me wearing only a hat and a smile in the sunshine, post it here.
I don't have a copy, but damn, I was HOT!
greiner3
(5,214 posts)Not all of us are ' Lisbeth Salanders', the computer wiz with searching capabilities!
nomorenomore08
(13,324 posts)It's really not quite so simple, even if some would like to believe it is.
MindMover
(5,016 posts)<a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/41483660@N04/11181218473/" title="article-2479012-190F7D8800000578-885_634x830 by pbmus, on Flickr"><img src="" width="634" height="830" alt="article-2479012-190F7D8800000578-885_634x830"></a>
Jester Messiah
(4,711 posts)Hope not. Feminism is a fine ideal in itself, but anything can be taken too far, and they do. SRS is the Westboro of feminism.
(cliffnotes for the unclued: SRS is a board on Reddit that is notorious for this sort of thing.)
Katashi_itto
(10,175 posts)authoritian views on everyone. Alot of their links supporting their "arguments" come straight from right wing think tanks.
Response to Katashi_itto (Reply #90)
polly7 This message was self-deleted by its author.
Tumbulu
(6,278 posts)The objection is to the normalizing of violence against women, to the working conditions of those being filmed, at least those are my main objections to violent porn.
Really, do you think an intelligent conversation on the subject is beyond DU?
I hate anyone being injured for someone else's profit. How is worker safety and impact on the population viewing the violence not a worthy subject?
hfojvt
(37,573 posts)intelligent conversation on ANY subject is beyond DU since the favorite past-time is to divide DU into imaginary camps and fling snark at the other camp, which is, of course, just chock full of irrational wankers.
Or is wanker the wrong word for this topic?
Katashi_itto
(10,175 posts)have a field day with.
However, Watching the cycle on DU, repeat itself. It was violent porn protests, then general porn protests, then documentaries about porn protests. Now it's repeating. it's a slippery slope of censorship which the anti-porn group on DU fully embraces. There are already laws against violent porn. It's that simple, abuse of children mutilation, etc.
If you want to go after someone, instead of yanking peoples chain on DU go after Hunter Moore. The Revenge porn master.
Odds are none of your group will. Because this guy plays for keeps, and you won't be playing in a sandbox kicking sand in the other kids faces.
Moore comes after anyone who messes with his empire.
I suppose it's much easier to make pointless posts here to people who already have made up their minds. Though at least this way you can still pretend to be activists.
Comrade Grumpy
(13,184 posts)NYC_SKP
(68,644 posts)There are a few who, for whatever reason, don't like any form of porn or nudity or discussion about sex.
Which is fine.
Except that they expect us all to stay shut up about it because they find it offensive.
I find their expectations offensive.
As to the transgender porn question, I don't know. I don't think it's Misogyny or Misandry in every case, if ever.
Scout
(8,624 posts)uh huh, right. snort.
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)feminism and how it is at the root of all of their problems. Maybe it's because I am surrounded by male family members and friends who are strongly pro-feminists and raising their kids that way. This steriotyping of feminists is really stupid. And it's OLD. Anybody who does this is automatically dating themselves back to the 1960s.
Some people just have to GET OVER IT.
rrneck
(17,671 posts)it's ideological fundamentalism. If it doesn't fit the doctrine, it must be evil.
xulamaude
(847 posts)Or maybe the many, many, may folks on the other side of the 'ideological fundamentalist' coin won't listen either.
BTW, I do not recall any one of these 'fundamentalist' women calling porn "evil".
rrneck
(17,671 posts)The discomfort with porn takes the form not of any rational argument against its content, nor have there been any substantive suggestions about how to deal with something that causes so much ire. There have been allusions to cultural and psychological damage, labor abuse, and spurious confusion about the difference between fiction and reality. Mostly there has been an orgy of emotional projection and sanctimony.
The entire discussion on the "pro porn" side has been generally anthropological. The anti porn side has been an extended exercise in "hate the sin not the sinner" - mostly - although if you crowd them enough, no such fine distinctions are assured.
Literalist emotional response to text and images either for or against doctrine are part and parcel of fundamentalist thinking. All you have to do is read the threads.
xulamaude
(847 posts)Nice.
Thanks for 'listening' while you've been reading and posting on the same threads I have.
rrneck
(17,671 posts)Do you have any substantive suggestions for the problem of pornography in the United States? Or do you even think it's a problem?
xulamaude
(847 posts)Yet you ask me if I think there is a "problem".
The foremost suggestion I have is: listen to people who are repeatedly outlining their concerns about the porn industry.
rrneck
(17,671 posts)But contrary to what many here might think, I do.
Those concerns are useless if they are voiced only for their own sake. One particular poster has been stymied over and over again and has invariably fled to some other pallid excuse to "voice concern" and then use those concerns to excoriate others for attempting discussion. In at least one instance she declined to discuss the employment of one solution that was a hallmark of liberal politics in the twentieth century. I know because I asked her - twice.
We can hardly avoid listening when those who wave their sanctimony over their heads at every opportunity loudly proclaim they will not be silenced.
xulamaude
(847 posts)Most women are.
Some of us have learned that it's better to let men tell their truths.
rrneck
(17,671 posts)Nor am I accustomed to resorting to passive aggressive deflection when I'm stumped for something to say but don't want to be the last one saying anything.
But maybe we're getting off on the wrong foot here. Let's return to the question in the OP. Is porn bad? I think it is, although not in the way you might think it is. Porn is art. I also think it's kitsch that panders to the narrowest sliver of human experience at the expense of complexity and ambiguity.
Do you think porn is bad? If so, why?
xulamaude
(847 posts)Bad? That's awfully broad.
rrneck
(17,671 posts)I gave you something to work with there. Would you care to return the favor?
xulamaude
(847 posts)anneboleyn
(5,611 posts)As a woman I want to say that I fully support your interpretation of the "great porn debates" -- I have been particularly dismayed by the comments made by a few DU members about bdsm on the "porn debates" threads. I (too) believed that this community would be especially open-minded about porn, sexuality, whatever flicks one's switch so to speak (within the safe and sane and safeworded guidelines of bdsm for example), but I have been dismayed by the moralizing and condemnation.
I appreciated your comments.
rrneck
(17,671 posts)It's been kind of a long "DU day" and it's nice to hear some support.
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)xulamaude
(847 posts)MTF transsexuals are women after all.
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)polly7
(20,582 posts)I can't think of one single woman among my friends and family who doesn't say exactly what she feels. As a matter of fact, I've worked with men, who when around a group of women, seem strangely silent. I'd thank you not to speak for all of us, especially when most of what you're saying is completely false.
xulamaude
(847 posts)I did speak for myself and the women whom I personally know.
I didn't mean to accidentally include and your family and friends.
polly7
(20,582 posts)I honestly don't see that as being accurate here in the west, however, in obviously repressive cultures where religion and fanatics deny women even the most basic human rights, you're probably correct.
xulamaude
(847 posts)because I tend to think of women as a global population.
Again, my apologies for accidentally speaking for you, your friends and family.
polly7
(20,582 posts)However, I believe the subject of porn is probably among the least of the worries of the millions of women starving, being widowed or killed in decades of war, forced into marriages where they're treated lower than cattle, and having not even basic human rights.
xulamaude
(847 posts)But, all of these things happen in the US too.
Why not include the trafficking of girls, women and boys for pornography in this country, the questionable working conditions in pornography in this country, the starving women and children in this country, girls who are forced into marriage in this country.
They have basic human rights?
polly7
(20,582 posts)What made you think I don't?
It's a crime, and should be investigated and the perpetrators of it prosecuted and locked away.
Your post said 'most women are afraid to speak out'. Millions of women - and men - are speaking out about this. I see it all over the web - petitions, on blogs, cases where countries are working together to catch these people, the UN .... what makes you think there's a single person here who isn't outraged by it?
If you see something you believe is illegal, I would hope you'd report it over and over until you get some results. My BIL is with the RCMP here and has been part of investigating smuggling rings of underage girls 'and boys' - it's aged him overnight. Of course, we're all very concerned about these illegal and horrible activities. Why are you trying to imply that people who see nothing wrong with consenting adults acting in - even enjoying, porn, don't care about victims caught up in it who have no ability to consent? Isn't that a bit self-serving?
And this has little to do with your post:
You are not used to being 'silenced', are you?
Most women are.
Some of us have learned that it's better to let men tell their truths.
Why on earth would you think it was better for a man to 'tell their truth' if you thought it misrepresented what you wanted to say?
xulamaude
(847 posts)Wow. You're really losing me with those two.
First, I'm not trying to imply anything - like your friends and family, I will say what I mean.
Second: what??
ETA - thanks for editing the post I just responded to
polly7
(20,582 posts)Most women are.
Some of us have learned that it's better to let men tell their truths."
xulamaude
(847 posts)geek tragedy
(68,868 posts)I guess people who find "choke fucking" to vaguely sound in violence are just crazy people.
rrneck
(17,671 posts)It's not irrational to dislike porn, but one needs to bring with them some measure of rationality or they're just spinning their emotional wheels. If someone has an emotional reaction to something there should follow some sort of rational assessment of their feelings and, dog forbid, a proposal for action in the real world.
These big honking threads are fueled by people wailing about porn, defense of porn, responses to complaints about porn, complaints about complaints about porn, umbrage about insensitivity to dislike for porn, punctuated with stampedes to the worst possible examples of every aspect of porn without offering anything like a rational solution for what we are supposed to do about such outrages.
Over and over every complaint has been patiently dealt with by member after member only for the aggrieved plaintiff to flee to another previously solved unsolvable problem.
Porn is just a foil.
geek tragedy
(68,868 posts)It's first amendment protected activity.
The battle isn't in the court room, it's hearts and minds stuff.
rrneck
(17,671 posts)Make art, not porn.
geek tragedy
(68,868 posts)Porn isn't sex. It's not even sexy.
Just like watching ESPN isn't a sport.
Tumbulu
(6,278 posts)The discussions are about normalizing violence against women and perhaps fetishizing it. And I care about the workers too. I find those of you who swarm to the defense of violent porn to be quite ridiculous in your characterizations of anyone who brings up any valid point as a prude.
Hmmm, very odd.
NYC_SKP
(68,644 posts)And swarming, really, it's not there.
I expressed an opinion as an individual, any impression you have of swarming has to be a construction on your part.
Cheers.
Tumbulu
(6,278 posts)violence a prude is my problem.
I am sorry to have falsely accused you of participating in a swarm.
I hardly think that violence is a normal way to express sex. The discussions going on have been about violent/rape porn.
These miserable discussions have left me really sad, as so many people on DU think that their rights to view someone being beat up in the name of some sexual enjoyment trumps all other rights.
That is what I simply cannot understand.
Bonobo
(29,257 posts)S&M involves what you would call "violence". Spanking, binding, wax-dripping, whipping, you name it.
Is accepting that people enjoy S&M (many people) also "normalizing" violence?
Is this changed somehow when someone watches the S&M acts being performed?
Tumbulu
(6,278 posts)But if someone is paying someone to get beat up, or tortured for commercial film sales, it is. I do not think that doing harm to people on purpose for pleasure is justified. not people, not animals, nobody. That is my opinion.
But I am hardly in charge of the world. I am barely in charge of my farm. I make sure that on my farm no one (especially the animals) are hurt on purpose.
I do not understand why anyone could support someone being employed to be beaten or hurt on purpose for pleasure.
it goes against every worker's rights issue that I can think of.
I am clearly not up on what people in clubs or groups share with each other. Itis not my world at all. My biggest pleasure is watching seeds sprout, tending to my sheep and creating yarns and fabrics. I love my customers, i love seeing what they create.
This world of enjoying someone being hurt or humiliated is not something i understand.
I am against anything painful being done commercially. And I do not care if people claim that it is OK, that it really did not hurt, etc. I do not want people employed to be hurt for anyone else's pleasure. It is not acceptable to me. I cannot see how it can be acceptable to OSHA either and wonder how this whole industry has been allowed to do this to the acting people.
duffyduff
(3,251 posts)It isn't about consenting adults because being forced to do porn thanks to slavery conditions or financial pressures isn't "consent."
Another thread to trash.
whttevrr
(2,345 posts)Well done!
Now I know who will not enter into this conversation with reasonableness or logic.
giftedgirl77
(4,713 posts)They exist & it's NOT occurring in some dudes basement,they are huge and rather amazing. Not all porn is this weird seedy back alley bullshit. God forforbid you ever go to a real liberal country like Australia where these expos are awesome.
Egalitarian Thug
(12,448 posts)I'm pretty sure that makes it one of the biggest conventions in the world. Then there's the annual Fetish Ball which is our Halloween-on-steroids-biggest-bash-of-the-year (except for New Year's Eve).
giftedgirl77
(4,713 posts)Well at least not against their will anyways. There is a huge disconnect here about voluntary & involuntary participation, not to mention the entire world of BDSM. If one has actual knowledge or experience in any of it & just think it's all icky & therefore shouldn't exist then that's a problem.
Egalitarian Thug
(12,448 posts)Our provincial, big-ole-stick-up-their-butts busy bodies use their religious perversion to keep these occupations out of the mainstream because it doesn't fit their prejudices, and by doing so, ensure that fucking scumbag pieces of shit get to run multibillion dollar industries with no oversight or interference. And I'll bet you can never guess who the most prolific customers are...
Gee, I wonder why there are so many horror stories surrounding what is absolutely normal human behavior...
giftedgirl77
(4,713 posts)Europe & the different ways they deal with sexuality. Just watching Real Sex on HBO can put a whole new angle on it for people who have never been overseas. For lack of a better analogy it is a lot like the war on drugs. Prostitution is the oldest trade around for a reason & it doesn't have shit to do with trafficking.
Egalitarian Thug
(12,448 posts)Our "icky parts" are God's punishment for being so icky. Good boys and girls don't like their "icky parts" and should never even look at them, let alone, touch them or allow anyone else to touch them, they're very special and very icky at the same time. Another of God's wonders that He gave us but doesn't want us to do anything with.
OK, I think I've OD'ed on DU again. Talk to you later.
giftedgirl77
(4,713 posts)The first time my youngest went he was walking (started at about 7 mths) but was a big boy about 40 lbs & tall. He thought it was a buffet. Our kids don't view nudity as anything but natural, such insanity.
Peace
LAGC
(5,330 posts)Visit xhamster or xvideos.com sometime.
They aren't "victimizing" anyone but themselves.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Its almost like they dont know that porn is no longer a vhs doing the rounds but people filming themselves or cam to cam interaction.
LAGC
(5,330 posts)It inevitably sources back to some far-right-wing fundie religious outfit, 100% of the time.
Its embarrassing seeing that sentiment echoed on DU.
nomorenomore08
(13,324 posts)on both "sides."
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Its like they have never actually surfed the net to see how porn has changed since they accidently saw some in the seventies.
nomorenomore08
(13,324 posts)And in a way I understand where they're coming from - there is some truly awful stuff out there, even if much of it is "consensual" at least in the strict sense. The only real solution I can think of, though - aside from prosecuting those who produce actual rape/torture videos - is that people be more discerning in their viewing habits.
Jesus Malverde
(10,274 posts)The perceived consensus often reflects that. Times are changing. Masturbation used to be a taboo topic and is now a popular meme.
Xithras
(16,191 posts)The actual number isn't quite 99%, but the vast majority of porn items on the Internet today are produced by amateurs and are shot by home video cameras and phones. While the bulk of the porn economy still tends to flow to the corporate porn studios, the majority of the actual items are created by Joe or Jane down the street.
A rather large segment of the human population has some exhibitionist tendencies (a fact that has been recorded since the dawn of human history), and it's generally social stigma that keeps them in check. The Internet has long provided a fairly anonymous platform for people to indulge in their exhibitionist tendencies. The odds of any particular nude selfie or home movie being connected to an individual are fairly small. I'm fairly certain that there are some nude photos of me floating around on the Internet, and I'm absolutely positive that there are some of my wife. I'm not particularly concerned about it, because the photos mean nothing without names attached, and with seven billion of us walking around this planet, the chances of anyone connecting those photos to me, as an individual, are about the same as the odds of me getting hit by lightning.
The anti-porners just ignore the facts. Their arguments may have been valid 30 years ago, but nowadays you could ban ALL commercial porn production and it would barely make a dent in the overall amount of porn being published to the Internet every single day. In fact, to make a statement that might shock a few of the people I've been arguing with...I actually don't have any argument against legally limiting the commercial production of porn. So long as consenting individuals maintain the ability to create, share, and even sell their own private works, I couldn't really give a damn about the big commercial ventures.
R B Garr
(16,954 posts)Any of those sites you mention still have plenty of pay sites advertised just like you see anywhere else on the internet, so I doubt 99% of porn is homemade. Obviously lots of folks are clicking on those ads and offering up their credit cards, which most of those sites eventually get around to doing -- making you pay if you want to continue. Porn is about money. Sure there are plenty of exhibitionists out there, but porn brings in the bucks. Most of the comments that I've seen referencing "victims" are about trafficking, but if you want to ridule victims, then I guess that's your right.
HappyMe
(20,277 posts)We're all supposed to be ashamed and never watch it again or something. Women in particular, are expected to lock-step with the anti-porn flamey/shamey OPs.
whttevrr
(2,345 posts)It appears that the amateur porn prevalence would indicate that a lot of women actually enjoy the act of creating their own porn.
HappyMe
(20,277 posts)Not anything I personally would do, but those who want to - have at it.
name not needed
(11,660 posts)HappyMe
(20,277 posts)tammywammy
(26,582 posts)Women who dare disagree with some on DU about porn are "pathetic" and just looking for pats on the head from "da men".
LadyHawkAZ
(6,199 posts)Did you get a pat? Are the men fresh out of pats here? Who is in charge of the Head Pat dispensary? I want to file a complaint.
stevenleser
(32,886 posts)My hour comes up March 24th at 2pm. If you haven't gotten your head pat by then, pm me.
polly7
(20,582 posts)Wait ..... scratch that .... I got a whole boyfriend out of the deal! The OP gave him to me!
Play your cards right and you can get one too!
Whoops, not this OP. The other porn OP.
whttevrr
(2,345 posts)ZOMG!? Who is polly?
And she should probably share some of those free crackers.
polly7
(20,582 posts)LadyHawkAZ
(6,199 posts)I miss all the good stuff.
I don't really need another full-time BF- are they handing out FWB too? I gotta get in on that thread!
polly7
(20,582 posts)I mean the OP of the other porn thread. I'm not sure about FWB - I guess, if they're male. Basically, all you have to do is disagree with something .... post in the same sub-thread - or thread, even as a porn-loving pig-man ......... and you too should get a BF or FWB. I'm not sure how you've missed out so far.
opiate69
(10,129 posts)(being the alleged "boyfriend of polly and all.. Had to way in lol)
Or, as Billy Gibbons so sagely said, "how can one be so selfish to try and handle less than two?"
LadyHawkAZ
(6,199 posts)grahamhgreen
(15,741 posts)RiffRandell
(5,909 posts)LadyHawkAZ
(6,199 posts)WTF??
RiffRandell
(5,909 posts)4-2 leave. So called "feminist" calling another woman a dog. Nice, huh?
LadyHawkAZ
(6,199 posts)but not a surprise either.
RiffRandell
(5,909 posts)LadyHawkAZ
(6,199 posts)Here's the song that always plays in my head during these threads. Apply it liberally to all your hater fanbois and fangrrls.
Enjoy.
Sissyk
(12,665 posts)That was a pretty low blow and I don't know why it wasn't hidden either.
This same poster also degrades other women that post in the Lounge while in HOF, then goes to the Lounge and post and recs.
She's not a feminist in my book.
polly7
(20,582 posts)RiffRandell
(5,909 posts)Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)Always a true badge of courage, that move.
RainDog
(28,784 posts)so, that's not sexist?
some people cannot seem to accept that others have a different pov, based upon valid reasons for the same - but that was simply a personal attack on you.
RainDog
(28,784 posts)this may or may not be true, but I'll mention it just so you know the insult might not have been intended for you at all.
That person may think you're my sock, etc. and she was trying to be "clever" by talking about a dog, since my user name here, a Tom Waits' cd/song, has "dog" in it.
or maybe not. don't really care what that person does, thinks, etc. but thought I should mention that on the off case, and maybe you can just assume the person was posting that as part of some paranoid delusion. Or, more to the point, this person's friends have created socks just for the purpose of continuing to post in a thread, or to attack someone else when they were locked out of a thread, etc. etc.
I have no socks here. I can't understand why anyone would bother to do the same, but some do.
the admins here, of course, can check our IP addresses, etc. to know we're not the same person - I don't even know if I've interacted with you before - but we've both interacted with Warren D, so maybe that's where the delusions would come into play, if this is the reason for attacking another women whose sense of humor is offensive to that person.
thankfully, most of the women here are not this toxic toward other women in their interactions on this site.
RiffRandell
(5,909 posts)I don't care what the person thinks either; I just find it pretty disgusting and hypocritical that such a blatant, insulting personal attack wasn't hidden. I try not to harp on such things as there are for more important issues in life, so it's in the past and I've moved on although I will admit it's something I won't forget.
I usually try and give people the benefit of the doubt, but finally put my jury blacklist into use as I believe the jurors who voted to leave don't like my views on certain subjects so won't ever be objective.
There are many good women and men on this board that make my time spent here educational and enjoyable...far more so then a few sour bad apples.
Thank you.
RainDog
(28,784 posts)yes, it's pretty astonishing that someone who claims she cares so much about the treatment of women would resort to such insults SIMPLY because you find something funny she doesn't.
at least that was the excuse for a nasty personal attack on you - and those you may agree with on some things but not others, etc.
but it fits with a censoring point of view, and the sorts of dishonest tactics used in regard to the same, repeatedly, and most often by the same people.
I've tried to give that person the benefit of the doubt, too, b/c we both got caught up on opposite sides of a clique fight here - I wasn't part of either clique, then was, for a while, on facebook, until I realized I simply don't like cliques at all, as is my way of being irl for a long time. Again, maybe that wasn't what was going on, and I'm assuming something not in evidence toward me. I'm not worrying about it too much, either way, but since it was a personal attack on you, I wanted you to know it might not be personal at all.
And, yes, there are lots of good men and women on this board - and apart from certain issues, some here agree about most things and can be civil and kind to one another.
It's best to just ignore those who try to make this site a version of junior high school with their cliques and attacks, etc. and take each person as a person, where she or he is in her or his life.
RainDog
(28,784 posts)...the things you learn when people link to posts in places/from people you may not read.
the hof group has created its own reality and now claims that any woman who disagrees with their (majority, I'll say, don't know if its a condition of being part of the group) position on 1st amend/porn issues doesn't have an opinion of her own derived from her own study of this matter.
Instead, any woman who disagrees is seeking "pats on the head" from men.
That is, without a doubt, a truly sexist pov that is easily disproven here and in the larger world, as well. More to the point, it's so intellectually dishonest someone could not get away with saying it outside of their hidey hole of hate.
But THAT bullshit belief is also the origin of this "pat on the head" insult that you read here.
So, it's an extension of the toxic mindset of too many who associate with that group. And, more to the point, it's the sort of thinking that informs the "us vs. them" of fundamentalism in religion. they're the "one true feminists" - even tho there are many, many feminists in academia and publishing who vigorously disagree - but, apparently, they're just looking for "pats on the head" as well.
No matter that, intellectually, these women who object to censorship as a way to deal with porn could kick the asses of most every person who is making this claim.
iow, it's just small-mindedness - in more ways than one.
TreasonousBastard
(43,049 posts)the prevalence of amateur porn is due entirely to the patriarchy not allowing young women to have real jobs, like lawyering and stuff, so they have to prostitute themselves on the interwebs to avoid starvation.
None of them have any exhibitionist tendencies at all-- the very thought of any woman having exhibitionist tendencies is unthinkable.
whttevrr
(2,345 posts)Then why all the fancy feathers and paint?
TreasonousBastard
(43,049 posts)don't dare look for more than a glance or mention any thoughts about the new nail color.
whttevrr
(2,345 posts)Thanks for the heads up.
nomorenomore08
(13,324 posts)as so difficult to believe. Sexuality is universal, and so, perhaps, is the interest in sexually explicit material - though men's and women's tastes in that area probably differ somewhat, like (stereotypically) Penthouse vs. "erotic" romance novels.
snooper2
(30,151 posts)all it takes is a little jesus!
Come to Jesus indeed.
giftedgirl77
(4,713 posts)God forbid they find out the woman not only attend but the women in the movies are there as well. To top it off they aren't shackled and dragged there against their will.
HappyMe
(20,277 posts)I know a woman that was a stripper and was in a few movies. She and her husband were our witnesses at our wedding. She said she made a pile of money and was never once hurt, forced or disrespected in any way. Neither were any of the other women there.
giftedgirl77
(4,713 posts)porn stars making special appearances. I have met quite a few of them as I tended bar for a few years. We could really blow their mind by bringing up the dominatrix shops & there's no sex or touching involved there.
LittleBlue
(10,362 posts)What is and is not acceptable sexual behavior between consenting adults. You could copy and paste some of these comments onto a fundamentalist Christian board and receive praise from them.
NutmegYankee
(16,199 posts)I've been doing this: all of the last few weeks. What is liberalism without sexual liberation?
LittleBlue
(10,362 posts)I never lived through the 60s, but assumed that sexual liberation was the bedrock of modern liberalism. Guess not!
whttevrr
(2,345 posts)Up-thread someone berated me for being clueless about what porn is and then says that porn is not about consenting adults...
MNBrewer
(8,462 posts)They have taken that definition as an ideology which may not be questioned.
KittyWampus
(55,894 posts)You could copy and paste some of the stupidity from Rand Paul's fan club.
LittleBlue
(10,362 posts)It's a thinly-veiled cover for their sexual issues. Otherwise those same people would also be talking about the 99.9% of exploited workers who don't work in the sex industry.
The common theme throughout all these threads is sex, not workers. The most recent one doesn't even mention workers.
xulamaude
(847 posts)Whose "sexual issues"? And what type of "sexual issues"?
Workers' rights have been repeatedly brought up over these past many days.
tammywammy
(26,582 posts)NutmegYankee
(16,199 posts)Our porn industry operates above board in almost every case. Generally, allowing an industry to operate freely without repression will keep it legal and fair to it's workers. An example is legalized prostitution in Nevada or the Netherlands. Imagine if we just taxed Marijuana and allowed it to be openly sold? The Gov't ensures that safety regs are followed, but no one is forced to work in the industry.
Driving industries with wide consumption into a black market leads to exploitation because the industry goes underground without oversight. And no movement is going to eliminate the consumption of porn. That would be a Prohibition 2 FAIL.
KittyWampus
(55,894 posts)want to be perceived as libertines.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)The argument just keeps going circular, better question should be is consenting porn no ones business. Not aimed at you but it would cut through the fog.
cali
(114,904 posts)and the "it's no one's business" stuff is nonsense. I'm not advocating making it illegal, but yeah, I have an opinion.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)There you go we.both have an opinion and the right to express it.
KittyWampus
(55,894 posts)and highly ironic that DU'ers don't grasp what it's a larger part of.
Using people- which often involves consent that is artificially manufactured through economic pressure.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)You do realise that interactive porn is growing and isbthe in thing.
KittyWampus
(55,894 posts)loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Amateur porn and cam to cam porn is growing massively, then there is the fact that even in pro porn there is consent. Not that there is anything that you could be shown that would change your viewpoint that porn is bad and exploitative. So no point, have a great day.
geek tragedy
(68,868 posts)EX500rider
(10,848 posts)"Who are the richest porn stars in the world? The adult film business is a $15 billion per year industry that has made many people and corporations extremely wealthy. But frequently the actors and actresses do not reap much of the financial success of their work. That is probably why this was the most highly requested "richest list" we've ever had on Celebrity Net Worth. The results were pretty impressive. We knew there was a lot of money to be made in the adult world if you played your cards right, but we had no idea just how much. This list was unique in that for once, the majority of these people are women instead of men. In fact only five out of the twenty people on this list are male. That just goes to show how female dominated the adult industry is today. The actors on this list have a combined net worth of over $115 million! Even people who are not fans of the adult industry will recognize several stars on this list but there are some names and net worths that will surprise just about everyone. So sit back and get ready to find out who are the richest porn stars in the world by clicking the image below:"
http://www.celebritynetworth.com/articles/entertainment-articles/20-richest-porn-stars/
cali
(114,904 posts)I don't see anyone here saying porn should be illegal, but I'm entitled to my opinion just as much as you are and YOU are the one doing the shaming and trying to shut people up.
fuck that.
I asked a couple questions...
I have no idea what the fuck you are going on about...
cali
(114,904 posts)whttevrr
(2,345 posts)What the fuck are you going on about?
cali
(114,904 posts)c'mon. read what you wrote.
rrneck
(17,671 posts)the opinions of others are pretty clearly depicted as well.
MNBrewer
(8,462 posts)it ridiculous! You're NOT entitled to have an opinion. You entitle yourself to have that opinion. Butt out!
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)giftedgirl77
(4,713 posts)TransitJohn
(6,932 posts)Sheesh.
DanTex
(20,709 posts)People can feel that porn is bad without hating freedom or advocating for bans.
Baitball Blogger
(46,715 posts)Child pornography, for example, is a topic which should never be condoned under any circumstance. Yet, I was just on a jury where someone tried to bring that into the discussion.
whttevrr
(2,345 posts)pintobean
(18,101 posts)I'm glad that was hidden quickly.
MADem
(135,425 posts)post shit-fling fight, at least?
I am so sick of this topic--Allah be praised for HIDE THREAD!!!!
taterguy
(29,582 posts)Covered in olive oil
whttevrr
(2,345 posts)whttevrr
(2,345 posts)You are of the other.
I like to judge when it seems permissible. Well, actually there's a lot of judging going on. But it is in judging the sick that we get to revel in judgmental speech... ooh, now that shit rocks. Hah ha ha... you're weirdness makes me feel better about myself.
MADem
(135,425 posts)Response to MADem (Reply #79)
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cherokeeprogressive
(24,853 posts)eggplant
(3,911 posts)taterguy
(29,582 posts)Don't ask me how I know.
eggplant
(3,911 posts)They say that good judgment comes from experience. Experience comes from bad judgment.
cemaphonic
(4,138 posts)rule 34 returns nothing on that.
TreasonousBastard
(43,049 posts)interviewing a director who said that whenever he casts someone a bit weighty he gets accused of hiring him or her just to get ridiculed onscreen. Nobody ever credits him for finding a fat actor or actress who is simply good for the part.
MADem
(135,425 posts).....
Middle English grosse, from Anglo-French & Late Latin; Anglo-French gros large, thick, whole, from Late Latin grossus coarse
http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/gross
We're overdue for a food fight (pardon the expression) on the topic of obesity--is it a virus? Is it caused by adulterates or additives in the food? Is it insulin resistance? High fructose crapola? Lazy people? No one walks anymore, anywhere?
You get the "self control/exercise" team vs. the "Environmental causes" advocates, throw in a few folks from the "Portion Control" crew, and the shit gets flung and the fur flies!
I said three hundred posts? I'll bet on a good day, that topic could pass four hundred!
lillypaddle
(9,580 posts)and therefore I am fat. (burp)
MADem
(135,425 posts)I hate this time of year, it's full of PIE, and rich, fattening side dishes!
I have no will power when confronted with these things--I must sample them! I must!!!
lillypaddle
(9,580 posts)but it's so delicious! Gee, there isn't a fat smilie, we'll have to talk to Skinner about that!
TreasonousBastard
(43,049 posts)But guaranteed someone will take offense...
I am, btw, a good 60 pounds overweight myself.
(Working on it...)
lillypaddle
(9,580 posts)Love them! Thanks.
MADem
(135,425 posts)lillypaddle
(9,580 posts)It is your duty! You must take more than one sample, though. In order for it to be a real sample ... errr, something like that.
whttevrr
(2,345 posts)MADem
(135,425 posts)Tis the season for grape nut puddin' and Indian puddin' and bread puddin' and custards of all sorts....
Mmmmmmmmm. Puddin'!!!!!!
whttevrr
(2,345 posts)Unless someone puts it inside of some kind of cake...
Mmmm....
MADem
(135,425 posts)But a warm puddin' with ice cream....mmmm mmm, that's good eatin'!
And pie a la mode....I'm there!
Sissyk
(12,665 posts)Can we do that next? I wanna see what all the fuss was about.
MADem
(135,425 posts)It's like a revolving door up in here....
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)nothing can approach the epic-ness that was NASA's devious plot to attack our lunar sister, disrupt menstrual cycles, and silence the telekinetic advance friendship alien guard at the innocent star folks lunar colony.
Sissyk
(12,665 posts)I think it was the second one that was linked to. That.was.a.winner!!
ismnotwasm
(41,984 posts)1) Uk is contemplating banning rape porn
2) "a tiny group of feminists" of which I'm one, think rape porn is a bad thing. Apparently the rest of the world thinks it's just dandy. Personally, I don't think banning does a motherfucking thing.
3) this led to a plethora of porn threads and back and forth opinions and snark, with the requisite hides, ignores and what all
4) There was a day of calm
5) a vocal group of-- call them "pro porn" folk, decided to restart the cycle.
6) now there will no doubt be a number of porn threads again. Hell, I started one myself just for the fun of it.
7) Now your thread, asked in all innocence, is adding to the fun.
Another day, another topic on Democraticunderground
whttevrr
(2,345 posts)Response to whttevrr (Reply #61)
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whttevrr
(2,345 posts)Rape is wrong. I do not deserve accolades for acknowledging that no means no.
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cthulu2016
(10,960 posts)As predicted by many.
Liberalism is about thinking honestly and not being a total asshole and psycho.
Liars, fantasists, total assholes and psychos will, by their nature, tend to come to dominance in discourse... particularly in an environment like DU, ruled largely by fear and guilt and rewarding of intensity of group-think.
ismnotwasm
(41,984 posts)Who's zooming who?
EOTE
(13,409 posts)"small group of feminists" who suggest that those who have a problem with the UK ban think that rape porn is "dandy". There are many here who are quite tired of playing all these ridiculous games with the nanny crowd who will spend dozens or hundreds of posts defending the UK law and then ridiculously try to claim that they aren't in support of a ban. Oh, and it would be "Who's zooming whom?" Just for your information.
Lint Head
(15,064 posts)The acting, the stereotypes, the costumes, when there are any, and the scripts are ridiculous. Sex is a given. Why not have a scenario leading up to the sex that actually makes the sex worth watching. Or a reason other than, "Hey I'm horny. Let's do it!". Why have a script at all if that's all one wants. Just go at it from the first frame.
Porn is boring to me.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)TreasonousBastard
(43,049 posts)amateur porn didn't cheapen it and the studios hired Hollywood writers and directors, under phony names, during their down time to make some good stuff.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)I cant watch furry porn with out singing hatee hatee ho, as its not my thing.
TreasonousBastard
(43,049 posts)it would be great for some of the more boring meetings.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)You can even live cam with the fox, rabbit, bear, even a unicorn or my little pony. As i said its not my kink so i find it funny, same as they would laugh at mine.
TreasonousBastard
(43,049 posts)and I just know some of us are gonna pee ourselves laughing.
TreasonousBastard
(43,049 posts)"furry porn" to see what would happen.
And things happened. Most of them anime, but some of them hilarious costumed people. And, ummm, Bing returns all definitions of "furry.
Later for other searches, if I have time.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Then you have the joy of interacting with all sorts of animals.
ismnotwasm
(41,984 posts)With Ron Jeremy? It's a hilarious parody of horror movies and porn, with Jeremy in one scene mourning the 'good old days' of porn
TreasonousBastard
(43,049 posts)"Georgie Girl" from those days.
ismnotwasm
(41,984 posts)Cult horror. Describing the plot would ruin it. Jeremy is overweight and out of shape, but still in the Biz.
TreasonousBastard
(43,049 posts)flicks in the past of variable quality, but usually at least good for a laugh.
Lint Head
(15,064 posts)In_The_Wind
(72,300 posts)Some are so quick to judge that they totally miss the point while they are busy jumping up and down sputtering over what they thought they saw.
whttevrr
(2,345 posts)Wait a few minutes, please... I have to replace a battery, put on a screen protector, put the tablet in it's case and make sure it doesn't block the infrared square that controls my new smart TV!
Woot! My TV remote is now more complicated than a 1960's NASA control center... Fuck! Technonology Rocks!
It's like Techno Porn!
MADem
(135,425 posts)ScreamingMeemie
(68,918 posts)...I have a headache.
Niceguy1
(2,467 posts)one of the reasons men watch porn...
Scootaloo
(25,699 posts)The discussion is about the use of rape as a form of titilation and entertainment. Some people, including many posters in this thread, don't want to talk about that, so instead they start waving torches and pitchforks about how fucking stupid feminists are and how everyone who has a problem with rapertainment just hates sex.
But I'm pretty sure you knew this already
rrneck
(17,671 posts)What would you like to know?
whttevrr
(2,345 posts)I don't see it.
What I see is people using rape porn to paint all porn with a very broad brush of shamefulness.
<YMMV
Scootaloo
(25,699 posts)I said they are making an effort to avoid talking about hte subject, instead trying to obfuscate and distract.
Most often by pretending people talking about rape porn are talking about all porn. or BDSM. or accusing them of being homophobes for not explicitly addressing gay / lesbian porn. Or any number of other methods used to distract the discussion towards anything but rape porn.
I don't know if I'd call that "advocacy," but it's certainly something.
historylovr
(1,557 posts)LadyHawkAZ
(6,199 posts)the people discussing BDSM had some valid points, which went completely unaddressed in favor of "So you like watching women raped and tortured!!!" attacks, which was a distraction and "People who do that are sick and need help!" attacks, which was shaming and silencing. The reason no one was discussing "rape porn" in the context of actual rape footage is because there was no argument with the law on that basis- everyone agreed that it should warrant jail time, and no one defended it.
The objections to the law came in two forms- fictionalized "rape" scenes done by actors, and BDSM scenes done by consenting participants which might appear non-consensual in the context of the law. The broad wording of the law in question (and the assertion in the posted article that the government was going after "simulation" made it a legitimate focus, which got quickly derailed by the "So you like watching women raped and tortured, you rape defender you!!!" crowd, and the discussion devolved from there.
A couple people did make a blanket condemnation of all porn, which has now devolved into whole new OPs making blanket condemnations of all porn.
The threads were a train wreck of people talking completely past each other, half of whom weren't making any contextual sense, and many just not bothering to listen.
Long story short- it wasn't, and isn't, just about rape porn.
gollygee
(22,336 posts)It is not about "shamefulness" although I know that's how some are trying to paint it that way. Nor is it anti-sex, or sex negative, or whatever else people are saying to distract from the issue.
It is about a few things:
1. Rape shown as erotic, which is then watched by kids in places like Steubenville who think it's cool and awesome to rape and then videotape it and show it around. I personally would like to see videos that are of rape or even claim on the packaging to be rape banned.
2. Women (and men for that matter) who work in porn being in conditions where they are seriously hurt simply as a part of doing their job - not even in an accident on the job, but as a part of the job. I don't think people, men or women, should be in jobs where they have to be hurt in order to do their job. However, I don't think that's a necessary component of porn.
So I don't think porn should be banned. I just would like to see those two things changed.
3. Not an issue of banning but I do have something I've heard but don't know first hand. Is it true that the majority of porn is considered erotic in ways that are violent to women or in ways where most women would feel humiliated - where violence and humiliation are the main things that are "sexy" about them, and the more they do those two things they sexier they are considered? I guess that gives me pause and makes me wonder why that would be what made porn "better porn" if that's the case, but I'm not an expert on porn and I can't say more than that since I only know what I've read about it. Again, I'm not talking about BDSM or anything like that, and if it were a sub-genre of porn that were like that I wouldn't probably think much of it either, but if what I've read is true, that is what porn in general is like, and I wonder why. I would think that sexiness would be related to pleasure and orgasm, not violence and humiliation, except maybe in a sub-genre that was for people into violence and humiliation. However, again, this does not make me think it should be banned, and I'm not sure even how correct I am about this kind of thing, so I don't generally comment on that.
I worry about how the media in general - not porn specifically but TV and movies and music in general - create a culture where women are treated most often as sexual objects rather than sexual participants, but that's more of a general societal critique than an issue with porn. Porn can be one place to point that out, but it's not just porn. And I know women like sometimes to be treated as sexual objects in play, and that's fine and not what I'm talking about. I'm talking about an overwhelming culture where that's all or almost all there is all or almost all the time. That culture isn't just natural but is created through media. We take in a lot from media and it changes us. I would rather see women treated as sexual participants more often and sexual objects less often, but again that isn't just porn and isn't an issue of banning.
nomorenomore08
(13,324 posts)smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)Those are my sentiments exactly. I was just about to write something very similar, but you said it all. I don't think porn should be banned, I just have a problem with extremely violent porn where women are being raped against their will, beaten, abused, tortured and even killed. Too many impressionable young boys have access to that and I fear that it creates a culture of violence toward girls and women.
It's not about the sex, it's about the violence and objectification. I am all for porn in which women are participants and are enjoying it as well. I am not personally into BDSM, but I have a feeling that it looks very different from violent rape porn. If people are into mutual BDSM, it's fine w/ me, I just hate seeing abuse and torture. I think it's unhealthy for women.
muriel_volestrangler
(101,318 posts)That is - 'rape porn' which uses depictions of rape to sexually excite people, as long as it can later be shown that it wasn't an actual rape that was filmed.
http://www.democraticunderground.com/10024050423
rrneck
(17,671 posts)people can send naked pictures of each other from anywhere in the world, when every facet of the human experience can be documented, packaged, and sold on the most efficient means of communication in the history of the human race, some people will stand athwart technology yelling, "Stop!"
They're in good company.
klook
(12,155 posts)Another flaming bag of dog poop on DU's doorstep. No thanks.
Capt. Obvious
(9,002 posts)geek tragedy
(68,868 posts)Odd.
Upton
(9,709 posts)her testimony condemning porn before Reagan's Meese Commission is something all you crusaders should be really proud of...
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)porn is pretty fuckin' popular. Even in the households that are "opposed" to it.
Capt. Obvious
(9,002 posts)I said nothing about Santorum.
rhett o rick
(55,981 posts)deem unworthy.
whttevrr
(2,345 posts)They were real questions.
One, if it's whatever kind of porn that is legal:
Why should we feel shame for being ok that anyone looks at porn?
Some of the responses I've seen immediately talk about rape porn as if it is all porn and then tries to lambaste me for being clueless for not knowing that. It isn't known because it equates a minority with a majority. Rape porn is not the norm. It is a fringe minority.
Fuck that shit. There is indeed consenting adults who produce porn. The vast majority of porn in fact has been quite vanilla and mainstream. My point is, this is about there actually being the possibility for consent versus the perverted fucked up shit that people throw in our faces as a reason to disdain all porn. Why should someone be shamed for believing that not all porn is illegal hate porn?
And second, my question was not rhetorical, but it was thorny. What of LGBT porn? If all porn is to be portrayed as misogynistic?
Where is the Misogyny or Misandry in porn that is legal and performed between consenting adults?
I am not asking about illegal porn... fuck... and fuck you for insinuating that I am talking about illegal shit here. That's your perversion, not mine nor the majority.
Where is the hate coming from...?
Not everything is fucked up perverted shit...
PS: To those judging all porn as an evil against all women everywhere: Enjoy your judgment, in the end it won't matter to anyone but yourself.
C'est La Vie
LanternWaste
(37,748 posts)I imagine social issues cross various strata's of perceived rights; i.e., where a concept may fit completely within Right #1, yet simultaneously be believed to run counter to Right #2.
And I don't think that is shaming anyone... however, I do understand the convenience of thinking that to be the case.
Bennyboy
(10,440 posts)There used to be discourse but not now. No honest discussions, it is all based in ideology.....
I am seriously thinking about going away, this place has become less and less fun for me.
WinkyDink
(51,311 posts)cbdo2007
(9,213 posts)Nobody likes to have a discussion anymore, they just like to have an opinion and if you don't like it, that's your fault. We'll never get better as a party if we turn a blind eye to people who have different liberal/democratic views than we do.
pintobean
(18,101 posts)DU is no place to discuss kiddy porn.
http://www.democraticunderground.com/10024120165
Just....
NCTraveler
(30,481 posts)Using a blanket statement about consenting adults is a joke. Everyone knows it is often the monetary incentive that lures women into porn. Things that people get paid for cannot always be considered consensual when is comes to the specifics of the task being paid for. It can often be used as a form of coercion. Not sure why so many men have a problem figuring this one out.
Second, your question about transgender porn isn't the gotya you think it is.
Third, it doesn't have much to do with political party. There are many men on freerepublic getting turned on by the same porn you are watching right now. Opps, sorry. I'm sure you watch the good stuff. I would actually hope that supporting the abuse of women was more their cup of tea. Guess not.
davidn3600
(6,342 posts)...does that mean they are not consenting to doing that work?
And sure there are men on FreeRepublic that get off on the same porn as many here. There are also men on FreeRepublic that would love to BAN porn, just like many feminists here.
NCTraveler
(30,481 posts)"Most people only go to their jobs because of a monetary incentive does that mean they are not consenting to doing that work?"
Since most/then all
flawed argument 101
davidn3600
(6,342 posts)The only reason most people do ANY job is because they are getting paid. Yeah, some people truly enjoy their work...but they still cash that paycheck, don't they?
Let's do a poll...how many people would still do their jobs, and do that job well, if they were told they would no longer receive a paycheck? I imagine a great majority will say, "good-bye."
WinkyDink
(51,311 posts)whttevrr
(2,345 posts)Wait... what? Consent is not a joke.
... Consent isn't consent if there is money?
And yeah, it wasn't a gotya question it is what it is. If two Transgenders make porn, which is it... misogyny or misandry? No gotya, just a question.
And although you are wrong about my current use of porn. I'm not watching it now. It is a nice attempt at the shaming I was alluding to. How funny that you equate my non condemnation of porn as freeperdom behavior.
My, my, aren't you quite the liberal progressive?
I think your pitchfork is needed elsewhere. Someone might be in need of being saved from going blind from masturbating somewhere. Maybe you should find them and stop them... unless you are actually an advocate of blindness?
I love this part of your reply:
Me saying you advocate blindness is just as logical as you implying I am watching freeper porn right now. With that your argument about consent being invalidated by the exchange of money as almost quaint, in a strange neolithic stone bashing way.
NCTraveler
(30,481 posts)Said something I never said. I have found that it is not worth the time to debate people when they cannot even be honest with themselves. Have a nice day.
How typical... it's cool, I'm just about done here for now anyway. you obviously have nothing to argue.
These are your words:
That's chewy fucking fucking awesomeness all on it's own!
You're right, there is absolutely no way to argue with "Things that people get paid for cannot always be considered consensual when is comes to the specifics of the task being paid for." except with:
That is one of the more idiotic statements I have seen lately. Thanks for sharing. I very much hope we can agree to disagree.
LanternWaste
(37,748 posts)"That is one of the more idiotic statements I have seen lately. ..."
I myself would have gone with the OP in its entirety if we're voting for idiotic statements and vapid sentiments, but as I'm not biased, your answer will most certainly differ from mine. With the sub-literate bumper-sticker "agree to disagree..." coming in a rather close second.
U4ikLefty
(4,012 posts)Tien1985
(920 posts)Please stop using "transgenders" as a word--that's actually pretty offensive. I don't want to start a whole argument here, but what you are saying there, and how you are saying it really isn't okay if you support the trans* community.
If you are talking about a transwoman, meaning someone who who was assigned male at birth and identifies as female, then they would be considered a female. Many are oppressed in their careers, kicked out of their families and many have turned to prostitution to survive. How transwomen are portrayed in porn is actually a pretty substantial problem for that community, and not just an off-hand joke.
There are also transmen, people who were assigned female at birth and identify as male. They also face a lot of prejudice and oppression, although they are not as often represented in porn.
Further, there are trans* people who are non-binary and they are not represented pretty much anywhere, and are sometimes even oppressed by others in the trans* community.
Similar to any cisgendered person of either sex, a trans* person can be the target of misogyny and/misandry. In the same way that a cisgendered man is harmed by misogyny because it implies that men always have to suppress emotions (for just one example).
Please stop and reconsider how you speak about trans* people.
whttevrr
(2,345 posts)My apologies. I just do not personally know anyone who is so identified.
Also, I was not referencing post gender reassignment. I was referencing someone in the transitive state between normative gender roles. Someone who reassigns to one specific gender would be referenced, by most(?), as whatever the end assignment would be. However, within the scope of porn it would probably be imperceptible as to what was the starting gender. As porn is a visual medium, the reference is usually about the transitional state of being.
I did not mean (tran) as a slur. I meant it as a existential descriptor.
Tien1985
(920 posts)I was giving you the benefit of the doubt that you may not be familiar with the subject--many people aren't. Thanks for reconsidering.
I understand your confusion, but transition does not work the way you might imagine. Within the scope of looking at a post operative trans* person naked, in many cases (not all) you would realize/guess that the person was trans*. Many people are unaware of the fact the transition can include MANY different surgeries. There is not one surgery that transitions a person's entire body from m to f or f to m, that is purely a TV creatation.
And that is not even counting the fact that many trans* people do not physically transition, or choose to physically transition partially. The reasons for that are many, from cost, to health conditions that preclude surgery, to lack of desire to undergo dangerous (possibly not successful surgery), to being happy with their body how it is. Trans* people who are physically in a state that would not typically be assigned male or female should still be considered the gender they identify as.
Ie a transwoman who takes hormones and has not gotten vaginoplasty is called a woman. A transwoman who does not take hormones and hasn't had surgery is still a woman. A transwoman who has had vaginoplasty, a traech scrape, breast implants, hip augmentation and takes hormones is also called a woman.
If you a referencing transvestitism, which is when someone likes to cross dress, if such a person were to cross dress while having sex, that person would still be the gender they were assigned at birth. So a man who likes to dress as a woman who has sex dressed like a woman, is still a man. Unfortunately, this can lead to a lot of confusion between transwomen, and men who like to cross dress. The reality is, you would be hard pressed to know unless you asked the person or it was otherwise stated. I, myself, would err on the side of courtesy (if I couldn't ask), and assume a person who presents as one gender is that genderre regardless of plumbing.
LittleBlue
(10,362 posts)Consent is consent, not your judgments about pay.
99% of us don't go to work because we like it. We do it because otherwise we'll be homeless. Monetary coercion is the entire basis of our lives.
Payment does not cloud the issue of consent. If someone does porn because she's desperate for money, that's still consent. I'm sorry that you don't agree with that choice, but calling it non-consensual trivializes the concept of consent to meaninglessness.
Vashta Nerada
(3,922 posts)In the legal world, the concept is called "consideration," and, among competent adults, it establishes both a contract and consent. "I agree to do X for money." That's a contract, and it's consent, on both ends.
-Laelth
Codeine
(25,586 posts)at least on the level of the performers -- amateur porn represents a huge percentage of what's out there now. People enjoy making porn so much that it is becoming increasingly economically nonviable to pay people to do what so many others are willing - nay, eager! - to do for free.
WinkyDink
(51,311 posts)whttevrr
(2,345 posts)I equate Democrats with tolerance and understanding, not shame and condemnation.
ZombieHorde
(29,047 posts)Nothing is bad. Genocide, nuclear war, country music, etc. are not bad, our perception of them is bad.
Good. Nothing wrong with dispelling illusions, in my opinion.
If you paid attention to the arguments, then you would understand why. Not everyone agrees that all the actors are consenting adults.
B Calm
(28,762 posts)despite how much medicine one takes to get that whiny head out of their ass.
davidn3600
(6,342 posts)The Andrea Dworkin types are far outside the mainstream today. Her type of activism is a big reason feminism has such a bad name, and it has ultimately divided the movement and slowed progress for women's rights. Why some feminists want to bring that counter-productive activism back its beyond my understanding.
Why are such types of feminists doomed to fail? Because most women enjoy sex just as much as men do. Surprise! 99% of women that engage in BDSM and other types of alternate lifestyles are doing it on their own free will and enjoy it just as much as the men that engage in it.
So my advice... GET OVER IT! If you want to talk about the small amount of illegal porn where women are being abused and raped and forced...then lets talk about constructive ways to end that without trampling and restricting the rights of everyone else who is willingly consenting.
But if you want to talk about internet censorship and how to ban all pornography because you think it is destructive to society, then go to FreeRepublic. You will fit right in with the Rick Santorum types. You wont find a whole lot of sympathy in a liberal form for that kind of crap.
JimboBillyBubbaBob
(1,389 posts)As always, some is great and some is disgusting. The visual cortex of the beholder.
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)People like to have sex in front of cameras and other people like to watch it, on their computers, or tvs.
If everyone is a consenting adult, I think it's fucking wonderful. Great.
I'm not in the least bit interested in "critiquing" how other consenting adults get their consenting adult jollies.
MADem
(135,425 posts)People like to profess outrage. People like to tell others what to do. People like computers and mobile devices.
People like to profess outrage on their computers and mobile devices, and other people like to chime in in support of their complaining and hectoring instead of trashing the threads they don't like or using the word-blocking feature.
Even if everyone is a consenting adult, they don't think it's fucking wonderful--in fact, anything to do with "fucking" is not wonderful and it must. be. stopped.
I'm not in the least bit interested in supporting how other trolling adults get their trolling jollies....! That's usually why I stay out of these threads. Every now and again, though, I get a smart-assed idea in my head and can't help but snark at the whole fauxy, trolly, poutraged, whiny and over-the-top feigned drama of it all.
See what I did there? Nyuck, nyuck, nyuck!
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)I provide them with a useful straw enemy named "Warren DeMontague" who never shuts up about pesky first amendment "freedumb" issues. That they can rail and fume against, and use in no end of ridiculous strawman arguments.
But do I ever get thanked? nooooooooooooooooo.
maddezmom
(135,060 posts)Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)I have to say, until the thread last night about "thank god for men who like sex instead of porn", I had doubts that 2013's smut conflagration would stand up in the DU, er, annals...
... against the Great DU Porn Wars of 2011. Of 2009. 2008. Or, dear Goddess, who can forget the brutal wasteland that was 2005?
But now, no, I think this one will, um....
Hold its own.
MADem
(135,425 posts)The pro-porn and anti-porn supporters can "have it out" in that group, and have perpetual cage matches, night after night! People can post their porn in the group, and people who dislike it can critique it vociferously! And call them "baaaad" and "wrong" and of course, "eeeeeeeevil!"
Funny, the older you get, the less that silly shit matters!
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)I think it was meta that put me over the edge, or made the light bulb come on.
Some of these fights; these problems- man, they ain't ever gonna get SOLVED. Hell, they don't WANT to get solved.
Else how could you explain the same damn conflagration, year after year?
No, no. "It's a train wreck" doesn't quite cover it. The conflagration over the website is the appeal- the MAIN appeal, for some- OF the website.
The train IS the wreck.
MADem
(135,425 posts)I think some of the POVs staked out here on this website are a joke, caricatures, in fact...people think they're too clever by half and are "getting away" with something by professing beliefs they don't actually have, that are over-the-top and outside the liberal mainstream; then these same train wreck aficionados can go back to their dens and laugh derisively about the attitudes of "leftys" that they, in fact, have fashioned.
I will say I like the TRASH THREAD feature--I've been using it a lot lately!
I really think, though, that when too much time is spent on one subject, when the objections become just foolish and absurd, that the trolls become obvious--they really should move on to the next Poutrage du Jour if they want to conceal their actual agenda!
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)ding ding ding.
Certainly there is a lot of game-playing, going on. Old fashioned trolling, concern trolling, zealotry trolling, sockpuppets, multiple identities, multiple people pretending to be one person...
And then of course there are the people who have either transparent or semi-transparent psychological motivations for hammering on the things they do; some of them, in "real" life, may be existing in diametric oppo to their online "persona", through which they're working things out... which I think may account for the ideological and topical monochromatic nature of some of the "identities" here.
Just speculation, of course.
Fascinating study in ... shit, I'm really not sure what.
This one's always good for a laugh, too:
http://www.flamewarriorsguide.com/
MADem
(135,425 posts)I'll have to bookmark that beauty--I've run into all those characters!! Right here, too!
Some of these are HILARIOUS, too, e.g.--and the illustrations are flat-out brilliant:
Ferrous Cranus is utterly impervious to reason, persuasion and new ideas, and when engaged in battle he will not yield an inch in his position regardless of its hopelessness. Though his thrusts are decisively repulsed, his arguments crushed in every detail and his defenses demolished beyond repair he will remount the same attack again and again with only the slightest variation in tactics. Sometimes out of pure frustration Philosopher will try to explain to him the failed logistics of his situation, or Therapist will attempt to penetrate the psychological origins of his obduracy, but, ever unfathomable, Ferrous Cranus cannot be moved.
The tortured syntax of his messages immediately gives Patois away as a non-native speaker. Patois enters discussion forums with the best of intentions; he may want to get to know Americans, or practice his English, or exchange ideas about a particular subject. Predictably, his malaprops immediately draw fire from Evil Clown and Jerk - even Grammarian may weigh in. At first, Patois tries to parry the thrusts with inept banter, but as his tormenters turn up the heat Patois finally pops his cork. Forgetting what little English he knows he lashes out with sputtering ripostes such as, No, you must stopping now because you are a stupid., which only causes more piling on. When Eagle Scout, Weenie, an others spring to his defense Patois lavishes them with puppy-like gratitude and loyalty. CAUTION: Impersonating Patois is a favorite ruse of Imposter and Troller.
And this pants-pee-er!
A Swarm hive is almost impossible to detect. When a hapless victim stumbles on a forum that houses a Swarm and disturbs it with an offending message, the Swarm will erupt and fly at their victim from all directions. Taken one at a time the irrelevant, often mindless individual attacks can be easily brushed aside, but because of the sheer volume of the assault even the strongest Warriors must eventually yield. WARNING: Only those who are highly skilled in Swarm management techniques should attempt to wade into a Swarm hive. but even with protective clothing opposing Warriors should expect to suffer a few stings.
Each example is funnier than the next!!
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)Bonobo
(29,257 posts)geek tragedy
(68,868 posts)Which is why the arguments on its behalf tend to sound much like Libertarian arguments on economic policy.
There's also a group of people who just can't process the notion that disliking/disapproving of porn is a free speech right just as much as liking it is. To them, if you don't like porn, you're a fascist or something.
Prophet 451
(9,796 posts)First off, there's teh discussion about rape porn. That's a specific subset of porn that reasonable people can have discussions about. Personally, I think it should be banned due to the difficulty of telling whether it's simulated rape or actual rape.
Then you have a set of people who have decided that porn is bad and people shouldn't be allowed to express their sexuality in ways that the poster finds icky. Usually, they'll be very careful to avoid teh word "ban" but the implication is plain for all to see. Usually for this type, the fact that everyone's consenting is ignored because money is involved and patriarchy and they can't really consent to anything teh poster thinks is icky. The explosion in amateur porn is ignored or handwaved away.
99Forever
(14,524 posts)All self-appointed, all loud-mouthed, all man-haters and all doomed to fail.
eggplant
(3,911 posts)Bummer that my post got hidden, though. And I was having so much fun.
99Forever
(14,524 posts)Sorry but I'm not familiar with that term.
eggplant
(3,911 posts)And if you are really curious...
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=4097647
Given the number of juries that I've been on and voted to hide but been overruled, I was a little surprised that this one was hidden. Then again, I'm not *that* surprised, given some of the craziness I see around here.
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hugo_from_TN
(1,069 posts)whttevrr
(2,345 posts)Hah! I learned a new word.
Oh well, at least no one is advocating to abolish the first amendment. I guess we can hold on to that, right?
GladRagDahl
(237 posts)and that's not weird at all for this forum
whttevrr
(2,345 posts)I was just browsing through over the week or so, and got through a few of the other threads, and was just struck by how quickly the threads devolved into judgement and condemnation. I thought it was weird and decidedly undemocratic.
After going back and looking closer it is indeed some prolific posters who are immediately going to the illegal porn aspects to taint all porn. There is a clear distinction between what is legal and what is not. It almost seems like some people want to equate all legal porn with the illegal stuff.
Some here have talked about how they were abused, and I think they bring a lot of anger to some issues that are tangential to the issue in question.
Of course, there are many here who have dealt with various forms of abuse and they don't use this as an excuse to insult, attempt to shame for consensual acts, judge others who don't agree with them, etc. etc.
So, it's also a matter of how someone deals with her or his own problems in regard to random people on an internet message board.
I try to remember that we are all, most likely, damaged in some way or another and try to approach things with compassion - but issues themselves are about how our society is or should be constructed, and are not about and should not be about someone working out his or her trauma in regard to one issue or another.
And I try to keep the discussion about the issues.
With some here, I just simply ignore them when I find their arguments are generally dishonest and don't want to have to bother, yet again, with that tired form of trolling - which is what it comes down to, ultimately.
Mrdrboi
(110 posts)It releases my daily stresses. I see nothing wrong with it. Its 2 consenting adults having sex while someone films it.
Harmony Blue
(3,978 posts)Living in Tampa (it has one of the largest human trafficking problems in the world) the local and county police departments realize that human trafficking is a global phenomenon driven by those with money and power.
Rapes in the Tampa Bay area are mostly an issue at universities and the reason being is that most young men and women are not educated about proper sexual norms. Often times these women trust these criminal men who they are befriended because they are friendly/kind or they know them as a long time 'friend". Most of the rapes on campus at USF have been caused by individuals who were close to the victim for example and this is the lesson we must impart on women. We do a great disservice trying to paint pornography as the cause of these rapes or human trafficking. We need to arm our young men and women with facts not with emotional knee jerk reactions of what we like and don't like.
The BDSM community often makes it an important message to teach people about proper sexual norms and what is actual consent but they are often judged unfairly and people associate criminal activity with their specific fetish criteria. That is why the BDSM community is an asset to teach young men and women about consent but they are unfortunately attacked.
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)Thanksgiving.
Plus, every few years the people who are shocked and/or angry that other people get turned on by looking at pictures of naked humans, need to vent, let us know how mad the whole thing makes them.
It's like Old Faithful.
whttevrr
(2,345 posts)Then...
That would be good?
Right?
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)or maybe the opposite.
In short, I think it means that DU can only debate one contentious but ultimately pointless issue that isn't ever going to change anyone's mind, at a time.
whttevrr
(2,345 posts)Porn in and of itself is not bad.
Its the violent stuff that people have a problem with, right?
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)you expect to be taken seriously. you do not listen. this whole thread of inaccurate portrayal about the women on du. a lot of catty insults, only.
whttevrr
(2,345 posts)I see both men and women taking similar and divergent stances on the issue. There is indeed some catty insults, but the preponderance of posts are about separating out violent and illegal porn from the inanity and silliness of mainstream porn.
Do you have anything more specific?
Because at first glance, I'm thinking your addition, in this specific post to this thread, is itself a caricature.
So let me ask, do you have a problem with legal, non-violent porn?