best wishes to you and peace to your friend

He was an important part of my life, so my life will be different from here on. He was a very good man and I will miss him a lot. He loved to have a good time, and I hope he's having a good time wherever he is. I'm sure if there wasn't a party when he got there, he'll be starting one.

and passed away within 24 hours. I went back to his house and on his desk was the cematary plot certificate and a list of all the people to call. He must have know and made it very easy for me. We should all plan for caring for the people we leave behind.

It will be one last act of kindness to leave to our friends if we make sure they know when we're gone.

Couldn't agree more. Tidy up and make it easy for loved ones to deal with things.

We might not have a chance to say goodbye, but taking the time to prepare is the next best thing.

was already in the hospital they were to take her to having had a heart attack a few days earlier. But in her wallet she had my name and information and my brother's name and information, (and I think the SO who I hate so I will not speak of him again.)

Anyway that got me thinking and I am going to do the same. It was just on an ordinary card that she typed, I suppose if you have hard paper stock it would be good to make something up on the computer and print it out. I have old paper that I used to make cards with that I just thought of.

Anyway, put in your contacts and any other information and stick it in your wallet.

Every year I go to a tips and gadgets seminar - theoretically about the practice of law, but it goes well beyond anything connected to law. He's been mentioning this service for several years.

That might be a perfect solution for lots of people.

What my parents did after his death (first informing family) was to log into his computer and send out a mass email and post on various forums he was active on informing people.

He didn't have too many contacts in his cell phone, but we did go through it and make sure they knew.

When his obit was published in the paper, my mom and I both shared the link to it on our respective FB pages. However, he was in small town rural Maine so most people there still do read the paper. His funeral had about twice the attendance as other funerals for people his age had (per the funeral director), it was standing room only.

My family knows how to get into my phone and get my contacts (I have a pin to unlock the screen to prevent pocket dialing, but it's my birth date so most people can guess it).

There wasn't a funeral for my friend, so at least I didn't miss that. There's supposed to be a memorial for him later. I've called around to everyone I can think of to get information about what happened and I've passed my number around to everyone so they'll call me when the memorial will take place.

You want to do something to remember your loved one when they die. I guess it's just a human thing. I want to talk to everyone who knew him and talk about all the good times we had. I hope I'm able to get something to remember him by. I'm sure he had pictures of us out together somewhere, and I'd love to have them.

I was the one who got the news and passed it on to my dad that his uncle and and then his aunt had died. I also passed the news on to his oldest brother and had dad passing it on to his middle brother. And I probably got the news a week late by snail mail.

... in the last two years of her life, as she did NOT want to go to a Nursing Home. She wanted to pass in her own home, when the time came. We sat down together at some point in those two years with her address book. I read off the names and highlighted the ones she wanted me to contact when she passed. I put the address book away. And when she passed in her own home a couple years later with Hospice care, all the siblings went away and I was left with so many things to attend to for her. One, of course, was calling the highlighted names in her address book. It IS very important to do this, even if you're not knocking on heaven's door yet. Some people think it is morbid to think of doing such things, in the event of one's demise. Death is a fact of life, and all of us need to think about our family and friends when our time on this planet is over. We're NOT invincible.

So sorry for the loss of your good friend, LuvNewcastle.