I thought this was a hot topic...

So we shouldn't discuss it. At all.

6:20 on- he kind of nails it on the head right

He comes off as arrogant, offended that people discuss prejudice.

clear cut or black and white. He's sick of people trying to boil it down to small quantifiable things. He made the point many times privilege should be discussed.

it comes off as condescending. "How dare you interrupt my bubble that I love you people! How dare you question my commitment to equality for you people!"

I thought he was saying about the complexity of the issue was a good point. Yes I'm a white straight male but I also have an eye disease that'll cause me to be completely blind in a few years in fact I lost my job last night partially due to my diminishing vision. I have a body covered in scars some self inflicted from depression issues and other from accidents. So alot of time people don't like to look at me I don't go swimming which is something I love cause people make comments and stare. Would you say I'm a privileged individual because I am a white straight male or do the other things make it a wash. I'm really not trying to diminish anyone or their life experiences or offend you.

physical, mental or emotional. None of it diminishes the experiences we have. Talking about our scars is a way to heal from them. Flaunting that you don't have any and lording it over those that do have scars isn't productive, which is what that video seemed to be doing.

Just my .02, and by no means will everyone agree with that perspective.

Did you have good parents who loved you?

Do you have running water and a shitter?

Do both your legs work?

He rails against these preachy people, and yet sounds pretty darn preachy himself.

But I agree with his main message, which is sorta that we need more compassion and understanding and less judgementalism.

"the last thing you should want to do it to alienate a potential ally"

and yet he begins his rant by saying "the content of this video is going to get some people riled up."

I mean, he is kinda hoist by his own petard as he tells people, "stop preaching at other people and telling them to think and act differently, it just alienates them." as he admittedly tells other people to think and act differently and admits his "rant" will "get some people riled up".

Just admit that it is kinda tough getting somebody to change their point of view, and that it is better to talk respectful to them (which this video really does not) than it is to talk down to them (which this video does).

exactly!

I groaned when I saw this posted thinking great another video telling me to feel guilty.

I was pleasantly surprised to find it to be something I totally agree with. Which is not to say i dont think privilege exists but that is much more complicated than many of the preachy stuff that has been posted here would like to make it seem.

We have a long way to go to equality in America of that there is little doubt. We all need to work on it regardless of our particular classification on the privilege scale.

100's, 1000's of factors define privilege...

some people just want to see it in one dimensional terms

1) No one likes harsh criticism

Sure, ok. I can understand that this language makes him very uncomfortable. But sweetness only goes so far.

2) The human condition is irreducibly complex

Err, no. Just no.

3) Don't be harsh

Hm, I dunno. Is this a matter of asking people to use language appropriate to the situation* or a case of poor boundaries and inappropriate taking up of fault and targetedness? I can't say without knowing what incident he is reacting to.

*Harsh and righteous language can be called for.

"adjust your message so it is more palatable and doesn't offend anyone that is privileged."

P.S. I'm all out of teaching and also along that line you can't teach the stupid or the bigoted. Ignorance on the other hand is teachable but in this day & age very few are ignorant. Take that for whats it's worth.

question or doubt how we are treated by others.

I don't think he succeeded, I'm not clear what he is trying to say.
but if people are assuming he is one of the "priviledged", that is not the case
this is RJ and he is not "white" he is from a Cuban background
he is also bisexual, engaged to marry his boyfriend

Nailed it. It's usually not helpful to pompously lecture people about how "privileged" they are.

Why isn't he being careful with his tone?

"Hypocrisy is the tribute vice pays to virtue."

It's not a difficult concept to grasp -- when you quantify people by labeling them into boxes, you are stereotyping them...which is one of the very things that the whole conversation was started to stop in the first place.

And anyone commenting about "why doesn't he watch his tone?!", do you realize you sound like "why don't you tolerate my intolerance?!"