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Bonobo

(29,257 posts)
Sun Feb 2, 2014, 11:07 PM Feb 2014

Dylan Farrow's Story: An Account of Child Abuse

An obligation to seek the truth

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/fighting-fear/201402/dylan-farrows-story-account-child-abuse?quicktabs_5=1

Our reaction to her account is obviously being colored by other aspects of Mr. Allen’s life. He is a celebrity. Ms. Farrow feels his being lionized as a filmmaker has influenced others to believe his account of this incident. I think this is probably so. On the other hand, many people detest him for having had an affair with and then marrying a step-daughter. They are inclined to believe the worst about him.

There are some facts that are worth noting:

1. Of course, sexual touching—and worse—does occur within families. It is unusual, in my experience, for these situations to result in the dire consequences Ms. Farrow reports—rising to the level of a post-traumatic stress disorder. But it can happen.

2. Accusations of child abuse are made frequently in child custody cases. I personally know of a number of cases when these charges were false and were used as a bargaining chip in settling other issues coming up in the divorce, including financial issues.

3.In the mind of certain therapists, childhood sexual abuse is an important cause of very many psychiatric difficulties. Some of these therapists specialize in eliciting a history of such abuse even when the patient does not readily remember it. This has resulted in cases of “false memory syndrome,” in which the patient remembers incidents that never occurred and, in some cases, could not have occurred. As the result some people have been falsely imprisoned and many families have been disrupted painfully. It is important to note that these disturbed individuals are not consciously fabricating these stories. Numerous studies indicate that they believe them to be true—even when they are not true.

As a psychiatrist, I frequently take a history from a patient who tells me that he/she has been abused sexually by a member of her family, or by someone else. In order to understand that patient it is important for me to discover, if possible, whether those accusations are true. Sometimes I can find out the truth from other family members; more often, I cannot. Some such events that I know for a fact have happened are terrible: forcible rape by biological fathers and gang rape by brothers being only some of these events. But there are other similar stories which are doubtful for a number of reasons. Some are just outlandish, including sacrificial rites and animals. Some have become interwoven with a complicated world-view of being a victim. When these accounts of sexual abuse are given as justification for every sort of personal calamity, they become suspect. Also, I try to keep in mind these considerations:

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LAGC

(5,330 posts)
1. Just out of curiosity...
Sun Feb 2, 2014, 11:16 PM
Feb 2014

How many of the folks who think Woody Allen is guilty think the same about the allegations against Michael Jackson or Roman Polanski?

There seems to be a certain undercurrent at play here, where those who enjoy the performer's works find such allegations likely to be "trumped up", whereas if they've never really cared or been exposed to the performer's works they tend to not give him the benefit of the doubt.

I'm not taking sides here, just wondering about the dynamics at play here...

Bonobo

(29,257 posts)
3. I think those dynamics are at play, yes.
Sun Feb 2, 2014, 11:21 PM
Feb 2014

And as a fan of Allen, I am probably guilty.

One sees humanity in the art of an artist and it becomes more difficult to see them as a monster.

But, by the same token, I see many that are creeped out by his relationship and are making what I think is a big error in equating that with pedophilia. Soon-Yi was sexually mature and Dylan, if she was 7 when it happened, was pre-pubescent. So I don't think it fits the M.O. but I do think it is prejudicing many because it fits into their catch-all category of "creepy pervert".

Major Nikon

(36,827 posts)
6. Being attracted to a much younger adult is no more creepy than...
Tue Feb 4, 2014, 01:32 AM
Feb 2014

being attracted to a much older adult. Arguably less so. The difference in age between Soon-Yi and Allen might be significant, but so was the difference between Farrow and Sinatra and she had no issues breaking up more than one relationship. Those who think Farrow is beyond reproach should know she had no issues testifying on behalf of Roman Polanski for his civil case a few years back, and Polanski is a convicted child molester who fled to avoid incarceration. Very telling that.

Xyzse

(8,217 posts)
4. With Woody Allen...
Sun Feb 2, 2014, 11:31 PM
Feb 2014

I am willing to go with Dylan's account. This is also due to the alleged pornographic images of some other person who is very young and had relations with her.

With Roman Polanski, he was convicted and that has never been in doubt. This guy is a disgusting individual who should have served his term.

Michael Jackson, a little bit harder just because his oddness does not always mean molestation of children. He has kids that he has tried to bring up as well as possible, given his circumstance. The one that has taken him to trial went back and forth saying something happened, to nothing happened. I don't know with this one, since the one accusing him did not seem to want to take it to court other than his mother. I don't have substantiated reports of him having child pornography or anything of that sort. So, with this guy, I'll give him the benefit of the doubt.

el_bryanto

(11,804 posts)
13. That's the crux of it
Wed Feb 5, 2014, 05:06 PM
Feb 2014

There are two questions at play

1. Was Woody Allen Guilty and what should be done to him if so? Legally, it seems unlikely that anything can be done to him, but there's enough evidence that its certainly plausible that Allen is guilty. It's also possible he is innocent, but it seems (to me) more likely that he is guilty.

2. If you enjoy his movies, how does believing he is guilty of this crime change the way you look at them? If you don't enjoy the movies the issue doesn't arise. If you do, you have a few options.

- stop enjoying them, because they were made by a monster.
- continue enjoying them, but accept that you are enjoying works created by a monster.
- decide that Woody Allen isn't a monster.

I don't want to do the first, and I can't justify going the third route. It's certainly an uncomfortable situation.

Bryant

 

YarnAddict

(1,850 posts)
2. Conventional wisdom
Sun Feb 2, 2014, 11:16 PM
Feb 2014

used to be that "children NEVER lie about molestation." And then we found out that kids can be manipulated by others about sexual abuse as much as anything else. In the meantime, many, many lives were ruined--including the lives of children who were traumatized by the ordeals they were put through during what often amounted to nothing more than witch hunts.

I don't know what happened with Dylan Farrow, but I do believe that she believes she was molested.

BainsBane

(53,035 posts)
7. That is one shitty psychiatrist
Wed Feb 5, 2014, 03:58 PM
Feb 2014

spouting a whole host of easily disproved things. Child abuse does lead to PTSD. False accusations are rare. FBI data shows that.

Blaming the victim. So original. How appropriate that this OP was posted on Groundhog Day, because that's exactly where I feel I'm caught reading it.

 

quinnox

(20,600 posts)
8. The key line for me - "2. Accusations of child abuse are made frequently in child custody cases."
Wed Feb 5, 2014, 04:04 PM
Feb 2014

"I personally know of a number of cases when these charges were false and were used as a bargaining chip in settling other issues coming up in the divorce, including financial issues."

I have heard of this too, and when you see the circumstances around the divorce of Allen and Mia Farrow, I can see why Mia went berserk and was hell-bent to ruin Allen, its a human reaction to Allen's betrayal.

And that is not even considering all the other evidence that points to serious doubts about this case.

But, on the other hand, the guy who wrote this article is one of those damn fancy scientific psychiatrists, what does he know anyway? Allen must be guilty, because I think he is!

kcr

(15,317 posts)
16. Frequently? The precentage of custody cases where that allegation is made is actually small.
Wed Feb 5, 2014, 05:52 PM
Feb 2014
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/2340426

More interesting facts. False allegations are no more frequent for custody cases than at any other time. http://www.americanbar.org/content/dam/aba/publishing/cdv_enewsletter/custodymythsandcounter.authcheckdam.pdf

The myth of the vengeful ex wife is just that.
 

cali

(114,904 posts)
9. This is really offensive. deeply offensive.
Wed Feb 5, 2014, 04:21 PM
Feb 2014

obviously I'm speaking only for myself.

Look, I don't know if Woody Allen sexually abused his daughter, but this piece is putrid.

The author states that sexual abuse happens in families but it's unusual for dire consequences such as PTSD to result from such. The pig doesn't provide any evidence for that claim and the tone is such as to diminish the severity of a child being sexually abused by a family member- let alone a parent.

Dr. Asswipe goes on to say that he does know however, that false accusations are frequent. He uses his personal experience as his evidence. Anecdotal crap is not evidence.

I won't go on. I won't get into my personal history. I will say that reading this makes me feel like I've been punched in the stomach.

 

bettyellen

(47,209 posts)
10. Thank you, this "doctor" spews such nonsense, I believe the OP must have known better.
Wed Feb 5, 2014, 04:29 PM
Feb 2014

or perhaps he didn't actually bother reading it. Lots of that going on here too.
Not all people who molest children fit the standard profile of a pedophile, I wish people would stop touting that as any proof of anything. They know better, but persist.

 

cali

(114,904 posts)
11. I haven't been on the burn woody burn bandwagon because I don't know
Wed Feb 5, 2014, 04:43 PM
Feb 2014

if he sexually assaulted his daughter- though I find the really creepy.

I'm sorry Bonobo thought this was worth posting. I thought better of him than this.

 

bettyellen

(47,209 posts)
12. I have repeatedly said I do not know, but neither does anyone else. But keep getting accused of
Wed Feb 5, 2014, 04:56 PM
Feb 2014

wanting to railroad Woody. Or reacting like homophobes do because we are stupid prudes. That was one dumb fucking OP.

I do find it difficult to completely dismiss Dylan's letter. Coming out like that is what a lot of victims need to do to feel right about the situation. It commonly happens later. And I know it is completely impossible to completely dismiss Dylan without going all in with "the Mia coached her" hatred. Which is projecting some vile behavior, all while they rail against any hints Woody was creepy and had boundary issues that are fairly evident.

Seems a lot of people have a huge emotional investment in the woman scorned scenario. The protective and supportive Mom, not so much.

kcr

(15,317 posts)
14. Not surprising, it's Psychology Today.
Wed Feb 5, 2014, 05:22 PM
Feb 2014

The same magazine that printed an article on how black women are objectively less attractive. That magazine isn't a stranger to junk science.

Skidmore

(37,364 posts)
17. I had thevsame reaction.
Wed Feb 5, 2014, 06:03 PM
Feb 2014

Back to space in my memories that I try not to visit. Felling assaulted all over again.

Thanks for your response. I started one and could not finish it. You spoke for me too.

Skidmore

(37,364 posts)
19. Sorry for all of the
Wed Feb 5, 2014, 07:57 PM
Feb 2014

spelling errors. When I'm on my Kindle, I seem to end up with more of them then usual. Your response was helpful.

 

leftynyc

(26,060 posts)
15. Well, for what it's worth
Wed Feb 5, 2014, 05:27 PM
Feb 2014
http://www.mediaite.com/online/moses-farrow-woody-allen-did-not-molest-my-sister/

Moses Farrow, the 36-year-old adopted son of Woody Allen and Mia Farrow, is coming to his father’s defense against accusations from his sister, Dylan Farrow, that the filmmaker sexually molested her when she was seven years old. In a new interview with People magazine, Moses Farrow says, “Of course Woody did not molest my sister.”

“My mother drummed it into me to hate my father for tearing apart the family and sexually molesting my sister,” Moses told People. “And I hated him for her for years. I see now that this was a vengeful way to pay him back for falling in love with Soon-Yi,” Farrow’s adopted daughter who is now married to Allen.
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