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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsNow that video exists of Alan Grayson being attacked by his wife without retaliating, I predict ...
that those DUers who already had him tried and convicted, and who proceeded to pile on to anyone who dared to suggest that the words of Grayson's wife and her lawyer were anything less than the absolute gospel truth will be along to apologize in exactly ... FUCKING NEVER!
ScreamingMeemie
(68,918 posts)My issue with Mr. Grayson is and always will be his "follow the money" support of SeaWorld. Sorry.
rgbecker
(4,832 posts)I don't get their newsletter.
ScreamingMeemie
(68,918 posts)rgbecker
(4,832 posts)ScreamingMeemie
(68,918 posts)But you're getting close. Since you didn't ask nicely, I've used it to respond to someone else who thinks that Grayson is a progressive politician. What irritates me is that so many otherwise intelligent people here (myself included for a long time) got sucked into it.
ScreamingMeemie
(68,918 posts)Because Alan isn't very progressive after all.
Isoldeblue
(1,135 posts)I've watched him talk down to them and sneer at their opinion if it's different than his. He uses intimidation to appear like he's the one who knows better than anyone else.
thesquanderer
(11,990 posts)re: "I've watched him talk down to them and sneer at their opinion if it's different than his."
He behaves the same way toward men, no?
Isoldeblue
(1,135 posts)But in my experience, I've seen him try to intimidate women in a different way, than he would with a man. And I am not alone in that opinion of him. But I thought that before I read and heard anyone else saying the same.
Deep13
(39,154 posts)ScreamingMeemie
(68,918 posts)image people would like to project of Mr. In-it-for-himself-Grayson as being a liberal, those people ignore that. The poster could have asked nicely, instead of using the snide comment, and I would have gladly posted it. He/she did not, so I didn't. Respect is earned. Thank you.
X_Digger
(18,585 posts)On Wed Mar 5, 2014, 10:06 PM an alert was sent on the following post:
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ScreamingMeemie
(68,918 posts)I think someone wants to keep me from bringing the Sea World thing up I guess.
Dark n Stormy Knight
(9,760 posts)who asks how. Some of us can't spend so much time here that we have seen everything everyone posted however many times. But, I can't believe someone alerted on your post! Glad to see the jury was almost unanimously right this time.
rgbecker
(4,832 posts)I lost a lot of sleep wondering about this.
I'm guessing this is something more than naming a penguin "Greyson".
How about multiple choice? Can you give us at least a hint?
Does is start with an r...maybe rape?
How about f....financial indiscretions?
C? Child abuse?
D? Dino...actually favors retaining low minimum wage?
merrily
(45,251 posts)I think we should consider both personal and public life, especially when a candidate is running for the first time.
I don't think a person with bad personal morals/ethics in his or personal life is suddenly going to have great ones only in public life, where, usually, more power and bigger bucks are involved than in personal life.
On the other hand, even a moral/ethical person in private life can get corrupted after he or she gets into office and the money and power people come a-courting. Still, good morals and ethics in private life would be a point in his or favor, IMO.
rhett o rick
(55,981 posts)down. It seems that all of the outspoken Democrats get "caught" doing something wrong (or their wives). That or killed. Sadly the DINO's among us look the other way.
sabrina 1
(62,325 posts)we rarely hear any details about those who are careful never to speak out against Wall St?
The Third Way doesn't look the other way, they participate in any smear campaign against a Progressive Democrat.
And they never need proof. They count on getting the smears out fast, hoping that even if they are proven to be false, some of the mud will stick.
Cleita
(75,480 posts)rhett o rick
(55,981 posts)outspoken? Dennis Kucinich? Gov Seigelman? Eliot Spitzer Weiner Wellstone now Grayson.
I hope Sen Warren doesnt have any skeletons in her closet, because I bet the NSA is looking.
sabrina 1
(62,325 posts)then we need some strategy. Instead of abandoning the targets of these smear campaigns, we should do what Republicans do, rally around them and reelect them IF their policies are the ones we support and they have a record of fighting for.
I don't want to know about anyone's personal divorces, don't even want to know about my friends' and neighbors' personal lives. Divorces especially where there are children, are no way to judge people, they are nasty even when the people themselves are not normally nasty.
I support Grayson based on the work he has done for the PEOPLE.
ScreamingMeemie
(68,918 posts)With his stance on Sea World, he proved he's just another politician in it for himself and the $. Of course there will be crickets to this because there always is... because it doesn't fit the profile that so many want to paint of him as a true progressive.
That said, I have no idea what happened with his personal life and it should be left alone.
http://articles.orlandosentinel.com/2010-08-19/business/os-seaworld-osha-grayson-20100819_1_dawn-brancheau-killer-whale-performances-marine-parks-and-aquariums
alfredo
(60,074 posts)GoneFishin
(5,217 posts)it is that you are alleging?
If that is what you are condemning him on, my assumption is that you just don't like him for some other reason. Too feisty or whatever.
ScreamingMeemie
(68,918 posts)That's not a liberal. That "say the right thing for the money." Of course, if he were Republican... but he sports a D so of course pandering to corporations over people is okay. We're better than that. We can find better than a man who's in it for himself. The D doesn't, and never will, make it okay.
GoneFishin
(5,217 posts)ScreamingMeemie
(68,918 posts)greiner3
(5,214 posts)And Boxer and Feinstein and Nelson FL and Bob Casey PA and Susan Davis and others but I got tired looking up the names and political parties.
1,000, $2,500 or $5,000 contribution to each and Alan only got the middle amount.
So Alan will get millions in contributions and what does this paltry amount mean to you.
ScreamingMeemie
(68,918 posts)his head say to you?
Sorry, but he had no reason to do this other than personal. I'm betting he got a heck of a lot more than those donations. Sorry, I don't trust the guy and he's definitely not the progressive that some would like to see him proclaimed. Warts. They all have them. We need to stop sticking them up on pedestals.
Live and Learn
(12,769 posts)with fond memories of Sea World. There are two sides to the Sea World story and although I have mixed feelings about it, one cannot deny that without its existence and influence most of us would be without knowledge of how beautiful and intelligent these creatures are. The same applies to zoos.
The exact same forums we now question (or abhor, in some cases) were the ones that ignited are love of animals. Sea World has been the inspiration for many of the sea life protection regulations that have been installed.
Perhaps, working with these agencies to further protections instead of completely demonizing them would be a better solution.
newthinking
(3,982 posts)Last edited Tue Mar 25, 2014, 03:20 PM - Edit history (1)
Because this is not a pattern and the vast majority of his positions are for the people, in terms of logic it tends to argue that this is really about him really believing what he says, not for the money.
I do recognize that Parks like this are a necessary evil. If it was not for water parks the general public would be much more ignorant and not as supportive of conservation efforts for these mammals in general.
We don't know what conversation occurred. Likely he was just getting information, which he has a right to do as a representative. Again, I think you can look at the record as a whole to help determine what is likely.
William Seger
(10,779 posts)Seems to me Grayson could be justified in honestly believing that they are an asset to the people he represents.
I firmly believe that regulating corporations is absolutely necessary and that they should be punished for their transgressions, but you have certainly not made the case that Grayson sold out to an Evil Corporation for $2500.
VanillaRhapsody
(21,115 posts)cause you cannot really run a country with just two "Liberals" that you get to decide are "Liberal" enough for everyone else to support.
ScreamingMeemie
(68,918 posts)He is not. He is just like the rest.
You will not see me banging the drum for any of our current politicians too often because they all have warts. It behooves us to realize that.
VanillaRhapsody
(21,115 posts)a legitimate question WHO does meet your "expectations" Are there enough to run the country? If not...THAT could really be a problem huh?
ScreamingMeemie
(68,918 posts)who meets my "expectations" is myself. However, I am raising a child and cannot run. But I will, most definitely not turn our politicians into political superheroes as so many tend to do. I vote D even when I don't find them to be progressive. Mr. Grayson is far from a firebrand. I am campaigning for Wendy Davis here in Texas because she is what we have. I abhor her stance on gun control, but... I'm not running. I will, however, hold her feet to the fire if she is elected. It's what we're supposed to do instead of crowning them on high over all. I have always and will always be that way. Bringing reality to the discussion as it were.
I hope that answers your question.
VanillaRhapsody
(21,115 posts)interesting....
ScreamingMeemie
(68,918 posts)He is off. Sorry. I know a lot of you don't like it because you really like him for some reason. I will never get it. His ACA comments were grandstanding that hurt over helping.
VanillaRhapsody
(21,115 posts)does not compute...
ScreamingMeemie
(68,918 posts)and links. It comes down to this: don't turn people into more than they are. I don't defend the indefensible. I made the mistake of attempting to defend Edwards even though his son of a mill worker post was pure pablum BS. How wrong I was. Mr. Grayson is cut from that cloth in my opinion, and he proves it all the time.
VanillaRhapsody
(21,115 posts)but the conclusions you are drawing from them that I find fascinating...
quakerboy
(13,920 posts)It sounds to me like you are asserting that any politician who ever has any interaction with a corporation in any context other than expressing the opinion that "corporations, each and every one, are evil bad" is now a panderer and not progressive. You didnt use those words, but It seems to be the implication. Maybe you could express it in your own words?
I'm confused about what exactly he did wrong there, as well. Did he take a bribe? Was he bought with corporate donations? Is there any indication that he actually used undue pressure to do anything? Would that be in character with the pattern of behavior he has exhibited in other instances?
cui bono
(19,926 posts)LiberalAndProud
(12,799 posts)Although I don't agree with his intervention in the Sea World probe, I don't think I'll be throwing him under the bus just yet. In his mind, he was protecting hundreds of Florida jobs. Sure it was wrong-headed. Who is the politician who agrees with me 100% of the time?
Here is the list:
ScreamingMeemie
(68,918 posts)His ACA comments on the floor hurt, not helped, the cause. He with his theatrics, an absolute zero. I will support the real people, doing the real things. It was not necessary for him to even be involved. That's a HUGE red flag.
You go on with supporting a DINO though. Sorry, but that was beyond the pale, and no, it can't be swept under the rug.
dreamnightwind
(4,775 posts)and, gasp, has received $3,500 from SeaWorld, so he's a DINO? That's a lot of fail.
The SeaWorld issue is fair game, I'm glad you bring it to people's attention.
Perspective is important. I've watched Grayson go hard against very powerful interests, consistently. He's one of the very best we have, as far as I can tell.
pscot
(21,024 posts)Kucinich is drawing a psycheck from Roger Ailes. Just sayin'.
rhett o rick
(55,981 posts)merrily
(45,251 posts)I realize it was not a check from Roger Ailes, but it not starving, either.
If I were more at ease speaking publicly, I would take gladly take a check to present leftist views on Fox. If Kucinich were spewing rw bullshit on Fox, that would be a valid criticism.
merrily
(45,251 posts)and Massa, but I am not sure there was a choice as to Massa and Weiner, both of whom let things spill over (as it were) to Congress, Massa with his employees and Weiner instagramming from the Congressional gym.
Still, when Pelosi promised to "drain the swamp" as she took the Speaker's gavel in 2007, I foolishly assumed that she meant Republicans. The only Republican I can recall being targeted was Ensign and that was so public, there was hardly a choice.
No doubt, there were reasons to go after some of the Democrats, but I have a feeling equally or more compelling reasons exist for almost everyone who was in the House then.
LiberalLovinLug
(14,174 posts)Howard Dean
Van Jones
Cynthia McKinney
You can be sure the NSA and the DLC is scouring the closets of Warren as well as Wendy Davis.
And then you'll find the same lost children in here lambasting them for their horrible domestic indiscretions.
dbackjon
(6,578 posts)rhett o rick
(55,981 posts)"We live in a Democracy, we live in a Democracy, we live....."
"I am free as long as I get to vote, I am free as long as I get to......"
Please pass the Cool-Aid. I prefer cherry.
blackspade
(10,056 posts)REP
(21,691 posts)He was a Republican and had worked at Goldman Sachs as an investment banker and partner. Remember the allegations Jeri Ryan made against him that were made very public?
Aerows
(39,961 posts)because at the time his wife was fairly high profile as an actress.
REP
(21,691 posts)ReRe
(10,597 posts)Because it's what they are. They can't help themselves. If you think about it for a minute, what is it that they have in common with Democrats? It's the knee-jerk phenomenon. We use facts when we jerk, they sling mud when they jerk. Seriously, it's the perfect litmus test in recognizing who you're dealing with.
ScreamingMeemie
(68,918 posts)with regard to Sea World. I haven't thought of him as a liberal since then, soooo....
madinmaryland
(64,933 posts)is the way he posts on DU. He posts something, asks for money, and then disappears. I'd love to engage him in discussion as I am sure other DUer's would, also. Elizabeth Edwards discussed things here over the years on occasion.
ScreamingMeemie
(68,918 posts)The alerts we received from people that night accusing someone of using her name to post were hilarious.
I was a member of his fb page, donated money, and then actually delved into what he stands for and there are so many other bright and shining stars who are more worthy of my money and time. I really believe he's in it for himself. And himself, alone.
Isoldeblue
(1,135 posts)Isoldeblue
(1,135 posts)in only black and white; no gray areas or compromise. If someone doesn't care for Grayson, then they are automatically no good and not a true dem. That's way too rigid.
I don't care for Grayson for my own personal reasons. Does that make me a DINO? But I'd vote for Warren and Sanders in a heartbeat over HRC.
I support our pres, but not in everything, but still get accused by some like you, in being an apologist.
When and if I ever read you offering any constructive alternative solutions and THE MEANS to accomplish them, then and only then will you have any credibility with me.
rhett o rick
(55,981 posts)I said the DINO's hate Grayson and other outspoken Democrats on the left. And for the record, I have never called you an "apologist".
Sometimes there is no easy answer but hell if I am going to accept policies that further harm the 99%.
Some would say that we need to be pragmatic and accept the 50 lashes because it's better than 100. I say crap with that and intend to scream bloody murder in either case.
Isoldeblue
(1,135 posts)treestar
(82,383 posts)Straw man victimhood.
rhett o rick
(55,981 posts)wouldnt throw him a line if he was drowning. But they dont hate him.
Isoldeblue
(1,135 posts)I may not care enough to vote for him if I could. But I would throw him a line if he were drowning.
Actually, I can't hardly think of anyone I wouldn't do that for. No matter who they are.
I don't have to hate someone, if I disagree with them. I may not like them much, but it takes a lot for most good people to hate as you're describing.
Especially people in the BOG. You won't find much hate there.
You're probably banned from there though, aren't you?
cui bono
(19,926 posts)Especially people in the BOG. You must not know the BOG well if you think there is no hate there or coming from its members. I mean, there may not be any hate in the BOG as it is just one big lovefest for Obama, but there is hate there, they just ban those who say things they hate, doesn't mean there isn't hate from the BOGgers though. There was a thread posted by Grayson and BOGgers were ridiculing him immediately in it. Very rude. Most of the posts on DU that ridicule people without discussing policy at all are from BOGgers.
I don't know why you are after Rhett on this thread, but it is unwarranted, as is your defense of the BOG.
Isoldeblue
(1,135 posts)But Rhett is a big boy. I think he can take care of himself. Only two posts are far from being unwarranted. I had a problem with his broad-brush, rigid announcements. He mentioned the BOG, so I wanted to say something about it.
You have a problem with my liking the BOG, so you posted to me. Not much difference there, that I can see.
And my defense of the BOG is quite warranted as I have a number of friends there and I am a member. So please do not deign to tell me that I not familiar with it. The rudeness and immaturity displayed in GD is outrageous at times. The BOG is a place of peace and respect for our POTUS for me and for it's members.
That's why there's vanilla, chocolate and strawberry, ya know?
treestar
(82,383 posts)Maybe he was saying something about Obama that the Boggers didn't like? Do you expect Boggers to do other than disagree in that case, and why does that have to mean they "hate" him?
What is it with the victim thing? Grayson even lost his seat. Is that because the voters hate him?
cui bono
(19,926 posts)treestar
(82,383 posts)Where is his life threatened?
rhett o rick
(55,981 posts)There is a huge difference in wanting someone dead and not caring if they live.
Besides when I said, "They just dont care if he lives." I was speaking metaphorically related to his political life.
The DINO's here continue to speak badly of liberal, lefties, "the extremists on the left", etc. But if we continue this conservative course that the corporate Democrats and Republicans have us on, the lower classes will be crushed. The conservatives say dont worry, stay the course as more and more people slip into poverty.
How bad does it have to get before the conservatives, including DINO's, wake up and smell the plutocracy?
Zorra
(27,670 posts)Ugly stuff for a progressive board.
dionysus
(26,467 posts)there isn't some grand conspiracy to "silence him"...
he gives plenty of red meat to the base and says the right things, but is largely inconsequential in the grand scheme of things.
that and he has his staffer post annoying hit and run OPs soliciting money all the damned time.
RobertEarl
(13,685 posts)They are fine upstanding citizens that never lie and are always right.
geek tragedy
(68,868 posts)Who are these people who so victimized Grayson supporters over this incident? I have seen none of that.
Also note that the video doesn't show the beginning of the incident. Which is kind of important for people who pay attention to stuff like facts, because the estranged wife admitted striking him--she said it was in retalitation and that he hit first.
So, the video does not PROVE HIS INNOCENCE ZOMG. Rather, it's one piece of evidence in an unresolved case, about which we do not know who is telling the truth.
yuiyoshida
(41,832 posts)He put down the bag, SHOVED her down.. picked up the bag just in time for the video showing her putting in a right hook, while he still has a bag, and is backing away ?
Right..he's guilty as sin.
geek tragedy
(68,868 posts)in the video.
I am not rushing to judgment. I do not know who is telling the truth.
yuiyoshida
(41,832 posts)When exactly was that? Did he use his feet, cause he had that bag in his hand. Not sure what was in it? Groceries maybe? In any CASE...it does not appear she told the truth regarding being pushed down and bruised up. How do you do that with a bag in your hand.. oh unless he brought the bag as weight, so he could line back her down using a shoulder... hmm.. I think SOMEBODY is lying, don't you?
geek tragedy
(68,868 posts)the film Rashomon.
The tape is evidence, but it is not conclusive.
You may be right. That's why there are court proceedings.
yuiyoshida
(41,832 posts)snooper2
(30,151 posts)WTF!
This calls for 37.3 OPs and some discussion!
yuiyoshida
(41,832 posts)Sherlock Holmes!
snooper2
(30,151 posts)and I see nipples!
And it's reminding me that I really need to start working out again.
No people look that good in real life!, or, could I?
yuiyoshida
(41,832 posts)Iron man.. Didn't the President say he was working on making Iron Man suits?
butterfly77
(17,609 posts)Sexaaaaaaaaaaay!!!!!
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)You gotta hand it to the guy. He's come quite a ways since he used to turn up in random living rooms all over Santa Monica.
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)See what I did, there?
raven mad
(4,940 posts)blackspade
(10,056 posts)He's wearing a pillow!
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)I love those DU "discussions"!
Whisp
(24,096 posts)Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)Another in a long line of front burner absolutely super important issues that must be addressed absofuckinglutely immedigoddamnately, the speciesist exploitation and sexumological objectifimazication of our nation's oppressed bigfeet.
kcr
(15,317 posts)I find it odd that he decided to show up at the home with video in tow like that. What were the motivations there? To show up unannounced knowing it will cause a scene, and provoke her into a response to get it on video so he can then say "See, it's her!" At any rate, sure not jumping on the "See, it's proof" bandwagon.
yuiyoshida
(41,832 posts)Its usually a bag of groceries. IF so was the food for her?? For the kids? Or maybe he had an old pair of her shoes to return...(or throw at her in the middle eastern fashion. Kidding.)
kcr
(15,317 posts)That was apparently his stated reason for being there.
yuiyoshida
(41,832 posts)Been Papa John's Pizza... at least we would have known his motive!!
blackspade
(10,056 posts)yuiyoshida
(41,832 posts)papajohns? Maybe... okay... Little Caesars than...(pizza pizza)
Isoldeblue
(1,135 posts)He is an opportunist and an egotistical hot dog. I am not convinced of his sincerity. I've seen him act out in ways towards women, that were completely wrong.
HangOnKids
(4,291 posts)Go on you can do it.....
Isoldeblue
(1,135 posts)from me. Proof for what? My opinion....? SMH
Ikonoklast
(23,973 posts)That's not an opinion, you stated that as a fact.
Where and when did you witness this behavior?
Isoldeblue
(1,135 posts)I don't have a link or video. It was about 6-7 months ago.
He cut her off a number of times and spoke down to her in a way that made me cringe. He was rude, condescending and completely disrespectful.
Even O'Donnell cringed and say something to him about it, w/a whoa...
It's ok to have a disagreement, but do with with courteous consideration. He doesn't. I've observed this behavior from him a few times. Especially with women.
Because of my upbringing, it's taken me awhile to recognize when a man is acting in a misogynistic way around women. And I see it in him and I am not the only woman who finds him offensive.
Common Sense Party
(14,139 posts)Isoldeblue
(1,135 posts)the Lawrence O'Donnell show. But it was during the same time of the Syria crisis. He was being a pussy-cat here. I wonder if this was before or after the LOD show.... It was not pretty....
But thanks for looking it up.
Common Sense Party
(14,139 posts)Sorry.
HangOnKids
(4,291 posts)" I've seen him act out in ways towards women, that were completely wrong." You state that you have seen him acting towards women that were wrong. When and where did you see this?
Isoldeblue
(1,135 posts)But when someone demands I do something like you did, I don't respond to it.
HangOnKids
(4,291 posts)You made a bold claim and have no evidence to back it up. Boo Hoo you got called out and can't back it up. Trite and boring.
Isoldeblue
(1,135 posts)lazy to read down thru here or you just enjoy being miserable, rude and contentious. I'd say the latter.
Didn't anyone tell you that you get more flies with honey, than vinegar?
Here - Just for you:
Isoldeblue (1,110 posts)
265. For one, with Karen Finney on the Lawrence O'Donnell show.
I don't have a link or video. It was about 6-7 months ago.
He cut her off a number of times and spoke down to her in a way that made me cringe. He was rude, condescending and completely disrespectful.
Even O'Donnell cringed and say something to him about it, w/a whoa...
It's ok to have a disagreement, but do with with courteous consideration. He doesn't. I've observed this behavior from him a few times. Especially with women.
Because of my upbringing, it's taken me awhile to recognize when a man is acting in a misogynistic way around women. And I see it in him and I am not the only woman who finds him offensive.
HangOnKids
(4,291 posts)Exactly why I do not want to continue this conversation with you. Take care.
Isoldeblue
(1,135 posts)too, cupcake. One day you're going to cross the wrong person with that nasty attitude of yours. Good luck with that.
Nice examples of teaching your kids in being civil and courteous.
Btw, YOU, started the conversation and crap with me....
lumberjack_jeff
(33,224 posts)Because, being a lawyer and all, he knew that during the divorce trial he'd be accused of exactly what she was doing.
The presumption in court, like DU, is that women never lie.
Prudent.
kcr
(15,317 posts)Is that what a lawyer would advise? Tell victims to go to where their abuser is residing and get evidence of their client being abused? Is that a good idea for someone to do? Is this what lawyers do, because courts only rule in favor of women? Never for men? Really?
Or is this only in MRA fantasy land?
Whisp
(24,096 posts)the bleating is harder to take on some days than others.
They lie about rape, abuse, lie lie lie.
the only thing they are good for is to lie down.
kcr
(15,317 posts)He's such a domestic violence victim that he went there on purpose to get video evidence of it so he can prove it. And he got it. The janky shaky camera phone footage mostly consisting of a van that suddenly pans to her just as she shoves him. Busted!
MADem
(135,425 posts)But if I were in a shoving frame of mind, I, myself, lazy peacenik that I am, could EASILY do some shoving while holding on tight to a paper bag. It's not at all impossible. It's not even unlikely. No need to put down the bag and shove, then pick the bag up.
Humans were built with forearms and elbows for just this sort of thing!
One can shove and carry a paper bag at the same time! Even with the same arm!
yuiyoshida
(41,832 posts)Every football player probably knows this.. did he use a forearm shove? Likely but doubt able. I don't think He is prone to violence..but I don't know his past. One can talk big.. and never use the threat of violence. I guess the Video for now is in his favor.. maybe it was altered. Maybe it was staged..using someone else as a look alike. We just don't know.
Andy823
(11,495 posts)The facts are important, and the fact is, for some reason the person who videoed things waited before pointing the phone at the house and what was going on. I can't understand how that "fact" is not being questioned more.
geek tragedy
(68,868 posts)who failed to agree that he was guilty as charged.
The OP is inventing an offense over which to express outrage.
Let the fact-finding process run its course.
11 Bravo
(23,926 posts)Multiple times. You will now deny that demonstrable fact again while hoping that no one else makes the effort to locate and read the thread. When that fails, you will say that it wasn't as big as deal as I made it out to be, even though all I said was, despite your claims to the contrary, it fucking happened.
You are currently in the initial stages of walking it back, yet you continue to claim that "there was no effort" to attack Grayson's defenders. That is patently false, but you will either continue to make that claim, or simply abandon the thread.
geek tragedy
(68,868 posts)questioning the versions of events, reserving judgment etc.
it was someone trotting out a traditional victim-blaming line of rhetoric--the old of "if she was being beaten, why didn't she leave?" nonsense.
That's a whole different kettle of fish from "let's not jump to conclusions."
Jim Lane
(11,175 posts)The news reporter conveys Grayson's lawyer's statement that the first minute or so of the video was chopped off, before the release to the media, to protect the privacy of the Grayson children. Thus, your statement that the person making the video "waited before pointing the phone at the house" -- a statement that appears to be an assumption on your part -- is disputed by someone with direct personal knowledge.
That doesn't mean that Grayson's lawyer's statement must be taken as absolute truth. It does, however, lend some context to your dismay that what you see as a salient "fact" (which may well not even be a fact) isn't being questioned more.
Incidentally, the reporter adds that Grayson's wife, who also has personal knowledge of the facts, was asked to comment, but declined.
11 Bravo
(23,926 posts)it was fucking yesterday, it's on Page 2 right now, and you know damned well what I'm talking about. I've got better things to do with my time than argue with someone so intellectually dishonest.
OK, now that's your cue to come back with something along the lines of, "My, so angry" or some other such non-responsive tripe; all in the hope that it will distract from your flat-out lie that the posters I referenced "don't really exist".
Hint: The internet can be cruel. Unless you can PM them really quickly and beg them to self-delete their posts, you will remain exposed.
geek tragedy
(68,868 posts)very mild, far from the Coliseum-style persecution you portray in your OP
sabrina 1
(62,325 posts)when a woman hits a man, which wouldn't surprise me one bit. I'm sure we'll see how he must have done something to cause her to behave that way. In fact we have seen that based on nothing so far.
Otoh, had the video shown him hitting her, nothing else would be needed, no statements like 'thevideo does not PROVE HER INNOCENCE ZOMG'.
I don't know why any of this is anyone's business but theirs. But then he is a Progressive Democrat who stands up against Wall St criminals and ANYONE who does that can expect smear campaigns them, see the proof regarding Greenwald, no denying that thankfully or we would be told it was a CT. Exposed bid on contract to smear a blogger who was talking about Wall St. Crime.
I would not be surprised to find out that Grayson was on such a list either.
I'm sure we'll be told how his personal life is important etc etc, although it hasn't been regarding others who coincidentally don't speak out against Wall St. In those cases it is always 'their own business'.
geek tragedy
(68,868 posts)the beginning of the incident is not captured on the video.
Ergo, we do not have video evidence regarding the whole story, including the most crucial part, the beginning, which is the most hotly contested.
Rep Grayson may very well be completely innocent in all of this.
Vinnie From Indy
(10,820 posts)a witness to video any interaction that might take place and then assault his wife knowing that the person HE brought was filming it? I guess the videographer could have erased that part of the video. Maybe there was a plan where Grayson was going to shove his wife down then immediately grab a large bag he brought with him to show his hands were full and then give a signal to his associate to start filming from that point onward.
geek tragedy
(68,868 posts)that he is guilty.
treestar
(82,383 posts)whopis01
(3,514 posts)It looks like the filmer quickly pulled out their phone and attempted to film what was going on.
To me that says they were responding to something they saw happening and were not planning all along to document the whole interaction.
As for what happened earlier in the incident to prompt him to start filming, I have no idea. But there is clearly more going on than what was captured.
Vinnie From Indy
(10,820 posts)advice from divorce attorneys. Grayson, being an attorney, probably brought the person filming for just this reason. I do not at all think the witness being there with a camera was a fluke or a random event.
whopis01
(3,514 posts)then they did a rather poor job of filming it from what I saw in the video.
It looks like they don't being filming until the altercation is well underway and the video begins looking down under the dash and at his legs.
I don't doubt that Grayson brought a witness along on purpose - that seems plainly obvious to me. However, it does look to me like that witness didn't think about filming the event until it was already underway.
Bonobo
(29,257 posts)geek tragedy
(68,868 posts)in a thread that claimed people who didn't rush to conclusions were being attacked.
there is a court system, let it sort this out.
Bonobo
(29,257 posts)Bonobo
(29,257 posts)Maybe it is blocked in Japan.
But let me say this. First of all, as I see it, the thread is a response to people that already had convicted Grayson of abuse in their minds WITH NO EVIDENCE other than Lolita's word.
Now there IS evidence that one of them IS abusive. EVIDENCE.
And yet now you say there should be no rush to judgment. That is a joke. Did you say that when people were rushing to condemn Grayson with no evidence?
As for the video, if there was video of a man hitting is wife similarly, would you REALLY have a problem "rushing to the judgment" that he was a wife abuser? Really?
kcr
(15,317 posts)And yet you're making the determination that it is evidence that one of them is abusive. And you're talking about other people rushing to judgment?
Bonobo
(29,257 posts)You will see that I have not "determined" anything and was up front about not seeing the video.
However, it is clear that descriptions show violence (punching or pushing at the least) from the wife, yes? I believe no one is disputing that.
My point is to say that in light of the fact that abuse IS shown being done by the wife, that the only conclusion that can be drawn is that there has been abuse by the wife. Whether or not you feel it is "justified" is besides the point.
If you saw a video of Grayson abusing his wife, would you similarly suggest that he may have been "justified" and therefore the video means nothing?
Answer? Umm, no. I doubt it.
kcr
(15,317 posts)For one thing, I don't justify abuse. But I wouldn't define what I saw on the video as abuse.
Isoldeblue
(1,135 posts)That some believe they possess divine knowledge without looking at any of the facts...
SMH
geek tragedy
(68,868 posts)She admitted to kneeing him in the groin in her complaint, so was pretty clear this was not a clear case of husband beating up wife.
Art_from_Ark
(27,247 posts)It's interesting to note that the couple's 18-year-old daughter has released a statement supporting Alan Grayson's side of the story. It is mentioned at around 0:21 in the video, and the full statement is given at around 2:15.
sabrina 1
(62,325 posts)speculate. Okay then let's speculate, perhaps she was even more violent on the part we didn't see and as the father of both of their children, he didn't want to make that public""
How is that for speculation? That's the problem with speculation, isn't it? It means zero. Yours that he MUST have been violent towards her, mine that he was being decent and not showing her most violent attacks. None of it means anything.
geek tragedy
(68,868 posts)Nowhere did I come close to stating that he must have engaged in physical aggression. I have refrained from any speculation on this.
sabrina 1
(62,325 posts)relevant since we can only comment on what we saw?
geek tragedy
(68,868 posts)Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)Clearly.
treestar
(82,383 posts)She didn't injure him in some major way, so labeling her "abusive" is a bit much. Practically every spouse might well be "abusive" if everything counts.
sabrina 1
(62,325 posts)said already. It's okay for a woman to hit a man, not okay for a man to hit a woman. Here's what I think, it's not okay for anyone to hit anyone, whether they end up in the hospital or not. Equality under the law, that's what we women want, we do not want to be treated differently, as if we are a weaker sex. We are not, women commit murder and their, according to you, being the weaker sex does not stop them. Iow, they are as capable of putting someone in the hospital, or grave as any man.
I have no clue about the personal lives of these two people and neither do you. I know allegations, apparently false, were made against Grayson, now we see some evidence that he may be the victim after all. Did you defend him from allegations without proof btw?
Bottom line, divorce and custody battles can get nasty and no one knows the dynamics of anyone else's marriage. Perfectly rational people going through a divorce and custody battle, can and do become irrational, a sort of temporary insanity.
Once the divorce is final, all the issues settled, hopefully both of them can move on to more happy futures. They have six children I believe who will need both parents, and WE should just leave them alone.
treestar
(82,383 posts)Look at the video - she's smaller than he is.
sabrina 1
(62,325 posts)hitting them then being exposed as the one who did the hitting? Are women so weak that when THEY lie about men, it isn't as important?
I must be weird, but I have the same standards of behavior for both men and women.
treestar
(82,383 posts)In that video, he is not hurt at all. Little kids hit people, and they are taught not to, but they don't hurt anybody. And a woman is not always lying - a few may, thinking it will gain them advantage or to add to the drama, which many people in divorces do, but if it really happens then she could get hurt.
sabrina 1
(62,325 posts)Really? She assaulted him. Do the cops conduct a medical exam before arresting people who assault other people? I didn't know there was a gender exemption for women in cases of assault.
And how do you know he was not hurt? If this is an example of her behavior, what makes you think he has not been hurt, or feels threatened that he could be hurt?
stevenleser
(32,886 posts)You are right that the stronger a person is, the higher that chance is, but you always run the risk of creating a blood clot that travels or has pieces break off and travel to the heart or brain, and cause a heart attack or stroke, or various other freak injuries.
That is even more true when you have an adult hit another adult in the head like she did.
polly7
(20,582 posts)I also saw the other side of it. Not with me ...... but on MANY occasions while working bar and watching women strike the man they were with, pour drinks in their faces and in one case, a woman actually slammed the heavy steel door on her own shoulder and screamed at us to call the cops for her boyfriend 'beating her up'. I guess she was too drunk to know we'd seen it and basically just said 'go home, you're drunk.' Her boyfriend had left minutes earlier with friends and wasn't around for the screaming ... I'm pretty sure she was sore the next morning. It absolutely goes both ways and it's horrible it happens at all. I don't know Grayson, being from Canada and not really following your politicians there ..... but I hope his career, if he's innocent (which it seems might be likely) isn't ruined by this.
sabrina 1
(62,325 posts)is one I respect more than most here. I am truly sorry for what you went through, I cannot imagine the pain, both physical and emotional, and yet you have always maintained your sense of fairness and desire to know the facts before reacting.
Grayson is one of our most Progressive Democrats and most outspoken against Wall St Corruption. He has always been a target of those who want to protect Wall St corruption from exposure.
He and his wife have a large family, six children I believe and obviously they are going through a very tough time, like many other people going through a divorce especially after a long marriage.
Since I have no clue what their personal problems are I certainly can't or won't jump to conclusions, but it appears a smear campaign against him included accusing him of abusing his wife. This video was apparently a response to those allegations.
Many of our most vocal opponents of our Foreign Policy and Wall St corruption have, coincidentally suffered from smear campaigns, Glenn Greewald (we KNOW they had a contract up for bid on that), Kucinich, Cynthia McKinney, Grayson, among others. We also know that Republicans go through scandals, yet always seem to survive politically.
So, I am very cautious about yet another outspoken Democrat being tarnished this way.
Thanks for your comment, a voice of sanity as always.
ScreamingMeemie
(68,918 posts)Um...no, I don't want a "progressive" like Mr. Grayson...
and why does no one address this. He's a corporate panderer. He deserves every spot on his record. We can do better than this.
http://articles.orlandosentinel.com/2010-08-19/business/os-seaworld-osha-grayson-20100819_1_dawn-brancheau-killer-whale-performances-marine-parks-and-aquariums
I am with you on everyone except this DINO.
Demo_Chris
(6,234 posts)It's a major corporation in his district, directly and indirectly responsible for a lot of revenue and perhaps thousands of jobs. They had just suffered a tragic incident and he wanted to know, from OSHA, what the potential impact might be. He might, MIGHT, have also placed some pressure on OSHA to moderate their report to some extent -- but as far as I know there is no evidence of that. Finally, he has said nice complimentary things about SeaWorld in the past, which is entirely appropriate.
In other words, he has done his job. I wish president Obama took representing his voters as seriously.
Years back Harry Reid was my Senator. At the time I was a somewhat enthusiastic by very amateur astronomer. One of my astronomy magazines mentioned that NASA was planning to defund and pull the plug on the Hubble. I wrote to Senator Reid (and my GOP Senator) expressing my concerns. Two weeks later I got a letter back from a staffer in Reid's office. It said that Senator Reid had spoken to the people at NASA and they had decided to reverse their position and would continue funding and support for the Hubble program. He did his JOB, representing one of his constituents. So did Grayson with SeaWorld.
ScreamingMeemie
(68,918 posts)Mr. Grayson picked corporate over people... You do know what all is based in Orlando...I hope for gosh sakes?
No, your guy is in it for himself. There's no progressive there. It's why so many fall silent when this come
Governor's get a pass for pandering. Not a two-bit representative. That is NOT Mr. Grayson's job, and I am sad that you think that congresspeople get a pass for pandering to corps. My money will go to the coffers of whoever primaries him. He's a BSer, and we don't need him. We're better than that.
GoneFishin
(5,217 posts)ScreamingMeemie
(68,918 posts)You do know, as well, how many corporations (entertainment corps even) are in Mr. Grayson's area... I would hope. Defend the worthy.
GoneFishin
(5,217 posts)MADem
(135,425 posts)She championed retention of a battlefield program that the Pentagon did not want, does not need, and wanted to cancel.
Why? Because it would have meant a loss of MA jobs had the program gone away.
People are not perfect and all politics is local.
That said, I know nothing about this guy's issues with his wife. The video isn't proof of anything he did or didn't do, it's just proof of what his wife did in a brief moment in time. If they have kids they need to shape up and come to a decent accord for the sake of them.
He'd be well advised to never, ever enter that home without permission and an off duty cop hired as an escort/witness.
sabrina 1
(62,325 posts)You must be really upset over all the Corporate appointments by our President. Monsanto? Now there's a progressive appointment for you! And all that pandering to Wall St, Goldman Sachs ... must be very upsetting for you, I know it is for me.
I'll take Grayson any day over some of our Third Way Corporate, War Supporting 'democrats'.
Saying a few nice words about a major job supplier in the district you represent as a member of Congress??
We would empty out Capitol Hill if THAT was the standard we used to ferret out 'corporate panderers'.
polly7
(20,582 posts)I don't believe, when it comes to changing Foreign Policy and financial corruption, that anyone is safe - anywhere .... going after a family this way though is just unbelievably evil. From what I've read here, he does seem like a good person and doesn't deserve to have a career ruined over something that possibly isn't even at all true. I really hope for all those involved, especially the children, this will be worked out. The video does tell a story and I hope it's not just brushed off. Imo, the children will be the ones who eventually let the truth be known, sad as that is to think of.
Republicans and Conservatives (consider Rob Ford) survive because the way they act out is just normal behaviour (only half kidding) for those that support them .... it's all just a big joke. Strange though how different the standards are, but puppet conservatives know they don't really have to stand up for anything meaningful, so acting like assholes is no biggie at all. And I need coffee, as I have no idea if a single word of this made sense.
opiate69
(10,129 posts)To see the contortions some have to go through to try to justify assault, simply because the apparent facts don't comport with their ideology.
George II
(67,782 posts)treestar
(82,383 posts)getting involved in this kind of thing takes a certain character. He'd have done better to avoid this situation.
geek tragedy
(68,868 posts)of having married the right person. There but for the grace of god go I.*
*Referring to the general situation-any DV from either party is completely unacceptable of course.
treestar
(82,383 posts)up close, some people do handle it maturely. This type of thing occurs for the people who don't handle it that well. Sounds like both of them are getting into that territory of blame, defense, creating drama, etc. And even drawing the kids into it.
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closeupready
(29,503 posts)OnyxCollie
(9,958 posts)cali
(114,904 posts)It doesn't contradict what she's said. and why was he there? If he didn't have scheduled visitation, why not send a staffer to pick up the mail?
We just don't know yet who did what.
11 Bravo
(23,926 posts)That's the reason I stayed out of the thread that someone else is denying the very existence of on this thread. We don't always agree, cali, but I've found you to be honest.
You posted in the thread, so it will be simple for you to go back and review it. Grayson was tried and convicted by some, and those who questioned his wife's version were accused of "victim blaming" among other things.
That, and only that, is the genesis of my OP.
opiate69
(10,129 posts)Who victim blaming?
1000words
(7,051 posts)You the advance party?
bravenak
(34,648 posts)You miss me? I m heeeere!!!
BainsBane
(53,035 posts)You are a joy to this site. I just adore you.
bravenak
(34,648 posts)We have good time up in here.
Anybody who could watch a video of someone being assaulted, then turn around and say shit like "why we're they being confrontational?" "Why didn't they just leave?" Etc, etc.
bravenak
(34,648 posts)I have no idea why anyone would seek out a confrontation at a home they no longer live in. If you don't live there anymore, you have to ask the people who do live there if you can come over.
And my main problem with the video is that the sound is missing and part of the physical confrontation is cut off by the videographer filming a van instead. We can't see on the video who struck first.
BainsBane
(53,035 posts)and you have nothing.
opiate69
(10,129 posts)I mean, imagine if people had given similar opinions about Nigella Lawson back when her shitheel husband assaulted her in public.
BainsBane
(53,035 posts)Grayson's wife is the complainant, not Grayson.
As a matter of fact, there were a people who piled on Nigella Lawson at the time for being beaten. You might recall an Australian radio show called for a boycott of her TV show and products, and some here defended it. It was repulsive.
opiate69
(10,129 posts)As for her being the complainant, that's really apropos of fuck-all at this point. The evidence before us shows her to be the abuser. I'm sure you're aware that male victims of domestic violence rarely report it, right?
Cuing "MRAMRAMRAYADDAWHARRBLARGGGGGGL!" In 3, 2....
BainsBane
(53,035 posts)And the numbers of men killed and hospitalized by partners pale in comparison to women. That, however, does not in any way diminish the cases that do occur. They are horrible, regardless of the sex of the assailant.
Now, to the video. I just watched it. I am frankly stunned you all have decided it proves innocence. It is a clip of her pushing him looped over and over. It doesn't show more than two seconds of action and doesn't begin to document the whole incident. It's clearly edited to repeat the same action rather than the whole incident. Watch it yourself again.
opiate69
(10,129 posts)What was shown in the video clearly constitutes domestic violence, by definition.
So, what exactly would justify such violence?
BainsBane
(53,035 posts)I'll tell you something. I've been subject to domestic violence. I wouldn't even think about reporting a shove like that. Of course, I didn't report when my ex bashed a lamp against my head and threatened to kill me either. But if Grayson thinks that push constitutes assault and wants to report it, more power to him.
The video shows nothing about how his wife acquired the bruises she alleges he gave her. But of course it wouldn't since he obviously edited it to satisfy those like folks here looking for any excuse to exonerate him for assault on a lowly woman. A court wouldn't consider using a doctored tape as evidence. The fact he released something so clearly doctored makes me less likely, not more likely, to believe his story. It shows he's desperate.
BainsBane
(53,035 posts)She observed that what she saw in the video, that it didn't capture the beginning of the confrontation and had no sound. Why you should find that so condemning, I have no idea. The case remains under investigation. Until it is closed, it should be taken seriously, like any other. Being a Democratic congressman doesn't make him above the law. But don't worry. I'm not accusing you of hypocrisy. I know your reaction would be identical regardless of the political affiliation or occupation of the man accused.
JI7
(89,252 posts)cali
(114,904 posts)let alone being elected.
he doesn't even stand a chance of winning a state wide vote.
cyberswede
(26,117 posts)do you have any links?
geek tragedy
(68,868 posts)demwing
(16,916 posts)cyberswede
(26,117 posts)But I don't see that poster doing this:
1000words
(7,051 posts)seabeyond
(110,159 posts)WITH NO EVIDENCE.
having no clue what so ever what happened. and having no judgment what so ever what happened. i only posted about the three of the four first posts on that thread of people that had NO idea what had happened.
if that fits into your "had him tried and convicted," "pile on" so be it. dont expect an apology.
like with the video that was not a complete shot of what happened and not clear to me, i still do not know what happened.
lumpy
(13,704 posts)touch her at all.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)I will reiterate. I do not know what happened and not putting out guesses of what happened. I DO know what was said on that thread and called ONLY that out
TheKentuckian
(25,026 posts)evidence of the first punch.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)dembotoz
(16,808 posts)JNelson6563
(28,151 posts)I have less time for internet stuff these days and miss many of the slug-fests du jour here. I was never much of a participant in them and rarely read them, they are so redundant. Ugh.
I did see the video today of Congressman Grayson being accosted by his wife. I am sorry they aer going through this difficult time and even sorrier to see the spitefulness on display.
Julie
Le Taz Hot
(22,271 posts)there's something wrong with this guy. I've always felt that way about him and this doesn't change anything
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Le Taz Hot
(22,271 posts)Personally, I couldn't stand him but if you want to have a beer with him, I say go for it!
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Le Taz Hot
(22,271 posts)It read as follows:
"Yeah, and GW was a great guy you wanted to have a beer with?"
In that GW was a disaster from the word go, and I couldn't stand him and stated so many many times right here on this board, why in the world would I want to have a beer with him?
Sort of a non-sequitur, wouldn't you say?
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Boom Sound 416
(4,185 posts)50. Agreed
He's got a streak in him. It's palpable.
bravenak
(34,648 posts)You are often correct.
Boom Sound 416
(4,185 posts)That was sweet
bravenak
(34,648 posts)I try.
HangOnKids
(4,291 posts)Wanna know what I think about you based on your posts at DU?
Boom Sound 416
(4,185 posts)A day or so ago.
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No, I'm good.
HangOnKids
(4,291 posts)My question stands, if you make that accusation/charge against him with NO knowledge of the issue would you like someone to say what they think about you?
Boom Sound 416
(4,185 posts)I did spend several summer chunks of my formative years in his district. And still have a few friends in winter park, lake Mary and apopka. Used to water ski on lake Brantley. I think too is in his district.
I thought the 'republicans want you to die' speech on the house floor did nothing to help the ACA and I was pretty sure he wouldn't get re-elected. In fact, it probably hurt the ACA's popularity.
So that's where my post came from. All, both sentences.
Your move, ace.
HangOnKids
(4,291 posts)Where you make appalling embarrassing statements. Good to see you are up to it again.
Please no more BOOM, I know you are in over your head, and I hate to play with an unprepared opponent. Thanks!
Boom Sound 416
(4,185 posts)Come by anytime
Cha
(297,318 posts)It's funny cuz it's true
Logical
(22,457 posts)Boom Sound 416
(4,185 posts)I'll take this base on balls
Logical
(22,457 posts)Bonobo
(29,257 posts)Marr
(20,317 posts)lol.
geek tragedy
(68,868 posts)11 Bravo
(23,926 posts)"link to one's own imagination", to Awww, fuck, "there aren't even 10 people doing that".
Read that. Then read it again. Then ask yourself why it's damned near impossible to take you seriously.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)11 Bravo
(23,926 posts)Tell me, are all of your posts about the very real and indefensible inequalities that women in this society face every day somehow invalid because you don't respond to every post indicating that now and again guys get the shit end of the stick?
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)Thread I saw. And I am seeing plenty of the same shit, other side, on this thread. Hence.... How ironic.
Still not knowing what happened, I am still not giving any opinion what happened, regardless of my perception of Grayson.
geek tragedy
(68,868 posts)perhaps you should take that up with them
And, no, I literally saw no one doing as you claimed in your post. Not a single person.
P.S. 0 < 10
11 Bravo
(23,926 posts)You're hopeless. I will content myself with responding to grown-ups with something comprehensible to say on the subject.
geek tragedy
(68,868 posts)to be calling out poor behavior here.
11 Bravo
(23,926 posts)the difference between us is that I will acknowledge that fact. I found the video sufficiently informative to respond to some people who posted that Grayson was guilty as charged, and others who went after those who had questions about what might have actually transpired.
Oh, that's right, you initially claimed that those people don't exist, despite their ... you know, words and posts and shit. Now no one has any idea what the fuck you're claiming (none, some, less than 10) but I do note that you're back (as predicted) to the "you sure are angry" schtick.
As for your whining about my demeanor, please note my responses to those people whom I respect.
geek tragedy
(68,868 posts)I am saying that no one
There were many people who expressed an open mind, stated that they did not want to rush to judgment, didn't know what to say, would wait for more evidence, etc.
They did not get piled upon.
I can provide a dozen links of people expressing such sentiments without getting piled upon, if you wish.
Maybe you should use less hyperbole and try to make what you say factually accurate.
HangOnKids
(4,291 posts)Thanks for the thread.
treestar
(82,383 posts)One can easily predict those so sure he is innocent.
But no one really knows.
Marr
(20,317 posts)Insisting that someone is guilty of a charge without having any evidence is not the same thing as insisting they be treated as innocent until proven guilty.
We've kind of built our whole system of justice around the idea that the two positions are not equally valid.
Whisp
(24,096 posts)It does not show the first face to face and what happened.
And without sound (which was edited out for legal reasons) that first part is crucial for any kind of fair assessment of what went down.
Why was the camera person taking a shot of the van when there was obviously action taking place behind him? Was it on purpose that he didn't want that on record?
Lots of questions still and hopefully we will eventually know but that vid proves nothing in the way of occurence of events.
opiate69
(10,129 posts)Enquiring minds, and all...
Whisp
(24,096 posts)But the story is not fully told on that video and does not show conclusively that she threw the first punch or perhaps was reacting to threatening words.
opiate69
(10,129 posts)Or, in retaliation for a physical attack.. Ok.. how about a little thought experiment... suppose for the sake of argument that there was nothing overtly instigatory prior to the event caught on camera. They were talking, and for whatever reason, she assaults him. Would he be justified in retaliating?
Whisp
(24,096 posts)we have no idea if they were just talking while the camera was facing the van.
opiate69
(10,129 posts)It's a serious question I'm genuinely interested in running through the mental wringer, as it were.
Whisp
(24,096 posts)If some fucker came up to me and said I am going to gut your kid, I know where she goes to school and I'm going to get her.
I would pop the fucker and chew his arm off.
Happy?
opiate69
(10,129 posts)So it would seem "defense of self/family" is one agreed upon legitimate justification. Thanks for indulging my curiosity.
LittleBlue
(10,362 posts)You'd be justifying every man who said he beat up his wife because she said the wrong thing. Then the question becomes what everyone (or every jury) thinks is sufficient for a guy to beat up his wife.
If someone threatens your kid you need to call the police, not commit assault.
There's no question in my mind that the guy would deserve it. But we don't go there because it's a rationalization for domestic violence.
840high
(17,196 posts)Marr
(20,317 posts)Asking what the wife might've done to deserve a physical assault would be pretty sick-- right?
Whisp
(24,096 posts)I would like to know what happened before she hit him, is that somehow out of the question?
jeezus.
Marr
(20,317 posts)If the sexes were reversed, can you really say your position would be the same? You'd suggest the woman might've deserved it, or invited it, or provoked the man?
Whisp
(24,096 posts)but overall, if I must remind you, women are at the receiving end of physical abuse far more than men. And men have been getting away with it for centuries. It wasn't all that long ago where it was legal to beat your wife. The 'rule of thumb'.
Of course there is abuse by women on men, I have not heard anyone here deny that. Men who are our sons and brothers and friends who don't deserve treatment like that as much as our daughters and sisters and friends don't deserve it.
Marr
(20,317 posts)If this had been a video of Alan Grayson hitting his wife in the face, I don't believe for one second that your response would've been, "that video only shows part of the story". Nor should it be-- it's a sick thing to say.
Whisp
(24,096 posts)guess we're even.
Marr
(20,317 posts)Apparently you don't believe that.
Whisp
(24,096 posts)when there is a blank space in the vid.
Marr
(20,317 posts)What you're doing is very distasteful.
Whisp
(24,096 posts)Grayson was your choice for President and he would have solved all the planet's problems in 100 days not like that lazy corporate suck guy in the Oval Office now.
As if he had a snowball's chance in Hades.
Marr
(20,317 posts)Why not just admit that your initial statement was wrong?
Whisp
(24,096 posts)That question, coming from You...
Makes me smile, in an amused way.
Marr
(20,317 posts)I haven't said anything about the president. Are you ok?
Whisp
(24,096 posts)That is bullshit.
I said there is no way to know, by that video, what really happened as there is a chunk missing from it - the initial face to face meet and what happened in that space of time. There is no requirement on my part, as it seems to be for many others, to automatically believe Grayson because he's some fake member of DU or his political position.
Now I'm going to play with my sweetheart dog and forget I ever had this miserable conversation with you. And I'm going to tell my dog Grayson never had a slim shot at being President, and he will nod in agreement and ask who the Hell ever thought that. And I will tell him, and he will lower his eyes and say: sometimes it's good to be a dog.
Marr
(20,317 posts)That's not what we're talking about here, though I will freely offer that your closing paragraph reaches an almost superhuman level of haughty liberal-punching.
Anyway, to the actual point of the thread. The video is relevant because it disproves her version of events, making her claims of assault by Grayson less credible.
Also, you did indeed suggest that the victim deserved to be hit, and you really should summon the character to admit that, and that it was wrong. That is what a decent person would do. Or... you could just ignore it and proceed directly to that political discussion with your pet, I suppose. Either way, have a nice evening.
Bonobo
(29,257 posts)But I wouldn't hold my breath waiting for an honest answer.
lumberjack_jeff
(33,224 posts)Give me an example of something that he might have said that would have justified the videotaped physical assault.
Bonus points if you can imagine something that would have justified him running across the lawn to hit her.
blackspade
(10,056 posts)I missed this bit of bullshit.
cyberswede
(26,117 posts)MADem
(135,425 posts)Who are all these people?
I saw a little "OOOPS, that sounds like he said/she said..." but I didn't see any excoriation. Did I leave the thread too soon?
bluestateguy
(44,173 posts)That is the mentality of the folks you are dealing with here. Apparently they know little about due process of law.
These are the same people who still think the Duke lacrosse players raped that liar POS and worship Mike Nifong as some kind of a hero.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)Merely by bravos accusation? You know, to back up your statement.
Warpy
(111,276 posts)We have no idea about him, just her complaint.
Maybe he'll learn not to go to that house for his belongings unless he has a cop with him.
Hissyspit
(45,788 posts)I missed all this.
Ikonoklast
(23,973 posts)Hissyspit
(45,788 posts)Raine1967
(11,589 posts)Vashta Nerada
(3,922 posts)Sad, yet true.
regnaD kciN
(26,044 posts)..."guilty even after being proven innocent" is the norm.
BainsBane
(53,035 posts)You mean those horrible women who think charges of battery should be taken seriously, even when against the superior species of the male Democratic congressmen? Don't you just hate it when dem wimenz don't know their place?!
An investigation is ongoing. He has not been cleared.
LisaL
(44,973 posts)If anybody is going to be charged with battery, why do you think it woudl be him?
BainsBane
(53,035 posts)and frankly I'm stunned people have decided this exonerates him. It's the same shot of her pushing him looped over and over. It's two seconds of activity repeated. It doesn't even begin to show the whole incident.
LisaL
(44,973 posts)BainsBane
(53,035 posts)You talked about the video. The video is clearly the same bit looped over and over again. How can you possible think that exonerates him? And you think that shows her committing an assault on him? How do you suppose she got the bruises that the lawyer mentioned in a document filed in a court? Or do you simply not care?
I don't know whether you think violence against women is a trivial matter or you think a Democratic congressmen is above the law and should be defended at all costs. Either way, it's offensive. The case remains under investigation and she, not he, is the complainant. This worship of men like Grayson, Woody Allen and Assange, defending anything they do, turns my stomach.
LisaL
(44,973 posts)There is a longer version of the video out there than just looped bit (which likely was done by tne news media).
He should file the complain himself if you ask me.
BainsBane
(53,035 posts)I've sat through videos of news reports showing that Grayson's staffer says he was assaulted, but the police report names his wife as the victim, not him. I haven't turned up a video other than the one on the Orlando Sentinel site.
LisaL
(44,973 posts)He should have called 911 himself.
Whisp
(24,096 posts)behind the camerperson while he was taking a vid of the red van when Mrs Grayson walked up to the door?
It doesn't bother you at that we have no idea what came before the punch on the video?
ok.
strange tho.
grasswire
(50,130 posts)Of what?
BainsBane
(53,035 posts)grasswire
(50,130 posts)....is the presumption of innocence.
Grayson has not been charged with any crime, so he, therefore, cannot be "cleared". He remains innocent until judged guilty.
BainsBane
(53,035 posts)That is true for every defendant, but it doesn't change the fact there is an open police investigation. I for one plan on waiting to see what it yields rather than declaring the complainant a liar simply because the person she accused of assault is a Democratic congressman. Another bedrock of our system, or one that is supposed to be, is that all are equal before the law. Of course we know it doesn't hold, but it would be nice to think people who claim to be liberals support that notion rather than making exceptions for men them deem important.
BainsBane
(53,035 posts)It is clearly edited to repeat the same two seconds of action on a repeat loop. It does not begin to show the entire incident. It shows her shoving him in what appears to be an effort to get him to leave. It doesn't show what happened before that led to the bruises the lawyer alleges Grayson gave his wife. It proves absolutely nothing but that people here value a Democratic politician far more than the life of a woman.
I have learned that if a child is raped by a man believed to be a Democrat, he gets a free pass. If a guy who has a website rapes two women, people here will go to the mat to defend him and shield him from prosecution, and if a woman files assault charges against a Democratic congressman, she will be disbelieved and vilified. People won't wait to see what the investigation yields. They watch an obviously edited video and proclaim him the victim and her the abuser, despite the fact that she rather than he filed assault charges with police. I don't know the facts of this case, but I do know that as a woman, my life clearly means nothing to many on this site. If I were to be raped, beaten, or killed by a male Democrat, I would be similarly vilified. I find all of this an unconscionable dismissal of the value of women's lives.
Whisp
(24,096 posts)gives one a whole different idea of how things may have really played out - that she hit him several times.
That is so fricken cheesey and misleading.
that vid does Nothing to Confirm Anything except desperation on Grayson's part. IMHO.
BainsBane
(53,035 posts)and obviously edited for effect. I'm really angry about the reaction to this.
LisaL
(44,973 posts)Nevernose
(13,081 posts)In those four seconds, Mrs. Grayson alleges that: "After she refused, retrieved his mail and asked him to leave, Alan Grayson "then deliberately and with force pushed [Lolita Grayson] very hard against the front door, causing [her] to fall to the ground as a result," the petition states.
She told her husband not to touch her, then pushed him in the face and kneed him in the stomach "in order to protect and defend herself" before calling 911, her petition says."
In that four seconds unseen on the video, according to her, he put the bag down, shoved her to the ground, he picked the bag up, she got back up, and then kneed him -- and the camera caught only the self defense punch, which you call a shove. In four seconds.
It's also not okay to shove people to get them to leave. You've been on this site for years, a tireless champion of the victims of domestic violence, and yet you refuse to call out someone who is obviously lying and was caught on video throwing a punch at their spouse.
BainsBane
(53,035 posts)The entire video is the same two seconds repeated multiple times. The entire incident is unseen. That is a doctored tape, which would not be admitted as evidence in any court of law.
That video proves only that Grayson is desperate and will go to any extreme to present himself as the victim.
Nevernose
(13,081 posts)Four seconds later the camera pans over, capturing her hitting him. After that, the lawyer repeats the strike in order to emphasize who was hitting whom.
However, what IS captured on video directly contradicts her claim.
Whisp
(24,096 posts)did you see him go to the door With the bag? Do you know how much the bag weighed, or instead of setting it down maybe he put it under his arm, or maybe he only needed one arm.
? the bag means nothing, just like this whole video. For evidence, it means nothing.
Nevernose
(13,081 posts)That part is clear.
Whisp
(24,096 posts)Of course it's possible, but that vid does not support that fact.
Whisp
(24,096 posts)and it was all filmed really shaky, wonder what was up with that.
Anyway there is no way to count seconds. The camera was stopped after the van, then started up again showing the front door. No pan, no guessing at seconds.
kcr
(15,317 posts)It's a shaky mess of a video. Calling it evidence is laughable.
Whisp
(24,096 posts)Nevernose
(13,081 posts)Of course, I didn't see an edit and you did, so we may just have to disagree for now. I will look again when I get home (I'm at my night job now).
Whisp
(24,096 posts)maybe when you get a chance to look again you can show me where.
The whole vid is very shakey and very fuzzy.
Nevernose
(13,081 posts)See if it works for you:
http://touch.orlandosentinel.com/#section/-1/video/p2p-79528909/?related=true
Andy823
(11,495 posts)Where it says the lawyers chopped 57 seconds off the recording? They said it was to protect the identity of the children.
I also noticed that Grayson was carrying the said "bag" in on arm while the other arm was free. The idea he could not have done anteing to her because he had the "bag" doesn't make sense.
Whisp
(24,096 posts)that you can't record without letting everyone know you are. You can take video but not record voices.
and now this 'protect the children' thing?
The spokesman for Grayson was saying Mrs. Grayson was using very bad language - using that as an excuse that the children shouldn't hear it?
Interesting stuff. We'll probably know more in 2 weeks or so. And I agree about the bag, it's not like a paper bag can stop a person from losing their tempers and lashing out.
If that were true everyone should be assigned paper bags to carry around so there would not be any fights at all.
stevenleser
(32,886 posts)always had bruises all over. It also reports that the staffer said that the wife has become aggressive with him before.
Here is the link again:
http://www.wftv.com/news/news/local/rep-grayson-accused-pushing-estranged-wife/nd5tF/
It all could be bullshit. But if someone asked me to guess at this point, I would say that she is the abuser.
idendoit
(505 posts)Sheldon Cooper
(3,724 posts)"FUCKING NEVER!"
11 Bravo
(23,926 posts)I mean, why should anyone heed the words of the numerous other posters on this thread who know exactly what I referenced; when we can instead accept the opinion of someone who chose to name themselves after a totally oblivious to his surroundings, socially inept character from a television sitcom?
closeupready
(29,503 posts)Is that not sensible to you? Hello??? Seems like that's Reasoning 101. Duh.
The one who pulls out his sunglasses and apes David Caruso's trademark gesture ALWAYS wins.
Major
BainsBane
(53,035 posts)Watch it. Note it is on a loop, where the same two seconds are repeated multiple times.
http://www.orlandosentinel.com/videogallery/79528909/Video-Alan-Grayson-domestic-incident-was-caught-on-camera
LisaL
(44,973 posts)BainsBane
(53,035 posts)I asked you for a link. This is the one the other poster linked to on the Orlando Sentinel site. Actually he linked to a press converence with the lawyers. So give me the link of the other video.
LisaL
(44,973 posts)BainsBane
(53,035 posts)Rather than the edited one Grayson released showing that same push multiple times. It doesn't show what happened before the tape began, and it has no sound. It doesn't show how she acquired the bruises she alleged in the police report.
You think he should file domestic assault charges on that? Really? You obviously have never had the shit beat out of you. Consider yourself fortunate.
LisaL
(44,973 posts)Or don't you?
Media does that for effect, in case you didn't know.
BainsBane
(53,035 posts)I do know that people here are very anxious to exonerate a Democratic congressman of assault, but I guess I shouldn't be surprised. Last month it was a child rapist who makes movies and before that Julian Assange. The common thread is women's lives are entirely inconsequential when compared to great men (especially but not exclusively liberal men). I for one don't give a damn who an alleged rapist, pedophile, or batterer is. They all should be subject to the law. As for Alan and Lolita Grayson, that is a matter for the police and the courts.
Now, if you will excuse me, I am physically ill from learning that my basic right to life, and those of women like me, pales in comparison to important men in the view of those who claim to be my so-called allies.
840high
(17,196 posts)Marr
(20,317 posts)It's incredible to me how people who claim to care about this issue turn into cartoon versions of the slobs they claim to oppose as soon as the identities are switched around.
I really don't get it.
840high
(17,196 posts)impression. I don't know who is lying. Will wait till more info is available.
BodieTown
(147 posts)The video and story at WFTV is compelling.
Not only did Grayson bring his own witness (I absolutely believe that he did this because it would be standard behavior for any attorney to do so), his daughter, Skye, witnessed everything that happened.
Skye Grayson said her father never hit or pushed her mother.
Oh yes, I can tell just by watching that phone video that Lolita Grayson is no shrinking violet, and she was pushing and hitting Grayson. That is assault, in my book.
For those here who are denying that the video doesn't prove anything, open your eyes. I'm sure that Rep. Grayson's attorneys held back on the audio for a reason. I sure hope so.
maddiemom
(5,106 posts)MannyGoldstein
(34,589 posts)Or you're purposefully missing the point.
Those of us who know how things really work know that Alan Grayson is guilty, and always has been.
Regards,
Nobody-in-particular Manny
malaise
(269,054 posts)Fumesucker
(45,851 posts)cpwm17
(3,829 posts)Divorces are messy and frequently dishonesty prevails. It's good that Alan Grayson had witnesses. We don't want to lose him in Washington DC.
ScreamingMeemie
(68,918 posts)Just because he says he's a Progressive, just because the Republicans hate him, doesn't make me want a corporate panderer. Sorry.
cpwm17
(3,829 posts)but he is most likely much better than anyone else we may get in central Florida.
I'm still not totally sold that he believes in the positions he takes, and he does inappropriate stuff like accusing an opponent of beating his wife.
ScreamingMeemie
(68,918 posts)wrong" posters. It's happened several times again, right here on this thread. I think we can do better in Florida. He got in by being a fake liberal and did so well that the Pubbies hate him. Now we just need to find a real one.
treestar
(82,383 posts)but allowed a reasonable time in which to digest the new information and re-evaluate their opinions, rather than just being told upfront they will stubbornly double down or that they should apologize to those who were "right," who, after all, are only lucky really - a video that came out might have shown any number of things not know the last time the Great Question was argued. This method would cool down some of the great debates of DU. But then that may not be desirable.
Bonobo
(29,257 posts)seabeyond
(110,159 posts)the same posters agreeing with bravo, calling out "the usual suspects" are doing exactly with the OP is outraged about. i saw no one doing what he stated in the only thread i read.
who is suppose to apologize? and for what?
again, before someone interprets i am saying grayson is guilty, i have always stated, i do not know what happened. the video did not provide the beginning of the confrontation. i still do not know what happened.
TreasonousBastard
(43,049 posts)they shouldn't be taunted for just being wrong, how about for jumping to conclusions and being assholes about it?
It does happen a lot around here, it seems.
treestar
(82,383 posts)And demanding an apology is ridiculous, it wasn't personal and the video was not out at all at the time. This OP just stirs animosity that wasn't there. One could ask if it changed anyone's mind without being so hostile.
TreasonousBastard
(43,049 posts)too often falls on the deaf ears of those it applies to. But, DU is no different from any other board or list that has its contingent of people jumping to conclusions. Loudly. And once in a while a rude awakening to that fact may be appropriate.
In the last year or so I've run into the same sort of nonsense in several organizations I'm involved in. There seems to always be a loud contingent that has the absolute, final answer to a problem they discovered. Invented, actually. My position had generally been that if you have such a problem with the organization, or "that" person, perhaps a large part part of the problem is within you. I've noticed that idea has actually gained a lot of traction and often enough we've started on the way to mediation. Differentiating those with genuine concerns from garden-variety malcontents tends to be a good start.
Apologies are rarely necessary, but a simple "OK, I was wrong" is a really good start. And so difficult for so many.
JVS
(61,935 posts)Yet his prediction stands
Hissyspit
(45,788 posts)debates of DU, too.
merrily
(45,251 posts)dionysus
(26,467 posts)he was blocking her front door, she shoved him away. we weren't there for the whole thing so all we can do is speculate.
I don't doubt that Alan has quite a temper, and so does his ex wife, apparently.
Bobbie Jo
(14,341 posts)The jury is still out for me as well, dion.
That said, I'm not ready to condemn either one of them based upon bits and pieces of a 60 second video.
regnaD kciN
(26,044 posts)...that the Conservative Media Cartel will continue beating the "Democrat Congressman Grayson, accused of abusing his estranged wife" drum all the way through the election, if not beyond. And whoever his opponent will be will allow a "whisper campaign" about it without any consequences (or correction) whatsoever.
It's like "Al Gore claimed to have invented the Internet." Truth doesn't matter -- the fact that it makes for a juicy narrative for certain major interests does.
steve2470
(37,457 posts)nikto
(3,284 posts)The Wizard
(12,545 posts)They're easy to spot if you understand their goal is to disrupt and offer up gibberish so as to redirect or stifle honest discourse.
MynameisBlarney
(2,979 posts)Seems my nose was right once again.
gollygee
(22,336 posts)Let the court do it's job. I doubt it's a right wing smear conspiracy. If it isn't true, it's probably more of a divorce issue.
I think the point the feminists were trying to make isn't that he's guilty, as there's no way to know that, but that:
1. You can't assume his wife is a liar. That isn't any more fair than assuming he's guilty.
2. People who have politics we agree with can commit acts of domestic violence. That also doesn't mean he's guilty, but to say he couldn't have done it because he's a progressive is just wrong.
stevenleser
(32,886 posts)theory.
Unfortunately, this started with her accusations which came out before the video and many folks here were condemning him at that point.
I have a theory, but I have consistently phrased it that way and even pointed out an opposing one. And I have consistently said we need to wait for the investigation to know for sure.
Some people couldnt help themselves and have implied they know for sure he is innocent or guilty. I don't know for sure either way. I have a guess that I think has a fair chance of being right, but that is not a substitute for a full investigation.
kcr
(15,317 posts)And I can't help but note the general hypocrisy going on. I'm not speaking about you, just in general. It seems to me that much more was and has been made over the jumping to conclusions about Alan Grayson's guilt than the other way around, particularly because of a certain subtext that's building up and gaining steam. The Grayson divorce has been reduced to fodder for a DU flamefest. Isn't that great? Another proud moment on The New and Improved DU3. Look for the next "gender wars" any second now.
dotymed
(5,610 posts)When I was younger, I thought with "the wrong head." I ended up with two wives (at different times of course) who knew that the domestic assault laws are hugely skewed in favor of the "weaker sex."
Both of these women, near the end of our tumultuous marriages had me arrested for striking them.
The first was very light skinned (Swedish ancestry, both were white) and called the police, claimed that I struck her when I went (to the house I purchased) and removed (some) of my belongings. She had no marks on her (if you even pressed her skin, there would be a red mark). I was arrested and convicted of domestic assault.
The second time, I had stopped at the bar with a neighbor and his wife for about an hour after work. They came home with me. They left because she was "going postal" even though I was sober. After they left, she hit herself in the head with an ashtray, called the police (I was in another room) and cried that I had struck her with an ashtray. I was amazed when the police came and I was arrested me for domestic violence.
After I got out of jail, I informed her that if she gave false testimony about me in court that I would divorce her.
Court day, she told the truth and spent 5 days in jail for filing a false report.
I divorced her shortly thereafter.
If I had access to a video phone during those incidents, I could have proven my innocence.
The "laws", especially for non-elites, only require that the woman accuse a man. I was automatically considered guilty in both cases.
Video phones (if that is what was used) do offer the possibility of recording the truth and possibly altering some pre-conceived notions.
I have been a single father with custody of my youngest for 10+ years. I would love to have a mate to share the rest of life with, however, I do have trust issues (kind of afraid) with possible mates.
jimlup
(7,968 posts)I know how this goes. Not the same but hits close to home.
It is scary that people are ready to convict without real evidence. That is a mistake. Convict on evidence- yes absolutely. But do we remember guilty until proven innocent when strong emotions are involved?
uppityperson
(115,677 posts)I understand the reason for your post, just having it have this many recs is something.
Omaha Steve
(99,660 posts)Waiting For Everyman
(9,385 posts)had nowhere to go with it. Had to stuff it all in their pockets and whistle nonchalantly as if there weren't any plans... bummer!
No, there won't be any admission of being wrong, because facts are irrelevant, reality is irrelevant. Only emotion matters.
By a strange coincidence, that's how the religious right thinks too -- only emotion matters. It's a problem of our times, I guess.