Welcome to DU! The truly grassroots left-of-center political community where regular people, not algorithms, drive the discussions and set the standards. Join the community: Create a free account Support DU (and get rid of ads!): Become a Star Member Latest Breaking News General Discussion The DU Lounge All Forums Issue Forums Culture Forums Alliance Forums Region Forums Support Forums Help & Search

11 Bravo

(23,926 posts)
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 04:42 PM Mar 2014

Now that video exists of Alan Grayson being attacked by his wife without retaliating, I predict ...

that those DUers who already had him tried and convicted, and who proceeded to pile on to anyone who dared to suggest that the words of Grayson's wife and her lawyer were anything less than the absolute gospel truth will be along to apologize in exactly ... FUCKING NEVER!

367 replies = new reply since forum marked as read
Highlight: NoneDon't highlight anything 5 newestHighlight 5 most recent replies
Now that video exists of Alan Grayson being attacked by his wife without retaliating, I predict ... (Original Post) 11 Bravo Mar 2014 OP
That's not my issue with Mr. Grayson because that is his personal life. ScreamingMeemie Mar 2014 #1
Do tell about SeaWorld with a link or something. rgbecker Mar 2014 #87
I don't get their newsletter either. Please ask nicely or Google it. ScreamingMeemie Mar 2014 #92
Got it, thanks for the help. rgbecker Mar 2014 #122
Nope, that's not the one. ScreamingMeemie Mar 2014 #124
...and....CRICKETS...of course ScreamingMeemie Mar 2014 #202
Not when it comes to women. Isoldeblue Mar 2014 #293
I don't think it's a women thing. thesquanderer Mar 2014 #310
True, sometimes. Isoldeblue Mar 2014 #313
You brought it up. nt Deep13 Mar 2014 #228
I've posted it about eleventy-dozen times in the last 2.5 years. Because it does not fit with the ScreamingMeemie Mar 2014 #231
Jury Results: X_Digger Mar 2014 #270
Thanks. ScreamingMeemie Mar 2014 #275
Well, I wish you would have posted a link to what you're talking about, regardless of Dark n Stormy Knight Mar 2014 #319
For God's sake....Don't tell us, Please. rgbecker Mar 2014 #339
Not with respect to Grayson, just as to politicians in general: merrily Mar 2014 #309
The Conservative DINO's among us hate Grayson and will be glad when Karl Rove shuts him rhett o rick Mar 2014 #2
I wonder why a Progressive Democrat's divorce issues are so public, and distorted it appears when sabrina 1 Mar 2014 #10
Seems like we've been down this road before. Cleita Mar 2014 #17
"The Third Way doesn't look the other way" I stand corrected. Remember when John Conyers was rhett o rick Mar 2014 #26
Yes, and people are certainly beginning to notice. If this is how the game is played, sabrina 1 Mar 2014 #106
Bingo, which is exactly why I don't support Grayson and have withdrawn support. ScreamingMeemie Mar 2014 #115
Heroes alfredo Mar 2014 #137
So where's the quid pro quo? Where's the 90K in the freezer? The kickback or whatever GoneFishin Mar 2014 #253
Nope. I support progressives, not those who pander to corps. Sorry. ScreamingMeemie Mar 2014 #257
Yeah. You keep saying that. But WHAT MONEY? GoneFishin Mar 2014 #262
Here you go. I was hoping you would ask... ScreamingMeemie Mar 2014 #268
So there's Grayson; greiner3 Mar 2014 #273
What does Alan Grayson being willing to bring the whole of the Humane Society down upon ScreamingMeemie Mar 2014 #279
Perhaps like many of us, Grayson grew up Live and Learn Mar 2014 #322
I think it is better to judge this issue alongside the rest of his record newthinking Mar 2014 #323
Sea World employs 6000 people and attracts 8 million tourists to the area? William Seger Mar 2014 #334
So who would that be other than Warren and Sanders.... VanillaRhapsody Mar 2014 #266
My comments are in response to those who believe that Grayson is some maverick progressive. ScreamingMeemie Mar 2014 #269
and my response is a response to that.... VanillaRhapsody Mar 2014 #271
Read over my posting history of the past 11-ish years, if you care to. The only person ScreamingMeemie Mar 2014 #274
So SHE can have an issue you disagree with and that doesn't make her "NOT Liberal" VanillaRhapsody Mar 2014 #277
...She's not liberal. It's just Grayson is so very not liberal. ScreamingMeemie Mar 2014 #282
Okay that is some really convoluted logic.... VanillaRhapsody Mar 2014 #284
I've been extremely clear and concise with facts ScreamingMeemie Mar 2014 #285
The so-called facts are not the issue.... VanillaRhapsody Mar 2014 #287
Im confused. quakerboy Mar 2014 #308
Do you support Obama? n/t cui bono Mar 2014 #317
On this one issue you disagree with him, so he's good for nothing? LiberalAndProud Mar 2014 #261
Sorry, but that decision was horrific. ScreamingMeemie Mar 2014 #263
He intervenes on behalf of a 6,000 job employer in his area dreamnightwind Mar 2014 #364
Spitzer and Weiner committed suicide pscot Mar 2014 #278
Of course. Rationalization is the key to happiness, right? nm rhett o rick Mar 2014 #296
Didn't Spitzer go to work on TV, too? merrily Mar 2014 #301
Rangel, Waters, merrily Mar 2014 #316
add to that LiberalLovinLug Mar 2014 #358
McKinney? Really? dbackjon Mar 2014 #359
"There are no conspiracies, there are no conspiracies, there are no...." rhett o rick Mar 2014 #361
No doubt. blackspade Mar 2014 #60
Remember Jack Ryan's (R - Goldman Sachs) divorce? REP Mar 2014 #94
That was going to be made very public regardless Aerows Mar 2014 #147
They were divorced in 1999; records were unsealed in 2004 during his campaign REP Mar 2014 #225
It comes natural to them. ReRe Mar 2014 #312
Mr. Grayson took a rather conservative stance ScreamingMeemie Mar 2014 #25
I wasn't aware of the Sea World thing, but what bothers me madinmaryland Mar 2014 #181
I remember how exciting it was when Elizabeth first logged in and Skinner vetted her. ScreamingMeemie Mar 2014 #186
That is tacky as hell Isoldeblue Mar 2014 #300
Everything with you seems to be Isoldeblue Mar 2014 #138
A little twisty. I didnt say all those that didnt like Grayson were DINO's as you suggest. rhett o rick Mar 2014 #149
Your deflecting skills are good.... n/t Isoldeblue Mar 2014 #256
Nobody hear hates him treestar Mar 2014 #213
LOL, of course not. They just dont care if he lives. I would guess that all of the BOG rhett o rick Mar 2014 #297
Why does it have to be either, or? Isoldeblue Mar 2014 #311
There are some on here who hate him, seemingly just because he speaks out and is progressive. cui bono Mar 2014 #318
Well, we disagree. So be it. Isoldeblue Mar 2014 #325
Why would a Bogger even oppose him? treestar Mar 2014 #332
You would have to ask them that. Ask them why they ridicule him in his own threads too. n/t cui bono Mar 2014 #333
Baloney treestar Mar 2014 #331
Please dont twist my words. I never claimed his life was threatened. rhett o rick Mar 2014 #353
It's that nasty little "Stop The Left" neoliberal Third Way agenda. Zorra Mar 2014 #246
he's a good rhetoric man (no pun intended), like dennis was, who doesn't wield much power. dionysus Mar 2014 #276
I'm sure they will apologize RobertEarl Mar 2014 #3
You seem very angry at people who don't really exist geek tragedy Mar 2014 #4
So what you are saying is... yuiyoshida Mar 2014 #9
what I am saying is that the time frame that is most under dispute is not shown geek tragedy Mar 2014 #11
WELL she said she was shoved... yuiyoshida Mar 2014 #15
all valid questions. As far as people lying, I recommend you see geek tragedy Mar 2014 #19
Where is yuiyoshida Mar 2014 #28
Is that a picture of a NAKED MAN ON DU! snooper2 Mar 2014 #32
pssst...thats from the movie yuiyoshida Mar 2014 #34
I know, but this is DU snooper2 Mar 2014 #37
Well ... he is also yuiyoshida Mar 2014 #40
The only thing I can say to this is.. butterfly77 Mar 2014 #234
Clean livin' Warren DeMontague Mar 2014 #111
No shit. Warren DeMontague Mar 2014 #107
Oh, come on, can I please just look at the picture? raven mad Mar 2014 #62
Not Naked! blackspade Mar 2014 #63
AAAAAAARGRGHHHHH!!!RRAARRHGGHTTGGH!!KL AARTGGTGAAEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!#^%^*^£%^*< Warren DeMontague Mar 2014 #104
Right, "discussion" Warren DeMontague Mar 2014 #120
Yeh, me too. Whisp Mar 2014 #189
Bigfoot Porn, Again? Warren DeMontague Mar 2014 #248
Was the bag surgically attached to his hand? kcr Mar 2014 #35
When one carries a bag like that... yuiyoshida Mar 2014 #38
It might have been the mail he had come to collect kcr Mar 2014 #41
IT would HAVE been a whole lot better if it had yuiyoshida Mar 2014 #44
Poison? blackspade Mar 2014 #66
IF if was made by yuiyoshida Mar 2014 #69
I wouldn't put that scenerio past him. Isoldeblue Mar 2014 #145
Make the statement=Provide the proof HangOnKids Mar 2014 #154
I have no idea what it is you want Isoldeblue Mar 2014 #254
" I've seen him act out in ways towards women, that were completely wrong." Ikonoklast Mar 2014 #260
For one, with Karen Finney on the Lawrence O'Donnell show. Isoldeblue Mar 2014 #265
Was it this exchange? Common Sense Party Mar 2014 #299
No, it was definitely on Isoldeblue Mar 2014 #302
Yeah, I couldn't find anything else with the two of them together. Common Sense Party Mar 2014 #303
Of course your opinion is your option but this statement is not an opinion it is stated as a fact HangOnKids Mar 2014 #291
I already answered that here. Isoldeblue Mar 2014 #292
You didn't answer shit HangOnKids Mar 2014 #294
Either you're too Isoldeblue Mar 2014 #295
I'm not looking for flies dear HangOnKids Mar 2014 #365
You should take care Isoldeblue Mar 2014 #367
Perhaps to get her behavior on film lumberjack_jeff Mar 2014 #195
Hmmm kcr Mar 2014 #196
MRA fantasy land is women Always lie. And suck your soul out while at it. Whisp Mar 2014 #267
Someone else is actually putting forth this ludicrous sting operation theory kcr Mar 2014 #289
I am not accusing the guy of shoving anyone, let me make that clear. MADem Mar 2014 #326
Right .. yuiyoshida Mar 2014 #357
Exactly! Andy823 Mar 2014 #16
more to the point, there was no effort to attack or shame Grayson supporters geek tragedy Mar 2014 #18
Horseshit. Some were accused of "victim-blaming" at a bare minimum. 11 Bravo Mar 2014 #58
sigh. the objections to "victim-blaming" were not to people geek tragedy Mar 2014 #64
Did you watch the video posted in #299? Jim Lane Mar 2014 #366
Riiiight, I imagined that thread. And NO, I won't bother to link to it because ... 11 Bravo Mar 2014 #21
If that's the thread with about 76 responses right now, it is actually geek tragedy Mar 2014 #27
What is shows is her abusing him. Nothing else. That proves she is abusive. Unless it's not abusive sabrina 1 Mar 2014 #22
perhaps you missed the point that geek tragedy Mar 2014 #24
Why would Grayson bring Vinnie From Indy Mar 2014 #45
I'm not the wife's attorney, nor a prosecutor, nor someone who is claiming geek tragedy Mar 2014 #49
Or the video person couldn't get started until a certain point treestar Mar 2014 #219
To me, it doesn't look like the video was planned whopis01 Mar 2014 #335
Actually, bringing a witness to a situation like this is standard Vinnie From Indy Mar 2014 #348
If the person was brought specifically to film the event whopis01 Mar 2014 #352
Exactly what badge sniffers say when a cop killing is shown on video. nt Bonobo Mar 2014 #205
this is ironic--here you are attacking me for not rushing to conclusions geek tragedy Mar 2014 #207
I have not watched the video. Let me watch and get back to you. nt Bonobo Mar 2014 #208
I can't watch the video here it seems. Bonobo Mar 2014 #210
Wait a minute. You haven't even seen the video kcr Mar 2014 #235
If you actually read my posts... Bonobo Mar 2014 #236
No, that isn't the only conclusion kcr Mar 2014 #243
Amazing, isn't it? Isoldeblue Mar 2014 #298
The OP greatly overstates the supposed lynch mob mentality. geek tragedy Mar 2014 #249
You can watch this video in Japan Art_from_Ark Mar 2014 #337
No, I didn't miss it, nor do I presume to know anything but what I can see. You otoh, want me to sabrina 1 Mar 2014 #223
You are falsely characterizing my statements. geek tragedy Mar 2014 #241
You stated that we don't know what was on the part of the tape we haven't seen. Why is that sabrina 1 Mar 2014 #280
Ask Shirley Sherrod. nt geek tragedy Mar 2014 #283
He attacked her fist with his face, silly! Warren DeMontague Mar 2014 #114
He's not going to end up in the hospital treestar Mar 2014 #217
But if he had done exactly the same thing he would be considered a monster. Thanks, that's what I sabrina 1 Mar 2014 #232
If he hit her, he might have hurt her treestar Mar 2014 #330
So you ARE saying it's okay for a woman to hit a man. How do you feel about lying about men sabrina 1 Mar 2014 #344
NO, but the results count treestar Mar 2014 #346
So if I punch someone, just because I'm a woman, I won't be arrested for assault? sabrina 1 Mar 2014 #349
Anytime an adult hits another adult, there is the potential for severe injury and death. stevenleser Mar 2014 #362
I think I've told you of the broken bones, etc. I received while married, polly7 Mar 2014 #222
Polly, you are one of the most honest, ethical people on DU and your opinion sabrina 1 Mar 2014 #226
... ScreamingMeemie Mar 2014 #233
Screw it, I'll address it. Why not... Demo_Chris Mar 2014 #247
He's a pandering blowhard. There are several major corporations in his district. ScreamingMeemie Mar 2014 #255
Doth protest too much. GoneFishin Mar 2014 #258
Just passing through pointing out that your "God" is a little bit less than... ScreamingMeemie Mar 2014 #259
Yeah. So are you alleging that is his fault? GoneFishin Mar 2014 #264
Elizabeth Warren, my senator and a damn good one, engaged in pork barrel politics quite recently. MADem Mar 2014 #327
OMG! That does it! Lol. sabrina 1 Mar 2014 #288
The feeling is mutual, Sabrina! polly7 Mar 2014 #341
It has certainly been... what's the word? Oh yeah, "educational" opiate69 Mar 2014 #354
I never even heard of the incident! George II Mar 2014 #108
+1, plus this kind of divorce is not a good thing for a politician treestar Mar 2014 #215
I am not going to judge, having the privilege geek tragedy Mar 2014 #244
True, but having seen a lot of divorces treestar Mar 2014 #329
Post removed Post removed Mar 2014 #5
As long as you made an adult decision to circumcise yourself. closeupready Mar 2014 #7
Were you asked to show your receipt? nt OnyxCollie Mar 2014 #12
sorry, thatt video although helpful to him is no dispositive. cali Mar 2014 #6
And that is my exact point. We DON'T know exactly what happened. 11 Bravo Mar 2014 #33
And, speaking of "victim blaming", deafening silence from many around this post in another thread... opiate69 Mar 2014 #43
Hi. bravenak Mar 2014 #48
The forlorn hope has arrived! 1000words Mar 2014 #52
What up, playa? bravenak Mar 2014 #53
bravenak BainsBane Mar 2014 #97
I love you too!!! bravenak Mar 2014 #113
um... opiate69 Mar 2014 #54
That's me. bravenak Mar 2014 #56
You called her out. She came, responded BainsBane Mar 2014 #98
I need nothing. Her words speak volumes on their own opiate69 Mar 2014 #101
Yeah, slight difference BainsBane Mar 2014 #105
Indeed it was repulsive. Glad we agree. opiate69 Mar 2014 #121
Very few victims of absue report. BainsBane Mar 2014 #128
Ok. so the video was edited... however, opiate69 Mar 2014 #134
Really? BainsBane Mar 2014 #151
Additionally BainsBane Mar 2014 #116
anyone think TPTB are behind this to prevent him from becoming president ? JI7 Mar 2014 #8
No, because he has never had the slightest chance of being nominated cali Mar 2014 #20
I didn't see any posts like that... cyberswede Mar 2014 #13
Can one link to one's own imagination? nt geek tragedy Mar 2014 #23
Here's a great example: demwing Mar 2014 #42
Thanks cyberswede Mar 2014 #46
Mmmmmmm .... 1000words Mar 2014 #14
i saw one thread. first three of four posts had the woman as a bad mom, a lolita, liar.... seabeyond Mar 2014 #29
According to Grayson's lawyer- Grayson's daughter claims Mr.Grayson did not hit her mother or lumpy Mar 2014 #68
Ok. That really has nothing to do with my list and the discussion seabeyond Mar 2014 #75
Yeah, like if there was video of him striking her "the jury" would still be out awaiting conclusive TheKentuckian Mar 2014 #70
And I won't argue that one either, lol. Ya. Nt seabeyond Mar 2014 #76
hope it gets cleared up --like him a lot dembotoz Mar 2014 #30
Sounds like a shitstorm. Glad I missed it. JNelson6563 Mar 2014 #31
I still think, no, I KNOW Le Taz Hot Mar 2014 #36
This message was self-deleted by its author Th1onein Mar 2014 #84
Well, I'm glad you think so. Le Taz Hot Mar 2014 #89
This message was self-deleted by its author Th1onein Mar 2014 #112
Sorry, but that wasn't clear with your last post. Le Taz Hot Mar 2014 #118
This message was self-deleted by its author Th1onein Mar 2014 #130
I stand by my post Boom Sound 416 Mar 2014 #39
You should. bravenak Mar 2014 #50
Thanks yo Boom Sound 416 Mar 2014 #71
You're welcome. bravenak Mar 2014 #72
Diagnosing from the grandstands now? HangOnKids Mar 2014 #85
Hey, I was just thinking about you Boom Sound 416 Mar 2014 #119
So you know SHIT about Grayson but had to throw your cheap hat in the ring? HangOnKids Mar 2014 #127
Oh, same old HangOnKids...I've missed our little routine Boom Sound 416 Mar 2014 #133
Hey the routine HangOnKids Mar 2014 #135
Welcome! Boom Sound 416 Mar 2014 #136
Boom! Cha Mar 2014 #328
... Boom Sound 416 Mar 2014 #336
LOL, are you expect to be taken seriously? n-t Logical Mar 2014 #190
That the best you could do Boom Sound 416 Mar 2014 #191
Makes no sense like your other post. n-t Logical Mar 2014 #194
It's a "streak detector", man! Don't you even know about the "streak detector"?!? nt Bonobo Mar 2014 #320
I didn't read any of those threads, but I'll bet I can name 90% of the people considered him guilty. Marr Mar 2014 #47
Considering that there aren't even 10 people doing that, technically that's impossible nt geek tragedy Mar 2014 #55
So you have now gone from "people who don't really exist", to "there was no effort", to ... 11 Bravo Mar 2014 #74
What about marr accusing duers with NO info. That does not even hit you outrage meter. Right? Nt seabeyond Mar 2014 #79
That comment was ridiculously stupid and offensive. But it's not what I posted about. 11 Bravo Mar 2014 #96
I would absolutely agree. But, I did not read what you did on the only seabeyond Mar 2014 #123
you evidently are still very angry at someone over this case geek tragedy Mar 2014 #80
Hysterical! Yeah, "not even 10" has long been adult speak for "zero". 11 Bravo Mar 2014 #86
thank you for your pointless insults. you are obviously the right person geek tragedy Mar 2014 #95
I don't know shit about this case. Neither do you. But ... 11 Bravo Mar 2014 #117
you decried the mean people geek tragedy Mar 2014 #126
BAZINGA! HangOnKids Mar 2014 #110
Do tell? seabeyond Mar 2014 #61
That easily goes both ways treestar Mar 2014 #220
Except it doesn't go both ways. Marr Mar 2014 #229
That vid only shows part of the story. Whisp Mar 2014 #51
So, out of curiosity, what exactly could he have said or done that would justify her assaulting him opiate69 Mar 2014 #57
I have no idea what happened. Whisp Mar 2014 #67
So... physical violence is possibly a legit response to threatening words? opiate69 Mar 2014 #73
I'm not playing your game, opiate. Whisp Mar 2014 #77
It's not a game. what, if anything, justifies assault? opiate69 Mar 2014 #88
ok, let's leave the Grayson case aside for a minute. Whisp Mar 2014 #91
As would I. opiate69 Mar 2014 #99
You can't justify assault LittleBlue Mar 2014 #103
She bruises on her arms and shoulders. 840high Mar 2014 #251
Can you honestly say that you'd take the same position if the sexes were reversed? Marr Mar 2014 #150
what the heck does that mean? Whisp Mar 2014 #153
Really? You're going to pretend that question was difficult to understand? Marr Mar 2014 #155
If the sexes were reversed I would still want to know the missing part of the vid. Whisp Mar 2014 #167
I don't believe you. Marr Mar 2014 #174
and I don't believe a word you ever say either. Whisp Mar 2014 #176
The only thing I've said is that suggesting the victim of an assault might've deserved it is sick. Marr Mar 2014 #177
he could very well have hit her first, now That is what is sick to deny that Whisp Mar 2014 #185
The video contradicts her version of events. Marr Mar 2014 #201
okay, I get it now Whisp Mar 2014 #209
I can tell you're desperate to change the subject. Marr Mar 2014 #227
Why not admit that the President is sometimes right? Whisp Mar 2014 #230
You've gone from 'maybe the victim deserved to be hit' to 'leave Obama alone'. Marr Mar 2014 #237
I never said the victim deserved to be hit. Whisp Mar 2014 #238
Why are you ranting about Grayson's prospects as a presidential candidate? Marr Mar 2014 #245
The billion dollar question. Thank you for asking it. Bonobo Mar 2014 #281
Because it doesn't show the part where he deserved it? lumberjack_jeff Mar 2014 #198
WTF? blackspade Mar 2014 #59
I don't think it happened; I didn't see it, either. cyberswede Mar 2014 #65
Alan! AzDar Mar 2014 #78
Who had him "tried and convicted?" MADem Mar 2014 #81
If you're accused, you're guilty bluestateguy Mar 2014 #82
Would you like to point out who "these people here" are as you find them guilty seabeyond Mar 2014 #83
Who knows? Well, we know at this point that she can be violent Warpy Mar 2014 #90
Where is the initial thread? Hissyspit Mar 2014 #93
Here. Ikonoklast Mar 2014 #143
Thnx! Hissyspit Mar 2014 #193
Thank you. eom. Raine1967 Mar 2014 #206
"Guilty until proven innocent" is the way the internet works today. Vashta Nerada Mar 2014 #100
And, if the narrative is juicy enough... regnaD kciN Mar 2014 #307
Which DUers tried and convicted him? BainsBane Mar 2014 #102
Did you even watch the video? LisaL Mar 2014 #109
I just did BainsBane Mar 2014 #125
Oh for crying out loud. Google is your friend. LisaL Mar 2014 #129
WTF does that have to do with the video? BainsBane Mar 2014 #132
Oh for crying out loud. LisaL Mar 2014 #152
It doesn't come up in a google search BainsBane Mar 2014 #165
She is the one who called 911 and claimed she was assaulted. LisaL Mar 2014 #166
It doesn't bother you at all about what may have been happening Whisp Mar 2014 #131
he has not been cleared?? grasswire Mar 2014 #139
The charges of domestic assault filed with the court. BainsBane Mar 2014 #142
the bedrock principle of our system of justice... grasswire Mar 2014 #304
Of course BainsBane Mar 2014 #305
Now that I'm watched that video, I'm really pissed off BainsBane Mar 2014 #140
seeing that looped over and over was a shocker Whisp Mar 2014 #146
Anyone can see it's a loop BainsBane Mar 2014 #148
Then go look at the video that is not a loop. LisaL Mar 2014 #156
link? BainsBane Mar 2014 #158
There are four seconds unseen Nevernose Mar 2014 #159
Four seconds unseen? BainsBane Mar 2014 #162
She walks from the car to the house Nevernose Mar 2014 #170
why would he have to put the bag down? Whisp Mar 2014 #172
It means that she's guilty of domestic violence Nevernose Mar 2014 #178
No it doesn't because we do not see the whole scenario. Whisp Mar 2014 #187
iirc there was no camera pan.... pan from the red van to the front steps. Whisp Mar 2014 #179
I was going to say. We don't even know how many seconds are missing. kcr Mar 2014 #192
How in the world did you come up with '4 seconds' missing? n/t Whisp Mar 2014 #197
From the timer at the bottom Nevernose Mar 2014 #199
I see no timer at the bottom... Whisp Mar 2014 #203
This is what I was looking at Nevernose Mar 2014 #211
Did you hear the part Andy823 Mar 2014 #216
It was said the sound wasn't on the recording because of law Whisp Mar 2014 #224
Re: The Bruises - The link downthread says Lolita takes Taekwondo. I took it in college and I stevenleser Mar 2014 #221
So you know for a fact that video covers the entire incident? idendoit Mar 2014 #141
Heh. I saw NONE of that going on, but it fits the narrative so go for it, buddy! Sheldon Cooper Mar 2014 #144
Well shit, Sheldon, if YOU didn't see it, then clearly it didn't happen. 11 Bravo Mar 2014 #183
Sheldon is right because he posts snarky photoshopped gag pix. closeupready Mar 2014 #240
Here is the video some are claiming exonerates Grayson BainsBane Mar 2014 #157
If you don't like loops, WTF are you looking at this particular one? LisaL Mar 2014 #161
It's the only one I know BainsBane Mar 2014 #163
There is no loop here. LisaL Mar 2014 #164
Indeed. and it shows a single push BainsBane Mar 2014 #168
You do realize that mose likely it was Orlando Sentinel who put the video on the loop? LisaL Mar 2014 #169
I have no idea BainsBane Mar 2014 #175
That video does not prove anything. 840high Mar 2014 #160
It proves that her version of events was not factual, and that she's guilty of domestic violence. Marr Mar 2014 #182
I didn't get that 840high Mar 2014 #250
Thanks. Lolita Grayson Appears to be a Liar BodieTown Mar 2014 #171
But run from this man, Democrats! Run, run away. The Republicans will be grateful as always. maddiemom Mar 2014 #173
You totally don't get it at all, do you. MannyGoldstein Mar 2014 #180
Don't hold your breath 11Bravo malaise Mar 2014 #184
After reading the thread I would say that the OP is correct, no apologies forthcoming Fumesucker Mar 2014 #188
Perhaps now, Alan Grayson will think twice before accusing an opponent of "beating his wife" cpwm17 Mar 2014 #200
I'm ready for him to get lost, and you should be too. ScreamingMeemie Mar 2014 #204
I'm not a big fan of Alan Grayson cpwm17 Mar 2014 #214
Thank you for listening. For months I have been posting this in the face of "Alan can do no ScreamingMeemie Mar 2014 #218
DUers should not be taunted for being wrong treestar Mar 2014 #212
Well said. I would like to see that good advice applied all around. nt Bonobo Mar 2014 #239
except i would like to know what thread the duers were doing as bravo suggested. seabeyond Mar 2014 #252
Why not? And if even ... TreasonousBastard Mar 2014 #286
It just adds to the animosity treestar Mar 2014 #347
I agree that such an OP is largely useless, since it... TreasonousBastard Mar 2014 #350
OP provided them a period lasting until the end of time to prove him wrong. JVS Mar 2014 #315
Not automatically assuming guilty until proven innocent would help cool down some of the great Hissyspit Mar 2014 #321
Poor guy. What a mess. merrily Mar 2014 #242
we saw a select portion of video, sans sound. i'll reserve judgement until the matter is settled. dionysus Mar 2014 #272
Agreed. Bobbie Jo Mar 2014 #290
I predict... regnaD kciN Mar 2014 #306
I think you're right nt steve2470 Mar 2014 #314
Well it looks like Progressivism and Liberalism have been discredited and dishonored for ALL TIME nikto Mar 2014 #324
This place has been infiltrated with trolls The Wizard Mar 2014 #338
Her story didn't pass the smell test MynameisBlarney Mar 2014 #340
I don't see how anyone can know what all happened based on that tiny bit of video gollygee Mar 2014 #342
It would have helped if everyone advancing a theory made disclaimers to that effect, i.e. its a stevenleser Mar 2014 #343
It appears some view it as absolute evidence kcr Mar 2014 #355
I had not heard of the video. I am glad there is one. dotymed Mar 2014 #345
My son was falsely accused by an insane woman a few years ago... jimlup Mar 2014 #351
I rarely look at Greatest Threads page and to find 2nd to top one is bashing DUers is a reason why uppityperson Mar 2014 #356
K&R! Omaha Steve Mar 2014 #360
So the contingent was all set with tar and feathers, and Waiting For Everyman Mar 2014 #363

ScreamingMeemie

(68,918 posts)
1. That's not my issue with Mr. Grayson because that is his personal life.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 04:45 PM
Mar 2014

My issue with Mr. Grayson is and always will be his "follow the money" support of SeaWorld. Sorry.

ScreamingMeemie

(68,918 posts)
124. Nope, that's not the one.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 07:03 PM
Mar 2014

But you're getting close. Since you didn't ask nicely, I've used it to respond to someone else who thinks that Grayson is a progressive politician. What irritates me is that so many otherwise intelligent people here (myself included for a long time) got sucked into it.

Isoldeblue

(1,135 posts)
293. Not when it comes to women.
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 01:36 AM
Mar 2014

I've watched him talk down to them and sneer at their opinion if it's different than his. He uses intimidation to appear like he's the one who knows better than anyone else.

thesquanderer

(11,990 posts)
310. I don't think it's a women thing.
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 03:00 AM
Mar 2014

re: "I've watched him talk down to them and sneer at their opinion if it's different than his."

He behaves the same way toward men, no?

Isoldeblue

(1,135 posts)
313. True, sometimes.
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 03:05 AM
Mar 2014

But in my experience, I've seen him try to intimidate women in a different way, than he would with a man. And I am not alone in that opinion of him. But I thought that before I read and heard anyone else saying the same.

ScreamingMeemie

(68,918 posts)
231. I've posted it about eleventy-dozen times in the last 2.5 years. Because it does not fit with the
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 10:15 PM
Mar 2014

image people would like to project of Mr. In-it-for-himself-Grayson as being a liberal, those people ignore that. The poster could have asked nicely, instead of using the snide comment, and I would have gladly posted it. He/she did not, so I didn't. Respect is earned. Thank you.

X_Digger

(18,585 posts)
270. Jury Results:
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 12:16 AM
Mar 2014

On Wed Mar 5, 2014, 10:06 PM an alert was sent on the following post:

I've posted it about eleventy-dozen times in the last 2.5 years. Because it does not fit with the
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=4613708

REASON FOR ALERT

This post is disruptive, hurtful, rude, insensitive, over-the-top, or otherwise inappropriate.

ALERTER'S COMMENTS

No comments added by alerter

You served on a randomly-selected Jury of DU members which reviewed this post. The review was completed at Wed Mar 5, 2014, 10:13 PM, and the Jury voted 1-5 to LEAVE IT.

Juror #1 voted to HIDE IT
Explanation: No explanation given
Juror #2 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: No explanation given
Juror #3 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: Oh, come on . . .
Juror #4 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: Hmm. Huh?
Juror #5 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: No explanation given
Juror #6 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: Oh for fuck's sake. I hope this alert fails 6-0 so that the idiot who hit alert gets a time out from alerting.


(I voted leave, btw.)

Dark n Stormy Knight

(9,760 posts)
319. Well, I wish you would have posted a link to what you're talking about, regardless of
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 03:53 AM
Mar 2014

who asks how. Some of us can't spend so much time here that we have seen everything everyone posted however many times. But, I can't believe someone alerted on your post! Glad to see the jury was almost unanimously right this time.

rgbecker

(4,832 posts)
339. For God's sake....Don't tell us, Please.
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 09:35 AM
Mar 2014

I lost a lot of sleep wondering about this.

I'm guessing this is something more than naming a penguin "Greyson".

How about multiple choice? Can you give us at least a hint?

Does is start with an r...maybe rape?

How about f....financial indiscretions?

C? Child abuse?

D? Dino...actually favors retaining low minimum wage?


merrily

(45,251 posts)
309. Not with respect to Grayson, just as to politicians in general:
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 02:58 AM
Mar 2014

I think we should consider both personal and public life, especially when a candidate is running for the first time.

I don't think a person with bad personal morals/ethics in his or personal life is suddenly going to have great ones only in public life, where, usually, more power and bigger bucks are involved than in personal life.

On the other hand, even a moral/ethical person in private life can get corrupted after he or she gets into office and the money and power people come a-courting. Still, good morals and ethics in private life would be a point in his or favor, IMO.

 

rhett o rick

(55,981 posts)
2. The Conservative DINO's among us hate Grayson and will be glad when Karl Rove shuts him
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 04:57 PM
Mar 2014

down. It seems that all of the outspoken Democrats get "caught" doing something wrong (or their wives). That or killed. Sadly the DINO's among us look the other way.

sabrina 1

(62,325 posts)
10. I wonder why a Progressive Democrat's divorce issues are so public, and distorted it appears when
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 05:11 PM
Mar 2014

we rarely hear any details about those who are careful never to speak out against Wall St?

The Third Way doesn't look the other way, they participate in any smear campaign against a Progressive Democrat.

And they never need proof. They count on getting the smears out fast, hoping that even if they are proven to be false, some of the mud will stick.

 

rhett o rick

(55,981 posts)
26. "The Third Way doesn't look the other way" I stand corrected. Remember when John Conyers was
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 05:22 PM
Mar 2014

outspoken? Dennis Kucinich? Gov Seigelman? Eliot Spitzer Weiner Wellstone now Grayson.

I hope Sen Warren doesnt have any skeletons in her closet, because I bet the NSA is looking.

sabrina 1

(62,325 posts)
106. Yes, and people are certainly beginning to notice. If this is how the game is played,
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 06:50 PM
Mar 2014

then we need some strategy. Instead of abandoning the targets of these smear campaigns, we should do what Republicans do, rally around them and reelect them IF their policies are the ones we support and they have a record of fighting for.

I don't want to know about anyone's personal divorces, don't even want to know about my friends' and neighbors' personal lives. Divorces especially where there are children, are no way to judge people, they are nasty even when the people themselves are not normally nasty.

I support Grayson based on the work he has done for the PEOPLE.

ScreamingMeemie

(68,918 posts)
115. Bingo, which is exactly why I don't support Grayson and have withdrawn support.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 06:56 PM
Mar 2014

With his stance on Sea World, he proved he's just another politician in it for himself and the $. Of course there will be crickets to this because there always is... because it doesn't fit the profile that so many want to paint of him as a true progressive.

That said, I have no idea what happened with his personal life and it should be left alone.


http://articles.orlandosentinel.com/2010-08-19/business/os-seaworld-osha-grayson-20100819_1_dawn-brancheau-killer-whale-performances-marine-parks-and-aquariums

GoneFishin

(5,217 posts)
253. So where's the quid pro quo? Where's the 90K in the freezer? The kickback or whatever
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 11:20 PM
Mar 2014

it is that you are alleging?

If that is what you are condemning him on, my assumption is that you just don't like him for some other reason. Too feisty or whatever.

ScreamingMeemie

(68,918 posts)
257. Nope. I support progressives, not those who pander to corps. Sorry.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 11:27 PM
Mar 2014

That's not a liberal. That "say the right thing for the money." Of course, if he were Republican... but he sports a D so of course pandering to corporations over people is okay. We're better than that. We can find better than a man who's in it for himself. The D doesn't, and never will, make it okay.

 

greiner3

(5,214 posts)
273. So there's Grayson;
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 12:21 AM
Mar 2014

And Boxer and Feinstein and Nelson FL and Bob Casey PA and Susan Davis and others but I got tired looking up the names and political parties.

1,000, $2,500 or $5,000 contribution to each and Alan only got the middle amount.

So Alan will get millions in contributions and what does this paltry amount mean to you.

ScreamingMeemie

(68,918 posts)
279. What does Alan Grayson being willing to bring the whole of the Humane Society down upon
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 12:25 AM
Mar 2014

his head say to you?

Sorry, but he had no reason to do this other than personal. I'm betting he got a heck of a lot more than those donations. Sorry, I don't trust the guy and he's definitely not the progressive that some would like to see him proclaimed. Warts. They all have them. We need to stop sticking them up on pedestals.

Live and Learn

(12,769 posts)
322. Perhaps like many of us, Grayson grew up
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 04:29 AM
Mar 2014

with fond memories of Sea World. There are two sides to the Sea World story and although I have mixed feelings about it, one cannot deny that without its existence and influence most of us would be without knowledge of how beautiful and intelligent these creatures are. The same applies to zoos.

The exact same forums we now question (or abhor, in some cases) were the ones that ignited are love of animals. Sea World has been the inspiration for many of the sea life protection regulations that have been installed.

Perhaps, working with these agencies to further protections instead of completely demonizing them would be a better solution.



newthinking

(3,982 posts)
323. I think it is better to judge this issue alongside the rest of his record
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 04:35 AM
Mar 2014

Last edited Tue Mar 25, 2014, 03:20 PM - Edit history (1)

Because this is not a pattern and the vast majority of his positions are for the people, in terms of logic it tends to argue that this is really about him really believing what he says, not for the money.

I do recognize that Parks like this are a necessary evil. If it was not for water parks the general public would be much more ignorant and not as supportive of conservation efforts for these mammals in general.

We don't know what conversation occurred. Likely he was just getting information, which he has a right to do as a representative. Again, I think you can look at the record as a whole to help determine what is likely.

William Seger

(10,779 posts)
334. Sea World employs 6000 people and attracts 8 million tourists to the area?
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 06:42 AM
Mar 2014

Seems to me Grayson could be justified in honestly believing that they are an asset to the people he represents.

I firmly believe that regulating corporations is absolutely necessary and that they should be punished for their transgressions, but you have certainly not made the case that Grayson sold out to an Evil Corporation for $2500.

 

VanillaRhapsody

(21,115 posts)
266. So who would that be other than Warren and Sanders....
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 11:58 PM
Mar 2014

cause you cannot really run a country with just two "Liberals" that you get to decide are "Liberal" enough for everyone else to support.

ScreamingMeemie

(68,918 posts)
269. My comments are in response to those who believe that Grayson is some maverick progressive.
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 12:09 AM
Mar 2014

He is not. He is just like the rest.

You will not see me banging the drum for any of our current politicians too often because they all have warts. It behooves us to realize that.

 

VanillaRhapsody

(21,115 posts)
271. and my response is a response to that....
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 12:16 AM
Mar 2014

a legitimate question WHO does meet your "expectations" Are there enough to run the country? If not...THAT could really be a problem huh?

ScreamingMeemie

(68,918 posts)
274. Read over my posting history of the past 11-ish years, if you care to. The only person
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 12:21 AM
Mar 2014

who meets my "expectations" is myself. However, I am raising a child and cannot run. But I will, most definitely not turn our politicians into political superheroes as so many tend to do. I vote D even when I don't find them to be progressive. Mr. Grayson is far from a firebrand. I am campaigning for Wendy Davis here in Texas because she is what we have. I abhor her stance on gun control, but... I'm not running. I will, however, hold her feet to the fire if she is elected. It's what we're supposed to do instead of crowning them on high over all. I have always and will always be that way. Bringing reality to the discussion as it were.

I hope that answers your question.

ScreamingMeemie

(68,918 posts)
282. ...She's not liberal. It's just Grayson is so very not liberal.
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 12:31 AM
Mar 2014

He is off. Sorry. I know a lot of you don't like it because you really like him for some reason. I will never get it. His ACA comments were grandstanding that hurt over helping.

ScreamingMeemie

(68,918 posts)
285. I've been extremely clear and concise with facts
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 12:41 AM
Mar 2014

and links. It comes down to this: don't turn people into more than they are. I don't defend the indefensible. I made the mistake of attempting to defend Edwards even though his son of a mill worker post was pure pablum BS. How wrong I was. Mr. Grayson is cut from that cloth in my opinion, and he proves it all the time.

 

VanillaRhapsody

(21,115 posts)
287. The so-called facts are not the issue....
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 12:47 AM
Mar 2014

but the conclusions you are drawing from them that I find fascinating...

quakerboy

(13,920 posts)
308. Im confused.
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 02:58 AM
Mar 2014

It sounds to me like you are asserting that any politician who ever has any interaction with a corporation in any context other than expressing the opinion that "corporations, each and every one, are evil bad" is now a panderer and not progressive. You didnt use those words, but It seems to be the implication. Maybe you could express it in your own words?

I'm confused about what exactly he did wrong there, as well. Did he take a bribe? Was he bought with corporate donations? Is there any indication that he actually used undue pressure to do anything? Would that be in character with the pattern of behavior he has exhibited in other instances?

LiberalAndProud

(12,799 posts)
261. On this one issue you disagree with him, so he's good for nothing?
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 11:34 PM
Mar 2014

Although I don't agree with his intervention in the Sea World probe, I don't think I'll be throwing him under the bus just yet. In his mind, he was protecting hundreds of Florida jobs. Sure it was wrong-headed. Who is the politician who agrees with me 100% of the time?

Here is the list:

ScreamingMeemie

(68,918 posts)
263. Sorry, but that decision was horrific.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 11:36 PM
Mar 2014

His ACA comments on the floor hurt, not helped, the cause. He with his theatrics, an absolute zero. I will support the real people, doing the real things. It was not necessary for him to even be involved. That's a HUGE red flag.

You go on with supporting a DINO though. Sorry, but that was beyond the pale, and no, it can't be swept under the rug.

dreamnightwind

(4,775 posts)
364. He intervenes on behalf of a 6,000 job employer in his area
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 08:52 PM
Mar 2014

and, gasp, has received $3,500 from SeaWorld, so he's a DINO? That's a lot of fail.

The SeaWorld issue is fair game, I'm glad you bring it to people's attention.

Perspective is important. I've watched Grayson go hard against very powerful interests, consistently. He's one of the very best we have, as far as I can tell.

pscot

(21,024 posts)
278. Spitzer and Weiner committed suicide
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 12:25 AM
Mar 2014

Kucinich is drawing a psycheck from Roger Ailes. Just sayin'.

merrily

(45,251 posts)
301. Didn't Spitzer go to work on TV, too?
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 02:21 AM
Mar 2014

I realize it was not a check from Roger Ailes, but it not starving, either.

If I were more at ease speaking publicly, I would take gladly take a check to present leftist views on Fox. If Kucinich were spewing rw bullshit on Fox, that would be a valid criticism.


merrily

(45,251 posts)
316. Rangel, Waters,
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 03:12 AM
Mar 2014

and Massa, but I am not sure there was a choice as to Massa and Weiner, both of whom let things spill over (as it were) to Congress, Massa with his employees and Weiner instagramming from the Congressional gym.

Still, when Pelosi promised to "drain the swamp" as she took the Speaker's gavel in 2007, I foolishly assumed that she meant Republicans. The only Republican I can recall being targeted was Ensign and that was so public, there was hardly a choice.

No doubt, there were reasons to go after some of the Democrats, but I have a feeling equally or more compelling reasons exist for almost everyone who was in the House then.

LiberalLovinLug

(14,174 posts)
358. add to that
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 04:20 PM
Mar 2014

Howard Dean
Van Jones
Cynthia McKinney

You can be sure the NSA and the DLC is scouring the closets of Warren as well as Wendy Davis.

And then you'll find the same lost children in here lambasting them for their horrible domestic indiscretions.

 

rhett o rick

(55,981 posts)
361. "There are no conspiracies, there are no conspiracies, there are no...."
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 05:22 PM
Mar 2014

"We live in a Democracy, we live in a Democracy, we live....."

"I am free as long as I get to vote, I am free as long as I get to......"

Please pass the Cool-Aid. I prefer cherry.

REP

(21,691 posts)
94. Remember Jack Ryan's (R - Goldman Sachs) divorce?
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 06:42 PM
Mar 2014

He was a Republican and had worked at Goldman Sachs as an investment banker and partner. Remember the allegations Jeri Ryan made against him that were made very public?

 

Aerows

(39,961 posts)
147. That was going to be made very public regardless
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 07:38 PM
Mar 2014

because at the time his wife was fairly high profile as an actress.

ReRe

(10,597 posts)
312. It comes natural to them.
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 03:03 AM
Mar 2014

Because it's what they are. They can't help themselves. If you think about it for a minute, what is it that they have in common with Democrats? It's the knee-jerk phenomenon. We use facts when we jerk, they sling mud when they jerk. Seriously, it's the perfect litmus test in recognizing who you're dealing with.

ScreamingMeemie

(68,918 posts)
25. Mr. Grayson took a rather conservative stance
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 05:21 PM
Mar 2014

with regard to Sea World. I haven't thought of him as a liberal since then, soooo....

madinmaryland

(64,933 posts)
181. I wasn't aware of the Sea World thing, but what bothers me
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 08:35 PM
Mar 2014

is the way he posts on DU. He posts something, asks for money, and then disappears. I'd love to engage him in discussion as I am sure other DUer's would, also. Elizabeth Edwards discussed things here over the years on occasion.

ScreamingMeemie

(68,918 posts)
186. I remember how exciting it was when Elizabeth first logged in and Skinner vetted her.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 08:41 PM
Mar 2014

The alerts we received from people that night accusing someone of using her name to post were hilarious.

I was a member of his fb page, donated money, and then actually delved into what he stands for and there are so many other bright and shining stars who are more worthy of my money and time. I really believe he's in it for himself. And himself, alone.

Isoldeblue

(1,135 posts)
138. Everything with you seems to be
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 07:27 PM
Mar 2014

in only black and white; no gray areas or compromise. If someone doesn't care for Grayson, then they are automatically no good and not a true dem. That's way too rigid.
I don't care for Grayson for my own personal reasons. Does that make me a DINO? But I'd vote for Warren and Sanders in a heartbeat over HRC.

I support our pres, but not in everything, but still get accused by some like you, in being an apologist.

When and if I ever read you offering any constructive alternative solutions and THE MEANS to accomplish them, then and only then will you have any credibility with me.

 

rhett o rick

(55,981 posts)
149. A little twisty. I didnt say all those that didnt like Grayson were DINO's as you suggest.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 07:44 PM
Mar 2014

I said the DINO's hate Grayson and other outspoken Democrats on the left. And for the record, I have never called you an "apologist".

Sometimes there is no easy answer but hell if I am going to accept policies that further harm the 99%.

Some would say that we need to be pragmatic and accept the 50 lashes because it's better than 100. I say crap with that and intend to scream bloody murder in either case.



 

rhett o rick

(55,981 posts)
297. LOL, of course not. They just dont care if he lives. I would guess that all of the BOG
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 01:54 AM
Mar 2014

wouldnt throw him a line if he was drowning. But they dont hate him.

Isoldeblue

(1,135 posts)
311. Why does it have to be either, or?
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 03:00 AM
Mar 2014

I may not care enough to vote for him if I could. But I would throw him a line if he were drowning.

Actually, I can't hardly think of anyone I wouldn't do that for. No matter who they are.

I don't have to hate someone, if I disagree with them. I may not like them much, but it takes a lot for most good people to hate as you're describing.

Especially people in the BOG. You won't find much hate there.
You're probably banned from there though, aren't you?

cui bono

(19,926 posts)
318. There are some on here who hate him, seemingly just because he speaks out and is progressive.
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 03:51 AM
Mar 2014

Especially people in the BOG. You must not know the BOG well if you think there is no hate there or coming from its members. I mean, there may not be any hate in the BOG as it is just one big lovefest for Obama, but there is hate there, they just ban those who say things they hate, doesn't mean there isn't hate from the BOGgers though. There was a thread posted by Grayson and BOGgers were ridiculing him immediately in it. Very rude. Most of the posts on DU that ridicule people without discussing policy at all are from BOGgers.

I don't know why you are after Rhett on this thread, but it is unwarranted, as is your defense of the BOG.

Isoldeblue

(1,135 posts)
325. Well, we disagree. So be it.
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 04:43 AM
Mar 2014

But Rhett is a big boy. I think he can take care of himself. Only two posts are far from being unwarranted. I had a problem with his broad-brush, rigid announcements. He mentioned the BOG, so I wanted to say something about it.

You have a problem with my liking the BOG, so you posted to me. Not much difference there, that I can see.

And my defense of the BOG is quite warranted as I have a number of friends there and I am a member. So please do not deign to tell me that I not familiar with it. The rudeness and immaturity displayed in GD is outrageous at times. The BOG is a place of peace and respect for our POTUS for me and for it's members.

That's why there's vanilla, chocolate and strawberry, ya know?

treestar

(82,383 posts)
332. Why would a Bogger even oppose him?
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 05:50 AM
Mar 2014

Maybe he was saying something about Obama that the Boggers didn't like? Do you expect Boggers to do other than disagree in that case, and why does that have to mean they "hate" him?

What is it with the victim thing? Grayson even lost his seat. Is that because the voters hate him?

 

rhett o rick

(55,981 posts)
353. Please dont twist my words. I never claimed his life was threatened.
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 02:21 PM
Mar 2014

There is a huge difference in wanting someone dead and not caring if they live.

Besides when I said, "They just dont care if he lives." I was speaking metaphorically related to his political life.

The DINO's here continue to speak badly of liberal, lefties, "the extremists on the left", etc. But if we continue this conservative course that the corporate Democrats and Republicans have us on, the lower classes will be crushed. The conservatives say dont worry, stay the course as more and more people slip into poverty.

How bad does it have to get before the conservatives, including DINO's, wake up and smell the plutocracy?

Zorra

(27,670 posts)
246. It's that nasty little "Stop The Left" neoliberal Third Way agenda.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 10:45 PM
Mar 2014

Ugly stuff for a progressive board.

dionysus

(26,467 posts)
276. he's a good rhetoric man (no pun intended), like dennis was, who doesn't wield much power.
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 12:23 AM
Mar 2014

there isn't some grand conspiracy to "silence him"...

he gives plenty of red meat to the base and says the right things, but is largely inconsequential in the grand scheme of things.

that and he has his staffer post annoying hit and run OPs soliciting money all the damned time.

 

geek tragedy

(68,868 posts)
4. You seem very angry at people who don't really exist
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 05:01 PM
Mar 2014

Who are these people who so victimized Grayson supporters over this incident? I have seen none of that.

Also note that the video doesn't show the beginning of the incident. Which is kind of important for people who pay attention to stuff like facts, because the estranged wife admitted striking him--she said it was in retalitation and that he hit first.

So, the video does not PROVE HIS INNOCENCE ZOMG. Rather, it's one piece of evidence in an unresolved case, about which we do not know who is telling the truth.

yuiyoshida

(41,832 posts)
9. So what you are saying is...
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 05:09 PM
Mar 2014

He put down the bag, SHOVED her down.. picked up the bag just in time for the video showing her putting in a right hook, while he still has a bag, and is backing away ?


Right..he's guilty as sin.

 

geek tragedy

(68,868 posts)
11. what I am saying is that the time frame that is most under dispute is not shown
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 05:11 PM
Mar 2014

in the video.

I am not rushing to judgment. I do not know who is telling the truth.

yuiyoshida

(41,832 posts)
15. WELL she said she was shoved...
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 05:14 PM
Mar 2014

When exactly was that? Did he use his feet, cause he had that bag in his hand. Not sure what was in it? Groceries maybe? In any CASE...it does not appear she told the truth regarding being pushed down and bruised up. How do you do that with a bag in your hand.. oh unless he brought the bag as weight, so he could line back her down using a shoulder... hmm.. I think SOMEBODY is lying, don't you?

 

geek tragedy

(68,868 posts)
19. all valid questions. As far as people lying, I recommend you see
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 05:18 PM
Mar 2014

the film Rashomon.

The tape is evidence, but it is not conclusive.

You may be right. That's why there are court proceedings.

 

snooper2

(30,151 posts)
37. I know, but this is DU
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 05:35 PM
Mar 2014

and I see nipples!

And it's reminding me that I really need to start working out again.

No people look that good in real life!, or, could I?

Warren DeMontague

(80,708 posts)
111. Clean livin'
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 06:52 PM
Mar 2014

You gotta hand it to the guy. He's come quite a ways since he used to turn up in random living rooms all over Santa Monica.

Warren DeMontague

(80,708 posts)
248. Bigfoot Porn, Again?
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 10:50 PM
Mar 2014


Another in a long line of front burner absolutely super important issues that must be addressed absofuckinglutely immedigoddamnately, the speciesist exploitation and sexumological objectifimazication of our nation's oppressed bigfeet.

kcr

(15,317 posts)
35. Was the bag surgically attached to his hand?
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 05:33 PM
Mar 2014

I find it odd that he decided to show up at the home with video in tow like that. What were the motivations there? To show up unannounced knowing it will cause a scene, and provoke her into a response to get it on video so he can then say "See, it's her!" At any rate, sure not jumping on the "See, it's proof" bandwagon.

yuiyoshida

(41,832 posts)
38. When one carries a bag like that...
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 05:35 PM
Mar 2014

Its usually a bag of groceries. IF so was the food for her?? For the kids? Or maybe he had an old pair of her shoes to return...(or throw at her in the middle eastern fashion. Kidding.)

kcr

(15,317 posts)
41. It might have been the mail he had come to collect
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 05:38 PM
Mar 2014

That was apparently his stated reason for being there.

yuiyoshida

(41,832 posts)
44. IT would HAVE been a whole lot better if it had
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 05:41 PM
Mar 2014

Been Papa John's Pizza... at least we would have known his motive!!

Isoldeblue

(1,135 posts)
145. I wouldn't put that scenerio past him.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 07:36 PM
Mar 2014

He is an opportunist and an egotistical hot dog. I am not convinced of his sincerity. I've seen him act out in ways towards women, that were completely wrong.

Ikonoklast

(23,973 posts)
260. " I've seen him act out in ways towards women, that were completely wrong."
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 11:34 PM
Mar 2014

That's not an opinion, you stated that as a fact.

Where and when did you witness this behavior?

Isoldeblue

(1,135 posts)
265. For one, with Karen Finney on the Lawrence O'Donnell show.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 11:47 PM
Mar 2014

I don't have a link or video. It was about 6-7 months ago.
He cut her off a number of times and spoke down to her in a way that made me cringe. He was rude, condescending and completely disrespectful.

Even O'Donnell cringed and say something to him about it, w/a whoa...

It's ok to have a disagreement, but do with with courteous consideration. He doesn't. I've observed this behavior from him a few times. Especially with women.

Because of my upbringing, it's taken me awhile to recognize when a man is acting in a misogynistic way around women. And I see it in him and I am not the only woman who finds him offensive.

Isoldeblue

(1,135 posts)
302. No, it was definitely on
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 02:23 AM
Mar 2014

the Lawrence O'Donnell show. But it was during the same time of the Syria crisis. He was being a pussy-cat here. I wonder if this was before or after the LOD show.... It was not pretty....

But thanks for looking it up.

 

HangOnKids

(4,291 posts)
291. Of course your opinion is your option but this statement is not an opinion it is stated as a fact
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 01:29 AM
Mar 2014

" I've seen him act out in ways towards women, that were completely wrong." You state that you have seen him acting towards women that were wrong. When and where did you see this?

Isoldeblue

(1,135 posts)
292. I already answered that here.
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 01:32 AM
Mar 2014

But when someone demands I do something like you did, I don't respond to it.

 

HangOnKids

(4,291 posts)
294. You didn't answer shit
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 01:36 AM
Mar 2014

You made a bold claim and have no evidence to back it up. Boo Hoo you got called out and can't back it up. Trite and boring.

Isoldeblue

(1,135 posts)
295. Either you're too
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 01:42 AM
Mar 2014

lazy to read down thru here or you just enjoy being miserable, rude and contentious. I'd say the latter.

Didn't anyone tell you that you get more flies with honey, than vinegar?

Here - Just for you:
Isoldeblue (1,110 posts)
265. For one, with Karen Finney on the Lawrence O'Donnell show.

I don't have a link or video. It was about 6-7 months ago.
He cut her off a number of times and spoke down to her in a way that made me cringe. He was rude, condescending and completely disrespectful.

Even O'Donnell cringed and say something to him about it, w/a whoa...

It's ok to have a disagreement, but do with with courteous consideration. He doesn't. I've observed this behavior from him a few times. Especially with women.

Because of my upbringing, it's taken me awhile to recognize when a man is acting in a misogynistic way around women. And I see it in him and I am not the only woman who finds him offensive.

 

HangOnKids

(4,291 posts)
365. I'm not looking for flies dear
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 09:50 PM
Mar 2014

Exactly why I do not want to continue this conversation with you. Take care.

Isoldeblue

(1,135 posts)
367. You should take care
Fri Mar 7, 2014, 04:22 PM
Mar 2014

too, cupcake. One day you're going to cross the wrong person with that nasty attitude of yours. Good luck with that.

Nice examples of teaching your kids in being civil and courteous.

Btw, YOU, started the conversation and crap with me....

 

lumberjack_jeff

(33,224 posts)
195. Perhaps to get her behavior on film
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 09:02 PM
Mar 2014

Because, being a lawyer and all, he knew that during the divorce trial he'd be accused of exactly what she was doing.

The presumption in court, like DU, is that women never lie.

Prudent.

kcr

(15,317 posts)
196. Hmmm
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 09:06 PM
Mar 2014

Is that what a lawyer would advise? Tell victims to go to where their abuser is residing and get evidence of their client being abused? Is that a good idea for someone to do? Is this what lawyers do, because courts only rule in favor of women? Never for men? Really?

Or is this only in MRA fantasy land?

 

Whisp

(24,096 posts)
267. MRA fantasy land is women Always lie. And suck your soul out while at it.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 11:58 PM
Mar 2014

the bleating is harder to take on some days than others.

They lie about rape, abuse, lie lie lie.

the only thing they are good for is to lie down.

kcr

(15,317 posts)
289. Someone else is actually putting forth this ludicrous sting operation theory
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 12:56 AM
Mar 2014

He's such a domestic violence victim that he went there on purpose to get video evidence of it so he can prove it. And he got it. The janky shaky camera phone footage mostly consisting of a van that suddenly pans to her just as she shoves him. Busted!

MADem

(135,425 posts)
326. I am not accusing the guy of shoving anyone, let me make that clear.
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 04:59 AM
Mar 2014

But if I were in a shoving frame of mind, I, myself, lazy peacenik that I am, could EASILY do some shoving while holding on tight to a paper bag. It's not at all impossible. It's not even unlikely. No need to put down the bag and shove, then pick the bag up.

Humans were built with forearms and elbows for just this sort of thing!

One can shove and carry a paper bag at the same time! Even with the same arm!

yuiyoshida

(41,832 posts)
357. Right ..
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 03:36 PM
Mar 2014

Every football player probably knows this.. did he use a forearm shove? Likely but doubt able. I don't think He is prone to violence..but I don't know his past. One can talk big.. and never use the threat of violence. I guess the Video for now is in his favor.. maybe it was altered. Maybe it was staged..using someone else as a look alike. We just don't know.

Andy823

(11,495 posts)
16. Exactly!
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 05:14 PM
Mar 2014

The facts are important, and the fact is, for some reason the person who videoed things waited before pointing the phone at the house and what was going on. I can't understand how that "fact" is not being questioned more.

 

geek tragedy

(68,868 posts)
18. more to the point, there was no effort to attack or shame Grayson supporters
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 05:16 PM
Mar 2014

who failed to agree that he was guilty as charged.

The OP is inventing an offense over which to express outrage.

Let the fact-finding process run its course.

11 Bravo

(23,926 posts)
58. Horseshit. Some were accused of "victim-blaming" at a bare minimum.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 06:05 PM
Mar 2014

Multiple times. You will now deny that demonstrable fact again while hoping that no one else makes the effort to locate and read the thread. When that fails, you will say that it wasn't as big as deal as I made it out to be, even though all I said was, despite your claims to the contrary, it fucking happened.
You are currently in the initial stages of walking it back, yet you continue to claim that "there was no effort" to attack Grayson's defenders. That is patently false, but you will either continue to make that claim, or simply abandon the thread.

 

geek tragedy

(68,868 posts)
64. sigh. the objections to "victim-blaming" were not to people
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 06:14 PM
Mar 2014

questioning the versions of events, reserving judgment etc.

it was someone trotting out a traditional victim-blaming line of rhetoric--the old of "if she was being beaten, why didn't she leave?" nonsense.

That's a whole different kettle of fish from "let's not jump to conclusions."



 

Jim Lane

(11,175 posts)
366. Did you watch the video posted in #299?
Fri Mar 7, 2014, 03:39 AM
Mar 2014

The news reporter conveys Grayson's lawyer's statement that the first minute or so of the video was chopped off, before the release to the media, to protect the privacy of the Grayson children. Thus, your statement that the person making the video "waited before pointing the phone at the house" -- a statement that appears to be an assumption on your part -- is disputed by someone with direct personal knowledge.

That doesn't mean that Grayson's lawyer's statement must be taken as absolute truth. It does, however, lend some context to your dismay that what you see as a salient "fact" (which may well not even be a fact) isn't being questioned more.

Incidentally, the reporter adds that Grayson's wife, who also has personal knowledge of the facts, was asked to comment, but declined.

11 Bravo

(23,926 posts)
21. Riiiight, I imagined that thread. And NO, I won't bother to link to it because ...
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 05:19 PM
Mar 2014

it was fucking yesterday, it's on Page 2 right now, and you know damned well what I'm talking about. I've got better things to do with my time than argue with someone so intellectually dishonest.

OK, now that's your cue to come back with something along the lines of, "My, so angry" or some other such non-responsive tripe; all in the hope that it will distract from your flat-out lie that the posters I referenced "don't really exist".

Hint: The internet can be cruel. Unless you can PM them really quickly and beg them to self-delete their posts, you will remain exposed.

 

geek tragedy

(68,868 posts)
27. If that's the thread with about 76 responses right now, it is actually
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 05:26 PM
Mar 2014

very mild, far from the Coliseum-style persecution you portray in your OP

sabrina 1

(62,325 posts)
22. What is shows is her abusing him. Nothing else. That proves she is abusive. Unless it's not abusive
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 05:19 PM
Mar 2014

when a woman hits a man, which wouldn't surprise me one bit. I'm sure we'll see how he must have done something to cause her to behave that way. In fact we have seen that based on nothing so far.

Otoh, had the video shown him hitting her, nothing else would be needed, no statements like 'thevideo does not PROVE HER INNOCENCE ZOMG'.

I don't know why any of this is anyone's business but theirs. But then he is a Progressive Democrat who stands up against Wall St criminals and ANYONE who does that can expect smear campaigns them, see the proof regarding Greenwald, no denying that thankfully or we would be told it was a CT. Exposed bid on contract to smear a blogger who was talking about Wall St. Crime.

I would not be surprised to find out that Grayson was on such a list either.

I'm sure we'll be told how his personal life is important etc etc, although it hasn't been regarding others who coincidentally don't speak out against Wall St. In those cases it is always 'their own business'.



 

geek tragedy

(68,868 posts)
24. perhaps you missed the point that
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 05:21 PM
Mar 2014

the beginning of the incident is not captured on the video.

Ergo, we do not have video evidence regarding the whole story, including the most crucial part, the beginning, which is the most hotly contested.

Rep Grayson may very well be completely innocent in all of this.

Vinnie From Indy

(10,820 posts)
45. Why would Grayson bring
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 05:42 PM
Mar 2014

a witness to video any interaction that might take place and then assault his wife knowing that the person HE brought was filming it? I guess the videographer could have erased that part of the video. Maybe there was a plan where Grayson was going to shove his wife down then immediately grab a large bag he brought with him to show his hands were full and then give a signal to his associate to start filming from that point onward.

whopis01

(3,514 posts)
335. To me, it doesn't look like the video was planned
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 08:45 AM
Mar 2014

It looks like the filmer quickly pulled out their phone and attempted to film what was going on.

To me that says they were responding to something they saw happening and were not planning all along to document the whole interaction.

As for what happened earlier in the incident to prompt him to start filming, I have no idea. But there is clearly more going on than what was captured.

Vinnie From Indy

(10,820 posts)
348. Actually, bringing a witness to a situation like this is standard
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 11:01 AM
Mar 2014

advice from divorce attorneys. Grayson, being an attorney, probably brought the person filming for just this reason. I do not at all think the witness being there with a camera was a fluke or a random event.

whopis01

(3,514 posts)
352. If the person was brought specifically to film the event
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 02:07 PM
Mar 2014

then they did a rather poor job of filming it from what I saw in the video.

It looks like they don't being filming until the altercation is well underway and the video begins looking down under the dash and at his legs.

I don't doubt that Grayson brought a witness along on purpose - that seems plainly obvious to me. However, it does look to me like that witness didn't think about filming the event until it was already underway.

 

geek tragedy

(68,868 posts)
207. this is ironic--here you are attacking me for not rushing to conclusions
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 09:24 PM
Mar 2014

in a thread that claimed people who didn't rush to conclusions were being attacked.

there is a court system, let it sort this out.

Bonobo

(29,257 posts)
210. I can't watch the video here it seems.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 09:35 PM
Mar 2014

Maybe it is blocked in Japan.

But let me say this. First of all, as I see it, the thread is a response to people that already had convicted Grayson of abuse in their minds WITH NO EVIDENCE other than Lolita's word.

Now there IS evidence that one of them IS abusive. EVIDENCE.

And yet now you say there should be no rush to judgment. That is a joke. Did you say that when people were rushing to condemn Grayson with no evidence?

As for the video, if there was video of a man hitting is wife similarly, would you REALLY have a problem "rushing to the judgment" that he was a wife abuser? Really?

kcr

(15,317 posts)
235. Wait a minute. You haven't even seen the video
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 10:18 PM
Mar 2014

And yet you're making the determination that it is evidence that one of them is abusive. And you're talking about other people rushing to judgment?

Bonobo

(29,257 posts)
236. If you actually read my posts...
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 10:22 PM
Mar 2014

You will see that I have not "determined" anything and was up front about not seeing the video.

However, it is clear that descriptions show violence (punching or pushing at the least) from the wife, yes? I believe no one is disputing that.

My point is to say that in light of the fact that abuse IS shown being done by the wife, that the only conclusion that can be drawn is that there has been abuse by the wife. Whether or not you feel it is "justified" is besides the point.

If you saw a video of Grayson abusing his wife, would you similarly suggest that he may have been "justified" and therefore the video means nothing?

Answer? Umm, no. I doubt it.

kcr

(15,317 posts)
243. No, that isn't the only conclusion
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 10:39 PM
Mar 2014

For one thing, I don't justify abuse. But I wouldn't define what I saw on the video as abuse.

Isoldeblue

(1,135 posts)
298. Amazing, isn't it?
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 01:55 AM
Mar 2014

That some believe they possess divine knowledge without looking at any of the facts...
SMH

 

geek tragedy

(68,868 posts)
249. The OP greatly overstates the supposed lynch mob mentality.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 10:54 PM
Mar 2014

She admitted to kneeing him in the groin in her complaint, so was pretty clear this was not a clear case of husband beating up wife.

Art_from_Ark

(27,247 posts)
337. You can watch this video in Japan
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 08:53 AM
Mar 2014


It's interesting to note that the couple's 18-year-old daughter has released a statement supporting Alan Grayson's side of the story. It is mentioned at around 0:21 in the video, and the full statement is given at around 2:15.

sabrina 1

(62,325 posts)
223. No, I didn't miss it, nor do I presume to know anything but what I can see. You otoh, want me to
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 09:56 PM
Mar 2014

speculate. Okay then let's speculate, perhaps she was even more violent on the part we didn't see and as the father of both of their children, he didn't want to make that public""

How is that for speculation? That's the problem with speculation, isn't it? It means zero. Yours that he MUST have been violent towards her, mine that he was being decent and not showing her most violent attacks. None of it means anything.

 

geek tragedy

(68,868 posts)
241. You are falsely characterizing my statements.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 10:36 PM
Mar 2014

Nowhere did I come close to stating that he must have engaged in physical aggression. I have refrained from any speculation on this.

sabrina 1

(62,325 posts)
280. You stated that we don't know what was on the part of the tape we haven't seen. Why is that
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 12:27 AM
Mar 2014

relevant since we can only comment on what we saw?

treestar

(82,383 posts)
217. He's not going to end up in the hospital
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 09:44 PM
Mar 2014

She didn't injure him in some major way, so labeling her "abusive" is a bit much. Practically every spouse might well be "abusive" if everything counts.

sabrina 1

(62,325 posts)
232. But if he had done exactly the same thing he would be considered a monster. Thanks, that's what I
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 10:17 PM
Mar 2014

said already. It's okay for a woman to hit a man, not okay for a man to hit a woman. Here's what I think, it's not okay for anyone to hit anyone, whether they end up in the hospital or not. Equality under the law, that's what we women want, we do not want to be treated differently, as if we are a weaker sex. We are not, women commit murder and their, according to you, being the weaker sex does not stop them. Iow, they are as capable of putting someone in the hospital, or grave as any man.

I have no clue about the personal lives of these two people and neither do you. I know allegations, apparently false, were made against Grayson, now we see some evidence that he may be the victim after all. Did you defend him from allegations without proof btw?

Bottom line, divorce and custody battles can get nasty and no one knows the dynamics of anyone else's marriage. Perfectly rational people going through a divorce and custody battle, can and do become irrational, a sort of temporary insanity.

Once the divorce is final, all the issues settled, hopefully both of them can move on to more happy futures. They have six children I believe who will need both parents, and WE should just leave them alone.


sabrina 1

(62,325 posts)
344. So you ARE saying it's okay for a woman to hit a man. How do you feel about lying about men
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 10:29 AM
Mar 2014

hitting them then being exposed as the one who did the hitting? Are women so weak that when THEY lie about men, it isn't as important?

I must be weird, but I have the same standards of behavior for both men and women.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
346. NO, but the results count
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 10:56 AM
Mar 2014

In that video, he is not hurt at all. Little kids hit people, and they are taught not to, but they don't hurt anybody. And a woman is not always lying - a few may, thinking it will gain them advantage or to add to the drama, which many people in divorces do, but if it really happens then she could get hurt.

sabrina 1

(62,325 posts)
349. So if I punch someone, just because I'm a woman, I won't be arrested for assault?
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 11:03 AM
Mar 2014

Really? She assaulted him. Do the cops conduct a medical exam before arresting people who assault other people? I didn't know there was a gender exemption for women in cases of assault.

And how do you know he was not hurt? If this is an example of her behavior, what makes you think he has not been hurt, or feels threatened that he could be hurt?

 

stevenleser

(32,886 posts)
362. Anytime an adult hits another adult, there is the potential for severe injury and death.
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 05:48 PM
Mar 2014

You are right that the stronger a person is, the higher that chance is, but you always run the risk of creating a blood clot that travels or has pieces break off and travel to the heart or brain, and cause a heart attack or stroke, or various other freak injuries.

That is even more true when you have an adult hit another adult in the head like she did.

polly7

(20,582 posts)
222. I think I've told you of the broken bones, etc. I received while married,
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 09:53 PM
Mar 2014

I also saw the other side of it. Not with me ...... but on MANY occasions while working bar and watching women strike the man they were with, pour drinks in their faces and in one case, a woman actually slammed the heavy steel door on her own shoulder and screamed at us to call the cops for her boyfriend 'beating her up'. I guess she was too drunk to know we'd seen it and basically just said 'go home, you're drunk.' Her boyfriend had left minutes earlier with friends and wasn't around for the screaming ... I'm pretty sure she was sore the next morning. It absolutely goes both ways and it's horrible it happens at all. I don't know Grayson, being from Canada and not really following your politicians there ..... but I hope his career, if he's innocent (which it seems might be likely) isn't ruined by this.

sabrina 1

(62,325 posts)
226. Polly, you are one of the most honest, ethical people on DU and your opinion
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 10:08 PM
Mar 2014

is one I respect more than most here. I am truly sorry for what you went through, I cannot imagine the pain, both physical and emotional, and yet you have always maintained your sense of fairness and desire to know the facts before reacting.

Grayson is one of our most Progressive Democrats and most outspoken against Wall St Corruption. He has always been a target of those who want to protect Wall St corruption from exposure.

He and his wife have a large family, six children I believe and obviously they are going through a very tough time, like many other people going through a divorce especially after a long marriage.

Since I have no clue what their personal problems are I certainly can't or won't jump to conclusions, but it appears a smear campaign against him included accusing him of abusing his wife. This video was apparently a response to those allegations.

Many of our most vocal opponents of our Foreign Policy and Wall St corruption have, coincidentally suffered from smear campaigns, Glenn Greewald (we KNOW they had a contract up for bid on that), Kucinich, Cynthia McKinney, Grayson, among others. We also know that Republicans go through scandals, yet always seem to survive politically.

So, I am very cautious about yet another outspoken Democrat being tarnished this way.

Thanks for your comment, a voice of sanity as always.

ScreamingMeemie

(68,918 posts)
233. ...
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 10:17 PM
Mar 2014


Um...no, I don't want a "progressive" like Mr. Grayson...

and why does no one address this. He's a corporate panderer. He deserves every spot on his record. We can do better than this.

http://articles.orlandosentinel.com/2010-08-19/business/os-seaworld-osha-grayson-20100819_1_dawn-brancheau-killer-whale-performances-marine-parks-and-aquariums


I am with you on everyone except this DINO.
 

Demo_Chris

(6,234 posts)
247. Screw it, I'll address it. Why not...
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 10:47 PM
Mar 2014

It's a major corporation in his district, directly and indirectly responsible for a lot of revenue and perhaps thousands of jobs. They had just suffered a tragic incident and he wanted to know, from OSHA, what the potential impact might be. He might, MIGHT, have also placed some pressure on OSHA to moderate their report to some extent -- but as far as I know there is no evidence of that. Finally, he has said nice complimentary things about SeaWorld in the past, which is entirely appropriate.

In other words, he has done his job. I wish president Obama took representing his voters as seriously.

Years back Harry Reid was my Senator. At the time I was a somewhat enthusiastic by very amateur astronomer. One of my astronomy magazines mentioned that NASA was planning to defund and pull the plug on the Hubble. I wrote to Senator Reid (and my GOP Senator) expressing my concerns. Two weeks later I got a letter back from a staffer in Reid's office. It said that Senator Reid had spoken to the people at NASA and they had decided to reverse their position and would continue funding and support for the Hubble program. He did his JOB, representing one of his constituents. So did Grayson with SeaWorld.

ScreamingMeemie

(68,918 posts)
255. He's a pandering blowhard. There are several major corporations in his district.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 11:23 PM
Mar 2014

Mr. Grayson picked corporate over people... You do know what all is based in Orlando...I hope for gosh sakes?

No, your guy is in it for himself. There's no progressive there. It's why so many fall silent when this come

Governor's get a pass for pandering. Not a two-bit representative. That is NOT Mr. Grayson's job, and I am sad that you think that congresspeople get a pass for pandering to corps. My money will go to the coffers of whoever primaries him. He's a BSer, and we don't need him. We're better than that.

ScreamingMeemie

(68,918 posts)
259. Just passing through pointing out that your "God" is a little bit less than...
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 11:29 PM
Mar 2014

You do know, as well, how many corporations (entertainment corps even) are in Mr. Grayson's area... I would hope. Defend the worthy.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
327. Elizabeth Warren, my senator and a damn good one, engaged in pork barrel politics quite recently.
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 05:08 AM
Mar 2014

She championed retention of a battlefield program that the Pentagon did not want, does not need, and wanted to cancel.

Why? Because it would have meant a loss of MA jobs had the program gone away.

People are not perfect and all politics is local.

That said, I know nothing about this guy's issues with his wife. The video isn't proof of anything he did or didn't do, it's just proof of what his wife did in a brief moment in time. If they have kids they need to shape up and come to a decent accord for the sake of them.

He'd be well advised to never, ever enter that home without permission and an off duty cop hired as an escort/witness.

sabrina 1

(62,325 posts)
288. OMG! That does it! Lol.
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 12:53 AM
Mar 2014

You must be really upset over all the Corporate appointments by our President. Monsanto? Now there's a progressive appointment for you! And all that pandering to Wall St, Goldman Sachs ... must be very upsetting for you, I know it is for me.

I'll take Grayson any day over some of our Third Way Corporate, War Supporting 'democrats'.

Saying a few nice words about a major job supplier in the district you represent as a member of Congress??

We would empty out Capitol Hill if THAT was the standard we used to ferret out 'corporate panderers'.

polly7

(20,582 posts)
341. The feeling is mutual, Sabrina!
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 09:44 AM
Mar 2014

I don't believe, when it comes to changing Foreign Policy and financial corruption, that anyone is safe - anywhere .... going after a family this way though is just unbelievably evil. From what I've read here, he does seem like a good person and doesn't deserve to have a career ruined over something that possibly isn't even at all true. I really hope for all those involved, especially the children, this will be worked out. The video does tell a story and I hope it's not just brushed off. Imo, the children will be the ones who eventually let the truth be known, sad as that is to think of.

Republicans and Conservatives (consider Rob Ford) survive because the way they act out is just normal behaviour (only half kidding) for those that support them .... it's all just a big joke. Strange though how different the standards are, but puppet conservatives know they don't really have to stand up for anything meaningful, so acting like assholes is no biggie at all. And I need coffee, as I have no idea if a single word of this made sense.



 

opiate69

(10,129 posts)
354. It has certainly been... what's the word? Oh yeah, "educational"
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 02:33 PM
Mar 2014

To see the contortions some have to go through to try to justify assault, simply because the apparent facts don't comport with their ideology.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
215. +1, plus this kind of divorce is not a good thing for a politician
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 09:43 PM
Mar 2014

getting involved in this kind of thing takes a certain character. He'd have done better to avoid this situation.

 

geek tragedy

(68,868 posts)
244. I am not going to judge, having the privilege
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 10:40 PM
Mar 2014

of having married the right person. There but for the grace of god go I.*

*Referring to the general situation-any DV from either party is completely unacceptable of course.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
329. True, but having seen a lot of divorces
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 05:42 AM
Mar 2014

up close, some people do handle it maturely. This type of thing occurs for the people who don't handle it that well. Sounds like both of them are getting into that territory of blame, defense, creating drama, etc. And even drawing the kids into it.

Response to 11 Bravo (Original post)

 

cali

(114,904 posts)
6. sorry, thatt video although helpful to him is no dispositive.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 05:03 PM
Mar 2014

It doesn't contradict what she's said. and why was he there? If he didn't have scheduled visitation, why not send a staffer to pick up the mail?

We just don't know yet who did what.

11 Bravo

(23,926 posts)
33. And that is my exact point. We DON'T know exactly what happened.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 05:30 PM
Mar 2014

That's the reason I stayed out of the thread that someone else is denying the very existence of on this thread. We don't always agree, cali, but I've found you to be honest.
You posted in the thread, so it will be simple for you to go back and review it. Grayson was tried and convicted by some, and those who questioned his wife's version were accused of "victim blaming" among other things.
That, and only that, is the genesis of my OP.

 

opiate69

(10,129 posts)
54. um...
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 05:58 PM
Mar 2014

Anybody who could watch a video of someone being assaulted, then turn around and say shit like "why we're they being confrontational?" "Why didn't they just leave?" Etc, etc.

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
56. That's me.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 06:01 PM
Mar 2014

I have no idea why anyone would seek out a confrontation at a home they no longer live in. If you don't live there anymore, you have to ask the people who do live there if you can come over.

And my main problem with the video is that the sound is missing and part of the physical confrontation is cut off by the videographer filming a van instead. We can't see on the video who struck first.

 

opiate69

(10,129 posts)
101. I need nothing. Her words speak volumes on their own
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 06:47 PM
Mar 2014

I mean, imagine if people had given similar opinions about Nigella Lawson back when her shitheel husband assaulted her in public.

BainsBane

(53,035 posts)
105. Yeah, slight difference
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 06:49 PM
Mar 2014

Grayson's wife is the complainant, not Grayson.

As a matter of fact, there were a people who piled on Nigella Lawson at the time for being beaten. You might recall an Australian radio show called for a boycott of her TV show and products, and some here defended it. It was repulsive.

 

opiate69

(10,129 posts)
121. Indeed it was repulsive. Glad we agree.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 07:02 PM
Mar 2014

As for her being the complainant, that's really apropos of fuck-all at this point. The evidence before us shows her to be the abuser. I'm sure you're aware that male victims of domestic violence rarely report it, right?



Cuing "MRAMRAMRAYADDAWHARRBLARGGGGGGL!" In 3, 2....

BainsBane

(53,035 posts)
128. Very few victims of absue report.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 07:08 PM
Mar 2014

And the numbers of men killed and hospitalized by partners pale in comparison to women. That, however, does not in any way diminish the cases that do occur. They are horrible, regardless of the sex of the assailant.

Now, to the video. I just watched it. I am frankly stunned you all have decided it proves innocence. It is a clip of her pushing him looped over and over. It doesn't show more than two seconds of action and doesn't begin to document the whole incident. It's clearly edited to repeat the same action rather than the whole incident. Watch it yourself again.

 

opiate69

(10,129 posts)
134. Ok. so the video was edited... however,
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 07:21 PM
Mar 2014

What was shown in the video clearly constitutes domestic violence, by definition.

Domestic violence can take many forms, including physical aggression or assault (hitting, kicking, biting, shoving, restraining, slapping, throwing objects, battery), or threats thereof;


So, what exactly would justify such violence?

BainsBane

(53,035 posts)
151. Really?
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 07:45 PM
Mar 2014

I'll tell you something. I've been subject to domestic violence. I wouldn't even think about reporting a shove like that. Of course, I didn't report when my ex bashed a lamp against my head and threatened to kill me either. But if Grayson thinks that push constitutes assault and wants to report it, more power to him.

The video shows nothing about how his wife acquired the bruises she alleges he gave her. But of course it wouldn't since he obviously edited it to satisfy those like folks here looking for any excuse to exonerate him for assault on a lowly woman. A court wouldn't consider using a doctored tape as evidence. The fact he released something so clearly doctored makes me less likely, not more likely, to believe his story. It shows he's desperate.

BainsBane

(53,035 posts)
116. Additionally
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 06:57 PM
Mar 2014

She observed that what she saw in the video, that it didn't capture the beginning of the confrontation and had no sound. Why you should find that so condemning, I have no idea. The case remains under investigation. Until it is closed, it should be taken seriously, like any other. Being a Democratic congressman doesn't make him above the law. But don't worry. I'm not accusing you of hypocrisy. I know your reaction would be identical regardless of the political affiliation or occupation of the man accused.

 

cali

(114,904 posts)
20. No, because he has never had the slightest chance of being nominated
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 05:19 PM
Mar 2014

let alone being elected.

he doesn't even stand a chance of winning a state wide vote.

cyberswede

(26,117 posts)
46. Thanks
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 05:43 PM
Mar 2014

But I don't see that poster doing this:

...who already had him tried and convicted, and who proceeded to pile on to anyone who dared to suggest that the words of Grayson's wife and her lawyer were anything less than the absolute gospel truth...


 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
29. i saw one thread. first three of four posts had the woman as a bad mom, a lolita, liar....
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 05:27 PM
Mar 2014

WITH NO EVIDENCE.

having no clue what so ever what happened. and having no judgment what so ever what happened. i only posted about the three of the four first posts on that thread of people that had NO idea what had happened.

if that fits into your "had him tried and convicted," "pile on" so be it. dont expect an apology.

like with the video that was not a complete shot of what happened and not clear to me, i still do not know what happened.

lumpy

(13,704 posts)
68. According to Grayson's lawyer- Grayson's daughter claims Mr.Grayson did not hit her mother or
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 06:17 PM
Mar 2014

touch her at all.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
75. Ok. That really has nothing to do with my list and the discussion
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 06:26 PM
Mar 2014

I will reiterate. I do not know what happened and not putting out guesses of what happened. I DO know what was said on that thread and called ONLY that out

TheKentuckian

(25,026 posts)
70. Yeah, like if there was video of him striking her "the jury" would still be out awaiting conclusive
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 06:20 PM
Mar 2014

evidence of the first punch.

JNelson6563

(28,151 posts)
31. Sounds like a shitstorm. Glad I missed it.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 05:29 PM
Mar 2014

I have less time for internet stuff these days and miss many of the slug-fests du jour here. I was never much of a participant in them and rarely read them, they are so redundant. Ugh.

I did see the video today of Congressman Grayson being accosted by his wife. I am sorry they aer going through this difficult time and even sorrier to see the spitefulness on display.

Julie

Le Taz Hot

(22,271 posts)
36. I still think, no, I KNOW
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 05:34 PM
Mar 2014

there's something wrong with this guy. I've always felt that way about him and this doesn't change anything

Response to Le Taz Hot (Reply #36)

Le Taz Hot

(22,271 posts)
89. Well, I'm glad you think so.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 06:39 PM
Mar 2014

Personally, I couldn't stand him but if you want to have a beer with him, I say go for it!

Response to Le Taz Hot (Reply #89)

Le Taz Hot

(22,271 posts)
118. Sorry, but that wasn't clear with your last post.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 06:58 PM
Mar 2014

It read as follows:

"Yeah, and GW was a great guy you wanted to have a beer with?"

In that GW was a disaster from the word go, and I couldn't stand him and stated so many many times right here on this board, why in the world would I want to have a beer with him?

Sort of a non-sequitur, wouldn't you say?

Response to Le Taz Hot (Reply #118)

 

HangOnKids

(4,291 posts)
127. So you know SHIT about Grayson but had to throw your cheap hat in the ring?
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 07:06 PM
Mar 2014

My question stands, if you make that accusation/charge against him with NO knowledge of the issue would you like someone to say what they think about you?

 

Boom Sound 416

(4,185 posts)
133. Oh, same old HangOnKids...I've missed our little routine
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 07:15 PM
Mar 2014

I did spend several summer chunks of my formative years in his district. And still have a few friends in winter park, lake Mary and apopka. Used to water ski on lake Brantley. I think too is in his district.

I thought the 'republicans want you to die' speech on the house floor did nothing to help the ACA and I was pretty sure he wouldn't get re-elected. In fact, it probably hurt the ACA's popularity.

So that's where my post came from. All, both sentences.

Your move, ace.

 

HangOnKids

(4,291 posts)
135. Hey the routine
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 07:22 PM
Mar 2014

Where you make appalling embarrassing statements. Good to see you are up to it again.

Please no more BOOM, I know you are in over your head, and I hate to play with an unprepared opponent. Thanks!

 

Marr

(20,317 posts)
47. I didn't read any of those threads, but I'll bet I can name 90% of the people considered him guilty.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 05:49 PM
Mar 2014

lol.

11 Bravo

(23,926 posts)
74. So you have now gone from "people who don't really exist", to "there was no effort", to ...
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 06:25 PM
Mar 2014

"link to one's own imagination", to Awww, fuck, "there aren't even 10 people doing that".

Read that. Then read it again. Then ask yourself why it's damned near impossible to take you seriously.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
79. What about marr accusing duers with NO info. That does not even hit you outrage meter. Right? Nt
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 06:29 PM
Mar 2014

11 Bravo

(23,926 posts)
96. That comment was ridiculously stupid and offensive. But it's not what I posted about.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 06:43 PM
Mar 2014

Tell me, are all of your posts about the very real and indefensible inequalities that women in this society face every day somehow invalid because you don't respond to every post indicating that now and again guys get the shit end of the stick?

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
123. I would absolutely agree. But, I did not read what you did on the only
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 07:02 PM
Mar 2014

Thread I saw. And I am seeing plenty of the same shit, other side, on this thread. Hence.... How ironic.

Still not knowing what happened, I am still not giving any opinion what happened, regardless of my perception of Grayson.

 

geek tragedy

(68,868 posts)
80. you evidently are still very angry at someone over this case
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 06:30 PM
Mar 2014

perhaps you should take that up with them

And, no, I literally saw no one doing as you claimed in your post. Not a single person.

P.S. 0 < 10

11 Bravo

(23,926 posts)
86. Hysterical! Yeah, "not even 10" has long been adult speak for "zero".
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 06:37 PM
Mar 2014

You're hopeless. I will content myself with responding to grown-ups with something comprehensible to say on the subject.

 

geek tragedy

(68,868 posts)
95. thank you for your pointless insults. you are obviously the right person
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 06:42 PM
Mar 2014

to be calling out poor behavior here.

11 Bravo

(23,926 posts)
117. I don't know shit about this case. Neither do you. But ...
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 06:57 PM
Mar 2014

the difference between us is that I will acknowledge that fact. I found the video sufficiently informative to respond to some people who posted that Grayson was guilty as charged, and others who went after those who had questions about what might have actually transpired.
Oh, that's right, you initially claimed that those people don't exist, despite their ... you know, words and posts and shit. Now no one has any idea what the fuck you're claiming (none, some, less than 10) but I do note that you're back (as predicted) to the "you sure are angry" schtick.
As for your whining about my demeanor, please note my responses to those people whom I respect.

 

geek tragedy

(68,868 posts)
126. you decried the mean people
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 07:06 PM
Mar 2014
who proceeded to pile on to anyone who dared to suggest that the words of Grayson's wife and her lawyer were anything less than the absolute gospel truth


I am saying that no one
proceeded to pile on to anyone who dared to suggest that the words of Grayson's wife and her lawyer were anything less than the absolute gospel truth


There were many people who expressed an open mind, stated that they did not want to rush to judgment, didn't know what to say, would wait for more evidence, etc.

They did not get piled upon.

I can provide a dozen links of people expressing such sentiments without getting piled upon, if you wish.

Maybe you should use less hyperbole and try to make what you say factually accurate.




treestar

(82,383 posts)
220. That easily goes both ways
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 09:47 PM
Mar 2014

One can easily predict those so sure he is innocent.

But no one really knows.

 

Marr

(20,317 posts)
229. Except it doesn't go both ways.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 10:14 PM
Mar 2014

Insisting that someone is guilty of a charge without having any evidence is not the same thing as insisting they be treated as innocent until proven guilty.

We've kind of built our whole system of justice around the idea that the two positions are not equally valid.

 

Whisp

(24,096 posts)
51. That vid only shows part of the story.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 05:56 PM
Mar 2014

It does not show the first face to face and what happened.

And without sound (which was edited out for legal reasons) that first part is crucial for any kind of fair assessment of what went down.
Why was the camera person taking a shot of the van when there was obviously action taking place behind him? Was it on purpose that he didn't want that on record?

Lots of questions still and hopefully we will eventually know but that vid proves nothing in the way of occurence of events.

 

opiate69

(10,129 posts)
57. So, out of curiosity, what exactly could he have said or done that would justify her assaulting him
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 06:05 PM
Mar 2014

Enquiring minds, and all...

 

Whisp

(24,096 posts)
67. I have no idea what happened.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 06:15 PM
Mar 2014

But the story is not fully told on that video and does not show conclusively that she threw the first punch or perhaps was reacting to threatening words.



 

opiate69

(10,129 posts)
73. So... physical violence is possibly a legit response to threatening words?
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 06:22 PM
Mar 2014

Or, in retaliation for a physical attack.. Ok.. how about a little thought experiment... suppose for the sake of argument that there was nothing overtly instigatory prior to the event caught on camera. They were talking, and for whatever reason, she assaults him. Would he be justified in retaliating?

 

Whisp

(24,096 posts)
77. I'm not playing your game, opiate.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 06:28 PM
Mar 2014

we have no idea if they were just talking while the camera was facing the van.

 

opiate69

(10,129 posts)
88. It's not a game. what, if anything, justifies assault?
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 06:37 PM
Mar 2014

It's a serious question I'm genuinely interested in running through the mental wringer, as it were.

 

Whisp

(24,096 posts)
91. ok, let's leave the Grayson case aside for a minute.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 06:40 PM
Mar 2014

If some fucker came up to me and said I am going to gut your kid, I know where she goes to school and I'm going to get her.

I would pop the fucker and chew his arm off.

Happy?

 

opiate69

(10,129 posts)
99. As would I.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 06:45 PM
Mar 2014

So it would seem "defense of self/family" is one agreed upon legitimate justification. Thanks for indulging my curiosity.

 

LittleBlue

(10,362 posts)
103. You can't justify assault
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 06:48 PM
Mar 2014

You'd be justifying every man who said he beat up his wife because she said the wrong thing. Then the question becomes what everyone (or every jury) thinks is sufficient for a guy to beat up his wife.

If someone threatens your kid you need to call the police, not commit assault.

There's no question in my mind that the guy would deserve it. But we don't go there because it's a rationalization for domestic violence.

 

Marr

(20,317 posts)
150. Can you honestly say that you'd take the same position if the sexes were reversed?
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 07:44 PM
Mar 2014

Asking what the wife might've done to deserve a physical assault would be pretty sick-- right?

 

Whisp

(24,096 posts)
153. what the heck does that mean?
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 07:47 PM
Mar 2014

I would like to know what happened before she hit him, is that somehow out of the question?

jeezus.

 

Marr

(20,317 posts)
155. Really? You're going to pretend that question was difficult to understand?
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 07:51 PM
Mar 2014

If the sexes were reversed, can you really say your position would be the same? You'd suggest the woman might've deserved it, or invited it, or provoked the man?

 

Whisp

(24,096 posts)
167. If the sexes were reversed I would still want to know the missing part of the vid.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 08:06 PM
Mar 2014

but overall, if I must remind you, women are at the receiving end of physical abuse far more than men. And men have been getting away with it for centuries. It wasn't all that long ago where it was legal to beat your wife. The 'rule of thumb'.

Of course there is abuse by women on men, I have not heard anyone here deny that. Men who are our sons and brothers and friends who don't deserve treatment like that as much as our daughters and sisters and friends don't deserve it.

 

Marr

(20,317 posts)
174. I don't believe you.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 08:21 PM
Mar 2014

If this had been a video of Alan Grayson hitting his wife in the face, I don't believe for one second that your response would've been, "that video only shows part of the story". Nor should it be-- it's a sick thing to say.

 

Marr

(20,317 posts)
177. The only thing I've said is that suggesting the victim of an assault might've deserved it is sick.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 08:26 PM
Mar 2014

Apparently you don't believe that.

 

Whisp

(24,096 posts)
185. he could very well have hit her first, now That is what is sick to deny that
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 08:41 PM
Mar 2014

when there is a blank space in the vid.

 

Whisp

(24,096 posts)
209. okay, I get it now
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 09:28 PM
Mar 2014

Grayson was your choice for President and he would have solved all the planet's problems in 100 days not like that lazy corporate suck guy in the Oval Office now.

As if he had a snowball's chance in Hades.

 

Marr

(20,317 posts)
227. I can tell you're desperate to change the subject.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 10:12 PM
Mar 2014

Why not just admit that your initial statement was wrong?

 

Whisp

(24,096 posts)
230. Why not admit that the President is sometimes right?
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 10:15 PM
Mar 2014

That question, coming from You...

Makes me smile, in an amused way.

 

Marr

(20,317 posts)
237. You've gone from 'maybe the victim deserved to be hit' to 'leave Obama alone'.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 10:24 PM
Mar 2014

I haven't said anything about the president. Are you ok?

 

Whisp

(24,096 posts)
238. I never said the victim deserved to be hit.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 10:28 PM
Mar 2014

That is bullshit.

I said there is no way to know, by that video, what really happened as there is a chunk missing from it - the initial face to face meet and what happened in that space of time. There is no requirement on my part, as it seems to be for many others, to automatically believe Grayson because he's some fake member of DU or his political position.

Now I'm going to play with my sweetheart dog and forget I ever had this miserable conversation with you. And I'm going to tell my dog Grayson never had a slim shot at being President, and he will nod in agreement and ask who the Hell ever thought that. And I will tell him, and he will lower his eyes and say: sometimes it's good to be a dog.

 

Marr

(20,317 posts)
245. Why are you ranting about Grayson's prospects as a presidential candidate?
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 10:42 PM
Mar 2014

That's not what we're talking about here, though I will freely offer that your closing paragraph reaches an almost superhuman level of haughty liberal-punching.

Anyway, to the actual point of the thread. The video is relevant because it disproves her version of events, making her claims of assault by Grayson less credible.

Also, you did indeed suggest that the victim deserved to be hit, and you really should summon the character to admit that, and that it was wrong. That is what a decent person would do. Or... you could just ignore it and proceed directly to that political discussion with your pet, I suppose. Either way, have a nice evening.

Bonobo

(29,257 posts)
281. The billion dollar question. Thank you for asking it.
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 12:28 AM
Mar 2014

But I wouldn't hold my breath waiting for an honest answer.

 

lumberjack_jeff

(33,224 posts)
198. Because it doesn't show the part where he deserved it?
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 09:08 PM
Mar 2014

Give me an example of something that he might have said that would have justified the videotaped physical assault.

Bonus points if you can imagine something that would have justified him running across the lawn to hit her.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
81. Who had him "tried and convicted?"
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 06:32 PM
Mar 2014

Who are all these people?

I saw a little "OOOPS, that sounds like he said/she said..." but I didn't see any excoriation. Did I leave the thread too soon?

bluestateguy

(44,173 posts)
82. If you're accused, you're guilty
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 06:32 PM
Mar 2014

That is the mentality of the folks you are dealing with here. Apparently they know little about due process of law.

These are the same people who still think the Duke lacrosse players raped that liar POS and worship Mike Nifong as some kind of a hero.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
83. Would you like to point out who "these people here" are as you find them guilty
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 06:35 PM
Mar 2014

Merely by bravos accusation? You know, to back up your statement.

Warpy

(111,276 posts)
90. Who knows? Well, we know at this point that she can be violent
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 06:40 PM
Mar 2014

We have no idea about him, just her complaint.

Maybe he'll learn not to go to that house for his belongings unless he has a cop with him.

BainsBane

(53,035 posts)
102. Which DUers tried and convicted him?
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 06:48 PM
Mar 2014

You mean those horrible women who think charges of battery should be taken seriously, even when against the superior species of the male Democratic congressmen? Don't you just hate it when dem wimenz don't know their place?!



An investigation is ongoing. He has not been cleared.

LisaL

(44,973 posts)
109. Did you even watch the video?
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 06:51 PM
Mar 2014

If anybody is going to be charged with battery, why do you think it woudl be him?

BainsBane

(53,035 posts)
125. I just did
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 07:05 PM
Mar 2014

and frankly I'm stunned people have decided this exonerates him. It's the same shot of her pushing him looped over and over. It's two seconds of activity repeated. It doesn't even begin to show the whole incident.

BainsBane

(53,035 posts)
132. WTF does that have to do with the video?
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 07:15 PM
Mar 2014

You talked about the video. The video is clearly the same bit looped over and over again. How can you possible think that exonerates him? And you think that shows her committing an assault on him? How do you suppose she got the bruises that the lawyer mentioned in a document filed in a court? Or do you simply not care?

I don't know whether you think violence against women is a trivial matter or you think a Democratic congressmen is above the law and should be defended at all costs. Either way, it's offensive. The case remains under investigation and she, not he, is the complainant. This worship of men like Grayson, Woody Allen and Assange, defending anything they do, turns my stomach.

LisaL

(44,973 posts)
152. Oh for crying out loud.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 07:46 PM
Mar 2014

There is a longer version of the video out there than just looped bit (which likely was done by tne news media).
He should file the complain himself if you ask me.

BainsBane

(53,035 posts)
165. It doesn't come up in a google search
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 08:03 PM
Mar 2014

I've sat through videos of news reports showing that Grayson's staffer says he was assaulted, but the police report names his wife as the victim, not him. I haven't turned up a video other than the one on the Orlando Sentinel site.

 

Whisp

(24,096 posts)
131. It doesn't bother you at all about what may have been happening
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 07:15 PM
Mar 2014

behind the camerperson while he was taking a vid of the red van when Mrs Grayson walked up to the door?

It doesn't bother you at that we have no idea what came before the punch on the video?

ok.
strange tho.

grasswire

(50,130 posts)
304. the bedrock principle of our system of justice...
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 02:34 AM
Mar 2014

....is the presumption of innocence.

Grayson has not been charged with any crime, so he, therefore, cannot be "cleared". He remains innocent until judged guilty.

BainsBane

(53,035 posts)
305. Of course
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 02:39 AM
Mar 2014

That is true for every defendant, but it doesn't change the fact there is an open police investigation. I for one plan on waiting to see what it yields rather than declaring the complainant a liar simply because the person she accused of assault is a Democratic congressman. Another bedrock of our system, or one that is supposed to be, is that all are equal before the law. Of course we know it doesn't hold, but it would be nice to think people who claim to be liberals support that notion rather than making exceptions for men them deem important.

BainsBane

(53,035 posts)
140. Now that I'm watched that video, I'm really pissed off
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 07:30 PM
Mar 2014

It is clearly edited to repeat the same two seconds of action on a repeat loop. It does not begin to show the entire incident. It shows her shoving him in what appears to be an effort to get him to leave. It doesn't show what happened before that led to the bruises the lawyer alleges Grayson gave his wife. It proves absolutely nothing but that people here value a Democratic politician far more than the life of a woman.

I have learned that if a child is raped by a man believed to be a Democrat, he gets a free pass. If a guy who has a website rapes two women, people here will go to the mat to defend him and shield him from prosecution, and if a woman files assault charges against a Democratic congressman, she will be disbelieved and vilified. People won't wait to see what the investigation yields. They watch an obviously edited video and proclaim him the victim and her the abuser, despite the fact that she rather than he filed assault charges with police. I don't know the facts of this case, but I do know that as a woman, my life clearly means nothing to many on this site. If I were to be raped, beaten, or killed by a male Democrat, I would be similarly vilified. I find all of this an unconscionable dismissal of the value of women's lives.

 

Whisp

(24,096 posts)
146. seeing that looped over and over was a shocker
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 07:37 PM
Mar 2014

gives one a whole different idea of how things may have really played out - that she hit him several times.

That is so fricken cheesey and misleading.

that vid does Nothing to Confirm Anything except desperation on Grayson's part. IMHO.

BainsBane

(53,035 posts)
148. Anyone can see it's a loop
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 07:40 PM
Mar 2014

and obviously edited for effect. I'm really angry about the reaction to this.

Nevernose

(13,081 posts)
159. There are four seconds unseen
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 07:52 PM
Mar 2014

In those four seconds, Mrs. Grayson alleges that: "After she refused, retrieved his mail and asked him to leave, Alan Grayson "then deliberately and with force pushed [Lolita Grayson] very hard against the front door, causing [her] to fall to the ground as a result," the petition states.

She told her husband not to touch her, then pushed him in the face and kneed him in the stomach "in order to protect and defend herself" before calling 911, her petition says."

In that four seconds unseen on the video, according to her, he put the bag down, shoved her to the ground, he picked the bag up, she got back up, and then kneed him -- and the camera caught only the self defense punch, which you call a shove. In four seconds.

It's also not okay to shove people to get them to leave. You've been on this site for years, a tireless champion of the victims of domestic violence, and yet you refuse to call out someone who is obviously lying and was caught on video throwing a punch at their spouse.

BainsBane

(53,035 posts)
162. Four seconds unseen?
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 07:55 PM
Mar 2014

The entire video is the same two seconds repeated multiple times. The entire incident is unseen. That is a doctored tape, which would not be admitted as evidence in any court of law.

That video proves only that Grayson is desperate and will go to any extreme to present himself as the victim.

Nevernose

(13,081 posts)
170. She walks from the car to the house
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 08:11 PM
Mar 2014

Four seconds later the camera pans over, capturing her hitting him. After that, the lawyer repeats the strike in order to emphasize who was hitting whom.

However, what IS captured on video directly contradicts her claim.

 

Whisp

(24,096 posts)
172. why would he have to put the bag down?
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 08:13 PM
Mar 2014

did you see him go to the door With the bag? Do you know how much the bag weighed, or instead of setting it down maybe he put it under his arm, or maybe he only needed one arm.

? the bag means nothing, just like this whole video. For evidence, it means nothing.

 

Whisp

(24,096 posts)
187. No it doesn't because we do not see the whole scenario.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 08:42 PM
Mar 2014

Of course it's possible, but that vid does not support that fact.

 

Whisp

(24,096 posts)
179. iirc there was no camera pan.... pan from the red van to the front steps.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 08:34 PM
Mar 2014

and it was all filmed really shaky, wonder what was up with that.

Anyway there is no way to count seconds. The camera was stopped after the van, then started up again showing the front door. No pan, no guessing at seconds.

kcr

(15,317 posts)
192. I was going to say. We don't even know how many seconds are missing.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 09:00 PM
Mar 2014

It's a shaky mess of a video. Calling it evidence is laughable.

Nevernose

(13,081 posts)
199. From the timer at the bottom
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 09:10 PM
Mar 2014

Of course, I didn't see an edit and you did, so we may just have to disagree for now. I will look again when I get home (I'm at my night job now).

 

Whisp

(24,096 posts)
203. I see no timer at the bottom...
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 09:18 PM
Mar 2014


maybe when you get a chance to look again you can show me where.
The whole vid is very shakey and very fuzzy.

Andy823

(11,495 posts)
216. Did you hear the part
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 09:43 PM
Mar 2014

Where it says the lawyers chopped 57 seconds off the recording? They said it was to protect the identity of the children.

I also noticed that Grayson was carrying the said "bag" in on arm while the other arm was free. The idea he could not have done anteing to her because he had the "bag" doesn't make sense.

 

Whisp

(24,096 posts)
224. It was said the sound wasn't on the recording because of law
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 10:02 PM
Mar 2014

that you can't record without letting everyone know you are. You can take video but not record voices.

and now this 'protect the children' thing?
The spokesman for Grayson was saying Mrs. Grayson was using very bad language - using that as an excuse that the children shouldn't hear it?

Interesting stuff. We'll probably know more in 2 weeks or so. And I agree about the bag, it's not like a paper bag can stop a person from losing their tempers and lashing out.

If that were true everyone should be assigned paper bags to carry around so there would not be any fights at all.

 

stevenleser

(32,886 posts)
221. Re: The Bruises - The link downthread says Lolita takes Taekwondo. I took it in college and I
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 09:50 PM
Mar 2014

always had bruises all over. It also reports that the staffer said that the wife has become aggressive with him before.

Here is the link again:

http://www.wftv.com/news/news/local/rep-grayson-accused-pushing-estranged-wife/nd5tF/

It all could be bullshit. But if someone asked me to guess at this point, I would say that she is the abuser.

11 Bravo

(23,926 posts)
183. Well shit, Sheldon, if YOU didn't see it, then clearly it didn't happen.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 08:38 PM
Mar 2014

I mean, why should anyone heed the words of the numerous other posters on this thread who know exactly what I referenced; when we can instead accept the opinion of someone who chose to name themselves after a totally oblivious to his surroundings, socially inept character from a television sitcom?

 

closeupready

(29,503 posts)
240. Sheldon is right because he posts snarky photoshopped gag pix.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 10:31 PM
Mar 2014

Is that not sensible to you? Hello??? Seems like that's Reasoning 101. Duh.

The one who pulls out his sunglasses and apes David Caruso's trademark gesture ALWAYS wins.

Major

BainsBane

(53,035 posts)
163. It's the only one I know
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 07:55 PM
Mar 2014

I asked you for a link. This is the one the other poster linked to on the Orlando Sentinel site. Actually he linked to a press converence with the lawyers. So give me the link of the other video.

BainsBane

(53,035 posts)
168. Indeed. and it shows a single push
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 08:07 PM
Mar 2014

Rather than the edited one Grayson released showing that same push multiple times. It doesn't show what happened before the tape began, and it has no sound. It doesn't show how she acquired the bruises she alleged in the police report.

You think he should file domestic assault charges on that? Really? You obviously have never had the shit beat out of you. Consider yourself fortunate.

LisaL

(44,973 posts)
169. You do realize that mose likely it was Orlando Sentinel who put the video on the loop?
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 08:08 PM
Mar 2014

Or don't you?
Media does that for effect, in case you didn't know.

BainsBane

(53,035 posts)
175. I have no idea
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 08:22 PM
Mar 2014

I do know that people here are very anxious to exonerate a Democratic congressman of assault, but I guess I shouldn't be surprised. Last month it was a child rapist who makes movies and before that Julian Assange. The common thread is women's lives are entirely inconsequential when compared to great men (especially but not exclusively liberal men). I for one don't give a damn who an alleged rapist, pedophile, or batterer is. They all should be subject to the law. As for Alan and Lolita Grayson, that is a matter for the police and the courts.

Now, if you will excuse me, I am physically ill from learning that my basic right to life, and those of women like me, pales in comparison to important men in the view of those who claim to be my so-called allies.

 

Marr

(20,317 posts)
182. It proves that her version of events was not factual, and that she's guilty of domestic violence.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 08:37 PM
Mar 2014

It's incredible to me how people who claim to care about this issue turn into cartoon versions of the slobs they claim to oppose as soon as the identities are switched around.

I really don't get it.

 

840high

(17,196 posts)
250. I didn't get that
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 11:12 PM
Mar 2014

impression. I don't know who is lying. Will wait till more info is available.

BodieTown

(147 posts)
171. Thanks. Lolita Grayson Appears to be a Liar
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 08:12 PM
Mar 2014

The video and story at WFTV is compelling.

Not only did Grayson bring his own witness (I absolutely believe that he did this because it would be standard behavior for any attorney to do so), his daughter, Skye, witnessed everything that happened.

Skye Grayson said her father never hit or pushed her mother.

Oh yes, I can tell just by watching that phone video that Lolita Grayson is no shrinking violet, and she was pushing and hitting Grayson. That is assault, in my book.

For those here who are denying that the video doesn't prove anything, open your eyes. I'm sure that Rep. Grayson's attorneys held back on the audio for a reason. I sure hope so.

 

MannyGoldstein

(34,589 posts)
180. You totally don't get it at all, do you.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 08:35 PM
Mar 2014

Or you're purposefully missing the point.

Those of us who know how things really work know that Alan Grayson is guilty, and always has been.

Regards,

Nobody-in-particular Manny

 

cpwm17

(3,829 posts)
200. Perhaps now, Alan Grayson will think twice before accusing an opponent of "beating his wife"
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 09:11 PM
Mar 2014
http://www.democraticunderground.com/1251100745

Divorces are messy and frequently dishonesty prevails. It's good that Alan Grayson had witnesses. We don't want to lose him in Washington DC.
 

cpwm17

(3,829 posts)
214. I'm not a big fan of Alan Grayson
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 09:42 PM
Mar 2014

but he is most likely much better than anyone else we may get in central Florida.

I'm still not totally sold that he believes in the positions he takes, and he does inappropriate stuff like accusing an opponent of beating his wife.

ScreamingMeemie

(68,918 posts)
218. Thank you for listening. For months I have been posting this in the face of "Alan can do no
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 09:45 PM
Mar 2014

wrong" posters. It's happened several times again, right here on this thread. I think we can do better in Florida. He got in by being a fake liberal and did so well that the Pubbies hate him. Now we just need to find a real one.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
212. DUers should not be taunted for being wrong
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 09:40 PM
Mar 2014

but allowed a reasonable time in which to digest the new information and re-evaluate their opinions, rather than just being told upfront they will stubbornly double down or that they should apologize to those who were "right," who, after all, are only lucky really - a video that came out might have shown any number of things not know the last time the Great Question was argued. This method would cool down some of the great debates of DU. But then that may not be desirable.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
252. except i would like to know what thread the duers were doing as bravo suggested.
Wed Mar 5, 2014, 11:20 PM
Mar 2014

the same posters agreeing with bravo, calling out "the usual suspects" are doing exactly with the OP is outraged about. i saw no one doing what he stated in the only thread i read.

who is suppose to apologize? and for what?

again, before someone interprets i am saying grayson is guilty, i have always stated, i do not know what happened. the video did not provide the beginning of the confrontation. i still do not know what happened.

TreasonousBastard

(43,049 posts)
286. Why not? And if even ...
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 12:43 AM
Mar 2014

they shouldn't be taunted for just being wrong, how about for jumping to conclusions and being assholes about it?

It does happen a lot around here, it seems.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
347. It just adds to the animosity
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 10:57 AM
Mar 2014

And demanding an apology is ridiculous, it wasn't personal and the video was not out at all at the time. This OP just stirs animosity that wasn't there. One could ask if it changed anyone's mind without being so hostile.

TreasonousBastard

(43,049 posts)
350. I agree that such an OP is largely useless, since it...
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 11:19 AM
Mar 2014

too often falls on the deaf ears of those it applies to. But, DU is no different from any other board or list that has its contingent of people jumping to conclusions. Loudly. And once in a while a rude awakening to that fact may be appropriate.

In the last year or so I've run into the same sort of nonsense in several organizations I'm involved in. There seems to always be a loud contingent that has the absolute, final answer to a problem they discovered. Invented, actually. My position had generally been that if you have such a problem with the organization, or "that" person, perhaps a large part part of the problem is within you. I've noticed that idea has actually gained a lot of traction and often enough we've started on the way to mediation. Differentiating those with genuine concerns from garden-variety malcontents tends to be a good start.

Apologies are rarely necessary, but a simple "OK, I was wrong" is a really good start. And so difficult for so many.

JVS

(61,935 posts)
315. OP provided them a period lasting until the end of time to prove him wrong.
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 03:07 AM
Mar 2014

Yet his prediction stands

Hissyspit

(45,788 posts)
321. Not automatically assuming guilty until proven innocent would help cool down some of the great
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 04:03 AM
Mar 2014

debates of DU, too.

dionysus

(26,467 posts)
272. we saw a select portion of video, sans sound. i'll reserve judgement until the matter is settled.
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 12:18 AM
Mar 2014

he was blocking her front door, she shoved him away. we weren't there for the whole thing so all we can do is speculate.

I don't doubt that Alan has quite a temper, and so does his ex wife, apparently.

Bobbie Jo

(14,341 posts)
290. Agreed.
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 01:12 AM
Mar 2014

The jury is still out for me as well, dion.

That said, I'm not ready to condemn either one of them based upon bits and pieces of a 60 second video.

regnaD kciN

(26,044 posts)
306. I predict...
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 02:53 AM
Mar 2014

...that the Conservative Media Cartel will continue beating the "Democrat Congressman Grayson, accused of abusing his estranged wife" drum all the way through the election, if not beyond. And whoever his opponent will be will allow a "whisper campaign" about it without any consequences (or correction) whatsoever.

It's like "Al Gore claimed to have invented the Internet." Truth doesn't matter -- the fact that it makes for a juicy narrative for certain major interests does.

 

nikto

(3,284 posts)
324. Well it looks like Progressivism and Liberalism have been discredited and dishonored for ALL TIME
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 04:36 AM
Mar 2014
Conservatism wins, once and for all.

The Wizard

(12,545 posts)
338. This place has been infiltrated with trolls
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 09:19 AM
Mar 2014

They're easy to spot if you understand their goal is to disrupt and offer up gibberish so as to redirect or stifle honest discourse.

gollygee

(22,336 posts)
342. I don't see how anyone can know what all happened based on that tiny bit of video
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 09:46 AM
Mar 2014

Let the court do it's job. I doubt it's a right wing smear conspiracy. If it isn't true, it's probably more of a divorce issue.

I think the point the feminists were trying to make isn't that he's guilty, as there's no way to know that, but that:

1. You can't assume his wife is a liar. That isn't any more fair than assuming he's guilty.
2. People who have politics we agree with can commit acts of domestic violence. That also doesn't mean he's guilty, but to say he couldn't have done it because he's a progressive is just wrong.

 

stevenleser

(32,886 posts)
343. It would have helped if everyone advancing a theory made disclaimers to that effect, i.e. its a
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 10:05 AM
Mar 2014

theory.

Unfortunately, this started with her accusations which came out before the video and many folks here were condemning him at that point.

I have a theory, but I have consistently phrased it that way and even pointed out an opposing one. And I have consistently said we need to wait for the investigation to know for sure.

Some people couldnt help themselves and have implied they know for sure he is innocent or guilty. I don't know for sure either way. I have a guess that I think has a fair chance of being right, but that is not a substitute for a full investigation.

kcr

(15,317 posts)
355. It appears some view it as absolute evidence
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 02:36 PM
Mar 2014

And I can't help but note the general hypocrisy going on. I'm not speaking about you, just in general. It seems to me that much more was and has been made over the jumping to conclusions about Alan Grayson's guilt than the other way around, particularly because of a certain subtext that's building up and gaining steam. The Grayson divorce has been reduced to fodder for a DU flamefest. Isn't that great? Another proud moment on The New and Improved DU3. Look for the next "gender wars" any second now.

dotymed

(5,610 posts)
345. I had not heard of the video. I am glad there is one.
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 10:38 AM
Mar 2014

When I was younger, I thought with "the wrong head." I ended up with two wives (at different times of course) who knew that the domestic assault laws are hugely skewed in favor of the "weaker sex."
Both of these women, near the end of our tumultuous marriages had me arrested for striking them.
The first was very light skinned (Swedish ancestry, both were white) and called the police, claimed that I struck her when I went (to the house I purchased) and removed (some) of my belongings. She had no marks on her (if you even pressed her skin, there would be a red mark). I was arrested and convicted of domestic assault.
The second time, I had stopped at the bar with a neighbor and his wife for about an hour after work. They came home with me. They left because she was "going postal" even though I was sober. After they left, she hit herself in the head with an ashtray, called the police (I was in another room) and cried that I had struck her with an ashtray. I was amazed when the police came and I was arrested me for domestic violence.
After I got out of jail, I informed her that if she gave false testimony about me in court that I would divorce her.
Court day, she told the truth and spent 5 days in jail for filing a false report.
I divorced her shortly thereafter.
If I had access to a video phone during those incidents, I could have proven my innocence.
The "laws", especially for non-elites, only require that the woman accuse a man. I was automatically considered guilty in both cases.
Video phones (if that is what was used) do offer the possibility of recording the truth and possibly altering some pre-conceived notions.
I have been a single father with custody of my youngest for 10+ years. I would love to have a mate to share the rest of life with, however, I do have trust issues (kind of afraid) with possible mates.

jimlup

(7,968 posts)
351. My son was falsely accused by an insane woman a few years ago...
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 12:15 PM
Mar 2014

I know how this goes. Not the same but hits close to home.

It is scary that people are ready to convict without real evidence. That is a mistake. Convict on evidence- yes absolutely. But do we remember guilty until proven innocent when strong emotions are involved?

uppityperson

(115,677 posts)
356. I rarely look at Greatest Threads page and to find 2nd to top one is bashing DUers is a reason why
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 02:48 PM
Mar 2014

I understand the reason for your post, just having it have this many recs is something.

Waiting For Everyman

(9,385 posts)
363. So the contingent was all set with tar and feathers, and
Thu Mar 6, 2014, 06:03 PM
Mar 2014

had nowhere to go with it. Had to stuff it all in their pockets and whistle nonchalantly as if there weren't any plans... bummer!

No, there won't be any admission of being wrong, because facts are irrelevant, reality is irrelevant. Only emotion matters.

By a strange coincidence, that's how the religious right thinks too -- only emotion matters. It's a problem of our times, I guess.

Latest Discussions»General Discussion»Now that video exists of ...